What Are The 5 Core Wounds Of Childhood?

Summary

In this video, Tiffany Toombs, a trauma and high-performance coach, explores the five core wounds of childhood—rejection, abandonment, humiliation, injustice, and betrayal—and how they impact adult behavior. She explains how these wounds can lead to patterns of self-sabotage, fear of rejection, codependency, and low self-worth. Tiffany emphasizes the importance of recognizing these wounds and their effect on relationships and personal growth. She also offers a free quiz to help viewers assess their trauma score and gain insights into their emotional patterns, encouraging healing and self-awareness to break free from these past influences.

Takeaways

• 😀 Childhood wounds can manifest as patterns of negative behavior in adulthood, often affecting relationships and self-esteem.
• 😀 The five core childhood wounds are rejection, abandonment, humiliation, injustice, and betrayal.
• 😀 The rejection wound develops when a child perceives that they are rejected for who they are, leading them to create false identities to gain acceptance.
• 😀 People with a rejection wound often have a fear of rejection, avoid risks, and struggle to charge their worth in business or relationships.
• 😀 The abandonment wound stems from feeling neglected or abandoned, either physically or emotionally, which leads to codependency and self-sabotaging behaviors.
• 😀 Individuals with abandonment wounds often fear being left behind and may push people away to validate their belief that they will be abandoned.
• 😀 The humiliation wound occurs when a person experiences shame, embarrassment, or humiliation, often leading them to avoid standing out or taking risks.
• 😀 Those with a humiliation wound may be prone to guilt and shame, using these emotions as tools to control behavior.
• 😀 The injustice wound arises from feeling treated unfairly, often due to favoritism or inequality, which can create a victim mentality or reluctance to seek opportunities.
• 😀 The betrayal wound develops when trust is broken, causing a person to distrust others and themselves, leading to procrastination and self-sabotage.
• 😀 Healing childhood wounds is essential for overcoming negative patterns, building better relationships, and stepping into the empowered version of oneself.

Q & A

What are the five core wounds of childhood discussed in the video?

The five core wounds of childhood discussed in the video are rejection, abandonment, humiliation, injustice, and betrayal.

How does the rejection wound manifest in adulthood?

The rejection wound in adulthood often leads to an intense fear of rejection, making individuals take on false identities like the perfectionist, people pleaser, or victim in an attempt to gain acceptance. It can also cause people to avoid risks, not charge their worth, or stay in toxic relationships due to fear of being rejected.

What is the connection between rejection and false identities?

When a person feels rejected for who they truly are, they may create false identities to fit in and gain acceptance, such as being the perfectionist or the martyr. This helps them feel more accepted but at the cost of betraying their true self.

Can a person have both the rejection and abandonment wounds?

Yes, it's common for individuals to have both the rejection and abandonment wounds, as they are often closely related. For example, experiencing physical or emotional abandonment can also lead to feelings of rejection.

How does the abandonment wound impact relationships?

The abandonment wound can lead to codependent relationships, where an individual feels they can't survive without others' validation. It may also result in staying in unhealthy or toxic relationships out of fear of being abandoned.

What behaviors are associated with the humiliation wound?

People with a humiliation wound often avoid standing out, take fewer risks, and become wallflowers. They may also feel immense shame, guilt, or embarrassment when they make mistakes and may avoid sharing their true selves with the world.

What is the root cause of the humiliation wound?

The humiliation wound is often caused by bullying, sarcasm, or excessive guilt and shame used as control tactics during childhood. It makes individuals feel unsafe to be seen or share their opinions because they fear being humiliated.

How does the injustice wound affect one's perception of fairness?

The injustice wound causes individuals to perceive that they are being treated unfairly, either within their family or in society at large. This can result in a victim mentality, where they expect future opportunities to be unequal or unfair.

How can the injustice wound manifest in adulthood?

In adulthood, the injustice wound can cause individuals to not fully show up or try for opportunities because they believe that things will always be unfair to them. This can result in them not putting in the effort or not asking for opportunities due to a perceived lack of fairness.

What is the betrayal wound, and how does it affect trust?

The betrayal wound develops when someone feels that trust has been broken, such as when promises are not kept. It leads to a lack of trust in others and can cause individuals to betray their own needs and feelings to please others, resulting in self-sabotage and lack of self-trust.