The Science Of Being Attractive
Summary
TLDRThis script delves into the science behind attraction, exploring how facial features signal health and fertility. It discusses the role of sexual dimorphism in mate selection, where women seek masculine traits in men for strength and capability, and men are drawn to feminine traits for nurturing qualities. The video challenges the notion that physical appearance is everything, emphasizing the importance of personality traits like empathy and confidence. It concludes by encouraging viewers to focus on their positive attributes rather than fixating on unchangeable aspects, suggesting that a healthy self-image and personality can enhance attractiveness.
Takeaways
- 🧠 Attractiveness is often perceived within a tenth of a second and is influenced by factors beyond just physical appearance, such as health, competence, and personality.
- 👁 Facial attractiveness is linked to health indicators; clear eyes suggest a strong immune system, full lips indicate good blood circulation, and facial symmetry is associated with fewer genetic mutations.
- 🤔 The concept of 'averageness' in faces is considered attractive because it signals a lower likelihood of genetic abnormalities, providing a sense of familiarity and reduced risk for potential mates.
- 🚹🚺 Sexual dimorphism refers to the physical differences between genders, with men exhibiting traits like pronounced jawlines and women having softer, rounder features, which are linked to perceptions of masculinity and femininity.
- 💪 Masculine features in men, such as a muscular build and taller stature, signal strength and capability, which are attractive to women as indicators of the ability to provide for a family.
- 👩🦰 Feminine characteristics like a curvaceous figure are associated with fertility, making them attractive to men for reproductive success.
- 🧘♀️ Personality traits play a significant role in attraction, with feminine qualities like empathy and nurturing being sought after for long-term relationship success.
- 🚫 Overemphasis on physical appearance can lead to neglecting other important aspects of human connection, such as emotional compatibility and shared values.
- 💡 The halo effect, where assumptions are made about a person's personality based on their appearance, is a cognitive bias that can be overcome through deeper interactions and understanding.
- 🌟 Focusing on unchangeable aspects of oneself can harm self-image and attractiveness; instead, developing one's personality and positive attributes can enhance overall appeal.
Q & A
What is the primary factor that determines facial attractiveness according to the script?
-Facial attractiveness is primarily a signal for health. Features such as bright, clear eyes, full lips, and symmetrical faces are perceived as attractive because they can indicate a strong immune system, good blood circulation, and fewer genetic mutations, respectively.
How does the concept of 'facial averageness' relate to attractiveness?
-Facial averageness is considered attractive because it is believed to signal a lower likelihood of genetic abnormalities. The average face combines features from a demographic throughout history, and the familiarity of these average features makes them less risky to pass on to offspring.
What is sexual dimorphism and how does it influence attraction?
-Sexual dimorphism refers to the physical differences between the genders of a species, which result from sexual selection. It influences attraction by signaling traits like masculinity in men, such as pronounced jaw lines and cheekbones, which are associated with strength and capability, and femininity in women, like fuller cheeks and smaller chins, which are linked to empathy and warmth.
Why are certain personality traits more attractive in long-term relationships?
-Certain personality traits are more attractive in long-term relationships because they signal qualities that aid in survival and reproduction. For example, sensitivity, empathy, and nurturing traits are advantageous for raising offspring, while confidence and emotional compatibility contribute to a sense of closeness and intimacy.
How does the script explain the balance between masculine and feminine traits in attraction?
-The script explains that while both men and women are attracted to certain masculine traits, excessive masculinity can be a threat to social monogamy due to its association with dominance and independence. Women may seek partners with moderate levels of masculinity to ensure the presence of feminine traits that are beneficial for long-term success and attraction.
What role does ego play in attraction according to the script?
-Ego, manifesting as self-confidence, assertiveness, and charisma, is attractive as it signals competence and capability, which are masculine qualities. However, an excessive ego can be detrimental, leading to arrogance and making a person a risky option for long-term relationships.
How does the script challenge the idea that physical appearance is everything in attraction?
-The script challenges the idea by discussing the importance of personality traits and the familiarity principle, which suggests that repeated exposure to someone can overshadow initial assumptions based on appearance. It also emphasizes that attraction is influenced by a variety of factors, including personal preferences and needs, rather than just physical perfection.
What is the 'self-verification theory' mentioned in the script, and how does it relate to attraction?
-The self-verification theory suggests that people seek mates that confirm their self-image. If someone has an inflated self-image, they may feel they deserve a partner who meets their grandiose expectations, which can lead to instability in relationships if their partner does not match their expectations.
How does the script address the concern that focusing on appearance can negatively impact self-image?
-The script addresses this concern by arguing that fixating on unchangeable aspects of one's appearance can worsen self-image and prevent personal growth. It encourages focusing on developing a well-rounded personality and understanding that attraction is influenced by more than just physical traits.
What is the 'halo effect' as discussed in the script, and how does it influence our perception of attractiveness?
-The halo effect is a cognitive bias where our overall impression of a person influences our feelings and thoughts about their character. In the context of attractiveness, it means that if someone is perceived as physically attractive, they are also often assumed to have better personalities or be more successful, which can influence our attraction to them.
Outlines
🧬 The Science of Attraction
The paragraph delves into the concept of attraction, suggesting that it's not just superficial but has evolutionary roots. It discusses how quickly the brain evaluates a person's health, competence, and personality upon first glance. Facial attractiveness is explored as a signal of health, with features like clear eyes, full lips, and facial symmetry indicating good health and genetic quality. The idea of 'facial averageness' is introduced as a sign of lower genetic abnormalities, and the paragraph concludes by noting that while attraction has a basis in health and youth, it's not the sole determinant of a person's worth or potential as a mate.
💪 Sexual Dimorphism and Attractiveness
This section examines sexual dimorphism, the physical differences between genders, and how these differences impact mate selection. It explains that historically, men had to demonstrate their ability to provide for a family, leading to the attraction towards masculine traits like a strong jawline and muscular build. Conversely, feminine traits like full cheeks and smaller chins signal empathy and warmth. The paragraph also touches on the balance between seeking masculine traits in a partner for genetic benefits while avoiding the risks associated with overly dominant characteristics. It suggests that a blend of masculine and feminine traits is often seen as most attractive, as it promises the best of both worlds in terms of long-term relationship success.
🤔 The Role of Personality in Attraction
The final paragraph shifts the focus from physical traits to personality, emphasizing that while physical appearance plays a role, personality traits like empathy, confidence, and emotional compatibility become more significant in long-term relationships. It discusses the concept of 'familiarity principle,' suggesting that as people get to know each other better, their personalities can override initial judgments based on appearance. The paragraph argues against the idea that one must be genetically perfect to be attractive or successful, highlighting the importance of self-esteem and personal development. It concludes by encouraging individuals to focus on their positive qualities and personal growth rather than fixating on unchangeable aspects of their appearance.
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Keywords
💡Attraction
💡Facial Attractiveness
💡Sexual Dimorphism
💡Masculinity
💡Femininity
💡Genetic Mutations
💡Ego
💡Self-Verification Theory
💡Familiarity Principle
💡Halo Effect
💡Personality
Highlights
Attraction is a quick evaluation of a person's health, competence, and personality based on appearance.
Facial attractiveness signals health; clear eyes suggest a strong immune system, and full lips indicate good blood circulation.
Symmetrical faces are perceived as more attractive due to evolutionary indicators of fewer genetic mutations.
Facial averageness is linked to a lower likelihood of genetic abnormalities, making average features attractive.
Sexual dimorphism refers to physical differences between genders, influencing mate selection based on perceived ability to provide.
Masculine features in men, like pronounced jawlines, signal dominance and are attractive to some women seeking confidence.
Feminine characteristics in women, such as full cheeks, are linked to empathy and warmth, making them seem more trustworthy.
Physical dimorphism extends to body types, with taller, more muscular men and curvaceous women being seen as more attractive.
Human beings are socially monogamous, seeking long-term partners who can share the burden of raising offspring.
Feminine personality traits are attractive because they signal qualities beneficial for the survival of offspring.
Masculine personality traits can be a threat to social monogamy due to their association with dominance and independence.
A balance of masculine and feminine traits is often sought in partners for long-term relationship success.
Ego, or self-image, plays a role in attraction, with confidence being a desirable masculine quality.
An excessive ego can be unattractive, as it may lead to arrogance and a perception of being a risky partner.
The familiarity principle suggests that spending time with someone can overcome initial judgments based on appearance.
Personality traits can overshadow the importance of physical appearance in long-term relationships.
Focusing on unchangeable aspects of oneself can worsen self-image and decrease attractiveness.
The video concludes that while physical appearance plays a role, it is not the sole determinant of attraction or success in relationships.
Transcripts
so you want to find out why you're easy
to draw well you've come to the right
man because there's no greater source of
wisdom than a man with gigantism in his
nuts so attraction at a glance is
aesthetic when you look at someone you
find attractive what you consciously
think is damn she bad before walking
away and never speaking to her again me
too however on a deeper level that
phrase represents the tenth of a second
your brain took to evaluate this
person's health competence even
personality because that in a nutshell
is attraction using the power of science
psychology and divine intervention I'm
about to show you why you're nothing
more than a pathetic worth
monkey part one facial attractiveness
facial attractiveness is a bit of a
nuanced topic some people argue that
looks are subjective While others
suggest that there's a science to an
attractive face and here's the thing
looks are
subjective to a degree because while you
may be someone who likes big noses or
sleepy looking eyes it's know one's
preference to like crooked teeth or
pumes because facial attractiveness is a
signal for health for instance bright
Clear Eyes with a white Scara suggest a
strong immune system as infections or
fatigue can create discoloration of this
feature full lips are considered a sign
of Youth and vitality and are linked to
good blood
circulation and studies show that people
with symmetrical faces are often
perceived as more attractive because on
an evolutionary level symmetry can
indicate fewer genetic mutations and
better overall development of your no
facial averageness is another indicator
but not average in terms of 5 out of 10
average in terms of combining all the
faces of one demographic throughout
history because the resulting face is
believed to Signal a lower likelihood of
genetic abnormalities the reason the
average nose is the average nose is
because it's a size and shape that
survived countless sucks and [ __ ]
meaning the familiarity of average
features makes them less risky to pass
on to off spring but this doesn't mean
that non- aage faces can't be attractive
there's plenty of people that don't
exactly resemble the average face for
their ethnicity and are still attractive
because attraction is health health is
youth because the younger you are the
more fertile you are so beauty is youth
calm down
Drake and our attraction to these facial
traits guide us towards potential mates
who are not just aesthetically pleasing
but also likely to have stronger immune
systems and better overall health but KD
if that's the case then how the hell did
this uncanny [ __ ] pull
her part two dimorphism sexual
dimorphism put simply is the physical
differences in genders of a given
species and is a result of our in
seexual intersexual mating Dynamic where
men would compete for resources to
attract women and women would select
mates based on the pool available to
them and humans along with other mammal
species are sexually selective in this
way because although females can and
have participated in Hunts they also
become vegetables for 9 months after
smashing pisss with a man therefore in
order for a woman to consider a man as a
potential mate he has to be able to
provide in the event of pregnancy and
because of this women look for signs of
masculinity in men for instance more
pronounced jaw lines and prominent
cheekbones in men are often associated
with ass servess and dominance traits
that can be attractive to those seeking
confidence and Leadership qualities in a
partner on the other hand softer rounder
facial features commonly seen in women
such as Fuller cheeks and smaller chins
are linked to feminine characteristics
such as empathy and warmth which makes
the person seem more trustworthy rather
than dominant dimorphism extends to the
body as well as a taller more muscular
and broader physique is often associated
with strength and capability which gives
further signaling to a woman that a man
is capable of providing on the other
hand a more curvaceous figure is linked
to fertility as wider hips higher
natural body fat levels and tig old
bitties are valuable for Reproductive
success now here's a question if
masculine features are attractive in men
why aren't women obsessed with the
gigachad in the same way they are with
someone like this because masculinity is
ugly kind of part three personality the
human brain has learned over millions of
years of natural and sexual selection
that certain visual traits are signals
for more important traits ones that will
Aid in survival and reproduction you may
not realize it but all humans are
attracted to femininity and the reason
for this is because humans are what
biologists call socially monogamous
where we live in pairs but still retain
attraction to people outside the
relationship this development was around
the time of homo erectus by the way
before this polygamy was a part of our
mating Dynamic however human babies take
a [ __ ] ton of time to fully mature so
the investment for Parenthood is large
therefore it's more advantageous for
males and females to pair bond and share
the burden of raising Offspring because
of this infidelity is a risk for both
genders thus we seek feminine
personality traits such as sensitivity
empathy being caring and nurturing
because mating with someone who
possesses these qualities are
advantageous for survival of you and
your bloodline but masculine personality
traits are in some ways a threat to
social monogamy because masculine is
dominant it's independent rebellious and
at times dangerous however unlike men
women have evolved to be attracted to
masculine traits thus masculine features
as well because if they weren't her and
her child wouldn't even make it past the
first trimester so while men are
attracted to women who are as feminine
as can be women May seek Partners who
exhibit moderate levels of masculinity
without the risks of cheating associated
with more pronounced masculine traits
this is why you'll find that women won't
be attracted to the gigachad in the same
way they are to someone like young
DiCaprio going for slightly androgynous
looking men signals a possibility for
feminine traits while still having some
masculine qualities thus getting the
best of both worlds in terms of
long-term success and attraction but by
this logic does that mean that women who
cheat are
masculine [ __ ] maybe part four ego ego
in short form is your conscious
self-image and self-esteem ego may not
be exclusive to men or women however the
traits associated with healthy ego such
as self-confidence assertiveness and
Charisma are all more attractive in men
because they are masculine qualities
that signal competence and capability
however excessive ego can have the
opposite effect because when
self-confidence becomes arrogance you
become a risky option to have children
with the self-verification theory
suggests that people will go for mates
that confirm their self-image this means
that if you have an inflated self-image
you may feel you deserve better than a
partner who doesn't meet your grandiose
expectations this can cause unsettlement
for both parties as the breakdown of
intimacy caused by unhappiness can
further damage your attraction for one
another there's also a danger with
fragile ego as insecurity may lead to
cheating as a way to validate their
selfworth and boost their self-image
therefore a healthy amount of the quote
masculine traits that ego provides is
necessary for both genders as having
confidence in yourself as well as your
partner is essential for long-term
attraction and without it relationships
become more about self- validation about
Parenthood or intimacy so with this all
being said does this mean that if you're
not born a perfect 10 life has no
meaning and you should just stop
showering stop having goals and just end
it all no not really in fact Even after
spending a month furiously studying
evolutionary theory in every ugly
shallow aspect of human nature I still
think that fixating on your appearance
is somewhat [ __ ] for many reasons
for one hyper fixating on your
appearance neglects like 50% of being a
human which is the fact that we have
developed brains with morals
self-awareness and the ability to drown
out the halo effect cuz if you think
about it the assumptions that we make
about Attractive people versus
unattractive people are very easy to
understand in this context humans back
in the day witnessed that less
attractive therefore less successful
people would have worse personalities
while the more successful thus more
attractive people would be hunting
living [ __ ] they'd be much happier
and much more confident thus even more
attractive and because we evolve from a
time where looks were just about
everything you saw from a person we've
learned internalized and created the
halo effect based on pattern recognition
and the pattern we've learned from this
is even observable now men who can't get
laid become violent and hateful towards
women and women who can't hold down a
relationship with who they want start
saying [ __ ] like this I it's so hard for
women to find a man that they're
attracted to I swear like I used to
settle right like in my early 20s I was
like you know what I'm not going to get
the person who I look at and I want to
like rip their clothes off and while
physical appearance undeniably plays a
role in all those equal situations where
there's an absence of deeper knowledge
about a person's personality like speed
dating or a job interview or most on
topic the [ __ ] Wilderness in our
modern society where we have the
opportunity to interact more deeply and
gather more comprehensive information
about people traits such as empathy
confidence and emotional compatibility
become more noticeable which leads into
my second Point thinking in this
acoustic manner makes it seem like you
have to be genetic Perfection to even
have a chance at life when that really
isn't the case and there's psychology to
support it the familiarity principle
which essentially is your presence
giving people the information that they
can't obtain from looking at you can
drown out the assumptions we make based
on appearance somewhat because at the
end of the day humans develop attraction
for the end goal of Parenthood and
comfort positive Association and a sense
of closeness and intimacy are things
people search for and why we have
evolved to assume these traits through
appearance and additionally there's just
so many factors that play that influence
who you're attracted to such as your
needs in life to your own self-image to
even just personal preference that
trying to hold all 8 billion people to a
bunch of studies is is pretty pointless
especially when you don't have any
knowhow on biology or human psychology
and you just take all this information
at face value based on your experience
so the key thing to note is that as long
as you check some of the boxes as long
as you're not completely screwed in all
areas of life personality actually has
the ability to push out some of the
importance of looks maybe not all of it
but a noticeable amount but what I do
know for 100% sure is that focusing on
the unchangeable things about you will
only worsen your self-image stop you
from actually making something
worthwhile from your life and just
overall making you less attractive than
you already be and if you think
otherwise you're probably the type of
person who looks for videos like these
to validate your shitty self-esteem
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