#1 Thing Men Should Do On A First Date (According To Psychology)

Summary

In this video, Courtney Ryan shares valuable insights into what men should do on a first date to make women feel comfortable, backed by psychology and research. Highlighting the importance of feeling safe and secure, she emphasizes the need for men to maintain a lively conversation, take initiative, and create a relaxed atmosphere. Drawing from personal experience and studies, Courtney explains how small gestures, like a hug or discussing the future, can go a long way in signaling attraction. Ultimately, she stresses the significance of having the right mindset to reduce pressure and allow for authentic connections.

Takeaways

• 😀 Women prioritize feeling comfortable on a first date, with 79% of women surveyed stating it’s their most important factor in choosing a date.
• 😀 A relaxed and comfortable environment allows for a deeper connection, as stress and anxiety can hinder authenticity and openness.
• 😀 According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, feeling safe and secure is essential before emotional connections can develop.
• 😀 Men should aim to lead the conversation, maintaining a lively flow while also being genuinely attentive to their date’s responses.
• 😀 Successful conversation requires both participants to contribute equally, with men taking initiative while also listening carefully to their date.
• 😀 It’s okay to have moments of silence during a date, as pausing to think and gather thoughts can create a more meaningful conversation.
• 😀 Women expect men to take charge during the date, including initiating and maintaining a lively conversation.
• 😀 Physical touch, such as offering a hug instead of a handshake, can help make women feel more comfortable and signal attraction.
• 😀 When men pay for the date, it is often perceived as a positive signal of interest and attraction, though spending large amounts of money isn't necessary.
• 😀 A positive, abundant mindset (versus a scarcity mindset) helps reduce stress and pressure on the date, making both parties feel more at ease.
• 😀 Women generally respond better to men who express interest in the future, such as suggesting they’d like to see them again, without being too forward about long-term commitment.

Q & A

What is the most important thing women look for on a first date, according to the 2018 Match survey?

The most important thing women look for on a first date is feeling comfortable, with 79% of women prioritizing comfort over feeling happy (35%) or liked by the guy (27%).

Why is feeling comfortable so important on a first date?

Feeling comfortable signals that there is a connection and helps reduce anxiety. When a woman feels at ease, she can be more authentic and engage in a meaningful connection.

How does Maslow's hierarchy of needs relate to first dates?

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, feeling safe and secure is a fundamental requirement before emotional connections like love or attraction can develop. This is why comfort is prioritized on a first date.

How can men make a woman feel comfortable during a date?

Men can make a woman feel comfortable by maintaining a lively, two-way conversation, being a good listener, asking her questions, and avoiding making her feel like she’s doing all the talking.

What role does conversation play in making a woman feel comfortable?

A lively and balanced conversation helps both people feel engaged. By being genuinely interested in what she says and actively participating, men can create a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere.

What is meant by a ‘two-way street’ in conversation?

A ‘two-way street’ in conversation means that both people should contribute equally. One person shouldn’t dominate the conversation while the other is silent or only giving one-word responses.

What are some positive signals that women perceive on a first date?

Positive signals include maintaining a lively conversation, paying for the date, initiating a hug, and expressing interest in seeing the woman again.

Why do women prefer hugs over handshakes on a first date?

Many women feel that a hug is more personal and warm, creating a more comfortable atmosphere, while a handshake can feel formal or distant.

How does gender influence behavior during first dates?

Research suggests that men tend to take proactive roles in planning and leading the date, while women are more reactive, evaluating the date based on comfort and physical cues like a hug or kiss.

What is the significance of talking about the future on a first date?

Talking about the future in a non-pressuring way, such as expressing interest in seeing the person again, is viewed positively by women and signals attraction without being too forward.