This Woman EXPOSES Female Nature SECRETS and TURN OFFS that MODERN Men are BLIND TO! (Casey Zander)
Summary
TLDRIn a candid interview, the host delves into the dating life and turn-offs of their friend Kelsey, exploring topics such as emotional intelligence, social media habits, and modern dating behaviors. Kelsey shares her experiences and insights, discussing the importance of being career-driven and financially responsible, while also touching on the challenges of finding genuine connections in today's dating scene. The conversation offers a fresh perspective on what women look for in a partner and the qualities that can be deal-breakers.
Takeaways
- 😀 The interview is with a friend named Kelsey, who is asked about her dating life, turn-offs, and experiences with men.
- 👥 Kelsey discusses the issue of women competing for men and her belief that it is a prevalent problem in modern dating.
- 🧑🦱 She mentions that men from the Midwest are traditionally expected to provide for their partners, but she has observed a change in this dynamic.
- 🤔 Kelsey identifies a lack of emotional intelligence as a major turn-off, emphasizing the importance of men being able to engage in deep conversations and show emotion.
- 📸 She criticizes men who are overly focused on themselves on social media, particularly those who post mirror selfies frequently, which she finds off-putting.
- 🏠 Kelsey is not fond of men who invite her back to their house on the first date, considering it a turn-off due to the implication of their intentions.
- ❤️ She describes 'love bombing' as a turn-off, where a man expresses intense feelings too quickly after meeting, which she finds overwhelming.
- 💼 Kelsey values career-driven men and advises against spending beyond one's means, such as buying bottle service when on an average salary.
- 🔍 She also mentions that following too many women on social media can be a red flag, indicating a lack of selectivity or genuine interest.
- 💬 In the interview, Kelsey shares that she prefers to wait before getting intimate with a man if she truly likes him, suggesting that this approach increases the chances of a successful relationship.
- 🌟 Kelsey's ultimate goal in her dating life is to find a partner and start a family, indicating a desire for a stable and committed relationship.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the interview with Kelsey?
-The main topic of the interview is Kelsey's dating life, including her turn-offs and experiences with men that have caused her to lose attraction.
What does Kelsey mean by 'provide, produce shebang' when describing men from the Midwest?
-Kelsey is referring to men who are capable of providing for their families, showing responsibility and a willingness to take care of their loved ones, which she associates with her upbringing in the Midwest.
Why does Kelsey find it concerning that men nowadays seem to lack the ability to provide?
-Kelsey is concerned because she feels that the inability or unwillingness of men to provide is leading to women becoming more masculine, as they have to step up and fulfill roles traditionally held by men.
What does Kelsey consider as a major turn-off when it comes to men's behavior?
-A major turn-off for Kelsey is when a man lacks emotional intelligence, meaning they cannot engage in deep conversations or show emotional depth.
Why does Kelsey feel that posting mirror pictures on social media is inappropriate for men?
-Kelsey believes that mirror pictures should be reserved for women and that men posting them frequently comes off as attention-seeking, which she finds unattractive.
What does Kelsey mean by 'love bombing' and why is it a turn-off for her?
-Love bombing refers to when a man expresses extreme affection and desire for a relationship very quickly after meeting. Kelsey finds this overwhelming and off-putting, as it feels insincere and rushed.
What is Kelsey's view on men who follow a lot of women on social media?
-Kelsey considers it a turn-off if a man follows many women on social media, especially if the women followed do not reciprocate, as it can indicate a lack of genuine interest or respect for the potential partner.
Why does Kelsey advise against men spending money on bottle service if they have an average job?
-Kelsey suggests that men with average jobs should not waste money on expensive activities like bottle service, as it shows poor financial management and is not an attractive quality.
What does Kelsey consider the most significant turn-off among the ones she discussed?
-Kelsey considers a lack of emotional intelligence to be the most significant turn-off, as it prevents meaningful connections and deep conversations.
What does Kelsey hope for in her dating life in the next three years?
-Kelsey hopes to settle down and start a family, indicating that she is looking for a long-term, committed relationship.
What advice would Kelsey give her younger self about dating and relationships?
-Kelsey would advise her younger self to focus on understanding what she wants in a relationship, to love herself, and to learn about her own needs and desires.
Outlines
💬 Dating Insights and Turnoffs
In this paragraph, the host introduces an interview with Kelsey, a friend, to discuss her dating experiences and turnoffs. The conversation delves into the changing roles of men and women in dating, with Kelsey expressing her disappointment in men who lack the traditional ability to 'provide' or show emotional strength. She lists several turnoffs, including men who are overly dependent, lack emotional intelligence, are excessively self-absorbed on social media, and those who engage in 'love bombing'. The discussion also touches on the idea of women competing for men and the importance of patience in relationships.
🚶♂️ Men's Behaviors and Financial Sense
The second paragraph continues the interview with Kelsey sharing more of her dating turnoffs. She criticizes men who follow many women on social media without reciprocity, those who are indecisive, and those who are not financially responsible, especially if they have average jobs but spend extravagantly on nightlife. Kelsey emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and being a provider as key qualities she seeks in a partner. The host and Kelsey also discuss the concept of 'manifesting love' and the idea of not settling for less in relationships.
👥 Social Dynamics and Future Aspirations
In the final paragraph, the conversation shifts towards Kelsey's personal aspirations and advice for younger individuals. She expresses her desire to settle down and start a family, highlighting the value of finding the right partner. Kelsey also discusses the importance of self-love and understanding one's own needs in a relationship. The paragraph concludes with a rapid-fire question segment where Kelsey shares her initial criteria for engaging in a conversation with a potential romantic interest, emphasizing the significance of career drive and personal values.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Respectful
💡Competing for a man
💡Emotional intelligence
💡Turn-offs
💡Provider
💡Love bombing
💡Social media
💡Indecisive
💡High body count
💡Career-driven
💡Manifesting love
Highlights
Interview with Kelsey discussing her dating life and turn-offs.
Belief that women may enjoy competing for a man.
Kelsey's Midwest background and expectations of men providing for their families.
Observation of men becoming less willing or able to provide, leading to women becoming more masculine.
Turn-off for Kelsey when men lack emotional intelligence and can't engage in deep conversations.
Dislike of men being overly self-absorbed on social media, especially with frequent mirror pictures.
Turn-off when men invite women back to their house on the first date, implying ulterior motives.
Definition and discussion of 'love bombing' as a dating turn-off.
Importance of men not being wasteful with money, especially when they have average jobs.
Kelsey's preference for men who are career-driven and have a clear direction in life.
Advice for men to focus on self-improvement and understanding what they want in a partner.
Kelsey's hope to settle down and have a family in the next three years.
Discussion on women's attraction to men who are sought after by others.
Criteria Kelsey uses to decide whether to continue an interaction with a man at a bar.
Advice to her younger self about focusing on self-love and understanding personal relationship desires.
Encouragement for viewers to like, comment, and subscribe for more content.
Transcripts
now today I did an interview with my
friend Kelsey I ask all of you to be
respectful in the comment section and
post good things because I think that
you will enjoy this so like I said be
respectful enjoy the video and I hope it
keeps you entertained do you believe
women enjoy competing for a man I do I
do agree with that um
unfortunately that is a problem
now um okay hi everyone this is my
wonderful amazing great friend Kelsey
hello and I had questions for her today
because I was curious about uh her
dating life and her turn offs and all
the gross nasty disgusting things that
men have done that potentially have
caused her to lose attraction for men
that have possibly pursued her or any
weird encounters that she's had in her
dating life and since Kelsey's the
perfect bubbly candidate for this I
figured uh I'd bring her on the show so
say hi to
everyone hello hello okay so the first
thing that I want to know you made this
list of amazing turnoff that you've had
what are all of your turnoff so I'm used
to Midwest men who you know provide
produce they they want the whole shebang
but out here it's it's a little
different so when you say provide
produce shebang what does that mean for
some of these men who won't know what
that means so we I grew up personally
like with my dad telling me you know
showing my mom he can provide for the
family I don't know if it's just a
generational thing but men are changing
and it's it's kind of scary like I feel
like women become more masculine
nowadays because men can't
provide or men who like they can provide
but they're unwilling to or are these
men can provide but they're unwilling to
ooh okay they're withholding resources
that changes everything are you saying
like they go on a date but they refuse
to pay the bill or like what are you
saying no never that like when you say
not providing resources they just want
to be [ __ ]
baby like come cuddle me come cuddle
me they text you this or say this
literally like they act like babies and
I'm so she's ran baby who's the man here
okay I guess
I'll so you meet a lot of men and you
feel like you're they are too much of
like they're too weak um yeah yeah the
number one big turn off for me is if a
man lacks emotional
intelligence like he cannot have a deep
conversation he cannot get emotional in
some sense like we don't want men to cry
it's okay if they cry it's okay if they
cry but I
mean have you had any criers in front of
you I mean I think it's kind of hot if
you're having a deep conversation with a
man you have been intimate with and he
can't show an emotional side of him like
no bueno I don't like that turn off
number two
is when they are way too into themselves
on social media like I get it I better
tone down those goddamn Ferrari
pictures no I'm talking about like
mirror pictures like I feel like mirror
pictures should be reserved for women
and not for men I mean you can post when
every once in a while like if you're
like yeah I look jacked I want to take
you know after a gym Pig but like every
other day no so like attention seeking
post yeah when you're on a date with a
man and he invites you back to his house
on the first date how does that make you
feel like he just wants
to and that's an that's a turnoff that
is a turnoff number four love bombing oh
what does that mean again it's when you
first meet a man and he's like oh I want
to put a baby in
you and just like I love you and it's
like whoa whoa whoa pump the brakes Bud
like that is you've had that happen yes
J some of these things I might be out of
touch I don't know men do some of these
things so it's good to hear this too
well because you're a North Dakota man
oh my okay yes I've had this before they
they literally say like I'd like to like
okay but so we go on a date he he likes
me whatever we'll go on another date
then the love bombing starts happening I
do not hook up on the first day um I try
to wait a little bit if I really really
do like a man
because it never works out if you hook
up on the first date notice she said if
she really likes a man so all of you out
there understand if she likes you she
will make you wait and I know that makes
no sense to you you're like oh she likes
me she should sleep with me no no you're
going put an extra rules an extra
category trust me all right this this
I'm a girl's girl he's a guy's guy so
next Point what's the next turn off
State in facts she's stating facts she
straight facts all right but I do like
value your opinion no no I I'm not no I
was talking to the audience in that one
not you that that was purely just to
teach them see he likes me yeah
yeah yeah no excellent excellent
all
right let's see next next next turn off
all right all right so another thing is
so we're huge on social media these days
yeah what's what's the fifth turn off or
what's the next one that's you said it's
huge on social
media when a
man follows a bunch of women and you do
the investigation Work O and the women
don't fall on back
[Laughter]
so what number was
that how we doing great let me read the
rest of these I'm I'm going to scroll
through these why cuz I can no I'm going
to pick apart some of the ones I want to
talk
about I I asked some girlfriends too so
they chimed in okay but I cannot say
number seven why it's just I mean it's
not that
bad oh no you should say that that's
good this stems into competency don't be
this is true if you see this say it so
if you have an average job so let's say
the average job these days like 60 to 75
to
80k yeah I don't want you to be in the
club not just me specifically but you
shouldn't be in the club spending money
on bottle service every weekend yeah the
exact words of this it says having an
average job at spending money on bottle
service every weekend so basically that
means don't be stupid with your cash
yeah like cuz they know they can sniff
it out they can see what you're trying
to do I mean I'm just trying to help you
guys out like that's not really a flex
like we don't care we may pop up to your
table have a drink and then
peace at least she's being truthful this
is great yeah I mean we're going to go
home honey we are going to go home after
that like I got my free drink
I can go to bed in my own bed whose lips
are those those are the lips I created
okay those are the lips you created yeah
I mean do you want to get into that yeah
get me some lip
injections would I look good would I
look good I mean do mine look good I
don't know I may get roasted for that
sorry I have lip injection if you want
to roast Kelsey in the comments just
start typing below she'll she has thick
skin she'll handle it well yeah I all
right let me see this Kelsey's not
moving quick enough here number eight
indecisive number nine unable to be a
provider in some sense we already talked
about that uh number 10 having a high
body count and proud of it flexes it
lacks emotional
intelligence so which of these uh would
you say is the most biggest turn
off I would
say I'm huge on emotional intelligence I
don't know if that's just a thing that
comes with age do you believe in
manifesting love you guys don't post
that we probably shouldn't say that on
there no cut that part out what was the
biggest turn off out of all of them and
you said I said emotional intelligence
oh yeah emotional intelligence
intelligence so I as you get older you
become more spiritual like you don't
want to give your body to like any
Average Joe
[Laughter]
so you hear that ladies and gentlemen go
ahead goad every average Joe um so where
are we at again you're you're
distracting me yeah that's why I'm
trying to stay unbiased here I think
that like what this does is it helps me
actually see like from a woman's
perspective what they actually deal with
some of these I didn't know that's a
thing like I would never imagine I would
never in a million years imagine guys
actually go out and buy bottle service
if they can't afford it this is my last
question I have for you in the next 3
years where do you hope to see yourself
and how do you hope your dating life
ends up actually going I definitely do
want to settle down and have a family
so so you're looking for a hobby I'm
looking for a mans my
mans great I want I want I mean so as a
nurse like you do see a glimpse into the
future that like not a lot of people
see um and your perspective on life
changes a little bit so having kids as
you get older is a blessing so you want
a
family perfect do you have anything else
you'd like to say to them as we wrap up
do you have any questions for me any
suggestions any final
thoughts I don't know what are your
final thoughts
um I thought you wanted to fire the
questions out what are your question
yeah I kind of umy yeah no I didn't have
I kind of wanted just to hear your turn
offs rapid fire questions um do you do
you believe uh girls would rather
compete for a man than just be with a
guy monogamously or let me let me
rephrase it do you believe women enjoy
competing for a
man uh
like like if you know a lot of women are
after him do you like do you believe
more women enjoy competing I do I do
agree with that um
unfortunately that is a problem
nowaday
um who I mean I guess it's like sports
like you're competing for one thing yeah
so let's say the end goal let let's say
a guy comes up to you at a bar and says
hi and like introduces s what are the
main criteria that dictate if you will
actually uh involve yourself in that
interaction or
not okay rephrase that let's say a guy
comes up to you at the bar and he says
hi and introduces himself and wants to
talk what are the main criteria for if
you will continue that interaction or
not like what are you looking for what
are your main attraction mechanisms that
are telling you yes stay in this
interaction or tell them you have to
leave
well first of all I'm going to start
asking are you career driven what do you
do for work you'd ask us at the bar are
you career driven yeah oh wow okay I
mean
like it depends on the scene though okay
well I probably would oh no this is the
question and this is how we're wrapping
up cuz this is getting long this is
where we're ending what advice would
have you given yourself in your early
20s to now if you had to Mom yourself
what would you say well with the way
things are going I think I would have
probably me personally went back in
focused on maybe finding who I want in
your early 20s mid 20s yeah and I did
have my long-term relationships in my
early early 20s but just kind of
investigate and learn yourself love
yourself and learn what you want like
Lear learn what you want in a
relationship if you like this video I
want you to hit the like button comment
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