Will I Ever Find True Love? | Why Me? EP. 13 | Dr. Omar Suleiman | A Ramadan Series on Qadar

Summary

This script explores the concepts of love, soulmates, and divine decree in Islam, reflecting on the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and Islamic scholars. It discusses the idea that souls are like conscripted soldiers, drawn to each other based on natural affinity, and how love can evolve from playful beginnings to deep, serious connections. The script emphasizes that love, though a test, is ultimately a divine blessing, and while not everyone will find romantic love in this life, Allah's plan for each person is perfect, with some soulmates destined for the afterlife.

Takeaways

• 😀 Love and relationships are part of Allah's divine decree; they are not just the result of personal desires but are written by Allah even before our birth.
• 😀 The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) taught that souls are like conscripted soldiers, drawn to one another based on divine affinity, meaning soulmates may be part of Allah's plan.
• 😀 True love in Islam is built on shared values like faith, respect, and character, and is best pursued in a halal, righteous manner.
• 😀 Love can begin with an organic spark, but over time, it evolves into something deeper and more serious, as described by Imam Al-Hazm.
• 😀 Not all relationships are destined to succeed, even when there is mutual attraction or passion. Some love stories, like that of Mugheeth and Bareerah, are meant to end differently.
• 😀 Trusting Allah's plan is essential, even when romantic love seems unattainable. Contentment with what Allah decrees, whether in this life or the next, brings peace.
• 😀 There are examples in Islamic history of individuals, like Maryam (AS) and Asiya (AS), who did not marry, yet their worth and significance remained unquestionable.
• 😀 Fulfillment in life does not necessarily come from marriage. Many great scholars, like Imam Al-Nawawi and Ibn Tammiyah, remained unmarried and still achieved great heights.
• 😀 Love for the sake of Allah is the noblest form of love, and shared passion for righteous deeds can bring people together in the most meaningful ways.
• 😀 The concept of rizq (provision) applies to love; it may not be decreed for everyone in this life, but trust that Allah has a perfect plan for each individual, in this world or the next.

Q & A

What is the concept of 'love at first sight' according to the script?

The script acknowledges the idea of love at first sight but emphasizes that love, particularly in Islam, is ultimately a divine decree and not always under human control. It suggests that while a spark may seem natural, true love is part of Allah's plan and occurs within the boundaries set by Him.

What does the hadith 'Al Arwha janoodun mujanada' mean?

'Al Arwha janoodun mujanada' translates to 'souls are like conscripted soldiers,' indicating that souls are naturally drawn to one another based on an inherent affinity. This implies that relationships, including romantic ones, may be destined by Allah.

What does the story of the two women, one in Makkah and one in Madinah, illustrate about soulmates in Islam?

The story highlights the concept that souls with similar dispositions are naturally attracted to each other. The Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) used this story to explain the idea that souls are destined to connect with others who share their essence, further supporting the idea of soulmates in Islam.

How does the Qur'an describe the relationship between spouses?

The Qur'an describes marriage as a sign of Allah's mercy and love, where spouses are created for one another to find tranquility, affection, and mercy. This relationship is meant to reflect the divine attributes of Allah, particularly His love (Al-Wadud) and mercy (Ar-Rahman).

What does Imam Al-Hazm say about the nature of love?

Imam Al-Hazm states that love begins as something playful and lighthearted, but gradually matures into something deeper and more serious. He also highlights that the experience of love is profound and cannot be fully understood except through personal experience.

What role does divine decree play in the process of falling in love?

The script emphasizes that love is a test from Allah, and while humans may experience the feeling of falling in love, the ultimate control over this emotion rests with Allah. As long as the relationship is pursued in a halal (permissible) manner, it can be seen as a blessing within the boundaries of marriage.

How does the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) view the pursuit of marriage?

The Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) encourages individuals to seek marriage based on religious character and compatibility. While physical attraction is important, the foundation of a successful marriage is built on shared values, faith, and character.

What lessons can we learn from the story of Mugheeth and Bareerah?

The story of Mugheeth and Bareerah teaches that love and relationships are not solely about desire. Despite Mugheeth's deep love for Bareerah, their marriage was not meant to be, and the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) did not force them to reconcile. This story reinforces the idea that not all love stories are meant to be realized in this life, and divine will plays a key role.

What does the script suggest about the concept of soulmates and marriage?

The script acknowledges the concept of soulmates, but it asserts that marriage and romantic relationships are subject to divine will. Not everyone is destined to marry in this life, and it is important to be content with whatever Allah has decreed, whether that means marriage or remaining single.

How does the story of Abu Huraira relate to the theme of patience and divine timing in marriage?

The story of Abu Huraira highlights that even when one faces hardship, such as poverty preventing marriage, it is ultimately Allah's timing that governs when certain blessings, like marriage, will be granted. Patience and trust in Allah's plan are key themes, as Abu Huraira eventually found his spouse in due time, according to Allah's decree.