5 Signs of Sociopathic Charm, Not Genuine
Summary
TLDRThis video script delves into the misconceptions about sociopaths, emphasizing they are not all malicious but use life skills to improve themselves. It highlights six signs of sociopathic charm: always saying what's correct, faking emotions, lacking real attachment, being charming with strangers, keeping others talking to learn about them, and using love bombing. The script clarifies that while sociopaths can be charming, it's essential not to jump to conclusions based on single traits and to consider other conditions that might affect social behavior.
Takeaways
- 🧐 Socipaths are often misunderstood; they are people who use life skills to improve their lives, similar to anyone else.
- 🔍 The term 'sociopath' is commonly used interchangeably with 'psychopath' due to shared characteristics, though it technically refers to those with antisocial personality disorder.
- 🗣️ Sociopaths may appear charming by always saying what is correct, but this is a learned behavior rather than a genuine expression of empathy.
- 🎭 Sociopaths can mimic emotions effectively, making them appear indistinguishable from neurotypical individuals in their emotional responses.
- 🤔 A lack of real attachment is typical of sociopaths; they can be charming with anyone at any time, regardless of their actual feelings.
- 💬 Sociopaths may keep the conversation focused on you, learning what you need to hear while appearing mysterious and engaging.
- 🌟 They are adept at using compliments, or 'love bombing,' as a tool to make others feel good and open up to them.
- 🔥💧 Sociopaths can play 'hot and cold' to manipulate your feelings, creating a sense of infatuation and need to prove your value to them.
- 🤝 Charm is a tool sociopaths use to achieve their goals, whether in relationships or professional settings.
- 👀 It's important not to jump to conclusions about someone being a sociopath based on a single trait or observation; other conditions can also cause performative behavior.
- 👍 The video encourages viewers to reflect on their own behaviors and relationships, and to consider the possibility of sociopathic traits in a thoughtful manner.
Q & A
What is the common misconception about sociopaths according to the transcript?
-The common misconception is that sociopaths are all ambitious, manipulative, and cruel. However, the transcript suggests that sociopaths are still just people who use their skills and life lessons to improve their lives, similar to anyone else.
How does the transcript describe the typical approach of sociopaths in interpersonal relationships?
-The transcript describes sociopaths as having a unique way of navigating interpersonal relationships and socializing, which isn't always malicious but rather a way they have adapted.
What is the difference between a sociopath and a psychopath as mentioned in the transcript?
-The term 'sociopath' usually applies to people with antisocial personality disorder, but it has been used interchangeably with 'psychopath' over time due to the many features they share.
What does the transcript say about the capacity for empathy in sociopaths?
-The transcript cites a study that found sociopaths do have the capacity for empathy, but it isn't used automatically. Instead, their empathy has to be consciously turned on, which they rarely do because it usually isn't advantageous.
According to the transcript, how can one identify if someone's charm might be sociopathic?
-The transcript suggests that if someone is always agreeing with you or appealing to your emotions without any counterargument, they may be using their sociopathic charm.
Why do sociopaths fake emotions, and how do they do it?
-Sociopaths fake emotions because they lack a wellspring of emotions to draw from. They mirror other people and learn to apply the right emotion at the right time, becoming extremely adept at it.
What is the significance of the term 'love bombing' in the context of the transcript?
-In the context of the transcript, 'love bombing' refers to the tactic sociopaths use where they shower someone with compliments and flattery to make them open up and feel endeared to the sociopath.
How does the transcript describe the 'hot and cold' behavior of sociopaths?
-The 'hot and cold' behavior is described as a tactic where sociopaths, after hooking someone, may alternate between being very supportive and caring to being distant and unresponsive, to make the person more infatuated with them.
Why do sociopaths keep people talking about themselves?
-Sociopaths keep people talking about themselves to learn what they need to hear or see in order to charm them. It also helps them come across as mysterious, which many people find attractive.
What is the importance of not assuming someone is a sociopath based on a single trait or observation, as per the transcript?
-The importance lies in the fact that any disorder that might make someone struggle with social situations may give off a performative feeling. For example, people with Autism might also seem like they're performing, so it's crucial not to jump to conclusions based on limited information.
How can the charm of sociopaths be beneficial to them, according to the transcript?
-The charm that sociopaths wield often helps them get what they want, whether it's relationships or promotions. They know how to use their charm to achieve their goals.
Outlines
🧐 Understanding Sociopaths: Beyond the Stereotype
This paragraph explores the misconceptions about sociopaths, emphasizing that they are individuals who adapt their behaviors based on life experiences, much like anyone else. It clarifies that sociopaths, often associated with antisocial personality disorder, may not always exhibit malicious intent in their social interactions. The paragraph delves into the unique way sociopaths navigate interpersonal relationships, which can sometimes be misinterpreted as charm. It also mentions the interchangeable use of the terms 'sociopath' and 'psychopath' due to shared characteristics. Key signs of sociopathic charm include saying what is correct without genuine empathy, as demonstrated by a study by Haron Maford, and the ability to mimic emotions effectively, which can make them appear indistinguishable from neurotypical individuals.
🤔 Recognizing Sociopathic Behavior: Charm or Calculus?
The second paragraph focuses on identifying the manipulative charm of sociopaths, who may not form genuine emotional attachments but instead use practiced behaviors to their advantage. It discusses the lack of a real attachment system in sociopaths, their ability to turn on charm at will, and their tendency to keep others talking to learn and charm them. The paragraph also highlights 'love bombing' as a tactic used by sociopaths to make people feel valued and open up. Additionally, it touches on the 'hot and cold' behavior pattern sociopaths may employ to increase their allure and control over others. The paragraph concludes by questioning the viewer if they have encountered such behaviors, inviting them to reflect on their own experiences and to engage with the content by liking and subscribing for more.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Sociopaths
💡Manipulative
💡Empathy
💡Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD)
💡Charm
💡Patrick Bateman
💡Faking Emotions
💡Attachment System
💡Love Bombing
💡Hot and Cold
💡Psychopathy
Highlights
Sociopaths are often misunderstood and presumed to be ambitious, manipulative, and cruel, but they are still people who adapt and improve their lives like everyone else.
Sociopaths have a unique way of navigating interpersonal relationships and socializing, which isn't always malicious but a result of their adaptation.
The term 'sociopath' is often used interchangeably with 'psychopath' due to shared features, despite originally referring to antisocial personality disorder.
Sociopaths can consciously turn on empathy, but they rarely do as it's not usually advantageous for them.
They may say what is correct and agree with you to use their charm, as seen in the exaggerated example of Patrick Bateman's monologue in 'American Psycho'.
Sociopaths can fake emotions effectively, mirroring others and appearing indistinguishable from neurotypical people in their emotional responses.
A lack of a real attachment system is a sign of sociopathic charm; they can turn on charm with anyone at any time, unlike typical attachment-building.
Sociopaths benefit from keeping you talking, as it allows them to study and charm you while maintaining an air of mystery.
Love bombing, or excessive compliments, is a tool sociopaths use to make people open up and feel endeared to them.
The hot and cold game is a tactic sociopaths may use to make someone more infatuated, by alternating between support and withdrawal.
Sociopaths' charm is often a means to an end, helping them get what they want, whether it's relationships or promotions.
It's important not to assume someone is a sociopath based on a single trait or observation, as other disorders can also present performative behaviors.
People with Autism, for example, might also seem like they're performing in social situations, so it's crucial not to jump to conclusions.
Sociopaths may use their charm to seem invested in a conversation, even if they're carrying the conversation to learn more about you.
The video encourages viewers to reflect on whether they know someone who might be a sociopath or if they recognize some of these traits in themselves.
The video concludes by inviting viewers to like and subscribe for more content on psychological topics.
Transcripts
there are a lot of presumptions we make
about sociopaths many people assume
they're all ambitious manipulative and
cruel the truth is that sociopaths are
still just people and like all other
people they use the skills and lessons
they learn in life to improve their
lives that's a really simple way of
looking at it but it applies to everyone
whether you a sociopath or not when it
comes to interpersonal relationships and
socializing sociopaths have a unique way
of navigating that landscape sometimes
it isn't always malicious it's just the
way they have adapted the term sociopath
usually applies to people with
antisocial personality disorder but over
time it's been used interchangeably with
Psychopaths because of the many features
they share so these are the signs that
someone's charm is not genuine but
sociopathic number one they always say
what is correct sociopaths don't always
have robust social intelligence
researcher Haron maford and colleagues
published a study in brain that found
sociopaths do have the capacity for
empathy but it isn't used automatically
their empathy has to be consciously
turned on for them to use it which they
rarely do because it usually isn't
advantageous instead of empathizing
sociopaths will know what they're
supposed to say and we'll say what you
want to hear what is correct if you find
that someone is always agreeing with you
or appealing to your emotions without
any counterargument they may be using
their sociopathic charm if you want an
exaggerated example think of Patrick
Batman's monologue in American Psycho
where he describes how important it is
to end world hunger and apartheid even
though we know he doesn't actually care
about any of the noble causes he talks
about he knows it's the right thing to
say in front of the people he Associates
himself with most Psychopaths and
sociopaths aren't murderous monsters
like Patrick baitman but it's hard to
find examples of sociopaths in books TV
shows and movies that don't involve
murder number two fake emotions they
don't just say the right things they
have to fake emotions too without a
Wellspring of emotions to draw from they
have to mirror other people they learn
this from a young age and become
extremely adapt at applying the right
emotion at the right time they can
pretend to be riled up over something
they say they aren't passionate about
and they can cry over something they
couldn't care less about they might act
like they're completely infatuated with
you if they think that's what will charm
you or they'll act disinterested if they
think that will Intrigue you more
despite not truly feeling emotions
sociopaths are able to respond to
emotion so effectively that they are
indistinguishable from neurotypical
people a study measuring the facial
responsiveness of psychopaths to the
emotional responsiveness of others found
that there is almost no difference in
how people with aspd respond compared to
NE typical people if you get the feeling
that what someone is saying or doing
feels performed they might have
sociopathic traits but sociopaths are
relatively rare any disorder that might
make someone struggle with social
situations may give off a performative
feeling people with Autism for example
might also seem like they're performing
therefore it's important not to assume
that someone is a sociopath based on a
single trait or
observation number three a lack of a
real attachment system usually we build
an attachment system with our friends
and family over time we can be more
Charming in front of people we're
comfortable with sociopaths don't form
attachment systems like that because
their charm is practiced and
performative they can turn on the charm
with anyone at any time if someone is
weirdly Charming with you even though
you don't know them they could be trying
to use a learn type of charm it's
important to keep in mind that not
everyone is naturally charming and
people can learn how to use their hands
and body language when they speak to
come across as more charismatic
sociopaths may do it constantly and
consciously number four they keep you
talking a sociopath can benefit from
allowing you to do all the Talking it
gives them something to play off of and
study they will learn what you need to
hear or see in order for them to charm
you but it has the added benefit of
making them come across as mysterious
which many people find attractive they
keep information about themselves to
themselves if you find yourself doing
all of the talking you might start to
feel annoyed that you're carrying the
conversation but sociopaths know how to
keep you talking and how to seem
invested one way they can keep you
talking is through number five love
bombing everyone knows compliments feel
really good when I say everyone I mean
everyone including sociopaths they know
that compliments and flattery can make
people open up to them for neurotypical
people receiving compliments make us
want to share compliments we understand
how warm it makes us feel inside and it
encourages us to get along with the
people that compliment us for sociopaths
Compliments are just another tool that
they can use to endear themselves to
whoever they're speaking to so if you
feel like you're being Pand or to the
person you're talking to may be trying
to get you to warm up to them in a
calculated soci cathic way number six
hot and cold once a sociopath knows that
they have you hooked they might play the
hot and cold game with you to make you
more infatuated with them sometimes
they'll be the best person ever
supporting you through whatever you need
inviting you out and making you feel
like they care about you then out of
nowhere they won't answer your messages
and you're worried that they don't like
you anymore now you feel as though you
have to prove your value to them this
isn't real charm they've just tricked
you into seeing them as something they
aren't the charm that sociopaths can
wield often helps them get what they
want whether it's relationships or
promotions they know how to get it is
there someone in your life that you
suspect might be a sociopath have you
caught yourself doing some of these if
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