This makes the narcissist revalue you

Summary

This video explores the manipulative tactics of narcissists, who seek to become the central figure in someone’s life to create emotional dependence. Once in control, they devalue their victim but may resurface when the victim moves on and reframes their life. The narcissist's return is motivated by a need for validation, not love, aiming to regain control and emotional supply. The video emphasizes the importance of emotional independence and resisting the narcissist's attempts to reenter one's life, as their manipulative behavior remains unchanged.

Takeaways

• 😀 Narcissists aim to make you emotionally dependent on them, positioning themselves as the centerpiece of your life.
• 😀 Once narcissists establish emotional dependence, they gain control over your actions and feelings, making it hard to imagine life without them.
• 😀 Narcissists devalue you once they have secured emotional control, using you to regulate their emotions and serve their needs.
• 😀 The narcissist's sense of grandiosity is maintained by being the center of your emotional world, and they rely on your dependence for validation.
• 😀 Narcissists feel secure in their relationships because they believe you won't leave due to your emotional dependency on them.
• 😀 If the relationship ends, it is often on the narcissist's terms, either when they no longer care about you or when they’ve used you up.
• 😀 Narcissists may resurface when you regain emotional independence and no longer need them, as they feel threatened and diminished.
• 😀 The narcissist perceives your emotional independence as a loss of power, making you seem valuable to them again, but only as a source of validation.
• 😀 If a narcissist returns after you’ve moved on, it’s typically not due to love but because they seek to reclaim control and re-establish themselves as the emotional focus.
• 😀 Narcissists may claim to have changed, but their core behavior remains the same—manipulative and self-serving.
• 😀 To maintain emotional health, once you’ve moved on from a narcissistic relationship, it’s crucial to keep them out of your life and avoid falling back into their manipulative patterns.

Q & A

What is the primary goal of a narcissist in a relationship?

The primary goal of a narcissist in a relationship is to make their partner emotionally dependent on them, ensuring they become the centerpiece of their partner's life.

How do narcissists achieve emotional control over their partners?

Narcissists achieve emotional control by manipulating their partner’s emotions, making them feel like they cannot live without the narcissist, and gradually establishing themselves as the focal point of their partner’s world.

What happens when a narcissist devalues their partner?

When a narcissist devalues their partner, they begin to treat them poorly, using them to regulate their own emotions or fulfill their needs, while showing little regard for the partner's well-being.

Why do narcissists believe they can get away with devaluing someone?

Narcissists believe they can get away with devaluing someone because they know how emotionally dependent the person has become on them, making it difficult for the person to leave or stand up for themselves.

What typically causes a narcissist to end a relationship?

A narcissist typically ends a relationship when they no longer find their partner valuable, either because they have extracted enough emotional validation or simply because they no longer care.

What motivates a narcissist to come back into someone's life after a breakup?

A narcissist may return to someone’s life after a breakup when they sense the person has moved on and is no longer emotionally dependent on them, as this makes the person more valuable to the narcissist in terms of validation and control.

Why do narcissists feel threatened when their former partner has moved on?

Narcissists feel threatened when their former partner has moved on because they no longer feel like the centerpiece of their life, which challenges their grandiose sense of self and diminishes their sense of validation.

How do narcissists perceive their own actions when they return after a breakup?

Narcissists may tell themselves they are returning out of love or care, but their true motivation is usually to re-establish control and make themselves the center of their partner’s world once again.

Can a narcissist change their behavior after a breakup?

No, a narcissist’s core behavior typically does not change, even if they claim to have changed. They are primarily motivated by a desire for validation and control.

What should someone do if a narcissist reappears in their life after they’ve moved on?

If a narcissist reappears in someone’s life after they’ve moved on, it’s important to maintain boundaries and avoid falling back into the cycle of emotional manipulation, as the narcissist will likely seek to regain control.