What Men Consider Great Sex (10 Secrets Men Obsess Over)
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful video, certified sexologist Kevin Anthony shares 10 key secrets to what men consider great sex. He emphasizes the importance of being fully engaged and enjoying the experience, having regular sex to maintain interest, and giving ample attention to a man's genitals. Kevin also highlights the significance of oral sex, being responsive during sex, and varying positions to keep the experience fresh and exciting. Trying new things, understanding the energetic and emotional components of sex, and being aware of a man's arousal level are also crucial. Lastly, he stresses the importance of being present and engaged in the act, creating a shared experience that leads to a deeper connection and more satisfying sex life.
Takeaways
- 🔥 **Enthusiasm is Key**: Men consider great sex to be with a partner who is genuinely into it and engaged in the experience.
- 🛏️ **Regularity Matters**: Having sex regularly is important for men to consider it great, as sporadic encounters can be unsatisfying.
- 👤 **Attention to His Needs**: Men appreciate when their genitals receive attention, and it significantly contributes to their perception of great sex.
- 💋 **Oral Sex Appreciation**: Receiving oral sex is something most men enjoy and consider it a major part of great sex.
- 🎭 **Responsiveness Counts**: Being responsive during sex, through vocal or physical cues, is essential for men to feel that their partner is enjoying the experience.
- 🤸♀️ **Variety is the Spice**: Mixing up positions and trying different things can keep sex from becoming routine and maintain a man's interest.
- 🧪 **Innovation Welcome**: Trying new positions, locations, or introducing toys can prevent sex from becoming monotonous and add excitement.
- 💖 **Emotional and Energetic Connection**: Men value both the emotional and energetic aspects of sex, which, when combined with the physical, can lead to a deeper connection.
- 📈 **Understanding Arousal**: Being aware of a man's arousal level and managing the sexual energy can lead to more satisfying and longer-lasting sexual experiences.
- 🧘♀️ **Staying Present**: Men want their partners to be present and engaged with them during sex, rather than just focusing on their own sensations.
Q & A
What is the first key secret mentioned for men to consider sex great?
-The first key secret is that the woman is really into it, showing enthusiasm and being engaged in the sexual activity.
Why is regular sex important for men to consider it great?
-Regular sex is important because it helps to maintain a strong physical connection and prevents the man from losing interest in the relationship.
What does it mean to 'give attention' in the context of the script?
-Giving attention refers to focusing on the man's genitals, which is something that men appreciate and consider as a sign of great sex.
Why is the act of oral sex considered a significant part of great sex for men?
-Oral sex is considered significant because it is something that men really love, desire, and crave, and being good at it can make a woman seem amazing in bed.
What does being 'responsive' during sex entail?
-Being responsive means reacting to what's happening, making noises, moving the body, and providing feedback, which is important for a man to feel that his partner is engaged.
Why is it suggested to 'mix it up' during sex?
-Mixing it up helps to keep the sexual experience alive, fresh, and prevents it from becoming routine or boring.
What is the importance of trying new things in sexual activities?
-Trying new things can prevent sex from becoming routine and can introduce new experiences that can enhance the sexual relationship.
How does understanding the energetic and emotional components of sex contribute to great sex?
-Engaging both the energetic and emotional components, along with the physical, can lead to a deeper and more satisfying sexual experience.
What does it mean to understand where a man is on his arousal scale?
-Understanding a man's arousal level helps in managing the sexual encounter to ensure that both partners can reach climax at a mutually satisfying time.
Why is it important for a woman to be present and engaged during sex?
-Being present and engaged means being fully involved in the shared experience with the partner, which is crucial for a man to feel connected and have a fulfilling sexual encounter.
What is the role of foreplay in creating great sex?
-Foreplay is important as it can enhance arousal and set the stage for a more satisfying sexual encounter. It can also be mixed with other activities to keep the experience varied and exciting.
How can a woman help a man last longer during sex?
-A woman can help a man last longer by being aware of his arousal level and adjusting her energy and actions to manage his arousal, allowing him to reach a sweet spot where he can control his ejaculation.
Outlines
🔥 Keys to Great Sex for Men: Understanding Desires
Kevin Anthony, a certified sexologist, Tantra counselor, NLP practitioner, and relationship coach, shares 10 secrets to what men consider great sex. He emphasizes the importance of a woman being genuinely engaged during sex, desiring regular sexual encounters, and giving attention to the man's genitals. Anthony also highlights the significance of oral sex and the woman's responsiveness through vocal and physical cues. He encourages variety in sexual positions and the willingness to experiment with new things to keep the sexual relationship fresh and exciting.
🛠️ Enhancing Intimacy: Mixing Up the Sexual Routine
Continuing the discussion on male sexual preferences, Kevin Anthony stresses the need to avoid a routine sexual pattern by incorporating foreplay, varying positions, and even introducing toys or new locations for intimacy. He also speaks about the importance of engaging both the energetic and emotional aspects of sex to achieve a deeper and more profound connection. Understanding a man's arousal level and helping him prolong sexual experiences until mutual climax is another key point. Anthony provides insights into the disparity between men's and women's average times to orgasm and offers advice for women to manage their partner's arousal to achieve better sexual satisfaction for both.
🧘♀️ Presence and Engagement: The Essence of Sexual Connection
In the final paragraph, Kevin Anthony focuses on the importance of being present and engaged during sex. He advises against getting lost in one's own sensations and instead encourages a woman to be an active participant in the shared experience. This co-creative process is essential for reaching a higher level of sexual intimacy. Anthony wraps up with suggestions for further learning through his YouTube channel, podcast, and additional resources available on his website, ensuring that the listener has avenues to continue exploring and improving their sex life and relationship.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Engagement
💡Regularity
💡Attention to Genitals
💡Oral Sex
💡Responsiveness
💡Variety
💡Novelty
💡Energetic and Emotional Connection
💡Arousal Scale
💡Presence
💡Co-creation
Highlights
Men consider great sex when their partner is really into it, showing genuine engagement and enjoyment.
Regular sexual activity is important for men to consider sex as great; sporadic encounters are less satisfying.
Men appreciate when their partner gives a lot of attention to their genitals.
Oral sex and performing it well is something that men really love and desire.
Responsiveness in sex, including vocal and physical feedback, is crucial for men.
Being willing to mix up sexual positions and routines keeps sex exciting and fresh.
Trying new things, such as positions, locations, or introducing toys, can prevent sex from becoming routine.
Understanding the energetic and emotional components of sex can lead to a deeper and more satisfying experience.
Men value an emotional connection during sex, even if they struggle to articulate it.
Women should be aware of their partner's arousal level to help manage and control the sexual experience.
Great sex often involves lasting longer than the average sexual encounter, allowing for a more satisfying experience for both parties.
Men appreciate a partner who is present and engaged in the sexual experience, focusing on the co-creative aspect of their connection.
The ability to manage the arousal scale and delay immediate orgasms can lead to more intense and satisfying climaxes later on.
Men want their partners to be as invested in the sexual experience as they are, creating a shared and intimate connection.
Kevin Anthony, a certified sexologist, Tantra counselor, and relationship coach, shares insights based on over a decade of experience.
The importance of communication and understanding in maintaining a strong, happy, and loving relationship is emphasized.
The transcript provides a comprehensive guide for improving one's sex life and ensuring a physically satisfying relationship.
Transcripts
what men consider great sex in this
video I'm going to cover 10 key secrets
of what men consider great sex so that
you can have a deeper understanding of
men's desires and cravings and so that
you can have a better relationship
without bad sex and without your man
getting turned off or losing interest in
a physical connection with you I'm Kevin
Anthony with magnetize your man and I am
a certified sexologist Tantra counselor
NLP practitioner and sex love and
relationship coach for over 10 years I
have worked with men women and couples
to help them have stronger happier more
loving relationships and the best sex of
their lives all right let's Dive Right
In before I give you the 10 things I
need to tell you that not all men will
want these things however what is
important to understand is the type of
man that you want to magnetize will want
these things so here's the first thing
that men consider great great sex she is
really into it yes that is right there
is nothing worse than having sex with
somebody who seems bored not into it not
really engaged with what you are doing
so for a man for him to really enjoy the
sex and really think it's great sex he
wants to know that you're into it too
that you're enjoying it at least as much
as he is if not more the next thing is
she wants sex regularly there's no way
that a man is going to say that you are
great in bed and he loves having sex
with you if the sex is sportic and
there's huge gaps of time in between
when you actually make love it's really
important for men to have sex regularly
and so they're not going to consider sex
really to be great sex unless they are
having it pretty regularly now that
doesn't mean that he couldn't have sex
one time and it was really amazing and
he says that's great sex but we're
talking about here in the context of
magnetizing a man that you want for a
long-term relationship and in that case
for him to really think that the sexual
component of your relationship is great
it has to be regular the next one is
that she gives his a lot of attention
now when I'm coaching men I often tell
them don't go straight for woman's
genitals start elsewhere touch the back
of her neck touch her legs touch her
arms but with men you can go to the
genitals and Men actually want you to go
straight to the genitals so the more
attention you give to his and his
genitals the more he's going to think
that this sex is great and that takes me
to the next one which is [ __ ]
[ __ ] [ __ ] I don't know a man
that doesn't love a [ __ ] and men will
absolutely think sex is great if they're
getting [ __ ] somewhere in there and
regularly especially if they're good
[ __ ] so for the ladies here
hopefully you enjoy giving [ __ ] if
you don't I hope that you can find a way
to learn how to enjoy it because it is
something that men really love and
really desire and really crave and they
are really going to think that you are
amazing in bed if you are good at it all
right the next one is she is responsive
what do I mean by responsive well what I
mean is she is reacting to what's
happening she's making noises she's
moving her body you know maybe in the
height of passion she's screaming you're
being vocal you're speaking to him
potentially telling him things that turn
you on or that you want him to do to you
it is really really really important for
me and I know for a lot of other men
that our partners are responsive they
are reacting in the situation there's
nothing worse than you know making love
to a woman and she's just laying there
like a log
is she enjoying it I don't even know so
it's really important that she is
responsive and that she's giving
feedback throughout they don't
necessarily have to be verbal cues they
can just be a way that you look at him
it could be a sound that you make it
could be your breathing it could be the
way you move your body but being
expressive in the love making Act is
important the next one is she is willing
to mix it up it is really important for
men to do different things during a love
making session and I'm always surprised
how many people when they make love they
just okay today we're in missionary
position and and they just do missionary
position for their 5 10 minutes 15
minutes whatever and then they're done
but to be really great sex you got to
mix it up a little maybe you start
missionary maybe you move to she's on
top maybe you move to Doggy maybe you
change from the bed to the to the couch
or from the couch to the bed or
something like that mix it up move
around do different things it's maybe a
good idea to start with foreplay and
then go into penetration or maybe take a
break from penetration and go back to
some oral sex and then come back to
penetration the idea is to mix it up to
keep it alive to keep it fresh to do
something different than the routine
that you always do the next one is she
is willing to try new
things sex can get routine it shouldn't
get routine but it can get routine for a
lot of people one of the ways to make
sure that it's not routine is to try new
things new things could be a new
position new things could be a new place
in the house or maybe outside of the
house new things could be introducing
some toys to the mix there are a lot of
different things that you could do to
try something new so my suggestion is
that you do that don't allow the sex to
become routine and boring try try new
things and I know as a man it's really
exciting and fun to experiment and to
try new things and if it doesn't work
out laugh about it if it turns into a
complete disaster laugh about it say you
know what we're never going to do that
again and then try something else you
will be surprised how many things that
you find that you didn't even know that
you liked the next one is that she
understands that there is both an
energetic and emotional component to sex
sex is not just physical Sensations
there is an energetic piece so yes there
is the friction of body parts moving
together but there's also the energy
that is exchanged between both of you
and if you really want to take sex to
the next level take it to what we would
call mindblowing out of this world sex
you have to engage the energetic
component along with the physical
component and then if you add the
emotional component in there now you've
really got something you've got the
emotional component the energetic
component and the physical component and
that is how you have truly mindblowing
sex now I know a lot of men get a bad
rap for not being emotional uh and many
of them if you were to ask them about
the emotional component they may not use
the right words to describe it but
believe me men still want to have an
emotional connection with you and if
they've had a relationship in in the
past where they've had an emotional
connection during sex then they'll
really know exactly what they're looking
for if they haven't they might not be
able to describe it or really understand
exactly what's missing but when they
finally get it then they'll go oh yeah
that that took it to the next level the
next one is she understands where he is
at on his arousal scale now I do a lot
of work teaching men how to last longer
and how to be sexual Masters I spend a
lot of my time doing that however no
matter how good a man is at controlling
his ejaculation and being able to last
longer if a woman really really really
really wants to take him over his Edge
and really you know uses her physical
and her energetic bodies to pull him
over into ejaculation she can do that
most of the time a lot of women actually
do this unconsciously and aren't aware
that they are doing doing it so to have
really great sex in my mind it has to be
way longer than the average there have
been a few studies done uh on how long
Men last and how long women last on
average I talked this about this a lot
on my
show on average in one study they said
Men last 3 to 5 minutes in another study
it said that they last 5 to 7 Minutes
whereas the average women took 20 to 30
minutes to have an orgasm you can see
there's a big disparity there so if you
want to have really really great sex
where both of you reach a climax then
he's got to be able to last longer than
that you know 3 to seven minutes is even
10 minutes even 15 minutes so one of the
things that you can do as a woman is to
be aware of where he is in his arousal
scale so on a scale of 1 to 10 10 being
a jaculation you know one being not
turned on at all where is he in that
scale now there's a sweet spot between 6
and8 which is really where he wants to
be during that love making so as a woman
it's a real skill for you to be able to
pay attention and understand where
relatively he's at in that scale and if
you realize he's like at a 9ish you
might want to back down your energy
level a little bit and let his energy
level come down and you can play with
the energies like that if you're both
aware of where you are in that arousal
scale
and you can manage to sort of ride the
waves of energy until you choose to have
an orgasm Now ladies I know what you're
thinking I know what you're thinking but
I was so close I was so close I didn't
want to back my energy down because then
I was going to lose my orgasm that is
not necessarily true you may forego the
immediate impending orgasm but you will
likely have a bigger one later on down
the road and more of them later on down
the road
if you are willing to back your energy
down a little bit and let him recover
after enough waves of up and down he
should be able to get into a sweet spot
where he can really hold it and
withstand the powerful orgasmic waves
that you are going to have so don't
worry about foregoing that early orgasm
especially if it's one of those early
explosive clitoral orgasms because
you're likely to reach bigger better and
more orgasms down the road if you can
help him ride those waves a little bit
more and the last one is she is really
present and engaged in the experience of
sex what do I mean by that I mean that
she is present with you what tends to
happen when people and this happens for
both men and women maybe men a little
bit more but women still do this what
happens is in the moment in that
pleasure you get lost in your own head
you close your eyes you roll your head
back and you're lost in the moment there
are Sensations happening to you but
you're focusing more on the sensations
and less on the person that you're
actually having sex with so to have
really great sex from a man's point of
view I want my woman to be engaged with
me now that doesn't mean you have to be
staring me deeply in the eyes the entire
time although that's not a bad thing but
it does mean that you need to be really
engaged in what we are co-creating
together and that is a really big point
this isn't me just giving to you you
just given you me or anything like that
this is a co-creation of the two of us
that is how we get to those levels of
mindblowing really amazing sex so moving
forward it's important for you to make
sure that you're doing these things so
your sex life improves and your man will
stay turned on and interested in you
physically next if you'd like to hear
more content from me you can follow me
right here on YouTube at Kevin and
Seline or you can listen to the love Lab
podcast on any major podcast platform or
right here on YouTube also if you go to
Kevin andeline
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docomo library with tons of content on
sex love and relationship I hope this
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