Use These to Be Popular in School or Anywhere! (body language hacks to get people to like you)

Summary

This video offers psychology-backed body language hacks to enhance likability and charisma. Key tips include maintaining open body language, avoiding fake smiles, mirroring the conversation's tone, and the 'chameleon effect' of subtly mimicking a conversation partner. The video also discusses the subconscious impact of gestures like eyebrow flashes and head tilts, which signal trust and friendliness. Additionally, it touches on the power of touch, like high fives, to release bonding chemicals.

Takeaways

• 📊 55% of communication is non-verbal, 38% is vocal, and only 7% is from the words spoken.
• 🤗 Open body language makes people feel more comfortable and friendly towards you.
• 🙅‍♀️ Avoid fake smiling as it can subconsciously repel people; genuine smiles are more effective.
• 🧍‍♂️ Matching your body language to the tone of the conversation helps establish rapport.
• 🤝 Mimicking body language (the chameleon effect) can make the other person feel more connected to you.
• 😉 The eyebrow flash is a subtle body language cue that signals friendliness and openness.
• 👂 Nodding and leaning in while listening makes the speaker feel heard and appreciated.
• 🔄 Repeating the last few words of what the other person said can reassure them that you're actively listening.
• 🙌 High fives or light touches can release oxytocin, promoting bonding and trust.
• 🖖 Showing your wrists can subconsciously signal trustworthiness and friendliness.
• 🎥 The video offers additional psychology hacks for self-confidence and likability beyond body language.

Q & A

What is the percentage of communication that is non-verbal according to the script?

55% of communication is non-verbal.

How much of communication is attributed to vocal cues in the transcript?

38% of communication is vocal.

What percentage of communication is actually from the words we say, as mentioned in the video script?

Only 7% of communication comes from the words we say.

What is the main focus of the video script?

The main focus of the video script is to share body language hacks that can make people like you.

What is the significance of having an open body language according to the transcript?

Having an open body language makes people feel better subconsciously towards you because it feels like you are more friendly and open towards them.

Why is it a mistake to fake a smile according to the psychology student in the script?

It's a mistake to fake a smile because studies show that people are good at distinguishing between real and fake smiles on a subconscious level, and they feel repelled by fake smiles.

What is the 'chameleon effect' mentioned in the script?

The 'chameleon effect' is when you mimic the body language of the person you're talking to in a natural and subtle way to make them feel closer to you on a subconscious level.

What is the evolutionary basis for showing your wrists during a conversation as mentioned in the script?

Showing your wrists during a conversation makes people feel like they trust you more because, on an evolutionary basis, seeing someone's hands indicates they don't have any weapons and are not a threat.

What is the significance of the 'eyebrow flash' in body language as described in the script?

The 'eyebrow flash' is a subconscious indicator that you are not an enemy and mean no harm, which can make people feel good about you.

How can you make someone feel heard during a conversation according to the script?

You can make someone feel heard by nodding slightly when they're talking and leaning in a little when listening to them.

What is the role of touch in creating a bond with someone as discussed in the script?

Touch, such as a high five or tapping someone's arm, releases the chemical oxytocin which facilitates bonding.

Outlines

00:00

🧠 Psychology Hacks for Body Language

The speaker, a psychology student, introduces the video's focus on body language hacks to make people like you more. They explain the 55%-38%-7% rule of communication, emphasizing non-verbal cues. The video aims to share these hacks for various social situations like making friends or impressing a crush. The speaker also mentions incorporating makeup into the video and encourages subscribing for more psychology and self-development content.

05:01

🤝 Body Language Techniques and the Chameleon Effect

The speaker discusses various body language techniques to build trust and likability. They mention the importance of open body language, avoiding fake smiles, and matching the conversation's tone with appropriate gestures. The 'eyebrow flash' is highlighted as a subconscious sign of friendliness. The speaker also talks about the chameleon effect, where mimicking another person's body language can create a sense of connection. They suggest being mindful not to overdo it. The video concludes with tips on using touch, like high fives, to release bonding chemicals and showing wrists to subconsciously signal trust.

Keywords

💡Non-verbal communication

Non-verbal communication refers to the process of conveying information through non-linguistic cues such as body language, facial expressions, and gestures. In the video, it's emphasized that 55% of communication is non-verbal, highlighting its importance in influencing how we are perceived and how we perceive others. The video uses this concept to introduce various body language hacks that can make people more likable.

💡Vocal communication

Vocal communication encompasses the use of voice, pitch, tone, and volume to express thoughts and emotions. The video mentions that 38% of communication is vocal, suggesting that while less than non-verbal, it still plays a significant role in how messages are interpreted. An example from the script is the discussion on fake smiles, which can be detected vocally if the tone does not match the expression.

💡Words

Words are the actual verbal language used in communication, making up only 7% of the communication process as per the video. Despite being the smallest percentage, words are crucial as they carry the explicit meaning of the message. The video implies that while body language and vocal cues are powerful, the choice of words also significantly impacts how likable one is.

💡Body language hacks

Body language hacks are techniques or strategies used to control and manipulate one's non-verbal cues to create a specific impression or elicit a desired response. The video is centered around these hacks, providing viewers with tips to appear more likable, charismatic, and trustworthy by using open body language, matching conversational tones, and other non-verbal signals.

💡Open body language

Open body language involves postures and gestures that signal approachability and willingness to engage. In the script, the presenter suggests facing someone with an open posture, uncrossed arms, and feet pointed towards them as a way to make the other person feel more comfortable and friendly towards you.

💡Fake smiles

A fake smile is a smile that is not genuine and is often used to appear friendly when one does not actually feel that way. The video warns against fake smiling, as people are adept at subconsciously distinguishing real from fake smiles, and fake ones can lead to feelings of repulsion.

💡Matching body language

Matching body language is the act of subtly adjusting one's own body language to mirror that of the person they are conversing with. The video explains that this can help establish rapport and make the other person feel more connected. An example is mimicking a relaxed posture if the other person is also relaxed.

💡Eyebrow flash

An eyebrow flash is a brief raising of the eyebrows often used as a friendly, non-verbal greeting. The video suggests that this微小的眼部动作 can make others feel more positively towards you by signaling openness and friendliness, similar to a warm greeting.

💡Tilting head

Tilting the head to one side during a conversation is a gesture that signifies trust and attentiveness. The video uses Serena Vander Woodson from 'Gossip Girl' as an example, noting that her subtle head tilts make her more likable because it subconsciously signals trustworthiness.

💡Chameleon effect

The chameleon effect is a psychological phenomenon where people tend to mimic the behavior, mannerisms, and expressions of others to feel more connected or to be liked. The video advises using this effect by subtly mirroring the body language of the person you're conversing with, but cautions against overdoing it to avoid appearing like a copy.

💡High five

A high five is a form of greeting or celebration involving a slap of one's open palm against another's. The video mentions that high fives can increase feelings of likability and bonding due to the association with support and the release of oxytocin, a hormone that facilitates bonding.

💡Showing wrists

Showing wrists is mentioned in the video as a subtle body language cue that can build trust. By exposing one's wrists, it subconsciously signals that the person is unarmed and non-threatening, which can make others feel safer and more inclined to trust and like them.

Highlights

55% of communication is non-verbal, 38% is vocal, and only 7% is from the words you say.

Body language hacks can help you get people to like you without saying anything.

Charismatic people use certain body language techniques.

Open body language makes you seem more friendly and approachable.

Avoid faking a smile, as people can subconsciously detect it.

Match your body language to the tone of the conversation.

Adapt your body language to the person you're talking to for better rapport.

The eyebrow flash is a subconscious sign of friendliness.

Tilting your head during a conversation is a sign of trust.

Making people feel heard by nodding and leaning in can make them like you more.

Restate what the other person said to show you're listening.

The chameleon effect: subtly mimicking someone's body language can make them feel closer to you.

High fives or light touches can release oxytocin and facilitate bonding.

Showing your wrists can make people trust and like you more.

Psychology hacks can help you feel more confident and improve self-image.

Applying these body language hacks can make you more likable and charismatic.

Transcripts

as a psychology student I know that 55%

of communication is non-verbal while 38%

is vocal and only 7% is actually from

the words that you say I know so many

body language hacks that can help you

get people to like you without even you

saying anything these are some of the

things that the most charismatic people

use and I'm going to be sharing them

with you guys in this

video hi my best friends and welcome

back to my sleepover welcome to

psychology body language hacks to get

people to like you you can use these on

your crush to make more friends to be

more likable and charismatic in general

because as a psychology student I know

that they work so I'm going to be

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watching this one and I'm super excited

for this video so let's get into it okay

so as usual I'm going to be starting

with more basic ones and getting towards

the more interesting ones towards the

end one thing I'm going to say is that

I'm going to mention the one that's the

most surprising as the last one and if

the first thing that I say is like oh

that makes sense but like I already knew

that just stick with the video because

I'm pretty sure that you're going to

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all time but basically starting off with

the first body language tip that you can

use to make people like you is honestly

tell me if you're going to notice the

the difference if you were talking to me

and I was talking to you the whole time

kind of like oh yeah like school was

great today and just honestly maybe even

turned away from you a little bit or if

I was talking to you with my posture

open if I was talking to you with my

hands if I didn't have my hands crossed

while talking to you if I had my whole

body kind of like open towards you would

you feel better talking to me in the

first scenario or would you feel better

talking to me in the second one chances

are that you would say that you would

feel better with the second one and

that's because when we're talking with

someone who has an open body language we

feel better subconsciously towards them

because subconsciously it feels like

that person is more friendly and open

towards us so when talking with someone

just make sure that your body is facing

them your feet are pointed towards them

that you don't have your arms crossed

and you have an open body language it is

so underrated but it's so crucial to

make the person feel open and friendly

towards you but here's also one thing

that a lot of people do when you want to

make someone feel friendly towards you

or you want to make someone feel open

towards you that is honestly one of the

biggest mistakes that you can make and

this also happens the most in the US

I've noticed because you walk into the

store and everyone Smiles at you you see

someone you have to smile sometimes you

don't want to smile so you fake the

smile you don't think that it looks fake

it's not consciously noticeably fake but

there happened studies that show that

people are really really good at

distinguishing between real and fake

Smiles just on the subconscious level

and people subconsciously feel repelled

by the people who fake smile at them so

if you want to create a sense of

openness friendliness and warmth with

someone don't fake smile even if you

think that you can fake smile really

well unless it's genuine it's going to

have the opposite effect instead one

great thing that you can do during the

conversation if you want someone to like

you more is to actually match your body

language to the conversation and here's

what I mean by this I think everyone can

agree that while some conversations are

more energetic the other conversations

that you have with people are more

relaxed or some conversations can even

be sad if you match your body language

you reflect the tone of the conversation

that you guys are having for example if

you're having a really exciting

conversation using more H gestures using

more open and excited body language

would make the other person talking to

you also feel the same excitement and

like you more while the conversation is

more chilly you definitely don't want to

go in super excited and like have a lot

of gestures and be doing a lot of things

because that can overwhelm the person

and actually make them feel kind of

worse towards you and at the same time

it is also really important to match

your body language to the person that

you're talking to what I mean by this is

that some people tend to be more anxious

when they're talking to someone so with

those people big gestures fastpaced body

language would actually be the worst

thing that you can do instead what you

could do is use a more relaxed body

language just make your gestures a

little slower but if you're like hey

this is a little too hard for me because

I don't want to be thinking that hard

about who I'm talking to what kind of

body language they would prefer then

here's one thing that I can tell you

that can definitely make the person feel

closer to you and definitely make them

like you more and this thing is called

the eyebrow flash you might have heard

me mention it in some of my videos on

like body language signs that your crush

likes you for example and basically an

eyebrow flash is used as a subconscious

indicator that we're not enemies I don't

mean you harm if you see someone and

their eyebrows kind of like go up and

down when they greet you like oh hi it

usually happens really naturally but if

you kind of think about it there's

something inside you that feels really

good when you get that sign so during

the eyebrow flash when you meet someone

and just making sure that you don't make

it look weird just natur doing it would

be really really good for you at the

same time one thing that can really make

a person feel closer to you or feel more

favorable towards you is actually

something that one of people's favorite

characters from the TV show Gossip Girl

does a lot Serena Vander Woodson which

is when you're looking at Serena when

she's talking to someone she usually has

this tendency of tilting her head a

little bit to the side she does it in a

really subtle way to the point where it

doesn't look weird but it's still a

really good body language hack that

makes people like her more and here's

why when you tilt your head while having

a conversation with someone it signifies

as subconscious sign of trust it's

because on The evolutionary basis our

brains are wired for survival and in the

past if you tilted your head like this

it would be exposing an artery and

people would do that only with the

people that they really really trust and

when talking to someone that you want to

like you more you can also use the fact

that people really like to feel heard so

if you can make someone feel heard while

talking to them you are golden and you

can actually use your body language to

do this so the first thing that you can

do is to not a little bit when they're

talking just a slight nod you don't have

to go overboard and the second thing is

to lean in just a tiny bit when you're

listening to them so if they're talking

to you just lean in a little bit and Nod

from time to time when they're making a

point that is going to make someone feel

like you're really really listening to

them and it's going to make them feel so

good about themselves which in turn is

going to make them like you more and one

more thing that you can add to this

which is not necessarily body language

but it's going to increase the effect of

this even more is actually from time to

time redating what they last said when

you're starting to reply so for example

if someone was like oh yeah me and my

friend were going to a club tonight you

can say something back like you're going

to a club that's so nice I've actually

been to some whatever make your points

but just repeating the last few words

that they said it's going to reassure

the person that you're talking to that

you're really listening to them and it's

going to feel so good which is going to

make them really like you my absolute

favorite tip though when it comes to

body language is actually this one that

if you don't really take away any

anything from this video at least take

away this tape but it's also something

that you can go overboard with so just

keep that in mind as well but basically

it's called the chameleon effect and

this is when you're mimicking the body

language of the person that you're

talking to so for example if you're

standing and they lean on one leg you do

the same thing but not immediately as if

you're copying them but just really

naturally and slly just lean to one side

if they cross their arms you do the same

thing again just really naturally the

key is not to make a show of it but

doing it Suddenly It's going to make

that person feel closer to you on a

subconscious level and it's going to

give them this feeling that you guys are

kind of in sync with each other taking

all feeling closer to someone tell me if

you've ever been in this situation where

you're about to do something or you're

running a race and someone gives you a

high five or maybe you see someone and

that person gives you a high five you're

going to feel so good in that moment and

you're going to feel so good about that

person in that moment this comes from

two different reasons the first one

being that the gesture of high five

itself is associated with support the

second is that touch actually releases

the chemical oxytocin which facilitates

bonding so what you can do to kind of

like release this chemical more when

you're talking to someone is to maybe

give them a high five if the context is

appropriate or tap their arm when having

a conversation with them if you're

talking with someone who you're not

really meaning to flirt with just keep

it around the arm area but probably one

of the weirdest things that I can tell

you guys when it comes to body language

is that showing your wrist when you're

talking to someone when you're with

someone or you're sitting next to

someone is going to make people feel

like they trust you and like you more so

basically again on the evolutionary

basis which a lot in Psychology is

coming from The evolutionary basis in

the past and maybe even now kind of

subconsciously if you can see someone's

hands you tend to trust that person more

on the subconscious level because you

know that they don't have any weapons

and therefore they're not a threat to

you now this is not conscious this

process is not conscious in your head

you don't sit with someone and you go

like oh their hands are in their pockets

that means that they're a threat to me

because they might have something in

their pocket it all happens on a

subconscious level in like a split

second of processing in our brains and

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