HOW TO SPOT A SUB / HOW TO CONDITION A MAN INTO SUBMISSION

Summary

In this video, the creator discusses how women can identify a submissive man, particularly in dating situations. She explains that while direct communication is ideal, many men are hesitant to openly admit their submissive desires due to societal stigma. The video offers insights on spotting subtle signs of submission, such as a man's service-oriented behavior or how he responds to requests. The speaker emphasizes the importance of building a safe space for open dialogue and advises women to seek men who are genuinely devoted and service-oriented. The video explores the complexity of male submission, from mild service to more intense kink dynamics.

Takeaways

• 💬 Many men are secretive about their submissive side and rarely admit it openly, especially outside of kink communities.
• 👩 The video primarily targets women who want to identify whether a man is submissive but also welcomes input from men.
• 🤔 Asking directly if a man is submissive is often ineffective, as many men fear judgment or misunderstanding.
• 🕵️‍♀️ Observing behavior on a date—such as chivalry, service orientation, and attentiveness—can reveal submissive tendencies.
• 💡 Submissiveness exists on a spectrum, from polite, service-oriented men to those with extreme or specific fetishes.
• 🗣️ Talking openly about one's own interests or profession related to dominance can make a partner feel safe to share their desires.
• ⚠️ However, revealing dominance too early may attract men who objectify or fetishize the woman instead of respecting her.
• 👑 Women exploring dominance should act classy and composed, not aggressive or rude; real dominance is calm confidence, not hostility.
• 🙏 A polite, service-oriented man who shows genuine devotion and respect is often a better match than one focused solely on fetish play.
• ❤️ Men’s self-awareness about their preferences can evolve over time; some initially deny submissive traits but reveal them later.
• 🧠 Communication and mutual understanding are essential for healthy dominant–submissive dynamics, both emotionally and practically.
• 🔍 The speaker emphasizes looking for men who are 'pleasers'—those who find joy in a woman's satisfaction rather than just their own.

Q & A

What is the main topic discussed in the video?

The video primarily discusses how women can identify a submissive man, especially in the context of dating, and how they can explore dominant-submissive dynamics in relationships.

Why might women hesitate to ask men directly if they are submissive?

Women may hesitate to ask directly because many men are secretive about their submissive tendencies. Men often feel unsafe or embarrassed about admitting submissiveness, especially when it contradicts traditional masculine ideals.

How can a woman tell if a man is submissive without asking directly?

A woman can observe his behavior for signs of service orientation, such as being a gentleman, being proactive in fulfilling requests, or showing a strong desire to please. These traits may indicate submissive tendencies.

Is being a gentleman enough to classify a man as submissive?

No, being a gentleman alone doesn’t mean a man is submissive. A gentleman may simply be kind or respectful, but submissiveness is more about a deeper willingness to submit to a woman's authority or desires, especially in intimate or relational dynamics.

How does the speaker recommend women to present themselves when dating men who might be submissive?

The speaker advises women to be open and honest about their work and views, especially regarding dominance and submission. By talking about their own experiences and preferences, they can make men feel safe to open up about their own desires.

Why is it important for women to avoid coming across as aggressive or bitchy when exploring dominance?

Women should avoid being aggressive or bitchy because true dominance is about grace, class, and self-assurance. Acting like a queen and maintaining respect is key to fostering a healthy dynamic with a submissive partner.

What role does a man’s service orientation play in identifying submissiveness?

A man who is service-oriented, such as opening doors or being attentive to a woman's needs, may exhibit submissive traits. However, it’s important to note that being service-oriented doesn't necessarily mean being submissive in the kink sense.

What is the speaker’s opinion on men who hide their submissive interests?

The speaker believes that many men hide their submissive desires out of shame or fear of judgment. Even if a man denies being submissive initially, he may reveal submissive behaviors or interests later on, like fetish-related tendencies or a desire to please a woman.

How does the speaker suggest women can 'condition' a man to display his submissive traits?

The speaker mentions that women can 'condition' a man by subtly testing his reactions to small requests or behaviors, such as asking for a glass of water. Observing how he responds can give clues to his service orientation and potential submissiveness.

How can a woman identify if a man is interested in being submissive but is too ashamed to admit it?

A woman may notice signs such as hesitation to talk about fetishes or submissive interests, combined with behaviors like a desire to please or a tendency to acquiesce to requests. The man may not admit it openly but might reveal it through his actions or responses over time.