Suitability VS Compatibility
Summary
TLDRThis webisode discusses the nuanced difference between compatibility and suitability in relationships. It emphasizes that compatibility, while comfortable, may not always align with personal growth or divine purpose. The speaker urges viewers to seek suitability, which involves aligning with one's life assignments and spiritual goals, rather than just finding someone with whom they share immediate chemistry. The importance of recognizing one's season and mission in life is highlighted, as it helps in identifying whether a relationship is a distraction or a support in fulfilling one's purpose.
Takeaways
- 🤔 Compatibility and suitability are not the same; compatibility is about getting along well, while suitability is about alignment with one's life goals and spiritual growth.
- 😶 Being compatible with someone doesn't necessarily mean they are good for you; you can be compatible with people who keep you stagnant or even harmful to your growth.
- 🔍 It's crucial to understand that some relationships may be comfortable but not suitable for your personal development or divine purpose.
- 🛑 Compatibility can sometimes lead to staying in your comfort zone, which might hinder your progress towards self-improvement and spiritual growth.
- 🚫 Avoid going back to an ex just because you were compatible; consider whether they are suitable for the person you are becoming and your current life goals.
- 💡 Recognize that the enemy can send people into your life who are compatible but not suitable for your spiritual journey and mission.
- 🌟 Your assignment in life, as understood through your spiritual beliefs, is a key factor in determining suitability in relationships.
- 👫 God sends people who are suitable for His will in your life, while the enemy may send those who suit your own will, which could distract you from your true purpose.
- 🔑 Knowing your assignment is essential to identify who is genuinely supportive of your growth and who might be a distraction or obstacle.
- 🏆 Success is relative and personal; it's important to define what success means to you in order to identify who is suitable to support you in achieving it.
- 💖 In romantic relationships, assess whether the individual helps you move closer to your spiritual goals and contributes positively to your current season of life.
Q & A
What is the main difference between compatibility and suitability according to the transcript?
-Compatibility is about how well two people get along or match in terms of personalities and activities, while suitability is about whether a person aligns with one's life goals and assignments, which is more about personal growth and fulfilling one's purpose.
Why is it potentially misleading to focus solely on compatibility in relationships?
-Focusing only on compatibility can lead to staying in one's comfort zone or being with someone who does not encourage or support personal growth and higher aspirations, which may not be in line with one's true purpose or 'assignment'.
What does the speaker suggest can happen when people are compatible with those who are not good for them?
-The speaker suggests that being compatible with someone who is not good for you can keep you at a level that is not in line with your true potential or God's will for you, as it may involve settling for less than what you are destined for.
What is the importance of understanding one's 'assignment' in the context of the transcript?
-Understanding one's 'assignment' is crucial because it helps in identifying who is truly suitable for you, as it involves recognizing who can support and align with your life's purpose and goals, rather than just matching your current state or preferences.
How does the speaker relate the concept of 'assignment' to the idea of God's will?
-The speaker relates 'assignment' to God's will by suggesting that understanding one's assignment means recognizing what God wants for you, which in turn helps in identifying suitable relationships and avoiding distractions or detours from one's spiritual and life goals.
What is the potential risk of not knowing one's 'assignment' when it comes to relationships?
-The risk of not knowing one's 'assignment' is that one might end up with people who distract from or hinder personal growth and fulfillment of one's purpose, as they may not be suitable for the next level of your life's journey.
Why might an ex-partner be considered incompatible for a person who is evolving?
-An ex-partner might be considered incompatible for someone who is evolving because they were suitable for the person's former state, but as the person grows and changes, the ex may no longer align with their current or future goals and aspirations.
What does the speaker mean by 'treadmill in season' in the context of relationships?
-The term 'treadmill in season' refers to people who keep you stagnant or stuck in one place, preventing you from growing or moving forward in your life's journey, especially when it comes to spiritual or personal development.
How does the speaker differentiate between a 'pit' and a 'partner' in terms of relationships?
-A 'pit' is someone who provides temporary fun or companionship but does not contribute to one's growth or fulfillment of their assignment, whereas a 'partner' is someone who supports and aligns with one's life goals and purpose.
What advice does the speaker give regarding cutting off relationships that are not suitable for one's current season or assignment?
-The speaker advises to cut off relationships that distract from or hinder one's personal growth, clarity, peace, or pursuit of their spiritual and life goals, as these relationships are not suitable for the current season of one's life.
How does the speaker use the biblical story of Adam to illustrate the difference between compatibility and suitability?
-The speaker uses the story of Adam to illustrate that God did not just create a being who was merely compatible with Adam in terms of companionship, but rather a 'suitable helper' who aligned with God's will for Adam to be fruitful and multiply, emphasizing the importance of suitability over mere compatibility.
Outlines
🤔 Understanding Compatibility vs. Suitability
The speaker discusses the nuanced difference between compatibility and suitability in relationships. They argue that compatibility, while important, can sometimes keep individuals within their comfort zones and may not necessarily align with personal growth or divine purpose. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of recognizing that being compatible with someone doesn't always mean they are suitable for your life's journey, especially if they hinder your progress or keep you from reaching your full potential. The speaker encourages the audience to consider suitability, which is more about alignment with one's life assignments and spiritual goals, rather than just getting along well.
🛑 Recognizing Your Life's Assignment and Its Impact on Relationships
This paragraph delves into the importance of understanding one's life assignment and how it should guide the selection of suitable relationships. The speaker warns against the distractions that can come from being with someone who doesn't support or align with one's spiritual and personal growth goals. They highlight the need to discern between those who are distractions and those who are divinely sent to assist in one's journey. The speaker also touches on the idea that success is relative and varies from person to person, and that recognizing who is suitable for your life involves understanding your current goals and the season you are in. The paragraph concludes with a caution against allowing relationships to pull you away from your divine purpose.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Compatibility
💡Suitability
💡Chemistry
💡Comfort Zone
💡Personal Growth
💡Assignment
💡Evolution
💡Spiritual Goals
💡Treadmill People
💡Season
💡Distraction
Highlights
Compatibility and suitability are not the same thing. Compatibility is about getting along, while suitability is about aligning with your life's purpose and goals.
Being compatible with someone can keep you in your comfort zone and prevent personal growth.
You can be compatible with people who are not good for your spiritual and personal development.
Suitability is more important than compatibility for long-term growth and fulfilling your divine purpose.
Some people are congruent with your current situation but not suitable for your next level of growth.
Understanding your life assignment helps you recognize who is truly suitable for you, not just compatible.
God sends people who suit His will for your life, while the enemy may send distractions.
Knowing your assignment allows you to identify if someone is a genuine partner or just a temporary distraction.
You may be compatible with your ex, but that doesn't mean they are suitable for your current spiritual journey.
Evolving means leaving behind people and situations that no longer align with your growth.
When defining success, it's important to consider your unique situation and goals.
Identifying a god-sent person from a counterfeit involves knowing your current season and mission.
Compatibility is about matching personalities and interests, while suitability is about aligning with your life's purpose.
God created a suitable helper for Adam, not just a compatible one, to fulfill His will on Earth.
Having fun and getting along with someone doesn't necessarily mean they are a suitable marital partner.
Knowing your assignment helps you avoid detours and distractions from your spiritual path.
A suitable person for your life should help you grow spiritually and achieve your goals, not hold you back.
It's important to redefine your orbit and relationships based on suitability, not just compatibility.
Transcripts
this webisode was a question people were
asking us how do you know the difference
between compatibility and suitability
because they're not the same thing in
fact there has been a lot of information
in the last few years telling us find
somebody that you're compatible with
find somebody that you get along with
find somebody that you have great
chemistry with although that is good
advice is it in fact kingdom' advice so
let's have a conversation about
compatibility versus suitability okay so
let's just be real about this let's just
be real
you can be compatible with someone that
keeps you in your comfort zone you can
be compatible with someone that's an
assistant to your downfall a secretary
you can be compatible with someone
that's a life record you can be
compatible with the demons base they
know what you like devils know what you
like I know what you like you can be
compatible with someone that cures your
loneliness they help you to avoid your
emptiness it's not just about
compatibility listen because some of us
have been compatible with people that
were not good for us you have to
understand that because some people in
your life keep you at a level that God
doesn't want you to stay at and the
reason y'all get along so well is
because your drive is so low as long as
I have them I really don't have to have
a collision course encounter to how I
really feel about myself so it's not
always about compatibility because
sometimes we look for people who are in
agreement with us because some people
are congruent with the current you but
they're not suitable for the next level
use and what we don't want you to do is
to learn how to exist on a level that's
beneath you so you'll start formulating
preferences you'll start saying you get
along with these type of people
God did not cosmically create for you to
stay here that's right so you have to
understand compatibility is a part but
it's more about suitability because
assignment reveals alignment hmm because
listen if I don't know what I'm assigned
to I won't know who they are sent by hmm
I won't know who they're sitting by
because I don't know my
because just like God sends people the
enemy sends people to oh yeah and what
helps me we through the distractions
what helps me we through the traps what
helps me we through the counterfeit yeah
is being able to know what am I supposed
to be doing right now right what am I
supposed to be doing in this season what
am I supposed to be maximizing right now
if I don't have that target I won't be
able to recognize that this is a target
sitting by the enemy to distract me and
this poses a risk because when you think
about compatibility it could make some
of you go back to your ex because you're
compatible with them please don't go
back to that ex and please never let
somebody make you feel guilty because
you're evolving they're complaining and
have so much criticism to say about you
because they're compatible with the
former version of you the expired
version of you you have to go back to
your old you and old places to be
compatible with them you are evolving on
the regular and sometimes an ex comes
back just to see if they have access yes
or another season they come back to see
if you're still on the same level but
you not okay so let's talk about
suitability God always sends you someone
that suits his will the enemy always
sends somebody that suits your will you
can't have both you can't have his will
and your will it's got to be all 100%
his will when we talk about
compatibility compatibility has to do
with how personalities and activities
match whereas suitability has to do with
what your assignments are and how your
assignments match when God looked at
Adam he didn't save it's not good for a
man to be alone I will create him a
compatible helper he said it's not good
for a man to be alone I will create him
a suitable helper right what is God
saying I need to provide him with
somebody who suits my will in the earth
my will is for this man to be fruitful
and multiply
he could be compatible with a monkey he
could be compatible with a dog that's
man's best friend you can have fun with
a dog throw a ball at the doll tell the
dog to fetch you can exercise with the
doll yeah y'all run in two or three
miles I get along so you can watch a
movie with the dog and he would just sit
there or she would sit there in your lap
the dog could actually bring you comfort
you know just if you cry one night the
dog can lick your tears but
a dog and a lot of us have had dogs and
we're saying we're so compatible but
until you meet a king and until you meet
a queen until you know your assignment
you won't be able to recognize this is
just a pit not a partner this is just
something I can have fun with right but
this isn't somebody I'm supposed to go
to the altar with you could have a guy
that y'all just have fun together great
conversation is nothing sinful nothing
sexual y'all are just getting along
great just because y'all have friendship
chemistry this does not mean they're a
marital partner this is how we identify
that by knowing our assignment yes so
the conversation needs to be had
what are you assigned to do what's your
assignment and you need to know this
before they get here if you don't when
they arrive they can take you in a
series of detours to take you away from
your assignment when it comes to the
conversation of compatibility or
suitability what we're trying to get you
to understand is if I don't really know
what I'm supposed to do if I don't
really have goals if I don't really have
targets if I can't properly define
success because success is relative to
your situation success for you could be
going a month without getting high
success for you could be paying off some
debt success for another person it could
be healing from childhood trauma success
is relative on your situation and for me
to identify who best suits me is for me
to identify what does God want me to do
right now if God wants me to heal him or
her coming along could be a distraction
because if they're not a secretary for
me becoming a better person and if they
don't assist me in becoming healed there
are distractions if they blind me to
what I'm going through if they make me
avoid my abandonment issues if they make
me avoid my trust issues this is a
distraction so you being able to
identify a god-sent from a counterfeit
is directly tied to what are you
supposed to do right now what are you
supposed to be doing in this season and
everybody season is different and if you
don't know what you're supposed to be
doing in the season then you won't know
who is toxic for you in this season
because I have no target I
have no go so important I have no
mission yeah what is my assignment they
don't have to be deep what do you feel
God has calling for you to do right now
is it getting your mind in order if they
come and make your mind turn into a
ferris wheel it's probably distraction
you're trying to turn down but all your
friends are trying to turn up everytime
you try to not go to the club they're
trying to encourage you encouraged you
to go to the club you're not trying to
get let no more and they trying to get
all the way legs they are not suitable
for your assignment right now if you're
trying to pursue what God wants you to
pursue and live and holy you have to
have them move around or you don't have
to move around because they're not
suitable for your assignment we're not
saying cut everybody off but I am saying
cut off who's cutting you off if this is
cutting off your piece if this is
cutting off your sleep if this is
cutting off your clarity your purity
this might not be somebody that's
suitable for this season and so when it
comes to romantic relationships you have
to ask yourself does this individual
push me closer to my spiritual goals
does this individual make me have a
treadmill in season because depending on
how sound you are in your commitment the
enemy sends us a lot of treadmill people
because he knows I can't obviously take
them back but if I can get them to be
stuck where they're at they won't
recognize it they're not growing and so
we just want you to be aware
compatibility and suitability are tied
to you knowing what is my goal for this
season redefine TV orbit redefined
relationship righteously
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