5 Questions To Continue A Conversation From "How You Going?"

Summary

In this video, the speaker shares tips for making conversations with strangers more comfortable and engaging. They emphasize the importance of being prepared with a set of questions, such as asking about someone's day, their favorite local restaurant, or interesting events from the past few weeks. The speaker also recommends asking what someone is looking forward to in the future or their best piece of advice. Instead of focusing on professional details, they suggest learning about a person through their hobbies and free-time activities. The overall message is about turning small talk into meaningful interactions with a little preparation.

Takeaways

• 😀 Preparation is key when meeting new people; having a set of questions in advance can help avoid awkward moments.
• 😀 Instead of hoping for the right questions to come up in a conversation, be proactive and prepare a list of go-to questions.
• 😀 Luck is defined as when preparation meets opportunity, so by preparing questions, you create your own 'luck' in social situations.
• 😀 A simple 'How are you?' is a good icebreaker and helps to get the conversation started.
• 😀 Asking about recent restaurant experiences is an easy, casual question that can lead to a longer conversation, especially if you're a foodie.
• 😀 Asking questions like 'What’s something interesting that happened to you in the last few weeks?' can encourage deeper conversations.
• 😀 Asking about what someone is looking forward to in the next year is a great way to spark a discussion about their goals or plans.
• 😀 A good question to ask someone to learn from their experiences is, 'What’s the best piece of advice you’ve received in the last 12 months?'
• 😀 Instead of asking about someone's profession, ask about their free time to understand them better and learn more about their interests.
• 😀 Having a list of easy-to-ask questions, like 'How’s your day going?' can help get the conversation flowing before diving into more personal or deeper topics.

Q & A

Why does the speaker find it difficult to come up with questions when meeting strangers?

The speaker finds it challenging because they rely on chance to come up with questions in the moment, rather than preparing in advance.

What is the speaker's solution to this challenge?

The speaker suggests preparing a list of questions in advance, so they are always ready to engage in conversation without relying on luck.

What does the speaker mean by the phrase 'luck is defined by when preparation meets opportunity'?

The speaker uses this phrase to emphasize that being prepared with questions allows you to seize opportunities for good conversations whenever they arise.

Can you share an example of the first question the speaker recommends for meeting someone?

The first question the speaker recommends is 'How are you?' followed by a planned response about something exciting that has happened recently.

Why does the speaker like asking about restaurants when meeting someone?

The speaker enjoys asking about restaurants because they are a foodie and it gives them an opportunity to learn about new places to eat, while also allowing for a casual conversation.

How does the speaker use the 'What's something interesting that's happened to you in the last 3-4 weeks?' question?

The speaker uses this question to prompt a deeper conversation and learn something memorable or meaningful about the other person.

What question does the speaker ask to learn about a person's future plans?

The speaker asks, 'What are you looking forward to the most in the next 12 months?' to understand what excites the person about the future.

What does the speaker ask to gain insight into a person's life lessons?

The speaker asks, 'What's the best piece of advice you've been given in the last 12 months?' to learn about valuable advice the person has received.

Why does the speaker suggest asking someone about their free time instead of their profession?

The speaker believes that asking about someone's free time reveals more about their true interests, passions, and personality, rather than just their job.

What does the speaker mean by 'choose your own adventure with the questions'?

The speaker means that depending on their comfort level and mood, they will choose from their list of questions and tailor the conversation accordingly.