The BEST Time To Approach A Girl..
Summary
TLDRThe video focuses on the best and worst times for men to approach women, discussing how timing and context matter. It highlights poor moments, like at night or during funerals, and contrasts them with ideal scenarios, such as approaching women with their friends. The speaker shares personal experiences, emphasizing the need for confidence and timing in social interactions. He also offers insights on avoiding common mistakes and navigating social dynamics, promoting his socializing courses as a way to improve these skills for dating success.
Takeaways
- 😀 People often feel self-conscious about how they appear, especially when wearing certain clothing, and may seek validation from others.
- 😕 It's important to be aware of when is the right or wrong time to approach someone, such as avoiding approaching a woman alone at night, which can come across as unsafe or intimidating.
- 🤔 Overthinking or talking yourself out of approaching someone due to fear or insecurity can lead to missed opportunities.
- 😊 Approaching someone during the day, such as on a lunch break, is often more successful as it feels more casual and comfortable.
- 😬 Avoid making inappropriate or insensitive advances, especially in settings like funerals or workplaces, as it can lead to awkwardness or discomfort.
- 👥 It's easier to approach women when they are in groups with friends, as they feel safer and more comfortable in social settings.
- 😄 Winning over a woman's friends can greatly increase your chances of success, as peer influence plays a strong role in decision-making.
- 😎 Confidence is key when approaching women, and learning from experience helps identify what works and what doesn't in social interactions.
- 💬 Social skills can be improved by following strategies, frameworks, and understanding timing, such as through communities or courses that teach socializing techniques.
- 🔑 Timing and context are crucial, and being aware of the social dynamics at play can make or break an interaction, especially when approaching women in public settings.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video script?
-The main topic of the video is advice on when and how to approach women in various social settings, along with common mistakes men make when approaching women.
Why does the speaker advise against approaching women at night?
-The speaker advises against approaching women at night because women feel more vulnerable during this time and may perceive men approaching them as a potential threat, leading to discomfort or fear.
What alternative times does the speaker suggest for approaching women?
-The speaker suggests approaching women during the day, particularly around lunchtime or in the morning on weekends, when women are generally more comfortable and open to conversations.
Why does the speaker believe that approaching women with a friend is better than approaching them alone?
-The speaker believes that approaching women with a friend is better because women feel safer and more comfortable in groups. Additionally, winning over a woman's friend can increase the chances of success, as friends often influence each other's decisions.
What does the speaker warn against when meeting women at work or school?
-The speaker warns against approaching women at work or school, especially when newly starting a job or class. He explains that it can be awkward and may damage a professional or academic reputation if done prematurely or incorrectly.
What key mistake do men often make when talking to women at the gym?
-Men often make the mistake of asking women out too quickly at the gym without getting to know them first. Women may feel uncomfortable being approached in this setting as they prefer to get to know someone over time in a place they frequently visit.
How does the speaker suggest handling conversations with women in groups?
-The speaker suggests involving both women in the conversation, bouncing between them to keep both engaged. This helps to create a positive dynamic where the women feel comfortable, increasing the chances of forming a connection.
Why does the speaker discourage approaching a woman immediately after she ends a relationship?
-The speaker discourages this because women are often emotionally vulnerable after a breakup and may not be ready for a new relationship. Approaching them too soon can come across as insensitive or opportunistic.
What humorous example does the speaker use to highlight bad times to approach women?
-The speaker humorously mentions approaching a woman at a funeral and making an inappropriate comment like 'If you're looking for a new Daddy, what's up?' to emphasize how bad timing can ruin an approach.
What advantage does the speaker claim about approaching two women at once?
-The speaker claims that approaching two women at once is advantageous because most men are too nervous to try it. It reduces competition and allows the man to engage with both women, making it easier to build rapport.
Outlines
👕 Debating the 'Gay' Shirt
The speaker starts by discussing a light-hearted debate with friends about whether a shirt makes him appear 'gay.' He asks for opinions on the shirt, focusing on its style and patterns, especially the roses, and engages in playful banter. The conversation briefly shifts to flirtatious comments with two women, Charlize and Samantha. The speaker jokes about relationships, asks for a number despite knowing one of them has a boyfriend, and ends on a humorous note involving a laundry bag.
🕒 Timing Your Approach
The speaker transitions into advice about the best and worst times to approach women, emphasizing that nighttime is a terrible time, especially if a woman is alone. He shares an anecdote of a client who repeatedly failed by approaching women late at night and highlights the importance of choosing safer, less stressful times, like lunch breaks or mornings. The speaker uses humor to emphasize inappropriate times, such as funerals, and underscores that night approaches often cause discomfort due to women's concerns about personal safety.
🏢 Avoid Workplace Blunders
The speaker warns against approaching women immediately after starting a new job or school, explaining that being too forward in these environments can lead to rejection or worse, being labeled as unprofessional. He advises a more strategic approach and hints at his specialized courses that teach the correct way to navigate such interactions. He also mentions that approaching women at gyms requires tact and patience since these environments foster repeated encounters, and rushing into a romantic advance may backfire.
💔 Timing Around Breakups
The speaker discusses why it's crucial to be cautious when approaching women who have recently exited relationships. Many women, he explains, are emotionally vulnerable after a breakup and aren’t ready to date right away, even if they seem interested. He mentions that some women do seek rebounds, but they will make that clear. His advice is to not assume rejection is about personal inadequacies but often a matter of timing and respect for her emotional state.
🚏 The Best Times to Approach Women
The speaker suggests that the best time to approach women can often be spontaneous and situational, giving an example of starting a conversation after witnessing a funny or awkward moment. He shares a playful scenario of meeting a girl at a bus stop and turning it into an opportunity for connection. While serendipity can play a role, he emphasizes the importance of approaching when women feel comfortable and not pressured.
👭 Approaching Women with Friends
Contrary to popular belief, the speaker argues that the best time to approach women is when they're with friends. Women feel safer and more comfortable in groups, which can lead to more positive interactions. He explains the psychological benefits of winning over a woman's friend, as women are often influenced by their peers’ opinions. The speaker shares insights into how group dynamics work in favor of making a good impression and why men should embrace, rather than fear, approaching women in groups.
🎯 Play the Long Game
The speaker gives detailed advice on how to engage with a group of women by speaking to both the woman of interest and her friend(s). This tactic allows for more natural conversation and helps gauge interest while reducing rejection risks. He even jokes about switching attention to a different woman if the original target has a boyfriend, promoting adaptability in social settings. He reinforces that the fear of rejection in front of friends is something that should not deter men from taking action.
📉 Lack of Competition
The speaker highlights how most men are too intimidated to approach women in groups, giving those who do a significant advantage. He notes that as men become more reliant on digital dating platforms, the ability to approach women in real-life situations becomes rarer, meaning less competition for those who dare to try. The speaker wraps up with encouragement, acknowledging that overcoming fear and social awkwardness can lead to greater success in dating.
📢 Conclusion and Community Support
In closing, the speaker invites viewers to join his socializing community where he offers personalized feedback and advice. He mentions that he holds weekly calls and has hours of content designed to help men improve their social skills. The speaker emphasizes that his courses go deeper into the strategies outlined in the video and offers ongoing support for men looking to develop confidence and success in their interactions with women.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Approach Timing
💡Social Anxiety
💡Nighttime Approaches
💡Friend Influence
💡Rejection
💡Group Dynamics
💡Self-doubt
💡Rebound Relationships
💡Socializing Skills
💡Peer Pressure
Highlights
Debate over whether the shirt worn by the speaker makes them look 'gay' and the friend's reaction to it.
The speaker introduces themselves as Charlize, and humorously contrasts their name with Charlotte.
Charlize flirts with a woman, who eventually reveals that she has a boyfriend, leading to a humorous conversation.
The speaker mocks how many guys struggle with talking to girls, and addresses men's fears of rejection in social settings.
Key insight: Approaching girls at night is generally a bad idea due to safety concerns, and the speaker explains why it’s a negative context.
The importance of choosing appropriate times to approach women, such as during lunch breaks or mornings on weekends, as demonstrated by a successful dating example.
Humorous scenario of how approaching girls at a funeral is a 'bad time' and why certain social situations should be avoided.
Addressing misconceptions that new coworkers who are friendly might be interested romantically; advice on avoiding asking out colleagues on your first day.
Emphasizing why it’s usually a bad idea to approach women right after they’ve ended a relationship, noting emotional sensitivity during breakups.
An extreme example of a ‘perfect’ random moment to approach someone, like commenting on an unexpected event (e.g., a man getting splashed by a puddle).
The best time to approach women is when they are with a friend, as this makes them feel safe and boosts confidence.
The speaker emphasizes peer influence among women, explaining how a friend's opinion can affect whether a woman will date someone.
Strategies for engaging both a woman and her friend in conversation to ease interaction and potentially win over both.
Explains why fewer men approach groups of women, and how successfully doing so can give someone an advantage over others.
Mentions resources and a community where men can learn strategies to approach women and socialize effectively, including courses and personalized feedback.
Transcripts
guys can you help me settle a debate
see the shirt I'm wearing
my friend makes me believe that I look
gay
in it
do you think I look like I'm more
inclined to like penis
or less inclined
just based on the shirt
like turn around if you want
I mean like
I wouldn't be like he's gay but I like I
get like it's more gay than other shirts
you think so yeah yeah what about like
the little roses or
it's more patterned
I like your guy's shirts like blue
thanks well I mean that looks pretty
good to be honest but this is very gay
yeah yeah well
what's your name I'm Charlize oh that's
it I thought you're gonna say Charlotte
that's it
plot twist what's your name
Samantha nice to meet you guys uh you
guys got to go to like nursing class
right now or nope you're going home are
you nurses I am I'm not
oh you just carry the nurse stuff Eh
this is not your nursing it's not no no
no what's in there laundry not you
well I like your shirt you don't like my
shirt I did say
it
well maybe someday we'll fall in love
talking about shirts over a warm cup of
coffee
probably a month from now when it's a
little bit colder and sweater season
comes around that way I won't be wearing
okay shirts yeah I have a boyfriend I
know I just want to make her jealous oh
okay yeah okay I like you laundry bag
could I get your number
I'm gay
you gotta get this buddy look at that
boys Dick's out for Jim Dicker Jim ah
Thorn Jesus Jim dick out
Dick's out for Jim all right so it's 20
23 and you still get zero [ __ ] dude
not good what are we doing man have a
seat bro I know you want to click away
right now I get it bro your attention
span is shot you're scared you're
nervous really cool I need some more
dopamine and you start scrolling the
suggested feed on the side just chill
bro just relax in this video I'm going
to teach you the best time to approach
girls and if you watch until the end I'm
gonna make sure that you never talk
yourself out of approaching a girl
because you say to yourself oh it's not
the right time do you know how many
times I've thought about this myself
over the years how many times I was at
the grocery store or like walking down
the street and there was a girl that was
cute and I wanted to go and say
something to her but I was like it's not
the right time she looks like she's busy
or oh I'm so short or oh she looks like
she has a boyfriend you know like all
these little parasites crawl into your
brain and eventually I got so sick of
this that I started researching guides I
started buying horses I started asking
friends of mine and most importantly I
started actually going and talking to
girls and I would notice sometimes I
would get rejected sometimes I would be
successful but over time I realized that
there were patterns like why is it that
every time I do this girls don't want to
talk to me but when I do this they do if
I had to do a lot of approaches myself
in order to know what the best times
were and what the worst times were and
that's what I'm going to share with you
today what is the worst time to approach
a girl and that is at night time by
herself just imagine being a girl okay
especially a hot girl everywhere you go
you're getting attention from guys you
got creepy old dudes you got these
autistic guys like oh look at your tits
and then you also have just people
staring at you but they don't say
anything so it's like this awkward like
okay this guy's talking to me but he
won't even like look me in the eye and
he's like kind of being mischievous this
makes girls nervous it makes them feel
creeped out dude and this is especially
prevalent at night time girls are like
terrified of somebody coming up and like
stabbing them or whatever at night time
and some guys are too it also depends
what country you live in I mean in
Canada it's very safe but for the most
part at night time girls do not want to
be approached because they just
instantly think that it's somebody
that's gonna try and Rob them or attack
them I had a client and he was
struggling to meet girls and he would
say every night I go out and talk to
girls for an hour and I was like wait a
second you said night time right he's
like yeah and I'm like okay what time
he's like usually like go home shower
and then like 9 9 30. I'm like bro it's
night time okay this guy's going and
talking to girls that are like on
nighttime jogs or like they're just
getting off of work and they're like
trying to run into their apartment like
dude no no no no it's night there's
nobody around it's not safe and it's
like the worst possible time to approach
girls so what I had him do was talk to
girls during his lunch break which was
like 12 to 1 and then on weekends go out
in the mornings and within a couple days
she had several dates lined up a couple
weeks later he's got a girlfriend right
and he never would have realized that
because every time he was going and
talking to a girl they were like
literally running away from him because
it was night time bro another bad time
to approach a girl is when she's at a
funeral duh just had to slide that one
in there like hey I'm so sorry about uh
your dad but if you're looking for a new
Daddy then uh what's up
dude don't be that guy all right look if
any of you guys have ever [ __ ] the
girl at a funeral besides your cousin
nice try Bobby all right not you please
leave a comment below tell us how you
pulled a girl from a funeral the next
place is gonna be at a job or school
when you just started the biggest
mistake I've seen guys make is they get
a new job and everybody at their job is
nice to them because hey like you're the
new guy like hey what's up man welcome
to the group right and then there's
always that one hot girl at the office
and you're like oh wow she's so nice to
me dude she wants to [ __ ] like that
autistic part of your brains like just
started a new job girls are nice to me
oh she wants my [ __ ] and then you go and
ask out this girl and then she destroys
you right away she's like um I'm sorry
but I don't date people from work or I
have a boyfriend or uh no what the [ __ ]
dude you just joined here seriously
Melvin and then instantly you're that
guy that asks out the hot girl first day
on the job and gets rejected you might
even get fired bro so that's another
time it's just bad there are ways to
meet girls at work and ask them out but
it has to be done the right way and this
is something that I teach guys how to do
in my socializer community I have my
Denver Social course my infield unlocked
course and my new socializer course 20
hours long and there's lots of videos of
like how to approach girls and talk to
them broken down step by step but I also
have all these strategies and Frameworks
so that you know how to properly ask out
girls that you have a crush on but you
work with them or you go to school with
them or they're at your gym for example
that's another mistake a lot of guys
make they go and talk to a girl at the
gym and they ask her out right away
without realizing that the girl probably
would be interested in you but at the
same time she doesn't want to
necessarily have to have you like follow
her around every time she goes to the
gym or she might not know you well
enough yet because she knows that she's
going to be able to see you multiple
times at the gym or at the office or
whatever and she doesn't want to have to
make that decision right then and right
there if she likes you or not so a lot
of the time you guys are doing things
that in theory would work but you're
just not following the correct strategy
so that's what socializing does really
well and you can learn more about that
in the description below and I'm just
going to throw this in there too when a
girl just gets out of a relationship
sometimes you'll go and talk to a girl
and everything seems fine but she's just
like I'm actually I'm not interested
right and you're like oh it's because
I'm short or uglier no a lot of the time
it's because she just got out of a
relationship girls are very sensitive
like imagine how sensitive you are and
then multiply that by like 20. that's
the average woman bro they have emotions
they get very like sad and upset and
breakups are very hard for them and
because of that they don't want to date
a guy immediately after getting out of a
breakup sometimes that could be months
bro a lot of girls are very based and
they don't just give up their body to
anybody so they take their relationships
very seriously they only date guys that
they would would be with long term so
they're not interested in one night
stands or quick hookups and stuff and if
they just got out of a relationship or
they're working on themselves then they
are not going to want to date you so do
not be that guy that swoops in instantly
when that girl that you used to know
just removed the photos with her
boyfriend from Instagram I know that
sometimes girls are looking for a
rebound but if she wants to Rebound with
you then she'll let you know okay if you
meet a girl and she's like super down to
hang out and she wants to [ __ ] right
away maybe she's using you as a rebound
but there are girls out there that do
like you but it's just too soon because
they just got out of relationship now
let's talk about the best time to
approach girls well I gotta say bro it's
always the best time to approach girls
because I don't want to tell you this is
the best way and then you go oh well
denmo said that this is the best way if
this is not the best way that I'm not
doing it because sometimes approaches
just are perfect timing right like
you're at a bus stop and you're standing
there and then a girl walks up next to
you to get on the bus and then some guy
across the street gets splashed with a
puddle and instantly you two saw it and
you can start a conversation like holy
[ __ ] did you see that guy he just got
soaked and she'll be like yeah oh my God
I'd be like yo look listen and then you
move her back a little bit from the
street look I don't want you to get
soaked either all right so I'm gonna
stand in front of you okay I'll be your
uh your Splash shield and she'll be like
oh my God you're so nice and you're like
yeah what's up what's going on and then
you guys sit next to each other on the
bus ride which happens to be 40 minutes
you get to know each other by the end of
it you exchange numbers and then you
marry her and put five babies in a bit
of an extreme example there hope you
like that zoom in effect too but most of
the time God doesn't bless us with that
so what's the next best time the best
time to approach girls in my opinion
after doing this thousands of times is
when girls are with their friend and I
know right away you're like whoa [ __ ]
this guy click off like smash your
computer like no no this is actually the
best time because girls are like I said
before afraid of being approached by Bad
Guys by burglars by criminals by you
know Psychopaths homeless people
whatever and that is why they always go
out with a friend they always need to
have somebody with them it's for safety
it's for protection but let's be honest
it's also because girls like to have
other people around them because it
boosts their confidence the same way it
boosts your confidence bro like I
remember when I used to go out by myself
to clubs I was like a Sitting Duck dude
I was terrified of people going oh that
guy's Alone look at that loser right so
I'd go out with my friends because when
you're with your friends you got your
boys with you you feel good and if you
get rejected you can joke with them like
oh dude I just got destroyed and you
also have somebody to talk to so that
way when people look at you they don't
look at you like a loser because you're
by yourself girls are the same way man
so they are obsessed with always hanging
out with other people and that's also
just their nature girls are very good at
socializing and communicating with each
other men are not we're very independent
we do stuff by ourselves so when a girl
is with her friend that means she feels
safe she feels comfortable and in
addition to this which is my other
favorite part here you can win over her
friend girls base a lot of their
decisions off of what their friends
think it's called peer pressure it's
called influence it's just human nature
bro and if a girl meets you she will
have to kind of sell the idea of you to
her friend you know they're going for a
run on the weekend after for getting
brunch like oh yeah like meet any new
guys well yeah I did meet this uh by the
way let's hope your girl doesn't sound
like that I did meet this one guy his
name was uh John oh yeah what does he do
well he's a plumber oh girl run not the
[ __ ] on plumbers bro I know I made that
post about you guys a couple days ago
shout out to all my boys in the trades
but girls do talk about you to their
friends so if they don't get a good
feeling about you they're gonna be like
man and the girl's gonna not date you or
not want to as much the unique
opportunity of meeting a girl in real
life allows her to make that decision
based on how she feels in the moment
which is why meeting girls in real life
is the absolute best way to do it and by
the way my prediction for 2024 even more
guys are going to be single and lonely
because dating apps are just going to
keep getting harder and harder and guys
are gonna continuously be socially
[ __ ] and unable to talk to girls and
meet them but this is also true when you
talk to a girl when she's with her
friend because you can make her friend
laugh you can make her laugh you can
involve both of them in the conversation
at once like I did in that clip showing
you before and that way they're all
involved and they're like participating
as opposed to like you trying to like
wait for a girl to be by herself then go
up and talk to her right I understand it
can be nerve-wracking to talk to a girl
when she's with her friend because if
she rejects you then her friend is going
to see it too and then they're both
gonna look at you and then in your
imagination you're gonna be like oh
they're talking about me they're
laughing about how cringe I was like
yeah maybe but who gives a [ __ ] dude why
were you letting that one potential
outcome dictate your entire life because
you're afraid of a girl judging you dude
that's no way to live but if you use my
system like I've shown you in that clip
before that's like a little taste of it
you know just me kind of like talking to
the friend and her as well but I have a
whole system that teaches you how to
like talk to a girl with her friend that
way you can get the friend's approval
and it's also so much easier to have a
conversation because you have two people
to bounce off of when you talk to one
girl and then you talk to another girl
they're both replying to you at the same
time and you can choose to engage one or
choose to the other so in these clips
that are within my community you'll see
me talking to one girl and then talk to
the other but then the girl I like I'll
be replying to her but then I'll also
reply to her friend and when I'm
replying to her friend she starts paying
attention to that conversation and
she'll actually laugh based on what I
say to her friend which again if a girl
laughs at you that's an amazing sign
that she is into you it just makes it so
much easier and it just gives you more
to work with and this is also the secret
bonus here secret bonus dude is that
sometimes one girl the one that you
originally had your eyes on she has a
boyfriend right but her friend is still
cute not as cute as that one that you
originally saw but dude like I'd still
hit it you know so what you can do is
actually maneuver throughout the
conversation to find out which one of
them is single that way you still get a
hot date with a gorgeous girl even if
it's not the one that you originally
wanted to talk to now this is a risky
move you have to know what you're doing
I've done in a couple of my videos over
the years it's pretty [ __ ] jokes when
it does happen but I'm telling you the
best time to approach girls is when
they're with their friends and in
addition to this you don't actually have
to worry that much about other guys
doing this because number one they all
have short attention spans and they
didn't even make it past the first 30
seconds of this video so since you did
you get another props dude is that two
props in one video holy comment this
comma two fists below and because most
guys are unable to get through a video
like this they don't learn this so they
see a group of two girls and they're
like ah I can't do it which means less
competition for you you very rarely see
a guy go and talk to a group of two
girls but you have definitely seen
before one guy go and talk to one girl
so the advantage here is you have less
competition first of all most guys do
not have the balls to go and talk to
girls anyways but even less than the
guys that can do that can go and talk to
two girls at once and if you can go and
talk to two girls at once you will all
of the sudden have such an advantage
over every other man that is trying to
meet and get a girlfriend because you
can do something that they can't and
since girls are mostly with their
friends anyways that means there's way
less opportunities to meet them when
they're by themselves which means you
have more time to approach the girl no I
know I say this as a matter of fact as
if like there's no exceptions to the
rule but if you disagree with me and you
want to leave your opinion in the
comments below definitely I do bro
because I'm trying to get better at this
get better at teaching it to you and at
the end of the day if you have something
that you think would also be a good
point that others should learn then
please comment that below as well in the
meantime though I'll be in the
socializing Community I do three hours
of calls every single week so I can help
you with your issues specifically give
you personalized feedback answer your
questions plus you get hours and hours
all that and more in the socializing
community so that's where I am if you
ever want to talk to me and I'll see you
in the next video bro
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