Should You Want Her Back
Summary
TLDRIn the video script, the speaker addresses Kade's dilemma of wanting his ex-girlfriend back, whom he believes is his soulmate. The speaker challenges this notion, suggesting that Kade is in love with the fantasy rather than the reality of their relationship. He emphasizes that a true soulmate would not leave during tough times. The speaker encourages Kade to let go, accept that he is a valuable individual, and look forward to meeting someone who truly appreciates him. The message is one of self-worth and moving on to find a better fit.
Takeaways
- 💔 Acceptance of Breakup: The speaker emphasizes the importance of accepting the breakup and understanding that the ex-partner is not the perfect match.
- 🌟 Self-Love and Belief: The speaker encourages self-appreciation and the belief that one is a fantastic person who deserves someone who appreciates their value.
- 🚫 Letting Go of Fantasy: It's crucial to let go of the fantasy of what could have been and to focus on reality.
- 🤔 Reevaluating the Concept of a 'Soulmate': The speaker challenges the idea that the ex was a soulmate, suggesting that true soulmates stick together through tough times.
- 👣 Moving On: The advice is to move on and not dwell on the past relationship, as there are other people who will appreciate and value the individual.
- 💪 Personal Growth: The speaker highlights the importance of personal development and increasing one's value as a person.
- 🔄 Control What You Can: The focus should be on controlling what one can, such as personal actions and reactions, rather than trying to control others.
- 🤗 Embracing Change: The speaker promotes embracing change and the possibility of finding a better fit in future relationships.
- 👍 Acknowledging Personal Strengths: Recognizing and valuing one's strengths and the positive impact they can have on future relationships.
- 🚫 Avoiding Idealization: The speaker warns against idealizing the past relationship and the ex-partner, as this can prevent personal growth and new connections.
- 🔄 Learning from Mistakes: The importance of learning from past mistakes in relationships to improve and have better future relationships.
Q & A
What is Kade's main concern in the script?
-Kade is concerned about getting back together with his ex-girlfriend, whom he believes was perfect for him and his soulmate.
What does the speaker suggest about Kade's perception of his ex-girlfriend?
-The speaker suggests that Kade is in love with the fantasy of his ex-girlfriend and the imagined future they could have had together, rather than the reality of their relationship.
According to the speaker, what is a sign that someone is truly your soulmate?
-The speaker believes that a true soulmate is someone who is willing to face tough times with you, walk through the mud, and work through problems together.
What does the speaker imply about the ex-girlfriend's decision to leave?
-The speaker implies that the ex-girlfriend's decision to leave during tough times indicates that she may not have been Kade's soulmate, as a soulmate would not leave when times get hard.
What advice does the speaker give to Kade regarding his ex-girlfriend?
-The speaker advises Kade to let go of the idea that his ex-girlfriend was 'the one' and to stop trying to convince himself of this, as she is not worth the effort to get back.
What does the speaker suggest about Kade's character and potential for future relationships?
-The speaker suggests that Kade is a fantastic and hardworking individual, constantly seeking to develop and increase his value, which will attract others who appreciate his qualities.
What is the speaker's view on the importance of controlling one's own actions in life?
-The speaker emphasizes that the only thing one can truly control is oneself, and that it's important to be okay with the decisions of others, such as the ex-girlfriend leaving.
What does the speaker predict about Kade's future in relationships?
-The speaker predicts that there will be other people in Kade's life who will be a better fit for him, and that he will find his real soulmate in the future.
What does the speaker recommend Kade do to prepare for future relationships?
-The speaker recommends that Kade learn from his past mistakes, clean them up, and continue to improve himself, which will make his next relationship better.
What is the speaker's final piece of advice to Kade regarding his ex-girlfriend?
-The speaker advises Kade to let his ex-girlfriend go, stop convincing himself that she was perfect, and be open to meeting someone else who is a better fit for him.
Outlines
💔 Moving On from a Breakup
The speaker addresses Kade's concern about wanting to get back with an ex-girlfriend who broke up with him two months ago. He suggests that Kade is in love with the fantasy of their relationship rather than the reality. The speaker emphasizes that if she were truly his soulmate, she would have stayed through tough times. He advises Kade to let go of the past and focus on self-improvement, stating that there are other people out there who will appreciate his efforts and value him more. The speaker encourages Kade to be excited about finding his real soulmate and to learn from past mistakes for future relationships.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Soulmate
💡Fantasy
💡Breakup
💡Realistic Expectations
💡Self-worth
💡Growth
💡Control
💡Contentment
💡Appreciation
💡Mistakes
💡Acceptance
Highlights
The person is in love with the fantasy of their ex, not the real person.
A true soulmate sticks by you during tough times, not leaves you.
The person needs to let go of the fantasy and realize it's not real.
The ex leaving shows she wasn't really the person's soulmate.
The person should focus on self-improvement and increasing their value.
The person is a fantastic human being and will find someone who appreciates them.
The person should be excited to find their real soulmate in the future.
The person needs to let go of the past relationship and move on.
There are better, more suitable people out there for the person.
The person should learn from past mistakes and improve for future relationships.
The person's value will be recognized by someone who truly appreciates them.
The person should not worry about their ex, she made her choice.
The person is better off without the ex, it could have been worse.
The person should focus on controlling what they can, not what they can't.
The person is a great catch and will find someone who sees that.
The person should not idealize the ex, she wasn't perfect for them.
The person should be confident in their worth and future prospects.
The person should embrace moving on and finding a better fit.
Transcripts
okay so I got a question from Kade Kade
writes and he says Sparty my ex broke up
with me about two months ago and I want
her back she was perfect for me she was
my soulmate I just need to show her that
longterm we would be great fits for each
other how do I do that all right kid
here's the deal man you have watched one
too many romcoms in your life the truth
is is you are not in love with her you
are in love with the fantasy of her you
are in love with the fantasy and the
imagery of the future that you guys
could have had together which is
non-exist you need to cut that out
of your mind it's not true it's not real
here's the truth if this girl was your
really your soulmate she wouldn't have
left you when times got tough when times
get hard you need a girl who's
willing to walk through the goddamn mud
with you and figure out the problems you
talk it out like human beings you revive
your relationship and you speak it out
when times get tough this girl
left does your soulmate leave when times
get tough no no because here's the truth
man you were willing to stay she wasn't
so therefore she's not your
soulmate and that's fine maybe at one
point she really loved you and wanted to
do that but not anymore so she is no
longer in your life it's not
worth it for you it is not worth it for
you to keep these ideas flowing and
trying to get her back and convincing
yourself that she was the one because
the truth is the one chooses
you the one chooses you as as she should
you are a fantastic human being
you're a team Fortune guy you're willing
to work hard and grow and develop other
people out there that 90% of people are
content they're content with their lives
you're not you're constantly working to
develop and increase your skill set
increase your value as a man and when
she walks away from that that's a huge
mistake cuz not a lot of guys like you
are existent she needs to know that and
it doesn't really matter at the
end of the day all you can do is control
what you can control because she left
you she in your mind you got be okay
well that's fine she left me that's all
right it do I agree with that decision
no is do I think it's going to be a
mistake probably actually definitely
because I'm a great person I'm
fantastic but oh well someone else is
going to get my value someone who
appreciates it someone who wants to be
around me I'm excited to find the next
girl for my life my real soulmate I'm
happy that I got out of this when I got
out of this cuz it could have been a lot
worse you need to have that and I
promise you man there are hotter girls
out there there are cooler girls out
there this girl she ain't man she
ain't don't worry about it let it
go let her walk and you need a little
little walk away stop convincing
yourself that she was the perfect one
cuz she wasn't she wasn't promise you
man someone else will pop up in your
life who is a better fit for you and you
know the mistakes you made clean them up
clean them up no one's perfect but clean
them up next time it'll be a little
better and no don't don't worry
about her she's fine
peace
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