How to stop overthinking
Summary
TLDRThe video discusses how overthinking and anxious thoughts can negatively impact one's life. The speaker shares personal experiences of overcoming overthinking by realizing that different people have varying perceptions of the same person or situation. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness, voicing feelings in the moment, managing triggers, and focusing on facts rather than emotions. Practical tips include journaling, meditation, and seeking help when needed. The speaker encourages viewers to trust life's process, believe in themselves, and avoid comparing themselves to others on social media.
Takeaways
- 🤔 Overthinking can create unnecessary stress and manifest situations that were never meant to happen.
- 🌟 People have different perceptions of you based on their experiences, so don't take things personally.
- 🗣️ Voice your thoughts in the moment to prevent resentment and unnecessary overthinking.
- 📝 Journaling or creating art can help externalize thoughts and reduce overthinking.
- 🧐 Identify the root cause of your fears to understand why you overthink certain situations.
- 📊 Focus on facts rather than feelings to gain a clearer perspective and reduce overthinking.
- 💡 Visualize negative thoughts as bubbles and 'pop' them to dismiss overthinking.
- 🌱 Accept that not everything is within your control and that's okay; life has a plan.
- 🙏 Ask for help when you need it; it's a sign of strength, not weakness.
- 🧘♀️ Practice yoga, meditation, and breathing exercises to calm your mind and reduce overthinking.
- 🌱 Realize that life works itself out and overthinking only creates more stress.
- 🙅♀️ Stop trying to be perfect and accept that everyone has different perceptions of what's perfect.
- 📱 Limit social media usage to reduce comparisons and overthinking about others' lives.
Q & A
What is the main issue the speaker addresses in the video?
-The speaker addresses the problem of overthinking and how it can ruin one's life, sharing personal experiences and strategies to overcome it.
How does the speaker describe the impact of overthinking on their life?
-The speaker describes overthinking as a process that led to the manifestation of negative situations and feelings of anxiety, which were not based in reality.
What is the first realization the speaker suggests to prevent overthinking?
-The speaker suggests realizing that no one knows you completely and different people have different perceptions of you, which can help in not overthinking situations.
Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of voicing thoughts in the moment?
-Voicing thoughts in the moment prevents resentment and unnecessary thoughts from accumulating, leading to a clearer mind and better mental health.
What role do the speaker's experiences with their mother play in their understanding of overthinking?
-The speaker uses their mother as an example to illustrate how different people can have different perceptions of the same person, which is a lesson in not overthinking others' opinions.
How does the speaker recommend dealing with negative emotions that lead to overthinking?
-The speaker recommends expressing negative emotions directly to the person involved, journaling, or creating art as a way to release those emotions.
What is the significance of understanding the source of one's fears according to the speaker?
-Understanding the source of fears helps in recognizing the root cause of overthinking, allowing one to address the underlying issues rather than the imagined scenarios.
Why does the speaker suggest looking at facts instead of feelings when overthinking?
-Looking at facts helps to ground oneself in reality and dispel the unrealistic scenarios created by overthinking, which are often based on fear and emotions.
What technique does the speaker's therapist recommend to deal with negative thoughts?
-The therapist recommends visualizing negative thoughts as bubbles and 'poking' them with a needle mentally to dismiss them quickly.
How does the speaker view the role of life's challenges in personal growth?
-The speaker sees life's challenges as lessons and opportunities for growth, believing that overthinking these challenges is unnecessary as they lead to personal development.
What is the speaker's advice on dealing with the fear of rejection?
-The speaker advises accepting that not everyone will like or accept you and to not let others' opinions define your reality.
Outlines
🤔 Overcoming Overthinking
The speaker shares their personal journey of being an overthinker and how it led to the manifestation of negative situations. They explain that overthinking can have serious consequences and share their method of learning to stop overthinking by trusting life. The speaker introduces the topic of the video, which is about helping viewers to stop overthinking. They emphasize that perceptions of oneself can vary greatly from person to person, and that overthinking often stems from trying to predict or control other people's opinions and actions. The speaker encourages viewers to voice their thoughts in the moment to prevent resentment and overthinking.
💭 Identifying the Source of Overthinking
The speaker delves into the reasons behind overthinking, such as attachment issues and fear of abandonment, using the example of waiting for a text message and the anxiety it can cause. They explain that overthinking often stems from past experiences and emotional triggers. The speaker advises looking at facts instead of feelings to combat overthinking and suggests techniques like journaling and creating art to express and release pent-up emotions. They also recommend understanding the root cause of fears and overthinking, and using visualization techniques to 'pop' negative thoughts like bubbles.
🧘♀️ Calming the Mind Through Physical Practices
The speaker discusses the importance of calming the mind through practices such as deep stomach breathing, yoga, and meditation. They explain how these activities can help relax the body and mind, reducing the tendency to overthink. The speaker also encourages going for walks in nature or spending time with pets as ways to find peace and reduce overthinking. They share their personal experiences of how life teaches lessons and how overthinking can be reduced by accepting that life works itself out.
🙏 Acceptance and Gratitude
The speaker talks about the importance of acceptance and gratitude in reducing overthinking. They explain that not getting what one wants might be because it was not meant for them, and that better opportunities may be on the way. The speaker encourages viewers to have faith that everything happens for a reason and to trust in a higher power to guide their lives. They also discuss the importance of not letting others' opinions define one's self-worth and to focus on personal growth and self-belief.
🚫 Avoiding Comparison and Embracing Individuality
The speaker addresses the negative impact of social media on mental health and the tendency to compare oneself to others, which can lead to overthinking and dissatisfaction. They advise viewers to stop comparing themselves to others and to focus on their own growth and gratitude. The speaker emphasizes that everyone has their own path and timing in life, and that comparing oneself to others does not lead to happiness. They conclude the video by encouraging viewers to love and appreciate themselves and to be grateful for their own journey.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Overthinking
💡Perception
💡Manifestation
💡Triggers
💡Resentment
💡Fear
💡Self-sabotage
💡Reality
💡Acceptance
💡Gratitude
Highlights
Overthinking can lead to manifesting negative situations that were never meant to happen.
Different versions of yourself exist in other people's minds; everyone has a unique perception of you.
Stop overthinking by understanding that no one truly knows anyone else; they only have experiences with others.
Voice your thoughts in the moment to prevent resentment and avoid filling your mind with unnecessary thoughts.
Overthinking stems from fear; identifying the root cause can help address it more effectively.
Look at facts rather than emotions when overthinking; emotions may cloud judgment, while facts clarify reality.
Overthinking can be reduced by imagining negative thoughts as bubbles and mentally 'popping' them.
Overthinking does not change the situation. Focus on the present and work toward solutions.
Ask for help when needed; it's a sign of strength, not weakness.
Lack of sleep or exhaustion can increase overthinking. Rest is essential for mental clarity.
Breathing exercises, yoga, and meditation are helpful tools to calm the mind and reduce overthinking.
Understand that life is working itself out for you, even if things don't happen as you initially wanted.
Acceptance of rejection and failure can bring peace; not everything is meant for you, but better things may be ahead.
Social media comparison worsens overthinking; focus on your own life and be grateful for what you have.
Gratitude for what you have is key to personal growth and avoiding the trap of comparison.
Transcripts
overthinking and anxious thoughts can
literally ruin your life I used to be a
huge overthinker I used to think that
this is going to happen this person
thinks this about me all these thoughts
would go through my head and I would
actually manifest those situations even
though they were never meant to happen
or I would manifest a person being angry
at me even though that was never the
case in the first place because in my
head I had already made that situ
situation up when it was never going to
happen overthinking can even lead to
such serious
consequences I learned how to stop
overthinking how to trust life and I'm
going to show you guys how you can do
the same thing in this video hi guys my
name is this and welcome back to my
Channel first thing I need you to
realize is no one knows you different
versions of you exist in everyone's head
see someone can look at my videos and
think wow that girl saved my life she's
amazing another person can look at me
and think I hate her she ruined me I
completely feel so lost because of her
why because they had a different
perception of me when they were
listening to me I'm the same person but
people have different experiences with
me it's the same way with other people
like for example imagine your mother
right if I ask you right now oh how is
your mother you will give me an answer
oh she's like this this is whatever
right but then I ask your sibling how is
your mother maybe they had a completely
different experience with her and they
have a completely different perception
of her but then who is your mother who
is
she you don't know I don't know and your
sibling doesn't know maybe your mother
doesn't even know who she is herself
that's why I think it's very foolish to
think of like oh why did they do do that
I would have never expected them to do
that oh why didn't that job hire me I
didn't expect that you didn't know them
you didn't know that person you had a
perception of them in your head but that
perception is not them that's your
experience with that person that is not
that person that is not that interviewer
that job interviewer that wanted to hire
you maybe thought Oh I thought they
liked me but they in their head had
completely different experience with you
start to understand that nobody knows
you and you don't know anyone we only
have perceptions of other people so in
that way you won't overthink situations
you can accept that Hey listen even
though I might have thought I did a
great job that other person didn't have
a great experience with me and that's
okay thing is voice your thoughts in the
moment so my sister said this to me
recently she said Liz the one thing that
I admire about you the most is the fact
that whenever you say something or
whenever you think something in the
moment you voice it you say it like if
something hurt me in the moment I will
say it oh I didn't like that I'm I'm not
really like I don't make a scene about
it I'm also a very chill person I don't
get offended easily but if I didn't like
something I'll tell you in the moment I
didn't like that please don't do that
this is also how resentment gets created
and then you become the kind of person
you're always angry at like minor things
because you didn't voice your opinion
when you were mistreated you collected
yourself back then so now all those
emotions will come up for the like the
minimum thing right I the reason why I
always voice my thoughts in the moment
and what I think is because I cannot
afford to let my brain be filled with
unnecessary thoughts I need this to be
free not only for my job but also just
for life and to have a peace of mind I
want to go to bed at night not thinking
about these things anymore if I tell you
in the moment moment I didn't like that
and we can resolve it right then and
there I'm happy I don't go to bed with
fight anger or res resentment because I
cannot afford that you feel triggered by
something or offended just say that to
the person that offended you or
triggered you like hey this is a trigger
for me hey this offended me there's
nothing wrong in voicing your opinion
another thing you can also do is Journal
about it before you go to bed like the
situation Journal write it down whatever
but make sure that it's out of here onto
something else you can even paint do
whatever create an art piece something
that removes the that makes the emotions
and the the thoughts in your head move
other thing you need to realize is where
is that trigger or fear coming from see
overthinking is basically creating
situations out of fear situations that
might never happen but you are fearful
of those situations sometimes people
overthink like for example
a guy didn't text you back fast enough
right and you start to overthink oh my
God he doesn't like me oh my God he he
doesn't want me anymore this that you
overthink and you create this crazy
scene in your head right and you start
to self- sabotage yourself where is this
coming from most likely you have
attachment issues most likely maybe a
parent has left your life an early age
and shown you that you like there was no
commitment towards you so now every
single partner you have you're scared
that they're going to leave you as well
so then you start to overthink and
that's where that fear is coming from
and that the the person not replying to
you fast enough that's triggering you
into that fear into
overthinking so when you start
overthinking something even if you have
a job right and that job didn't hire you
why does that trigger you so much why
where is that coming from maybe you feel
like oh they don't see me they they're
not they're not validating me the way
the way I wish they would validate me
this is making me feel less about myself
I want to feel worthy these are all
triggers like look at the base what is
behind the the reason that you're
overthinking everything other thing is
look at facts instead of feelings see
when we are overthinking we are acting
out of feelings right we're acting out
of triggers we're acting out of fear but
look at the facts that person probably
busy that's why he's not answering you
right now he's not going to leave you
that's a fact
um the that job they didn't hire you
because maybe they just found someone
better you were just not good enough for
that position does that mean you're not
good in enough enough in Life or you
will not get a better opportunity no
that's also a fact like when those
thoughts come up you have to ask
yourself okay this thought that I have
right now that I feel like they're going
to abandon me that I feel like I was not
worthy because of that job didn't hire
me is that true ask yourself is is this
what I'm thinking right now this thought
is it true other thing was like every
single time U my therapist actually she
thought this to me a thought would come
up that was like negative or bad or
whatever or even if I saw a negative
comment she said Liz imagine it like
with like a bubble in your head like a
thought coming up like a bubble and
you're poking it with a needle
immediately when it comes so imagine I
saw a bad comment right and it came to
my head I started overthinking poke I I
do like poke like it's I'm poking it
with a needle and and it really helped
me overthinking will not change the
situation what if does not
exist when you can sit there for hours
for days overthinking the situation
thinking oh this might happen this might
happen whatever but the only thing we
have right now is the present moment
what is happening right now is this
nothing else you being anxious about
what might happen in the future is not
real you might create those situations
because of your fear that's manifesting
it or you might actually start looking
at Solutions instead of the problem see
we have problems every single day right
we we had bigger problems that this we
had smaller problems that this but did
did you not fix them are you not still
here overthinking the situation can only
get worse if we allow it to get worse we
can just see there is a problem that
arises all of my successful friends they
do the same thing problem comes we solve
it okay how can we solve it how what can
we do what are the option bum bum bum
bum bum and we look at it you have to
especially with if you're big over
thinking you have to start thinking
quickly in these situations I've been
always in survival mode throughout my
childhood so for me this comes very
easily and very naturally I'm very good
at solving situations under stress don't
be afraid to ask for help ask for help
when you need help if if there's a
situation that arises and you feel like
oh my God I don't know what to do call
call someone ask someone uh ask someone
else to connect you with someone else to
help you don't be afraid to ask for help
you're not weak you're very strong
you're you're reaching out to people and
say Hey listen I can't handle this on my
own you know how much courage that takes
that is incredibly strong and people
will help you people will help you I've
been helped so many times by so many
people that I'm so grateful for and I
could not have been here without those
people so don't be shy to ask for help
thing is when you're overthinking calm
yourself down either go to sleep I've
noticed when I start overthinking a lot
it's also because I either I didn't have
good enough sleep or I'm just very tired
right now so then I start overthinking
when I go to sleep all those thoughts go
away because sometimes your body just
needs rest and that's why it's like
overthinking thinking weird thoughts
because you're just tired thing is with
breathing exercises my my yoga teacher
he actually taught me this like when
you're breathing we should actually
breathe through our stomach so that we
relax so when you breathe
in your stomach expands and then you
breathe out and your stomach goes in
again that really relaxes you if you do
that a couple of times your body will
relax other thing is yoga and meditation
yoga helps immensely with overthinking
and calming your body down when I
consistently do yoga I'm so so relaxed
like it calms your whole nervous system
down uh and meditation the same thing
just sitting there even for 5 minutes
closing your eyes and just realizing
that you're right now in the moment that
you're present and this is what we have
right now will calm you down immensely
go out for a walk in nature go watch the
sunset go to the beach go play with your
pet anything that can relax you in the
moment will help you immensely with
overthinking other thing is Life Works
itself out for you see I used to be ever
since I was young such a big overthinker
because I wanted to control life and I
want I wanted to control how everything
went I knew what I wanted and I was
going to get what I wanted but what did
I not anticipate was all the things that
I first had to go through to get where I
want I didn't plan those things but see
life did life needed to teach me lessons
life also humbled me in a big way so
that now that I am at this stage where I
have everything I still have humility I
don't look down on people and I don't
think that I'm better than anyone and so
that's also when I realized all those
years overthinking the situation all
those years thinking that this is how it
should have happened no when I look back
at my life it happened exactly the way
it was meant to happen exactly the way
and and I would have never predicted
this way for myself but this was the way
I needed it to come to this point so
it's the same way for you you might
think why are those things happening
right now that's not what I want this is
what I want it will never get better
blah blah it will but the lessons that
you're learning right now are crucial
for you you need those lessons you need
those lessons and you will only realize
that when you come to a state
that you get what you want and then you
will look back and be like you know what
I'm grateful for those lessons I'm
grateful I went through what I went
through because I would not be the
person that I am today another thing I
need you to realize is it was not meant
for
you stop overthinking why does this not
work why did that person leave my life
why did I not get this job it was not
meant for you you were not supposed to
have that thing and you were maybe you
were meant to have something much
greater but because you cannot let go of
why did I not get this thing that other
thing that was meant for you cannot come
in way I see Life Is God is always
protecting me and whatever is removed
from my life or whatever opportunity I
didn't get is because God is giving me
something bigger this is my mentality
and 100% I believe this and every single
time my theory has been proved proven
right because God has not failed me God
has my back and I believe
this sometimes when people leave
sometimes when you don't get that job
it's not meant for you and have peace
with that you need to start accepting
that people will not like you some
people will not like you some people
will dislike you for no reason some
people will not give you that job
because they don't like you people will
discriminate you people will be racist
to you people will not accept you as you
are but that does not happen have to
Define you you don't have to take their
perception of you as your reality you
are not what they're telling you you are
not their version of you start having
peace with the fact that not every job
is going to like you not every brand
whatever is going to like you because
you don't fit their standards they they
want to be with someone else and that is
also okay the more you start accepting
that people will re reject you because
that's just humans that's human nature
not everyone will like us the more
easier life
becomes and the more you start thinking
No it should be like this oh no I should
have this you're thinking in
lack why are you thinking in lack do you
think because that person walked out of
your life God will not provide you with
someone else do you think because you
didn't get that job God will not provide
you with a better job do we as humans
think so small minded why do we think of
God as someone so small people are
building huge things spaceships uh like
even an airplane how do you even build
an airplane I don't know how do you
build buildings that's that's like
insane
skyscrapers you think people are capable
of doing the craziest stuff but God will
not fix your life understand that you're
not your failure you know like okay what
it didn't work out okay ant you start
that business didn't work out okay ant
you were married before for years on end
it didn't work out okay a you think you
can't do that again you think you can't
get better
again why do you guys think so small
start thinking bigger for yourself you
think you were created and put on this
Earth to just suffer no I don't believe
that I think we were put on this Earth
to have the best life possible and I
think God is backing us like crazy but
you guys never asked ask you guys don't
even ask other people you guys don't
even ask God you guys don't ask anyone
and then you're like oh why is my life
so hard ask ask for the biggest things
these people are not special the money
and stuff all these things are not
special those things come to those who
believe in themselves those things come
to those who believe in God and believe
that God is backing them those are the
ones that get it because they're like
yeah life is going to be great for me
yeah it should be great because I'm
alive that should be your mentality my
life should be great because I am alive
so let go of trying to be perfect you're
trying to be perfect trying to do this
perfect this and that you might create
something and you think that's perfect
in your eyes someone will comment on it
and say that's the worst thing I've ever
seen in my life once you start
understanding that you'll never be
perfect because every single person has
a different perception of what perfect
is that's when you can fully let go of
trying to impress or trying to be
perfect if you're waiting to be perfect
you'll never get it done because you
won't even start cuz nothing is
perfect you do it and do it wrong do it
badly let people even laugh at
you but at least make sure that whatever
you're doing you're you're standing
behind it that you love it that's the
most important thing if you whatever you
do you would buy it yourself or you
would watch your videos yourself or you
think that whatever you're doing is
interesting that's when it will sell
because you believe in your own product
another thing is you are not their
opinion see maybe your parents have told
you you're not good enough maybe your
teacher maybe uh I don't know who told
you you're not good enough your crazy ex
um your friends whoever made you feel
like you're not good enough you're not
their opinion you are not their opinion
you don't F that reality for yourself
you have to reaffirm to yourself I am
the greatest I am so good I'm amazing
I'm mesmerizing I will get everything I
want you know I grew up in a situation
where everything was so bad like I
looked around me everyone was suffering
everyone was getting abused and I was
like but in my head I was like oh
I'm going to make it I'm going to make
it I'm going to make it I would even
listen to motivational videos of that
will tell that would tell me I'm going
to make it every single day I would go
to my shitty job that I hated so much I
would go there like at 5:00 a.m. I would
walk there um I'll would go there and I
would listen to these people screaming
these men screaming at me you're going
to make it you're going to be amazing
this that I would constantly listen to
it and reaffirm it to myself because
when you have no hope anymore
reaffirming to yourself that everything
is going to be okay is actually what
makes you feel feel sane in an insane
situation last but not least social
media is making everyone crazy see
listen social media made it so easy for
everyone to compare our lives and then
you start to overthink your life because
you think oh my God they're at this age
doing this already and you can see it
and then you're like oh my God I'm too
late I can't do it I will not find love
because I'm not old or whatever stop
stop whatever people are portraying on
social media I know many people that
have this social media platform that are
so unhappy in real life but on their all
social medias they look so happy
whatever they have everything and in
real life it's just not the
case stop comparing yourself to other
people and whatever those people are
going through or what they have you can
never take that away from them that's
for them and what you have right now
that is for you the only way you make
yourself grow is by putting gratitude
into your life by being grateful for
what you have that's how everything will
expand more and more but you just
comparing yourself to other people and
thinking in lack or being jealous of
what they have will never get you what
you want the grass is always greener on
the other side until we realize that the
only grass that matters is our own if
it's hard for you just do not follow
these people do not look at these app
that you constantly see people having
better things than you then walk away
from it and literally protect your own
peace of
mind and otherwise just realize that
whatever is meant for you will happen
anyways and what is meant for them will
also happen have peace with yourself and
have peace with life hope you guys
enjoyed this video I hope you guys
learned something um and yeah I love you
guys so much I appreciate you guys so
much and I'm really grateful for you
thank you so much for watching I love
you guys bye- bye
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