Serve Unconditionally | Andry M. Panjaitan | LeadingSelf Think Others First

Summary

The video script discusses the third best practice of 'Think Others First': serving unconditionally. It contrasts the world's conditional approach with the selfless service leaders should embody, exemplified by the 'Mentoring UPH' program. Mentors willingly help new students without expecting anything in return, demonstrating true selflessness. The speaker encourages identifying needs, remembering the purpose of service, adding value, and practicing daily. The ultimate example of unconditional service is Jesus Christ, who sacrificed himself out of love for humanity.

Takeaways

• 😊 Serve unconditionally is the third best practice of 'Think Others First', and it's just as uncommon as unconditional love.
• 🌍 The world often operates on terms and conditions, but true leadership requires serving without expecting anything in return.
• 💡 Serving unconditionally means helping others even when there's no promise of benefits or recognition.
• 🙌 Putting others before ourselves is crucial in self-leadership and in practicing 'Think Others First'.
• 💪 It is easy to serve when benefits are involved, but serving unconditionally requires removing self-interest.
• 🎓 At UPH, the 'Mentoring UPH' program exemplifies serving unconditionally through mentors who help new students with no expectations.
• ⏳ Many mentors sacrifice their personal time and energy to support and care for their mentees, even without receiving anything in return.
• 🔍 To start serving unconditionally, we can identify needs around us, remember our purpose, focus on adding value, expect nothing in return, and practice daily.
• ✝️ Jesus Christ serves as the ultimate example of unconditional service, having sacrificed Himself for humanity out of love.
• ❤️ 'Think Others First' is about putting others before ourselves, which is a key character trait for true leaders.

Q & A

What is the third best practice for 'Think Others First'?

The third best practice is to serve unconditionally, meaning serving without expecting anything in return and without placing self-interest before others.

How does the speaker describe the concept of 'serving unconditionally'?

Serving unconditionally means offering service without knowing if you will receive any benefits or even if it may result in personal loss, yet still choosing to serve without any conditions.

Why is serving with conditions considered contrary to 'Think Others First'?

Serving with conditions is contrary to 'Think Others First' because it prioritizes personal gain or benefits over the needs of others, which hinders the ability to serve selflessly.

What is a daily example of serving unconditionally mentioned in the script?

A daily example is the 'Mentoring UPH' program, where mentors selflessly serve new students by supporting, guiding, and caring for them without expecting anything in return.

What motivates the mentors in the 'Mentoring UPH' program to serve unconditionally?

The mentors are motivated by a willingness to help others grow, particularly new students who may feel confused or lonely. They serve out of care and support for their mentees without any promise of rewards.

What are some steps to start serving unconditionally?

The steps include identifying a need, remembering why you serve, focusing on adding value to others rather than extracting it, expecting nothing in return, and practicing daily with those around you.

How is the example of Jesus Christ used to illustrate serving unconditionally?

Jesus Christ is presented as the ultimate example of serving unconditionally. Despite being in heaven, He chose to come to Earth, sacrifice Himself, and put others before Himself because of His love for humanity.

Why did Jesus Christ sacrifice Himself, according to the script?

Jesus Christ sacrificed Himself out of love for humanity, to save people from perishing and bring them from darkness into light, without expecting anything in return.

What is the significance of 'Think Others First' in leadership according to the script?

'Think Others First' is essential for leadership because it involves prioritizing the needs of others before your own, embodying a selfless approach to leading both yourself and others.

How does focusing on adding value relate to the concept of serving unconditionally?

Focusing on adding value means contributing to the well-being and growth of others without expecting any personal gain, which aligns with the concept of serving unconditionally.

Outlines

00:00

🌟 Unconditional Service in Leadership

This paragraph introduces the third best practice of 'Think Others First', which is serving unconditionally. It contrasts the common worldly approach of 'terms and conditions' with the selfless act of serving without expecting anything in return. The importance of shifting the focus from personal interests to serving others is emphasized. The 'Mentoring UPH' program serves as a practical example, where mentors willingly invest their time and energy to guide and support new students without any guaranteed benefits. The narrative highlights the self-sacrifice and dedication of mentors, even in the face of personal struggles, to embody the principle of unconditional service.

05:10

🙏 Jesus Christ: The Ultimate Example of 'Think Others First'

The second paragraph draws a parallel between the selfless service discussed and the life of Jesus Christ, who is portrayed as the epitome of 'Think Others First'. It recounts Jesus' descent from heaven to earth, his suffering, and ultimate sacrifice to save humanity. The narrative underscores Jesus' love and appreciation for all people, highlighting his act of putting others before himself as the ultimate demonstration of adding value and expressing gratitude. The paragraph concludes by reinforcing the idea that true leadership is characterized by prioritizing the needs and well-being of others over one's own.

Keywords

💡Think Others First

This concept emphasizes prioritizing the needs of others before one's own. It is the core message of the video, highlighting selflessness and the importance of serving others. The video explains that true leadership begins with the willingness to put others first, as exemplified by Jesus Christ.

💡Add Value

Adding value means contributing positively to the lives of others without expecting anything in return. In the video, it is presented as one of the best practices of 'Think Others First,' urging leaders to enhance the well-being of those they serve rather than seeking personal gain.

💡Express Gratitude

This concept involves showing appreciation for others and their efforts. In the video, expressing gratitude is described as a way of acknowledging the value in others, and it’s seen as a practice that fosters positive relationships and contributes to leading with empathy.

💡Serve Unconditionally

Serving unconditionally refers to helping others without expecting any form of repayment or benefit. The video stresses the rarity of this type of service, explaining that true service happens when there are no 'terms and conditions' attached. It is an essential part of the 'Think Others First' mentality.

💡Selflessness

Selflessness is the act of putting others' needs above one's own desires. The video challenges leaders to embrace selflessness by serving others unconditionally, even when there is no personal benefit involved. It is described as an uncommon but crucial trait for leadership.

💡Mentoring

Mentoring involves guiding and supporting others, especially those who are less experienced. In the video, the 'Mentoring UPH' program is used as an example of serving unconditionally, where mentors devote time and energy to help new students feel welcome and grow, without expecting anything in return.

💡Sacrifice

Sacrifice is the act of giving up something valuable, such as time or resources, for the sake of others. The video uses Jesus Christ as the ultimate example of sacrifice, as He gave up His life for humanity. It also highlights how mentors sacrifice their time to help students, demonstrating the essence of selfless service.

💡Jesus Christ

Jesus Christ is presented as the ultimate role model for leadership and unconditional service. The video describes His life and sacrifice, emphasizing how He put humanity before Himself by dying for their sins, serving as an example of the highest form of selfless leadership.

💡Leadership

Leadership, in the context of the video, is defined as leading by example through serving others. The video argues that true leadership is not about power or authority but about putting others first, serving them unconditionally, and acting selflessly, as demonstrated by Jesus Christ.

💡Willingness to Grow People

This phrase refers to the desire and motivation to help others develop and improve. In the video, it is associated with the mentoring program at UPH, where mentors work to support and guide new students out of care for their growth, embodying the concept of serving unconditionally.

Highlights

Think Others First emphasizes adding value and expressing gratitude.

The third best practice is serving unconditionally, a rare quality in a world full of terms and conditions.

Leadership involves leading oneself and prioritizing serving others over personal interests.

Serving unconditionally means offering help without expecting any benefits or returns.

The 'Mentoring UPH' program exemplifies unconditional service by supporting new students.

Mentors in 'Mentoring UPH' are driven by a willingness to help others grow.

Mentors sacrifice their time and energy to guide and support new students at UPH.

Mentoring is about being ready to serve without any promises of rewards from the university or mentees.

To serve unconditionally, one must identify needs, remember the purpose of serving, add value, expect nothing in return, and practice daily.

Jesus Christ is presented as the ultimate example of Think Others First, living a life of self-sacrifice for the benefit of others.

Jesus' love for humanity led to His crucifixion, demonstrating the ultimate act of serving unconditionally.

Jesus' gratitude and appreciation for humanity are reflected in His willingness to sacrifice Himself for our salvation.

Think Others First is a leadership trait that prioritizes the well-being of others above one's own.

The character of a leader is defined by the ability to put others before oneself.

Transcripts

We have learned two best practice, for Think Others First

The first one talks about Add Value.

The second one talks about Express Gratitude.

Now this is the third one.

The third is just as uncommon.

The third best practice talks about how we can serve unconditionally.

Perhaps we also have heard of loving unconditionally.

These are uncommon things.

We often find interesting offers, but then there are notes that say “terms and conditions applied”.

The world teaches us that to get something, there are terms and conditions that needs to be met.

For us to receive something, there are terms and conditions.

The world is full of terms and conditions.

But for a leader who wants to lead their own self, leadSelf..

Think Others First become a very important thing, in this case, how we can serve unconditionally.

We do not serve because other people are kind to us, caring, gave us attentions.

It is very easy for us to serve other people when there are benefits.

It can be money or other things that made us feel more dignified, satisfied, or other benefits for ourselves.

But we cannot be selfless when we still put our interest before others.

Which is why the third best practice challenges us to shift ourselves from the centre of our services.

Serving unconditionally means, even if we do not know whether we will get benefits, or even loss,

we still want to serve without any conditions.

If we can do this, then we truly have done Think Others First.

For a daily example of serving unconditionally in UPH, there is a program called 'Mentoring UPH'.

I’m currently using a shirt that is commonly used by the mentors.

It is written here “Willingness to Grow People”

There is a willingness, an urge to help other people to grow and be better.

I have known mentors who have hearts and willingness,

that their reason and motivation is so that new students do not feel confused or lonely at UPH.

Hence, since UPH Festival, there are people who accompany, care for, and support the new students.

That is the purpose of mentoring.

These mentors are people who are ready to serve, hopefully, unconditionally.

I know a mentor who in his struggles, still persevere in conducting his function as a mentor.

Even if it means he needs to sacrifice himself, his time when he could have took a rest,

Instead he use it to care for, to give attention and to support his mentees.

Mentors who set time to think what are the best things they can give to their mentees.

And there are no promises from the university or the mentees to give something to the mentors.

But what happens is even without benefits, there are lots of mentor who wants to serve their mentees.

That is an example of Serve Unconditionally.

Now if we are talking about Serve Unconditionally, there are several things we can do to start.

First, Identify a need.

Look for needs in our surroundings that we can help with.

Second, Remember your why.

Recall again, why we serve?

Third, focus on adding value, NOT extracting value, from those you lead.

focus on adding value to those you lead.

Fourth, expect nothing in return.

Fifth, practice daily, start from the people around us.

So those are the three best practices for Think Others First.

And last, all these practices have been done by one person.

Whose very existence, lived denying Himself, sacrificing Himself, for other people.

This person is Jesus Christ.

From His highest place, the heaven, a very a comfortable place

yet he chose to go down to the world, became human, and the rest of it we know the story.

He was slandered, He was crucified, and He died.

Why did He do that?

Because Jesus loves all human.

He did not want human to perish, which is why he sacrificed Himself, He put us sinners before Himself.

He wanted to help us, He wanted to save us.

So that we who are in the dark may come to the light.

Now this is add value itself.

Its not only that He see us as sinners, but He also appreciate us.

That we, the people who believe in Jesus, God, He express His gratitude.

He express how he loves us and appreciates each one of us.

For we are very precious, that He sacrificed Himself.

Serve Unconditionally.

Without any condition.

He did not ask us to do something or to give something for Him to do that.

He did it because He loves us, and he want to see us become people who are saved.

Think Others First is the character of a leader.

Not about putting yourself before others, but how to put others before yourselves.

Thank you.