Why Do Narcissists Make You Leave

Summary

In this video, Lee Hammock, a diagnosed narcissist, discusses the reasons why narcissists may kick someone out of their lives. He explores various factors including boredom, the desire for a new supply, and the manipulation tactics that can lead to repeated cycles of breaking up and making up. Lee explains how narcissists may discard their partners to make room for new relationships, test loyalty, or simply to cause emotional chaos. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and breaking free from the toxic cycle to heal and regain control over one’s life.

Takeaways

• 😀 Narcissists may kick you out because they are simply done with you, often due to boredom or dissatisfaction, and want to move on to a new chapter in their life.
• 😀 Sometimes, narcissists discard you because they have a 'new supply,' i.e., a new partner or someone they find more appealing, even though this may not always be the case.
• 😀 The 'new supply' can be a combination of reasons like boredom or frustration with the current relationship, leading the narcissist to seek someone else.
• 😀 Even when narcissists kick you out, it doesn't always mean they're done with you; they may still recycle you as part of a cycle of emotional manipulation.
• 😀 Narcissists may kick you out to test your loyalty and emotional investment, creating arguments and chaos to see if you’ll fight to come back or beg for their attention.
• 😀 The cycle of being kicked out and pulled back in is often deliberate, as narcissists manipulate emotions, making you feel both desperate and validated at different times.
• 😀 Narcissists may even call or text you after kicking you out to maintain control, checking in or expressing fake concern to keep the manipulation going.
• 😀 If you continuously go back after being kicked out, you may become trapped in a trauma bond, making it increasingly harder to break free from the cycle.
• 😀 It can be psychologically damaging when narcissists end the relationship themselves, leaving you feeling abandoned and tricked after you’ve repeatedly returned to them.
• 😀 The best way to break the cycle is to be the one to end the relationship, as relying on the narcissist to do so can leave you hurt, confused, and stuck in the cycle longer.

Q & A

Why do narcissists sometimes kick you out or end relationships abruptly?

Narcissists may kick you out or end a relationship abruptly for a variety of reasons, including being done with you, boredom, or having a new supply. They might feel that you are no longer serving their needs, or they may want to start fresh with someone else.

Can narcissists be done with you without having a new partner in mind?

Yes, narcissists can be done with you even if they don't have a new partner lined up. Sometimes they simply grow bored or frustrated, feel that the relationship is no longer serving them, or are looking for a new chapter in their life.

What role does boredom play in a narcissist's decision to kick someone out?

Chronic boredom is common in narcissists. When they become bored with a relationship or feel that it no longer excites them, they might discard their partner in search of something more stimulating or fulfilling, even if it’s just temporarily.

How does the 'new supply' factor into a narcissist's decision to discard you?

The 'new supply' refers to a new person that a narcissist may find to fulfill their emotional and/or material needs. If a narcissist finds someone new, they may kick you out to make room for them, often believing that the grass is greener on the other side, even if it's not truly better.

Is it possible that a narcissist kicks you out to test your loyalty or love?

Yes, narcissists sometimes kick you out to test how much you care for them. They might start an argument or create drama to provoke a response from you, hoping that you’ll fight to stay or show them that you care through obsessive behavior, such as constant communication or emotional outbursts.

What is 'recycled supply,' and how does it relate to being kicked out by a narcissist?

'Recycled supply' refers to the narcissist's tendency to discard someone and later attempt to pull them back into the relationship. After kicking you out, they may try to rekindle things, testing your attachment or even using you for a temporary boost to their ego.

How do narcissists manipulate their ex-partners after kicking them out?

After kicking you out, narcissists often manipulate you by reaching out with messages of concern, claiming they still love you, or pretending to care about your well-being. This behavior can confuse you and lead to a cycle of emotional manipulation, where they make you feel guilty or unsure about the breakup.

What is the cycle of 'push-pull' in a narcissistic relationship, and how does it affect you?

The 'push-pull' cycle in a narcissistic relationship involves the narcissist alternately pushing you away and pulling you back in. This constant back-and-forth creates emotional confusion, making it difficult for you to break free and often strengthening the trauma bond between you and the narcissist.

How does being repeatedly kicked out and allowed back in affect the victim?

Repeatedly being kicked out and let back in can lead to emotional exhaustion, desensitizing you to the narcissist's behavior. Over time, you might start to expect the cycle and stop taking the narcissist's actions seriously, only to face the permanent end of the relationship when they stop letting you back in.

What should you do if a narcissist keeps kicking you out and letting you back in?

If a narcissist continuously kicks you out and lets you back in, it's essential to recognize the toxic pattern and take action to stop the cycle. You need to establish boundaries, protect your emotional well-being, and consider ending the relationship for good, even if it’s painful or difficult.