How to actually make people like you.
Summary
TLDRCe script vidéo enseigne cinq principes fondés sur l'ouvrage de Dale Carnegie, 'Comment gagner des amis et influencer les gens', pour aider à rendre les autres plus aimables envers nous. Les principes incluent d'encourager les gens à parler d'eux-mêmes, de donner des compliments sincères, d'éviter les arguments, de comprendre les points de vue des autres et de sourire. L'application de ces principes peut transformer les interactions sociales et augmenter la confiance en soi.
Takeaways
- 🎯 Il est possible d'augmenter notre capacité à être appréciés par autrui en suivant quelques principes simples.
- 📖 Les cinq principes partagés dans cette vidéo sont issus du livre 'Comment gagner des amis et influencer les gens' de Dale Carnegie.
- 💬 Principe 1 : Encouragez les autres à parler d'eux-mêmes, car cela les rendra感兴趣 et les fera se sentir importants.
- 🎁 Principe 2 : Donnez des compliments sincères et honnêtes pour faire se sentir apprécié et important.
- 🙅 Principe 3 : Évitez les arguments à tout coût, car ils ne mènent généralement qu'à des sentiments négatifs.
- 👀 Principe 4 : Essayez de comprendre les choses du point de vue de l'autre personne, cela évitera les critiques inutiles et fostera la compréhension.
- 😃 Principe 5 : Souriez, car cela传达positive feelings et une ouverture d'esprit.
- 🦋 Créez un effet papillon positif en partageant ces principes avec autrui, cela peut avoir un impact sur une grande nombre de personnes.
- 🌟 En appliquant ces principes, vous pouvez transformer vos relations et améliorer la façon dont les autres vous perçoivent.
- 🌐 Ces principes sont universels et peuvent être appliqués dans divers contextes de vie, que ce soit à l'école, au travail ou en milieu familial.
- 📈 Le développement de compétences en communication et en interaction sociale peut grandement augmenter votre confiance en vous.
- 💡 Mémorisez ces principes et essayez de les appliquer dans vos interactions quotidiennes pour une meilleure harmonie sociale.
Q & A
Quel est le principal message de cette vidéo ?
-Le principal message de cette vidéo est que nous pouvons faire en sorte que les autres nous aiment en suivant quelques principes simples.
De quelle manière les gens peuvent-ils changer leur comportement pour que les autres les aiment ?
-Les gens peuvent changer leur comportement en encourageant les autres à parler d'eux-mêmes, en donnant des compliments sincères et honnêtes, en évitant de gagner des arguments, en essayant de comprendre les autres du leur point de vue et en souriant.
Quels sont les cinq principes clés partagés dans cette vidéo ?
-Les cinq principes clés sont : 1) Encourir les autres à parler d'eux-mêmes, 2) Donner des compliments sincères et honnêtes, 3) Éviter de gagner des arguments, 4) Voir les choses du point de vue des autres, 5) Sourire.
Pourquoi est-il important d'encourir les autres à parler d'eux-mêmes ?
-C'est important car cela montre que nous nous intéressons à leur vie et à leurs expériences, ce qui les rend se sentir importants et appréciés.
Quels effets les compliments sincères peuvent-ils avoir sur les gens ?
-Les compliments sincères peuvent améliorer l'estime de soi des gens, les rendre heureux et les motiver à continuer à faire de leur mieux.
Pourquoi éviter de gagner des arguments est-il un principe efficace pour être apprécié des autres ?
-Éviter de gagner des arguments empêche les sentiments négatifs et favorise une communication plus constructive et respectueuse entre les personnes.
Comment la compréhension des points de vue des autres peut-elle améliorer nos relations ?
-La compréhension des points de vue des autres nous permet de mieux communiquer, de résoudre les conflits et de construire des relations plus solides basées sur la compréhension mutuelle.
Quel est le rôle de l'expression faciale, comme le sourire, dans notre interaction avec les autres ?
-Le sourire est un signe d'amabilité et de bonheur, il peut transmettre positivement les émotions aux autres et faciliter la connexion entre les personnes.
Comment la pratique de ces principes peut-elle créer une 'effet papillon positive' ?
-La pratique de ces principes peut créer un effet papillon positif en incitant les gens à se comporter de manière positive les uns envers les autres, ce qui peut se propager et améliorer les relations et la bien-être de manière large.
Quelle est la source des principes partagés dans cette vidéo ?
-Les principes partagés proviennent du livre 'Comment gagner des amis et influencer les gens' écrit par Dale Carnegie.
Comment les auteurs du script ont-ils utilisé leur propre expérience pour illustrer un des principes clés ?
-L'auteur a utilisé son expérience personnelle en tant que garde royal suédois pour illustrer le premier principe, qui est d'encourir les autres à parler d'eux-mêmes, en engageant une conversation avec un officier qui montrait de l'intérêt pour l'histoire.
Outlines
🤝 Comment rendre les gens sympathiques envers nous
Le paragraphe explique que beaucoup de gens pensent qu'il n'est rien à faire pour rendre les autres sympathiques envers nous. Cependant, l'auteur prouve le contraire en affirmant que nous pouvons suivre quelques principes simples pour que n'importe qui nous aime. Ces principes sont tirés du livre 'Comment gagner des amis et influencer les gens' de Dale Carnegie et sont applicables dans divers contextes de la vie, comme l'école, le travail, la famille ou les amis. L'auteur partage son expérience personnelle en tant que soldat suédois, montrant comment appliquer ces principes dans une interaction avec un supérieur intéressé par l'histoire. Le premier principe est d'encourager les gens à parler d'eux-mêmes, ce qui les rendra感兴趣因为我们喜欢谈论自己。
🌟 Donner des compliments sincères et honnêtes
Le deuxième paragraphe met l'accent sur le deuxième principe, qui est de donner des compliments sincères et honnêtes. Il est question d'une étude sur les femmes qui ont fui leur foyer, révélant que le manque d'appréciation était la principale raison. En donnant des compliments sincères, nous pouvons rendre les gens heureux et nous devrions le faire en accordant la même importance aux compliments que nous accordons à ceux que nous recevons. L'auteur suggère de créer un effet papillon positif en donnant des compliments sincères à autrui, ce qui rendrait des milliers de personnes heureuses. Le paragraphe conclut en soulignant l'importance de ces deux principes pour rendre les gens sympathiques envers nous.
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Keywords
💡principles
💡self-esteem
💡appreciation
💡arguments
💡empathy
💡smile
💡confidence
💡communication
💡sincerity
💡positivity
💡happiness
Highlights
We can make anyone like us by following a few simple principles.
The principles come from Dale Carnegie's book 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'.
Principle one is to encourage others to talk about themselves, as people love discussing their interests.
The speaker applied this principle while guarding the King's Castle, engaging in conversation with an important guest.
Principle two suggests giving sincere and honest compliments to make others feel appreciated and valued.
A study on runaway wives revealed lack of appreciation as a key issue.
Principle three is to avoid arguments completely, as they often result in both parties feeling more convinced of their own rightness.
Winning an argument can lead to the other person feeling inferior and hurt.
Principle four is to try to see things from the other person's point of view, which can prevent criticism and promote understanding.
Putting ourselves in another's shoes can save time and irritation.
The fifth principle is to smile, as it communicates positivity and happiness.
Dogs and babies are popular because they are always happy to see us, and a smile can have a powerful effect on others.
Even if we don't feel like smiling, we can force ourselves to smile or whistle, which can lead to genuine happiness.
Happiness depends on inner conditions and can be found by controlling our thoughts.
The video aims to create a positive butterfly effect by encouraging viewers to give sincere compliments.
By using these principles, we can make a positive impact on hundreds of thousands of people through a simple act of kindness.
Transcripts
how to actually make people like you a
lot of people watching this video
probably believe that there is nothing
we can actively do to make others like
us they think that we are who we are and
if others like us then good if they
don't then there's nothing we can do
about it this is a common mistake that a
lot of people make the interesting part
and what I will prove in this video is
that we can make anyone literally anyone
like us just by following a few simple
principles what I'm going to go over in
this film is not something common that
we learn about this isn't something that
is taught in school so chances are that
you're going to learn a lot of new
things in this video the five principles
I will share in this video turned me
from a shy low confident teenager into a
confident guy that actively makes new
friends these five principles come from
the Fantastic book how to INF friends an
influence people written by Dale
Carnegie the principles I'll share will
help you know what to say when meeting
new new people and it will serve as a
foundation of tools that you can use to
make others like you while I go over
these principles try visualizing how you
can apply these principles in your own
life whether that's in school at work or
with friends or at home with your family
it'll help you better learn the
following
principles principle one encourage other
people to talk about themselves for
those of you who don't know I'm
currently in the Swedish army and a few
months ago we got the tasks to be royal
guards for the King's Castle my task was
to guard the big entrance to the castle
it was around 1:00 a.m. and I was
standing there incredibly bored then all
of a sudden I hear the doors from The
Castle open behind me an important guy
in a uniform comes out and asks me if
it's cold it's fine even though I
thought it was pretty cold we start
small talking a little bit and then I
remember the principle from the book
encourag other people to talk about
themselves I picked up on the fact that
he seemed pretty interested in history
so I started asking him more about that
that kept him talking for 15 minutes
until it was time for me to go off my
post and go on a mandatory break the
next day the same time he came back and
encouraged him to continue talking about
himself we are eternally interested in
ourselves that's just how we are we love
talking about ourselves and what we do
so if we encourage others to talk about
themselves they will love us because we
will make them feel important and listen
to so the next time you don't know what
to say in a conversation remember
principle one encourage other people to
talk about themselves the next principle
will make anyone like you instantly this
principle is to give sincere and honest
compliments there was a study made years
ago on runaway wives what do you think
was discovered to be the main reason why
wives ran away it was lack of
appreciation we often forget to give
other people words of appreciation
because we're so busy thinking about
ourselves but through giving someone an
honest compliment we can make their
whole day or week through just giving a
sincere and honest compliment we want a
feeling that we are important in our
little world we don't want to listen to
Cheap insincere flattery but we do crave
sincere appreciation so let's treat
others how we would like others to treat
us we love when people compliment us so
let's make other people feel good
through giving them sincere compliments
how when where the answer is all the
time
everywhere so let's try this I want to
try to create a positive butterfly
effect using this principle let's say
100,000 people watch this video and
everyone gives someone they like a
sincere compliment today we will
together have made over 100,000 people
happy through giving them a sinc sin
compliment we'll do it together after
I've recorded this video I will give
someone I know a sincere compliment and
after you've watched this video you'll
do the same thing principle three the
best way to win an argument is to avoid
it completely nine times out of 10 an
argument ends with both parts being more
convinced that they were absolutely
right we can't win an argument because
if we lose it we lose it and if we win
it we lose it why well let's say you
absolutely run over the other person in
an argument and prove that he is wrong
wrong then what we will feel fine but
what about the other person we have made
him feel inferior we have hurt his pride
and as a result made him feel stupid
that being said don't argue with people
it just results in negative feelings for
one another so the next time we feel
like an argument is about to start turn
it down completely through being
objective and look for things that you
can agree upon instead of focusing on
winning because remember that you can
never win an argument that was principle
three the best way to win an argument is
to avoid it completely we've gone over
three principles on how to make People
Like Us encourage other people to talk
about themselves give sincere and honest
appreciation and the best way to win an
argument is to avoid it completely there
are still two more really important
principles that we still haven't talked
about the fourth one is try honestly to
see things from the other person's point
of view we have to remember that
sometimes other people may be totally
wrong but they won't think that they are
don't criticize them because that's just
what everybody would do if you want to
be wise and smart about it try to
understand them there is a reason why
the other person person thinks and acts
the way he does try honestly to put
yourself in his place if we say to
ourselves how would I feel how would I
react if I were in his shoes we will
save ourselves a lot of time and
irritation through putting ourselves in
the other person's shoes that was the
fourth principle try honestly to see
things from the other person's point of
view the last principle maybe the most
important and simple one is smile action
speaks louder than words and a smile
says I like you you make me happy I'm
glad to see you and that's why dogs are
so popular they are always glad to see
us so naturally right we're glad to see
them and a baby smile has exactly the
same effect the effect of a smile is
super powerful but what if we don't feel
like smiling then what first force
yourself to smile if you're alone force
yourself to whistle or sing act as if
you were already happy and that will
tend to make us more happy everybody in
the world is seeking happiness and
there's only one sure way to find it and
that is by controlling our thoughts
because happiness doesn't depend on
outward conditions it depends on inner
conditions and by smiling at the next
person you interact with you will see
how much effect a single smile can have
on another person's feelings we've now
gone over five principles that we can
use to make other people like us the
more we use them the more people will
like us and the more we will remember to
use them ourselves remember what we
talked about before let's create this
positive wave of making hundreds of
thousands of our friends and family
happy through giving one person we know
a sincere compliment let's both go and
do this now that's all I have to say in
this video I'm out
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