The Essential Basics of PIED Recovery
Summary
TLDRThis video script discusses the issue of porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) and offers guidance on recovery. The speaker shares a personal story from a 20-year-old man who, after overcoming obesity and gaining confidence, faces PIED affecting his new relationship. The advice includes educating oneself, cutting out porn, giving the body time to heal, and eventually rewiring sexual responses through real-life interactions. The video emphasizes that while Viagra may provide temporary relief, it does not address the root cause, which lies in the brain's response to porn.
Takeaways
- 📚 Educate yourself on PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction) to understand how it happens and how to recover.
- 🔍 Subscribe to the coach's newsletter and get a free PDF version of the book for a complete guide to recovery.
- 🧠 Check out 'Your Brain on Porn' by Gary Wilson for the latest science and studies on the effects of consistent porn use.
- 🚫 Stop using porn as the first step in recovery; it's incompatible with a fulfilling life for those suffering from PIED.
- ⏸️ Avoid solo sexual stimulation at the beginning of the recovery process to allow the sexual response system to heal.
- 🕒 Give it time; recovery from PIED can take around 90 days to see significant progress, but it varies by individual.
- 🔄 Focus on the 'rewire' phase, which involves conditioning your sexual response back to realistic scenarios and real-life interactions.
- 💪 Engage in dating and social activities to start the rewiring process, even if you're not yet confident about overcoming PIED.
- 💊 Viagra is not a solution for PIED as it addresses physical aspects rather than the neurological factors causing the issue.
- 🙅♂️ Kegel exercises are unnecessary for PIED recovery and could lead to complications; focus on natural healing and rewiring.
- 🤝 Seek personal guidance if needed, the coach offers coaching sessions for personalized support through the recovery process.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video?
-The main topic of the video is recovering from porn addiction and porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED).
What advice does the video offer for someone who has just realized they have PIED?
-The video advises the person to educate themselves as much as possible about PIED, including subscribing to the video creator's newsletter, reading his book, and checking out Gary Wilson's 'Your Brain on Porn' for the most recent science and studies on the topic.
What is the connection between using pornography as an escape and addiction?
-The video explains that using pornography to escape negative emotions or problems can easily become an addiction because it starts with curiosity and can lead to reliance on porn for pleasure and avoidance of confronting real-life issues.
What was the individual's history with weight and how did it affect his relationship with girls?
-The individual was obese during his teenage years, which led to low confidence and a fear of rejection when approaching girls, causing him to rely on porn as an escape.
How did the individual's weight loss journey impact his life and what was missing after the transformation?
-The individual's weight loss journey led to improved health, a perfect BMI, and an overall better quality of life. However, he found that a loving relationship was missing from his life.
What was the individual's experience when he first tried to have sex with his girlfriend?
-The individual experienced difficulty maintaining an erection during his first sexual encounter with his girlfriend, which led to feelings of shame and confusion.
What is the first step recommended for someone recovering from PIED according to the video?
-The first step recommended is to stop using porn and cut it out of one's life completely, as it is incompatible with a fulfilling and satisfying life for those who have developed a sexual dysfunction like PIED.
What does the video suggest about the use of Viagra for someone recovering from PIED?
-The video suggests that Viagra is not necessary for someone recovering from PIED, as it does not address the root problem, which is in the brain and not in the blood flow to the penis.
What is the 'rewire' phase mentioned in the video and why is it important?
-The 'rewire' phase is about conditioning one's sexual response back to realistic scenarios and interacting with real people. It is important because it helps to re-establish natural sexual responses and connections, which are essential for recovery from PIED.
What is the video creator's advice on the use of kegel exercises for someone recovering from PIED?
-The video creator advises against the use of kegel exercises for someone recovering from PIED, as they are unnecessary and can potentially lead to complications.
How can someone get personal guidance from the video creator during their recovery journey?
-Someone can get personal guidance from the video creator by visiting his website, addictedtointernetporn.com, and booking a coaching session.
Outlines
📚 Introduction to Recovery from PIED
The video begins with a motivational introduction to a coaching series focused on overcoming porn addiction and its associated sexual dysfunctions. The speaker shares a letter from a 20-year-old man who has recently realized he suffers from PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction). The speaker advises the viewer to educate themselves about the issue, recommending subscribing to a newsletter and reading a free PDF version of a book that provides a comprehensive guide to recovery. The speaker also suggests checking out Gary Wilson's work, 'Your Brain on Porn,' which offers updated scientific insights into the effects of consistent porn use on the brain. The letter writer describes his personal struggle with obesity, low confidence, and reliance on porn as an escape, leading to his current predicament with PIED.
🚫 The Necessity of Cutting Out Porn
In this paragraph, the speaker emphasizes the critical first step in overcoming PIED: completely stopping the use of porn. The speaker explains that for some individuals, pornography is incompatible with a fulfilling life and healthy relationships. They advise against reintroducing porn after recovery, as it often leads to a relapse into old habits. The speaker also suggests avoiding any form of solo sexual stimulation, comparing the process to healing from a broken leg where rest is essential. The fastest way to recover from PIED, according to the speaker, is to allow sexual expression only with a real person, which helps in rewiring the brain to real-life intimate situations.
⏳ Patience and the Process of Recovery
The speaker discusses the importance of patience in the recovery process from PIED. They mention that significant progress can be seen within 90 days, but the journey involves more than just abstaining from pornography. The 'reboot' phase involves cutting off from porn to allow healing, while the 'rewire' phase is about conditioning the sexual response back to realistic scenarios. The speaker encourages viewers to start dating and interacting with women to practice real-life intimacy. They also address the question about Viagra, explaining that it is not a solution to PIED as it does not address the underlying brain-related issues. Instead, the speaker advises against using Viagra prematurely and focuses on the natural recovery process.
💪 Final Advice and Next Steps
In the final paragraph, the speaker reiterates the importance of cutting out all forms of porn and self-sexual stimulation from one's life. They stress the need to rewire with real people and to be patient with the recovery process. The speaker offers personal guidance through coaching sessions for those who need additional support and encourages viewers to read the recommended book for a deeper understanding of the issue. The speaker concludes with well wishes and a reminder to take the necessary steps towards recovery.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED)
💡Addiction
💡Recovery
💡Gary Wilson
💡Desensitization
💡Real Human Connection
💡NoFap
💡Kegel Exercises
💡Reboot
💡Rewire
💡Viagra
Highlights
Introduction to the video series on recovering from porn addiction and PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction).
Emphasis on the importance of educating oneself about PIED and recovery.
Recommendation to subscribe to the newsletter and get a free PDF version of the book for a comprehensive guide to recovery.
Mention of Gary Wilson and 'Your Brain on Porn' as a key resource for understanding the effects of porn on the brain.
Narration of a personal letter from a 20-year-old man experiencing PIED.
Discussion on how reliance on porn for escape can lead to addiction.
Account of the man's weight loss journey and its impact on his health and self-confidence.
Description of the man's experience with PIED during his first sexual encounter.
Explanation of how PIED can affect self-esteem and self-worth, particularly in men.
Advice on stopping the use of porn and any form of solo sexual stimulation as a first step in recovery.
Recommendation to focus on real-life intimate relationships as a way to recover from PIED.
Discussion on the potential benefits and drawbacks of using Viagra in the context of PIED.
Explanation that kegel exercises are unnecessary for someone recovering from PIED.
Emphasis on the need for time and patience in the recovery process from PIED.
Advice on starting to date and interact with women as part of the rewire phase.
Encouragement to read the book for a thorough guide and the option to book a coaching session for personal guidance.
Transcripts
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hello and welcome back to my video
coaching series on recovering from porn
addiction and porn induced sexual
dysfunctions today I have a letter that
I received and I'm going to share with
you from a guy who just recently
realized he has P ie D or porn induced
erectile dysfunction
now of course the first thing I told him
is educate yourself as much as possible
because he's wondering where does he go
from here how does he deal with this
what does he have to expect educate
yourself one way to do that subscribe to
my newsletter get the pdf version of my
book for free
it contains the complete guide to
recovery the more you know about why
this has happened to you how it happened
and read the stories of people who have
been through this and come out the other
side the better prepared you'll be to
handle this in your own life and
undertake this journey successfully also
if you haven't heard of Gary Wilson or
your brain on porn comm you need to
check that out it's the preeminent
source of all information on this topic
and he recently came out with a new
version an updated version of his book
your brain on porn contains all the most
recent science and studies that really
shine a light on what's going on in the
brains of consistent porn users and why
does this behavior cause problems and if
you'd like to listen to the audio
version of that book it's narrated by me
highly recommended
alright let's get into his letter he's
20 years old he says the reason I
messaging you is because you're the only
youtuber I found who I feel can really
help me please help me here's my history
I was obese during all my teenage years
due to that due to that and low
confidence I was never really able to
approach girls with the fear uncertainty
of rejection therefore I relied on porn
to escape from that anything we start to
rely on to escape from negative emotions
or from our problems and that also
brings us a lot of pleasure can easily
become an addiction
I see this in pornography all the time
often it just starts with curiosity you
know you have a sex drive you're curious
about seeing a naked lady and you start
using pornography but when you start
using it as an escape from your life or
as a way to avoid actually confronting
your problems or getting what you
actually want which is real human
connection then it starts to become an
addiction it's been one year since I
started my weight loss journey which
wasn't success congratulations man I am
now as healthy as it gets I have a
perfect BMI and I don't smoke and I
don't drink only now and then I exercise
often and my life quality has improved
greatly but there was something missing
a loving relationship I met this
beautiful girl in December last year and
we started dating recently three weeks
in I really liked her and I found her
very attractive and out of my league
everything was great I was confident in
myself I felt like I could lift up the
world I was a new man but my confidence
took a big hit when for the first time
that I was going to have sex I couldn't
keep my erection or fully reach it it
was getting so frustrating
after a while I was finally able to do
it but I lost my erection during sex
which only lasted like 45 seconds she
and I both tried things and eventually
quit I came home deeply ashamed of
myself not knowing why that had happened
afraid that I just screwed up things
with her she said it was fine and it
happens but that didn't make me feel any
better I know exactly how you felt I
felt it myself even if other aspects of
her life are going well in so much of
our self-esteem and self-worth as men
it's tied up in our virility and how we
interact with the opposite sex on a
sexual level and when we feel broken in
that aspect of our lives everything else
just feels like it's crumbling down on
us when I got home I did a whole lot of
online research and the only likely
reason I found was piee D I related to
most stories of guys who had it I did
masturbate every day 1 or 2 times always
with porn I believe that is the reason I
was unable to have sex but I'm still
confused on
how to be cured from P ie D they always
say to do the no fat thing from two to
four months and this kegel exercise
which I'm not sure if I'm doing right
but what about the rest some say I
should have sex with my partner using
Viagra some say I should completely cut
out all physical relationships I'm
confused and afraid to screw this up
with this amazing girl this whole
situation really brought me down I'm
feeling more depressed than I used to
when I was Abby's all the confidence I
once had is now gone just like for this
reason I ask no I beg of you to please
tell me what I should do thank you for
reading and helping everyone out there
well like I said the answers are out
there read my book it will give you the
most thorough guide that I can give you
without talking with you one-on-one but
I am going to give you a short
prescription that every guy with piee
should know by heart in order to move
through this journey with some knowledge
and some expectation of what you should
be doing and what to expect so the first
thing of course if you're not at this
level yet I'm glad you're here because
you need this information stop using
porn cut it out of your life if it's
gotten to the point where you feel
addicted to porn and you've tried to
give it up but can't or you've developed
a sexual dysfunction like piee d then
pornography is completely incompatible
with a happy fulfilling satisfying life
and relationships for you for some
people they can use pornography
occasionally and never creates big
problem for them they are able to have
sex just fine and it's just a pastime
like a casual drinker but for others you
know some alcoholics
can destroy their lives some pornography
users it can destroy their lives as well
so you're one of those people for whom
pornography is just incompatible with a
good life and that's a permanent thing
some guys try to recover from P ie D
they give up porn for as long as it
takes and then they're having good sex
and they think oh I can bring porn back
into my life now I won't use it all that
often but what most often ends up
happening
once a week becomes 2 times in a day
becomes 3 times on a binge becomes right
back to their old habits and then they
have P ie D again and they're back where
they started and they have to restart
this journey so cut out the pornography
and that includes any porn substitutes
not just pornography websites but
anything on a screen or a page that
you're seeking erotic arousal from this
means cruising Instagram or Facebook or
other social media for erotic images
anything that turns you on by yourself
really if it's not a real person that
you're attracted to right in front of
you then cut it out of your life stop
using any sort of solo sex at least at
the beginning of this journey think of
this like a broken leg or some other
type of injury when you have a broken
leg the first thing you need to do is
rest it you protect it you put a cast
around it and you rest it as much as
possible just to allow the healing to
happen and that's what we need to do
with p IE d we've worn out our sexual
response system we're so desensitized
from years of using this super stimulus
of pornography that we just need to
allow our sexual response systems time
to recover regenerate and reset citize
and that means you know when you have a
broken leg you don't go out the second
day and start jogging you don't even go
for a walk you just rest it and relating
that metaphor back to porn you don't
masturbate at least in the beginning now
the fastest way to recover from p IE d
or any porn induced sexual dysfunction
is to allow sexual expression only with
a real person in real intimate situation
real sex real rewiring some people
recommends you know masturbating to more
realistic fantasy first-person fantasy
memories or imaginings of what a real
date might be like and they say that
that can help you rewire to more
realistic scenarios but
I'm not going to give the end-all-be-all
word on this but from what I've seen and
what I've experienced and the class that
I've worked with I haven't seen any
evidence that this actually helps
fastest way to recover is to cut out
masturbation until after you're having
great sex you're completely rewired and
you've completely gotten rid of P ie D
at that point you can reevaluate and
wonder you know do I want to reintroduce
masturbation without pornography without
any sort of visual stimulus just a
sensation or fantasy into my life and at
that point you can experiment with it
find out what works for you some guys
even if they try to do it
I'm very rigid schedule once a month
twice a month only to fantasy only to
sensation it can lead down a slippery
slope of more cravings to masturbate
more cravings to have more horny
fantasies and more cravings to use
pornography other guys they can use it
once in a while as a release and it's no
problem so experiment with it but be
aware of the potential dangers but
that's only after you've recovered and
the P ie D is gone alright give it time
you need to give it time how much time
depends on you depends on a lot of
variables you're tempted to ask me I
know how long is this going to take most
guys I can tell you see very significant
progress within 90 days but there's more
to it than just the amount of time you
have away from pornography that's the
reboot stage which you've probably heard
before rebooting just means cutting
yourself off from porn allowing yourself
time to heal but there's also the rewire
phase or rehabilitation after you break
your leg for example and you've healed
long enough to be able to start walking
again you might need some rehab you need
to practice walking again you need to
train yourself to go through those
motions again and get used to walking on
this leg again and that's what the
rewire is rewire is conditioning your
sexual response back to realistic
scenarios back to interacting with a
real person so start dating start
interacting with women start flirting
star
making out with a woman who is
interested in you and take it slow but
don't be afraid to start even if you're
not sure that the P ie D is gone yet
start rewiring you need to get yourself
out there in the world we're all sexual
creatures were sexual beings we have sex
drives if we don't fulfill that in some
way if we're not pursuing connection
with other people there's always going
to be that hole there and if all you
know if the only way you know of to fill
that hole is using pornography it's
going to lead to cravings unless you are
trying to satisfy that need
with real relationships real intimacy so
get out there start dating and start
rewiring that's really as simple as that
few simple steps number one cut out the
porn any erotic stimulation from a
screen or a page or anything not a real
person in your real life number two give
it time
it's gonna take some time to heal you'll
know when it's working when you start to
get more random erections throughout the
day or at night or in the morning when
you wake up you feel a stronger libido a
pull towards real people in your life
and that's when you should start trying
to rewire put yourself out there date I
know it's scary I know you're probably
anxious and concerned about well I don't
want to start dating if I'm not sure my
penis is going to work but that's a risk
we have to take we have to open
ourselves up to that be vulnerable
because there's really no way to know
that the piee D is gone until after we
have successful sex that's just a fact
now viagra you asked about viagra it's
not necessary it doesn't address the
problem the problem here is in our brain
in our mind it's not in the veins or
arteries that flow blood to our penis
that's what viagra targets that's what
it's good for older people who have
blockages who are don't have good blood
flow viagra can really help them viagra
can make it easier to get and maintain
an erection for younger guys as well who
are struggling with piee D but it's not
going to address the real problems here
and by using viagra prematurely
to have an orgasm or to have sex before
your body is really ready for that can
be like taking a painkiller and going
for a walk or a jog on that broken leg
it can actually lead to a longer
recovery time I'm not saying that viagra
should never be used if you go to your
doctor and your doctor prescribes you
with this medication after hearing about
your story then it can be useful for
someone who has a high level of
performance anxiety perhaps brought on
by years of struggling with piee D and
it can just be sort of a crutch and a
confidence booster for those first few
times having sex get some of that
experience and confidence built up and
then wean themselves off of that and
have natural sex it can be useful for
those guys but you my friend are not
there yet you're just at the beginning
of your journey don't even think about
viagra at this point just follow those
steps that I outlined below and you also
asked about kegels kegels are for those
of you who don't know an exercise where
an you contract the muscles in your
groin that's allow you to stop the flow
of urine and some guys believe that by
strengthening these muscles you can
strengthen the quality of your erections
but kegels are completely unnecessary
for someone who's recovering from P ie D
your baseline as a young and now healthy
guy should be getting erections easily
when needed and you don't need to
exercise muscles and your groin in order
to do that that is simply not something
you need to worry about and doing kegels
too often can also lead to other
complications so I don't recommend doing
them at all just give it time cut out
all the porn and self set self sexual
stimulation from your life and then
rewire with real people alright my
friend
good luck read the book and if you'd
like to get my personal help my personal
guidance through this process you can
always find me on my website addicted to
internet porn comm and book a coaching
session with me and whatever way it
works best for you
alright everybody have a wonderful p.m.
every day and I'll see you next time
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