Signs A Man Is Unhappy In His Marriage
Summary
TLDRLe script met en lumière les signes d'insatisfaction dans le mariage d'un mari, tels que l'augmentation de la consommation d'alcool, un travail excessif, la distance et l'absence d'engagement dans les responsabilités familiales, ainsi que la dépression. Il suggère que ces comportements sont le reflet de l'insatisfaction de la femme envers elle-même et de sa relation toxique avec elle-même. L'auteur insiste sur l'importance pour les femmes de prendre conscience de leur propre rôle dans la relation et de travailler sur une relation saine avec elles-mêmes pour améliorer le mariage. Pour les hommes, le conseil est de ne pas prendre personnellement les reproches de leur épouse et de les utiliser comme une opportunité de croissance personnelle pour devenir plus forts.
Takeaways
- 🔍 L'auteure insiste sur l'importance de s'auto-observer pour comprendre les signes d'insatisfaction dans le mariage.
- 🍷 L'augmentation de la consommation d'alcool par le mari peut être un signe qu'il est mécontent dans le mariage.
- 🕒 Le fait que le mari travaille plus d'heures ou plus tard le soir peut indiquer son insatisfaction.
- 📵 La distance et l'indisponibilité du mari, comme être toujours sur son téléphone ou jouer aux jeux vidéo, peuvent être des signaux d'insatisfaction.
- 🏠 L'absence de participation du mari dans les responsabilités ménagères peut être un signe de son mécontentement.
- 😞 Le sentiment d'avoir un autre enfant au lieu d'un mari peut indiquer que le mari est insatisfait et se révolte contre la condamnation constante.
- 😔 Une augmentation de la dépression chez les hommes mariés est un signe d'insatisfaction dans le mariage.
- 👤 L'auteure souligne que le problème n'est pas dans le mari ou le mariage, mais dans notre propre insatisfaction et notre relation non saine avec nous-mêmes.
- 💪 L'auteure encourage les femmes à travailler sur elles-mêmes pour améliorer leur relation avec elles-mêmes et ainsi améliorer le mariage.
- 👫 Lorsque les femmes travaillent sur une relation saine avec elles-mêmes, les signes négatifs du mari commencent à disparaître et il se réengage dans le mariage.
- 🧍♂️ Pour les hommes, reconnaître que les comportements de la femme qui les rendent incorrects peuvent être utilisés comme une opportunité de croissance personnelle pour devenir plus fort en soi-même.
- 🤝 L'auteure partage son expérience personnelle et son évolution dans son mariage après avoir changé sa façon de se comporter et de se sentir envers elle-même.
Q & A
Quels sont les signes que votre mari est insatisfait dans le mariage selon le script ?
-Les signes incluent une consommation d'alcool accrue, un temps de travail plus long, une distance et une indisponibilité, un manque de participation aux responsabilités ménagères, et un état de dépression.
Pourquoi les femmes pourraient-elles se plaindre de leur mari buvant plus que d'habitude ?
-Cela peut être le premier signe qu'il est insatisfait dans le mariage, utilisant l'alcool comme une forme d'échappatoire ou de gestion du stress.
Comment le script suggère-t-il que le travail excessif d'un mari est lié à son insatisfaction dans le mariage ?
-Le fait d'augmenter les heures de travail ou de travailler tard le soir peut être une tentative de fuir la situation problématique à la maison.
Quelle est la relation entre la distance et l'indisponibilité d'un mari et son insatisfaction dans le mariage ?
-Une distance accrue et une indisponibilité peuvent indiquer un désir de se déconnecter de la relation ou de se soustraire à des conflits.
Pourquoi le script affirme-t-il que les femmes doivent regarder en eux-mêmes pour comprendre l'insatisfaction de leur mari ?
-Parce que les comportements et les émotions d'un mari sont souvent une réflexion et une projection de la façon dont les femmes se sentent à l'intérieur et comment elles gèrent leur propre relation avec elles-mêmes.
Quels sont les effets d'une relation non saine avec soi-même sur le mariage selon le script ?
-Une relation non saine avec soi-même peut conduire à une insatisfaction dans le mariage, à une tendance à rendre son mari responsable des problèmes et à un manque de valeur de soi.
Quels sont les changements que le script suggère pour les femmes qui veulent améliorer leur mariage ?
-Le script recommande aux femmes de travailler sur elles-mêmes pour être heureuses, de construire une relation saine avec elles-mêmes et d'arrêter de rendre leur mari responsable des problèmes.
Comment le script explique-t-il que les hommes peuvent utiliser les comportements négatifs de leur femme pour grandir personnellement ?
-En reconnaissant que les comportements négatifs de leur femme sont une réflexion de leur propre insatisfaction, les hommes peuvent utiliser cela comme une opportunité de devenir plus forts et de ne plus se laisser affecter par ces comportements.
Quel est le message clé que le script veut transmettre aux hommes sur la façon de gérer la situation où leur femme les rend incorrects ?
-Le message clé est que les hommes ne doivent pas prendre personnellement les comportements de leur femme qui les rendent incorrects, mais plutôt les utiliser comme une opportunité de croissance personnelle.
Comment le script suggère-t-il de résoudre les conflits et de réduire l'emasculinisation dans le mariage ?
-En prenant conscience des comportements de l'autre partenaire et en travaillant sur soi-même pour devenir plus fort et solidaire, ce qui permet de ne plus se laisser affecter par les comportements négatifs.
Quel est le résultat final que le script attend lorsque les femmes travaillent sur elles-mêmes et arrêtent de rendre leur mari responsable ?
-Le script suggère que lorsque les femmes travaillent sur elles-mêmes et arrêtent de rendre leur mari responsable, le mari se réengage dans la relation, les problèmes disparaissent et ils peuvent avoir une relation saine et heureuse.
Outlines
😔 Signes d'insatisfaction dans le mariage
Le premier paragraphe aborde les signes d'insatisfaction d'un mari dans le mariage, qui sont le résultat du comportement de la femme. L'auteure partage ses propres expériences pour encourager les femmes à s'auto-évaluer et à changer leur attitude pour améliorer leur relation. Les signes incluent une augmentation de la consommation d'alcool, un temps de travail plus long, une distance émotionnelle, un manque de participation aux responsabilités ménagères et une dépression. L'auteure insiste sur le fait que ces problèmes ne viennent pas du mari ou du mariage, mais de l'état d'insatisfaction intérieur de la femme et de sa relation non saine avec elle-même.
🌟 Changement personnel pour améliorer le mariage
Dans le deuxième paragraphe, l'auteure explique comment le changement personnel peut conduire à une amélioration des relations maritales. Elle partage son expérience personnelle et celle d'autres femmes qui, en travaillant sur elles-mêmes, ont vu leur mari se réengager dans le mariage. L'auteure souligne que les hommes réagissent positivement lorsque leur femme cesse de les rendre coupables et de les dévaloriser. Elle appelle les femmes à reconnaître leur pouvoir sur leur mari et à travailler sur une relation saine avec elles-mêmes pour résoudre les problèmes婚姻.
💪 Développement personnel pour les hommes face à l'émasculateur
Le troisième paragraphe traite de la manière dont les hommes peuvent utiliser les comportements négatifs de leur femme comme une opportunité pour grandir personnellement. L'auteure encourage les hommes à ne pas prendre personnellement les reproches et à se fortifier intérieurement, de sorte que les tentatives d'émasculateur et de dévalorisation de leur femme deviennent inefficaces. Elle suggère que les hommes devraient utiliser ces expériences pour renforcer leur estime de soi et ainsi réduire les symptômes d'insatisfaction dans leur mariage.
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Keywords
💡malheureux dans le mariage
💡travail excessif
💡distance émotionnelle
💡responsabilités ménagères
💡désengagement
💡désespoir
💡compte rendu de soi
💡relation avec soi-même
💡prise de conscience
💡cambriolage de pouvoir
💡auto-amélioration
Highlights
Signs of a husband's unhappiness in marriage include increased drinking, working more hours, being distant, not participating in household responsibilities, and showing signs of depression.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and understanding one's own behavior in addressing marital issues.
Change in the marriage is possible by addressing personal issues and improving self-relationship.
The speaker shares personal experiences to illustrate the points made in the video.
Unhappiness in the marriage may stem from the wife's behavior and emotional abuse.
The speaker suggests that women often fail to take accountability for their part in their husband's unhappiness.
Self-improvement and building a healthy relationship with oneself can lead to a thriving marriage.
Men may internalize feelings of inadequacy and blame themselves for marital problems.
Men should view their wife's behavior as an opportunity for personal growth and self-strengthening.
The speaker explains how changing one's behavior can lead to a positive change in the spouse's behavior.
The importance of not taking personal attacks personally and understanding their source is emphasized.
The speaker provides advice on how to handle instances of shaming or emasculation in a marriage.
The speaker discusses the concept of taking responsibility and accountability in a marriage.
The potential for a marriage to thrive when both partners work on themselves is highlighted.
The speaker encourages both men and women to work on their self-worth and self-value for a healthier relationship.
Transcripts
so here are the signs that your husband
is unhappy in the marriage because these
are consequences of you and how you are
showing up and this is what I had to see
for myself again I don't talk about
anything in my videos that I haven't had
to see in myself and it was when I was
able to Shine the Light to be called out
to see these things about myself that I
could actually change and then my
marriage changed and that's what I want
for you too but we have to do the roller
sleeves up and and do the not fun part
of taking a hard look in the mirror to
see what it is about us that we're
creating our husband's unhappiness in
the relationship so here are the signs
if your husband drinks more
a lot of women complain about their
husband drinking and like oh it's the
first thing he does when he gets home or
he's he's drinking so much more than
when we first met that's a sign that
he's unhappy in the marriage and we're
going to talk more today about where
does that stem from if your husband is
working more working more hours or
working later into the evening if your
husband is distant and unavailable so I
hear from a lot of women complaining my
husband's always on his phone or and
husbands will have the same experience
that their wives are always on their
phone but that's a different angle
another topic for another time but
feeling that he's always on his phone or
he's always playing video games or he's
always watching sports or he's always
doing something else and he's completely
unavailable to me
another sign that your husband is
unhappy that he doesn't participate in
household responsibilities
so he stopped being a part of the
household he stopped doing his
responsibilities if you as the woman
feel like you have another child instead
of a man and a husband in your marriage
if that's how you're feeling that's a
sign your husband is unhappy in the
relationship because he's rebelling
against you constantly making him wrong
and the other things that we do that
should when we show up as emotionally
abusive in their relationship and the
last sign is that your husband is
depressed
another thing that I hear a lot from
women and you can look at the statistics
and in the U.S to see the
rising number of depression in men and
among married men
so those are the signs that your husband
is unhappy and what I want women to
understand is that we believe
that our husband is just withdrawing and
they've checked out of the relationship
and it's something about them that they
need to change and so what we start
doing is we try to work on changing our
husband thinking that we're working on
the marriage and working on the problems
in the marriage which we see as these
things my husband drinks too much he
works too much he's distant and
unavailable he doesn't participate in
household responsibilities or chores I
feel like I have a child he's depressed
and that's the reasoning cause of the
problems in our marriage those women we
try to come in it from that angle
because again we don't want to take
accountability and responsibility to
look at ourselves
but what I want women to know is that
it's not your marriage or your husband
that is the problem
we are the problem because we are
unhappy in ourselves and we have an
unhealthy relationship with ourselves
that's the very reason that we make our
husbands wrong is that it is a
reflection and a projection of how we
feel about ourselves on the inside
and we think that we can just show up
and we're entitled to show up however we
want and that no matter who we are no
matter how we treat our husbands no
matter what we do to them that they
should always be there and they should
be engaged and happy and do the things
we want them to do in the relationship
life doesn't work that way
again there are consequences for our
Behavior so when you're constantly
making your husband wrong you have to
slow down to be honest with yourself of
how you do that because a lot of you
your first fight will be I don't do that
that's not me but if your husband is
displaying any of these signs that I
talked about
it is a reflection of you making him
wrong in the marriage
so it's slowing down to look at that
and recognize he's not just randomly
withdrawing and pulling away
it's a symptom
of you pushing him away
by making him wrong and what that means
that we often fight and don't want to
know is that we have an immense amount
of power to make a marriage go really
really really good and have it Thrive
and be healthy simply by changing how we
show up in the relationship and letting
go of making our husbands wrong that
that's exactly what happened for me in
my marriage and 10 years of working with
other women who all admit to this
working with hundreds of women over the
last decade in their marriages who all
know these behaviors and themselves all
know they make their husband wrong all
know they have an unhealthy relationship
with themselves and don't feel good
about who they are on the inside it's
the magic that happens when you start
working to have a healthy relationship
with yourself and be happy in yourself
and you stop pushing your husband away
and you stop making him wrong you stop
emasculating him and shaming him and
you're married to a good man is that he
re-engages
in the relationship
and
in all of the ways that he was showing
up negatively in response to you
goes away
and I didn't believe my mentor when he
taught me this
and I I threw up a fight and I dug my
heels in
but when I came to accept it and I
actually started to show up differently
with my husband it's exactly what
happened
he started wanting to spend time
together he was eager to help out around
the house he was eager to find things he
could do to support me and help me he
started drinking less he started wanting
to be around he was available he wasn't
distant anymore and it became crystal
clear to me
that the ways he was showing up was a
direct result of how I was in the
relationship because the only person
that changed was me
and then the whole dynamic of my
marriage changed and my husband and I
continued to thrive continue to grow
together continue to have a healthy
happy relationship so ladies it's up to
you and the solution and the
understanding is it's not anything about
your marriage or your husband it's you
and being unhappy in yourself and having
an unhealthy relationship with yourself
and how you can know that is that you
beat yourself up you make yourself wrong
you're critical of yourself you'd never
feel enough you put on the mask and face
of who you think you need to be to be
liked and accepted by others you don't
have a sense of self-worth or self-value
you don't feel good about yourself those
are all the signs that we don't have a
healthy relationship with ourselves and
we've never been taught that or even
known that we really need that so that's
the solution and that's what I teach
women how to do and if you only work on
yourself to be happy and build a healthy
relationship with yourself
and you're married to a good man a man
who's kind loving hard-working
responsible the majority of you are
married to Good Men if you are a nice
person even if it externally in a facade
chances are you married a nice good man
most of you are married to Good Men and
if that's the case and you work on
yourself to be happy and have a healthy
relationship with yourself that's the
solution to these problems in your
marriage
and is recognizing the grave effect that
you have
on your husband and and how we can make
them feel these ways just by shaming
them and constantly making them wrong
what I want men to know
is that being aware that your wife is
making you wrong is emasculating you
that what happens for Good Men is that
you internalize how your wife makes you
feel wrong and that you're the problem
in the relationship and that it's
something wrong with you that you're
drinking more or working more that
you're distant that you're depressed
um that you feel like a child in the
relationship that there's something
wrong with you that you don't want to
help out anymore and you're you get hard
on yourself because you buy into your
wife's constant shaming and emasculation
so when you can see it for what it is
and recognize oh I've unknowingly been
giving my power away to my wife what
that allows you to do is then to grow
and learn
from your wife's behaviors
so that you can work on the weaknesses
within yourself
that allows the emasculation and the
shaming to work so what I teach men is
we want you want to use the emasculation
in your wife making you wrong as an
opportunity to become stronger in
yourself and what happens over time is
that when she makes you wrong or she's
emasculating it begins to Just Bounce
Off
and it doesn't work anymore so you don't
have these symptoms of being unhappy in
your marriage because you're solid
within yourself
and what happens for my husband and I
now and what the best way for a good man
to begin to
to stand up to the shaming and the
emasculation in a responsible respectful
way
is for you to make light of it and so
I'm I'm a woman and I've worked really
hard on myself and I've changed so much
in my marriage
but every once in a while something will
fly out of my mouth or I'll give a look
I'm I'm human I'm not perfect and now my
husband just makes a joke like hey you
want to say that a different way or well
that's a great way to make me wrong
and then I can accept like oh
and apologize I'm really sorry thank you
for calling it out and then we just move
on and it's very rare that that even
happens anymore because I do take
responsibility and accountability for
myself now in my marriage and that's
what I want women to do and for men it's
using these behaviors as a personal
growth journey to become stronger in
yourself and what you'll notice is
happens is the emasculation and the
shaming happens less
and it just bounces off because you
don't take it personally I think that's
what I want men to know is do not take
your wife making you wrong and shaming
you and emasculating you to not take it
personally it's not anything you are
doing wrong or any defect in you it's a
reflection of her own relationship with
herself and how badly she feels about
herself on the inside
and when you know that and you can begin
to see and observe how that operates
then you no longer take it personally
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