Do Women Really Want a Masculine Man?
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the importance of recognizing accountability in relationships, suggesting that those who always portray themselves as victims and blame others may not be reliable partners. It emphasizes the need for personal growth and responsibility, advocating for a balance of masculine and feminine traits in a partner. The speaker also touches on the negative aspects of jealousy, control, and oversharing, suggesting that trust and mutual respect are key to a healthy relationship.
Takeaways
- 😐 It's important to be aware that if someone always portrays themselves as a victim and their ex as a villain, it could be a red flag for future relationships.
- 🤔 Accountability is crucial in a relationship; if someone doesn't take responsibility for their actions, it might indicate an inability to be a reliable partner.
- 🌱 Encouraging personal growth and learning from past experiences can help individuals find the positive aspects of a relationship, even if it was not ideal.
- 🧍♂️ A balanced man should exhibit both masculine and feminine qualities, such as strength and kindness, rather than being overly passive or androgynous.
- 👗 The feminine aspect in a masculine man should not be confused with external appearances like wearing skirts or pink shirts, but rather with internal qualities like warmth and kindness.
- 👀 Trust is fundamental in a relationship; jealousy and controlling behavior often stem from insecurity and can be detrimental to the partnership.
- 💪 Women may desire a man who is powerful and can take control, but not one who is overpowering and controlling, as this can indicate deeper issues.
- 😶 Oversharing in a relationship can be problematic, as it may signal unresolved childhood trauma or a need for attention, which can overshadow the other person's needs.
- 🤝 In a relationship, both partners should have the opportunity to share and listen to each other; one person dominating the conversation can lead to feelings of being uncared for.
- 📝 The goal of a date should be to get to know the other person, not to reveal everything about oneself, as this can diminish the mystery and excitement of future interactions.
Q & A
What does the speaker suggest about people who always see themselves as victims?
-The speaker suggests that if someone always sees themselves as a victim and others as villains, they may project this narrative onto others, including potential partners, which can be detrimental to building a healthy relationship.
Why might someone be considered a 'villain' in a person's story according to the transcript?
-Someone might be considered a 'villain' if they don't treat the person the way they want to be treated, or if they don't meet their expectations, even if they are treated well.
What is the importance of taking responsibility for one's actions in a relationship according to the speaker?
-Taking responsibility for one's actions is crucial for personal growth and for being a reliable partner. Without accountability, a person may not be able to grow and could potentially become a burden in the relationship.
What does the speaker advise regarding finding positivity in past relationships?
-The speaker advises looking for the positive aspects or lessons learned from past relationships, even if they were not good, to frame experiences positively rather than negatively.
What kind of man does the speaker believe a woman typically wants to date?
-The speaker believes that a woman typically wants a masculine man who also possesses feminine qualities such as kindness, warmth, and emotional availability, rather than someone who is overly feminine or androgynous.
Why might a woman seek a masculine man instead of a feminine one?
-A woman might seek a masculine man to fulfill her need for feminine polarity, as she can get her feminine fulfillment from other sources like her female friends.
What does the speaker mean by 'feminine kindness' in a masculine man?
-By 'feminine kindness,' the speaker refers to a masculine man who is emotionally available, kind, and supportive, making others feel safe, seen, and heard.
What is the speaker's view on jealousy in relationships?
-The speaker differentiates between healthy concern and controlling jealousy. They suggest that while it's normal to show interest in a partner's whereabouts, being overly controlling or possessive is a sign of insecurity and can be harmful to the relationship.
Why might oversharing in a relationship be problematic?
-Oversharing can be problematic because it may prevent the other person from having opportunities to share themselves, making them feel unimportant or as if the conversation is only about the oversharer.
What is the speaker's opinion on the balance between masculine and feminine traits in a relationship?
-The speaker believes there should be a balance between masculine and feminine traits, but it should not result in a lack of initiative or emotional depth. A masculine man should have feminine qualities like kindness and warmth, but not to the point of being passive or overly emotional.
What advice does the speaker give about sharing on a date?
-The speaker advises that while it's important to share about oneself, the goal of a date should be to get to know the other person. Oversharing can detract from the mystery and excitement of getting to know someone new.
Outlines
😔 The Perils of Victim Mentality in Relationships
This paragraph discusses the negative impact of always viewing oneself as a victim and one's ex as a villain. It warns that this mindset can lead to new partners being unfairly labeled as villains as well. The speaker advises listening to how individuals talk about their past relationships to gauge their level of accountability. If they fail to take responsibility for their actions, they may not be reliable partners. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of framing past relationships positively, even if they were not good, to learn valuable lessons.
💪 Balancing Masculinity and Femininity in Relationships
The speaker talks about the ideal balance between masculinity and femininity in a partner. They argue against the idea of a partner who is overly feminine or androgynous, suggesting that a balance is key. The desired masculine traits include kindness and warmth, making one feel safe and seen. The speaker clarifies that this does not mean the partner should be overly feminine in terms of appearance or behavior, but rather should exhibit a balance of strength and emotional intelligence. The paragraph also touches on the importance of masculine polarity in a relationship, suggesting that women typically seek a partner who is powerful but not overpowering.
👀 Trust Issues and Jealousy in Relationships
This paragraph addresses the issues of trust and jealousy in relationships. The speaker warns against partners who are overly controlling or jealous, indicating that such behavior stems from insecurity. They emphasize that trust is crucial for a healthy relationship and that a partner who constantly needs to know your whereabouts or what you are doing may be exhibiting signs of insecurity. The speaker also suggests that a relationship built on trust is essential for future stability and family building.
🤔 Oversharing and Attention Seeking in Relationships
The speaker discusses the potential problems associated with oversharing in a relationship. They note that oversharing can indicate unresolved childhood trauma or a need for attention, which can lead to issues in the relationship. The speaker also points out that oversharing by one partner can limit the opportunities for the other partner to share themselves, potentially making the relationship feel one-sided. They advise that while it's important to share about oneself, the goal of a date should be to get to know the other person, not to reveal everything about oneself.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Victim
💡Accountability
💡Responsibility
💡Support
💡Communication
💡Masculine
💡Feminine
💡Trust
💡Insecurity
💡Oversharing
💡Balance
Highlights
Being consistently a victim and having an ex always portrayed as a villain can lead to you becoming the next villain in their story.
Treating someone well does not guarantee you won't be seen as a villain if they don't take responsibility for their actions.
Accountability and responsibility are crucial early on in determining if someone can be a reliable partner.
Supporting and growing with someone is possible, but it requires them to take responsibility for their personal growth.
Finding positivity in negative experiences, such as a bad relationship, can lead to valuable life lessons.
Balancing masculine and feminine qualities is important, but not in the stereotypical way society might expect.
A masculine man should embody feminine kindness and warmth, making others feel safe and seen.
A feminine woman seeks a masculine man for a sense of fulfillment that she might not get from her female friends.
Jealousy, when misinterpreted as possessiveness, can be a sign of insecurity rather than genuine concern.
Trust is fundamental in a relationship, and controlling behavior stems from insecurity and a lack of trust.
Overpowering and controlling behavior is typically undesirable, except perhaps for those with significant emotional damage.
Oversharing in a woman can indicate deep-seated issues or a need for attention, which can be problematic.
Attention-seeking behavior can be self-serving and may not be conducive to a healthy relationship dynamic.
Oversharing by a man can dominate the conversation, leaving less space for the woman to express herself.
The goal of a first date should be to get to know the other person, not to reveal everything about oneself.
Maintaining a sense of mystery can enhance the appeal of getting to know someone on subsequent dates.
Transcripts
if they're always the victim and their
ex is always the villain everyone's
always out to get them you are going to
be the next villain it does not matter
how wonderful you treat them you are
going to be a villain in their story if
you don't treat them the way they want
to be treated listen to how they talk if
they don't have accountability they
don't take responsibility for their
actions early on this is not someone you
can rely on to be a good
partner yes you can support them and
grow with them them and maybe
communicate but unless they actually
take that responsibility to grow
themselves you're going to be
babysitting for the rest of your life
with this person look man even if your
ex did something horrible to you like
she cheated on you or she stole your
money and disappeared whatever it is
think of the positive that came out of
that situation or that relationship it
may not have been a good relationship
but you can still find the good in it
maybe you learned a valuable lesson the
point is frame it in the positive not in
the negative like I would assume it's
demand that you know everyone is equal
and D cool support your beliefs whatever
but I feel like those are the men that
are more feminine than a lot of women
nowadays and I don't want that I don't
need that not here for it so you don't
want a balanced man who's 50% masculine
and 50% feminine and and
androgynous and doesn't make any moves
on you you don't want that kind of man
no I think there has to be of course a a
feminine and a masculine balance but
it's not the kind of feminine that
people would probably think these days a
masculine man who has that feminine
umin kindness feminine kindness I guess
yeah yeah warmth you know he's not just
an and like has no emotions
exactly he you feel safe with him you
feel like you can be honest with him and
you can I don't know if you need to
break down you can break down with him
around him and he will make you feel
safe and seen and hold that space for
you that's the feminine um the feminine
part I look for in a masculine man
not wearing skirts and wearing pink
shirts I don't know look if she's a
feminine woman then she wants to date a
masculine man she gets that feminine
fulfillment from hanging out with her
female friends from you the guy she's
dating she wants that masculine polarity
jealousy first of all when it's jealous
so you're making other guy it's totally
fine no no no no no no not making up
with another guy like a jealousy meaning
like um more of like where you going
what are you doing why you're there like
you know up your ass yeah and and
control freak
on you he has to know everything where
you are what do you do that's a trust
issue like with the man that's an
insecurity he's insecure he thinks he's
not good enough so he thinks somebody
else is going to snag you yeah you you I
mean if you're in a relationship you
have to trust each other in order to
continue and to have a good relationship
in future and maybe build up family and
Stu women do want a man who's powerful
who can take control but they typically
do not want man that is overpowering and
controlling only a very damaged woman
would want a man like that oversharing
in a woman can sometimes be kind of bad
because that either means extreme
childhood trauma that usually leads to
other
issues
or attention
ponging and I'm an oversharer so I can
say that which one of you uh attention
Hing I I like attention quite a lot it
feeds my ego um but also it's like a
craving feel like I I almost like feel
like I need it
sometimes so that's the oversharing part
as I'm oversharing on
camera first of all if a guy overshares
it usually means the woman doesn't have
as many opportunities to share herself
he's essentially hogging the
conversation which makes her feel like
the guy doesn't care about her that he
just wants to talk about himself plus it
makes the m hisory of finding out more
about him out the window what's the
point of going on a second date she
already knows everything about him so
definitely share about yourself but your
mission going into a date should not be
to reveal everything about yourself it
should be to get to know her
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