This will drastically change your entire life

Alivia D'Andrea
11 Feb 202010:28

Summary

TLDRThe video script discusses the struggle with consistency in building a healthy lifestyle and the importance of understanding human behavior to create lasting change. It explores the concept of linking pain and pleasure to form new habits, using personal examples like associating running with emotional relief. The speaker also touches on the power of visualization in achieving goals, the impact of procrastination, and the need for consistency in all aspects of life. The script concludes with a call to take control of one's life by mastering the use of pain and pleasure.

Takeaways

  • 🏃‍♂️ The importance of consistency in building a healthy lifestyle rather than relying on fleeting motivation.
  • 🔗 Understanding the human behavior principle that people often do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure.
  • 👟 Creating positive associations through activities like running can lead to a lasting change in behavior.
  • 🎵 The power of music in creating emotional relief and associating it with a positive activity like running.
  • 🍪 Changing eating habits involves linking pain to overeating and pleasure to eating smaller portions.
  • 🎓 Visualization as a tool for success, as the brain doesn't distinguish between imagination and reality.
  • 🧠 The concept of 'neural association' and how it can be used to change behavior towards healthier choices.
  • 📚 The recommendation of a class on the power of habit by productivity expert Thomas Frank on Skillshare.
  • 🤔 The strategy of focusing on the pain of not taking action to combat procrastination.
  • 🚫 The need to avoid perfectionism and instead aim for consistency in achieving goals.
  • 💪 The message that mistakes are part of the process, and the importance of forgiving oneself and trying again.

Q & A

  • What is the main challenge the speaker is facing in their journey towards a healthier lifestyle?

    -The main challenge the speaker is facing is inconsistency in maintaining a healthy lifestyle due to cravings and the difficulty of getting back on track after falling off.

  • What does the speaker suggest as a solution to the problem of inconsistency in building a healthy lifestyle?

    -The speaker suggests understanding the fundamentals of human behavior and creating lasting change by linking pain and pleasure to certain behaviors.

  • According to the script, what is a key principle in human behavior that can be leveraged for change?

    -A key principle is that humans will often do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure, and by changing what is linked to pain and pleasure, one can change their behavior.

  • What is the two-step process the speaker outlines to change one's behavior?

    -The two-step process involves first getting oneself to feel a certain way strongly and then linking that feeling to something else, creating a new association.

  • How does the speaker explain the concept of 'what gets fired together gets wired together' in relation to their running habit?

    -The speaker explains it by sharing their experience of associating the emotional relief from crying with running, creating a positive neural association that makes them want to run whenever they feel a certain way.

  • What role does music play in the speaker's running routine and how does it influence their behavior?

    -Music plays a significant role as the speaker listens to a specific song on repeat while running, which over time creates a strong association between the song and the act of running, prompting them to run whenever they hear it.

  • What technique does the speaker recommend for dealing with overeating and creating a healthier eating habit?

    -The speaker recommends visualizing oneself in the body they are most confident in and consciously making a connection between not finishing everything on their plate and achieving their goal.

  • How does the speaker describe the power of visualization and its effect on the brain?

    -The speaker describes visualization as a powerful tool because the brain doesn't know the difference between imagination and reality, thus building neural networks as if the visualized experience had already occurred.

  • What is the course mentioned by the speaker and where can it be found?

    -The course mentioned is about the power of habit taught by productivity expert Thomas Frank on Skillshare, an online learning platform.

  • What advice does the speaker give for dealing with procrastination on a school project?

    -The speaker advises to visualize the pain of not taking action, such as the consequences of not completing the project on time, and to link pleasure to the initial task of the project to make it more enjoyable.

  • What is the final message the speaker conveys about consistency and its relation to success in various aspects of life?

    -The final message is that consistency, not perfection, is key to success in wealth, relationships, health, and other aspirations, and that one should learn to forgive themselves and try again when they fall off track.

Outlines

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🏃‍♂️ Overcoming Inconsistency in Healthy Lifestyle Habits

The speaker discusses their struggle with maintaining a healthy lifestyle and the inconsistency that often leads to setbacks. They highlight the importance of understanding human behavior and how associating pain and pleasure with certain activities can lead to lasting change. The speaker shares their personal experience with running, where they linked emotional relief to the activity, creating a positive neural association that made them love running. They also touch on the concept of visualization as a powerful tool for success, citing a Harvard study that shows the brain's inability to distinguish between imagination and reality, thus building neural networks through visualization.

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🎓 Tackling Procrastination and Cultivating Consistency

In this paragraph, the speaker addresses the issue of procrastination and how it can be overcome by changing one's associations with pain and pleasure. They suggest focusing on the potential pain of not taking action rather than the immediate discomfort of starting a task. The speaker provides a vivid example of the negative consequences of procrastination, such as poor grades and missed opportunities, and encourages viewers to visualize these outcomes to motivate action. They also discuss the importance of consistency in achieving life goals, emphasizing that success comes from winning the majority of the time, not from perfection. The speaker concludes by encouraging self-forgiveness and the use of pain and pleasure as tools for personal growth and control.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Motivation

Motivation is the internal drive that propels individuals to take action towards a goal. In the video, the speaker discusses the inconsistency of motivation and how it can't be solely relied upon for lasting change. The theme of motivation is central as the speaker seeks to improve their lifestyle and fitness, but finds that motivation alone is insufficient for maintaining consistency.

💡Lifestyle Change

Lifestyle change refers to the process of altering one's habits and routines to improve health, well-being, or other aspects of life. The video's narrator is striving to change their lifestyle by quitting junk food and getting fit, which is a significant part of the video's narrative as it sets the context for the discussion on behavior modification.

💡Cravings

Cravings are intense desires for a particular food or substance, often challenging to resist. In the script, cravings are mentioned as a barrier to maintaining a healthy lifestyle, illustrating the struggle between immediate gratification and long-term goals.

💡Pain and Pleasure

Pain and pleasure are fundamental motivators of human behavior, as discussed in the video. The speaker explains that humans often do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure, and suggests linking pain to negative behaviors and pleasure to positive ones to create lasting change. This concept is a key strategy for behavior modification presented in the video.

💡Association

Association in psychology refers to the mental process of relating one idea or experience to another. The video emphasizes the power of creating associations between feelings of pleasure or pain and certain behaviors, such as running or eating habits, to influence future actions.

💡Neural Association

Neural association is the concept that certain neural pathways in the brain are strengthened through repeated association between stimuli and responses. The video uses the example of running and music to illustrate how a positive neural association can be formed, leading to a lasting positive behavior change.

💡Visualization

Visualization is a technique where individuals create mental images or scenarios to influence their emotions or behavior. The speaker in the video uses visualization to connect the act of not overeating with feelings of happiness and achieving goals, suggesting it as a powerful tool for creating new neural pathways and habits.

💡Habit Formation

Habit formation is the process of developing regular behaviors through repetition. The video discusses the importance of habit formation in achieving long-term lifestyle changes, emphasizing the need for consistency over perfection.

💡Skillshare

Skillshare is an online learning platform offering a wide range of classes, which the speaker mentions as a resource for learning about the power of habit and productivity. It is used in the video as an example of a tool for personal development.

💡Procrastination

Procrastination is the act of delaying or postponing tasks or actions. The video addresses procrastination as a common behavior and suggests using the principles of pain and pleasure to overcome it, by visualizing the negative consequences of not taking action.

💡Consistency

Consistency refers to the ability to maintain a regular course of action or behavior. The video emphasizes that consistency, rather than perfection, is key to achieving goals and making lasting changes in one's life.

Highlights

The importance of motivation for maintaining a healthy lifestyle and overcoming the challenges of cravings and inconsistency.

The realization that motivation is fleeting and understanding human behavior can lead to lasting change.

The concept that humans are more driven to avoid pain than to gain pleasure, which can be leveraged for behavioral change.

The method of creating associations between pain and pleasure to change behavior, with two key steps: feeling strongly and linking it to something else.

The personal story of linking emotional relief with running, leading to a love for the activity.

The explanation of how neural associations are formed and the impact of music on creating a positive association with running.

The strategy of linking the act of not overeating with feelings of happiness and confidence in one's body.

The power of visualization in creating and strengthening neural associations, supported by a Harvard study on piano players.

The promotion of the class 'The Power of Habit' by Thomas Frank on Skillshare for further understanding of human behavior.

The description of Skillshare as an online learning platform with a wide range of classes, compared to Netflix.

The offer of a three-month premium membership on Skillshare and the affordability of the service.

The discussion on procrastination and the method to overcome it by visualizing the pain of not taking action.

The practical example of linking the pain of poor academic performance to the consequences it may have on future opportunities.

The advice on starting small with tasks to avoid overwhelming the brain and forming negative associations.

The technique of shifting focus from the pleasure of immediate gratification to the long-term pain of negative consequences.

The personal account of the emotional impact of realizing the consequences of overeating and the importance of self-forgiveness.

The final message on the value of consistency over perfection and the power of learning from mistakes.

Transcripts

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this is disappointing how do I motivate

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myself ever since my high school self

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realized I couldn't maintain the luxury

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of a child's metabolism forever I

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decided I wanted to get more fit and

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quit junk food today is March 15 okay so

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today is March 15 and I'm really taking

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a strive to change my lifestyle I went

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to the dermatologist today and it was

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like a Foster's freeze next door and all

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of my friends keep saying how good it

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wasn't I was so close to getting some

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bows like no I need to stay within this

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I need to be strong but the problem of

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inconsistency unraveled with each

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attempt to build a healthy lifestyle

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oftentimes I given the cravings and not

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get back on track for a while because it

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was difficult to even get back into that

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health routine I frequently blamed my

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lack of motivation for this but

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motivation is fleeting

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you can't solely depend on that to be

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consistent understanding the basic

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fundamentals of what drives human

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behavior can help you utilize them to

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create lasting change

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you

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everything we do in life is driven by

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the need to avoid pain or the desire to

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gain pleasure study after study shows

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that humans will often do more to avoid

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pain than to gain pleasure if you want

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to change your behavior change what you

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link pain and pleasure to one or two

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simple associations can change your

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entire life so how do you do that step 1

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get yourself to feel a certain way and

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feel it strongly step 2 while you feel

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it link it to something else

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this explains why I love running now let

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me show you and I'm just like bursted

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into tears I didn't even plan on that

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but it's just cuz lick and I just can't

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do that I just feel like going to

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workout because I feel really like sad

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right now like I just want to let it out

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and I feel like running might help me

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with that when I started running I

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didn't keep track of time I just ran

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with the music and I had a specific song

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on repeat I felt a strong emotional

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relief because quite some time had

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passed since I cried as I felt this

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relief I ran what gets fired together it

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gets wired together I could have just

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say cookies and as I felt relief I would

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have created a positive association with

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cookies and relief but instead I ran I

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had just created a positive neural

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Association which explains why I have

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loved running ever since

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and because I listen to that specific

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song every time I hear that song I feel

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this physical urge in my body to go

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running my brain begins making a mental

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movie of me losing myself in relief and

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freedom as I run when you take something

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challenging and make it an enjoyable

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experience this massively increases your

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chances to do it again in the future

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that's because now your brain isn't

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resisting it it wants to do it

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you

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now you know that in order to lose

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weight you can't overeat I had a strong

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feeling of pleasure linked to overeating

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and pain linked to eating smaller

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portions so you have food in front of

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you separate a portion of it that you

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won't be push the food away and

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immediately create a mental state of

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happy feelings by visualizing yourself

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in the body you are most confident in

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and consciously make the connection

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between not finishing everything on your

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plate and achieving your goal repeat

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this process over and over to strengthen

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the neuro Association visualization is a

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powerful cheat code to success there was

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a study done in 2009 at Harvard where

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they brought in piano players to play

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the piano and they studied what parts of

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their brains lit up and when they had

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them just imagine themselves playing the

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piano the same parts of the brains lit

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up numerous studies have shown that the

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brain doesn't know the difference

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between imagination and reality so when

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you're visualizing something you're

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actually building neural networks as if

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that image or experience had already

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occurred which is why you can get in

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such a strong emotional state if you

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want to dive more into human behavior

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I'm taking this really great class about

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the power of habit taught by

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productivity expert Thomas Frank on

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Skillshare if you don't know what

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Skillshare is think Netflix for online

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classes they have thousands of classes

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ranging from productivity in business to

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design and music I thought chances if

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you're watching this video you also like

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learning techniques to improve your

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quality of life so I'll have the class

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linked below the class covers topics

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that set you up for success such as

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effective goal planning addressing your

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fears and how to deal with failure make

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2020 a year where you explore those

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skills you've always wanted to deepen

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your understanding of and get lost in

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creativity and skill shares online

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classes they are short classes so it

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will fit into your busy routine I will

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also have a code for you guys that can

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get you to three months of premium

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membership on Skillshare and after that

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it is $10 a month which is very

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affordable compared to in-person classes

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and workshops so definitely go check

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that out if it sounds interesting to you

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I know I should get started on this but

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I'd do anything to be somewhere else

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other than here doing this

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procrastination is understandable

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because you link pain to this school

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project you can change your pain and

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pleasure associations but we're gonna

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try something a little different

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let's review two basic principles humans

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will often do more to avoid pain than to

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gain pleasure whatever you focus on

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becomes your reality so when we're in

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the moment of whether or not to get

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started on this project a lot of us ask

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ourselves what will be the pain if I

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take action but you need to ask yourself

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what will be the pain if I don't do it

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focus and visualize this picture in your

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head you may end up pulling an

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all-nighter the night before the project

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is due but then you realize you did the

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project wrong you text your friend at

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midnight for help but he's already gone

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to bed you try to figure it out at

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midnight stressed knowing you have to

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turn this project in in seven hours two

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hours later you have a better

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understanding but then you realize

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you're missing an important piece to the

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project and you have to go to the store

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there's no way you're getting a good

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grade on this can you imagine what this

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would do to your grades you have to have

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a talk with your not-so-nice teacher

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explaining why you did so poorly

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suddenly your mom's not letting you go

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out with your friends anymore

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your crush at school finally asks you

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out to the school dance but nope you

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can't go because you're grounded so he

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asks another girl if you're in high

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school this could impact your whole

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grade which could affect your plans for

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college imagine your counselor saying

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well honey you can definitely try to

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apply for this college but this grade in

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this specific class is gonna hurt your

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chances of admission into this school

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this all could have been avoided if you

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had just gotten started you can also

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link pleasure to doing this school

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project with the method shared earlier

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step 1 get yourself to feel really good

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and feel it strongly this is kind of

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silly but maybe you think about your

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crush you'll get in a joyous state and

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then complete the initial task of your

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project don't take on too much in the

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beginning because you don't want your

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brain to view this project as a very

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painful thing tell yourself it's just

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the initial task that's easy and as you

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begin completing the first step while

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feeling really good your brain will

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begin to build this positive

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you need to repeat this in order to

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strengthen the narrow Association

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otherwise you can lose it

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let's take food as another example when

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we're in the moment of whether or not to

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eat the whole package of cookies the

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times you probably gave in were the

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times you focused on how delicious it

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would taste but you need to shift your

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focus and focus on the pain where will

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you be in six months if you continue to

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overeat in one year vividly visualize

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yourself in one year if you continue

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this behavior imagine it so deeply you

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truly believe that's what's going to

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happen one day you put on a swimsuit and

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look in the mirror and you don't

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recognize her anymore

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this doesn't fit the way it used to you

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don't smile the way you used to all the

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battles you've lost with food are

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completely visible in the mirror

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disappointment isn't even the word I can

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begin to describe how I felt in this

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moment we rarely talk about the painful

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rugged confusing road we took to get

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here but I will share with you the full

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story behind this in the globe diary

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episodes throughout the next few weeks

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everything that has value in life comes

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from consistency success wealth

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relationships health and all other

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aspirations but consistency doesn't mean

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perfection consistency is winning

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majority of the time so for the time as

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you fall learn to get back on track and

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get used to it because there will be

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times when you make mistakes and that's

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okay the secret is to learn to forgive

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yourself and try again

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learn to use pain and pleasure instead

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of having pain and pleasure use you if

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you don't do that then life controls you

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this month choices are next month's

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results

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MotivationHealthy HabitsLifestyle ChangeSelf-ImprovementProductivityGoal SettingNeuro AssociationVisualisationHabit FormationBehavioral Change
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