Read People Like a Book (Ayanokoji Guide)
Summary
TLDRThis video script offers an in-depth guide to mastering the art of reading body language across three stages: foundational, intermediate, and mastery. It debunks common myths, such as the assumption that crossed arms indicate defensiveness, and explains the importance of assessing a range of behaviors for deception. Key gestures, postures, and vocal cues are dissected to provide insights into a person's comfort, honesty, and intentions. The script emphasizes the value of observing hands, feet, facial expressions, and eye movements to uncover true emotions and power dynamics within groups. It also touches on the significance of timing in detecting lies and trusting one's gut feeling.
Takeaways
- 🧠 Understanding body language can provide control over interactions, environment, and future.
- 🙅♂️ Arms crossed is not always a sign of defensiveness; it can be a self-soothing behavior.
- 🤔 There's no 'Pinocchio effect'; deception can't be determined by a single behavior.
- 🤲 Open palms during conversation can indicate honesty and the absence of deceit.
- 🤝 Handshake positions can reveal subtle messages about dominance, submission, or respect.
- 👣 Paying attention to feet can offer insights into a person's openness to interaction.
- 😐 Facial expressions of comfort show relaxed muscles and genuine smiles, while discomfort activates stress responses.
- 😖 Micro-expressions, brief involuntary facial expressions, are believed to be universal and can't be faked.
- 👁️ Pupil dilation can indicate genuine interest or approval of something.
- 🔍 Congruence in body language, where verbal and non-verbal cues align, provides consistent messages.
- 👥 Observing group dynamics, such as foot direction and walking positions, can reveal power structures.
Q & A
What is the main goal of learning to read body language as presented in the video?
-The main goal is to gain control over your interactions, environment, and ultimately your own future by understanding non-verbal cues.
What are the three stages of reading body language mentioned in the video?
-The three stages are the Foundational stage, the Intermediate stage, and the Mastery stage, each building upon the other.
Why is it a myth that crossing arms is a sign of blocking behavior?
-Crossing arms is more akin to a self-hug and is actually a self-soothing behavior, not necessarily indicative of blocking or defensiveness.
How does the curvature of hands indicate a person's comfort level?
-Relaxed hands with a natural curvature and free movement without tension or stiffness indicate comfort and ease in a situation.
What does showing open palms during a conversation suggest about a person's honesty?
-Showing open palms is considered a vulnerable gesture, suggesting honesty and the absence of deceptive intentions.
How can the position of the palm during a handshake convey non-verbal messages?
-A vertical palm orientation indicates openness and respect, while a palm-down position might signal dominance, and a palm-up position often denotes submission.
Why are feet important in reading body language and what can they reveal?
-Feet can offer valuable insights as they often reveal true feelings when people focus on controlling their facial expressions and hand gestures. They can show whether someone is open to interaction or prefers privacy.
How can observing foot kicks help in understanding someone's discomfort?
-Foot kicks often occur when people hear something negative or are forced to answer a question they dislike, signaling high discomfort and a subconscious effort to 'kick away' something undesirable.
What are the two key vocal cues discussed in the video that can indicate a person's mental state?
-The two key vocal cues are intonation, which can indicate submissiveness or authority, and the rate of speech, which often increases when a person is nervous.
What are micro-expressions and why are they significant in reading facial expressions?
-Micro-expressions are brief, involuntary facial expressions that occur when experiencing an emotion. They are significant because they are believed to be universal across cultures and cannot be faked, providing a genuine window into someone's feelings.
How does pupil dilation relate to a person's interest or approval of something?
-Pupil dilation allows more light to enter the eyes, enhancing focus and processing of visual information, and is a subconscious physiological response to genuine interest or approval of something.
What does congruence in body language indicate, and how is incongruence different?
-Congruence indicates that non-verbal cues align harmoniously with verbal communication, conveying consistent messages. Incongruence occurs when there is a discrepancy between verbal and non-verbal cues, which can reveal inconsistencies in a person's thoughts or feelings.
Outlines
🔍 Mastering Body Language: From Basics to Mastery
This paragraph introduces the concept of reading body language as a means to gain control over interactions, environment, and one's future. It outlines three stages of learning body language: foundational, intermediate, and mastery. The paragraph debunks common myths, such as the assumption that crossed arms indicate blocking behavior, and clarifies that such actions are often self-soothing. It emphasizes the importance of assessing a range of behaviors rather than relying on a single 'Pinocchio effect.' The discussion then shifts to the significance of hand gestures, palm positions during handshakes, and the honesty conveyed by open palms. The paragraph concludes with insights on how feet movements can reveal true feelings, often overlooked in favor of more visible body language cues.
👣 Reading Body Language: From Hands to Feet
The second paragraph delves deeper into the nuances of body language, focusing on hand positions as indicators of comfort and the honesty suggested by open palms. It explains the subtle messages conveyed by the position of the palm during a handshake, such as vertical for neutrality and respect, downward for dominance, and upward for submission. The paragraph also highlights the importance of observing feet movements, which often provide honest reactions that are less controlled than facial expressions or hand gestures. An example is given where observing whether feet adjust to include someone can indicate a willingness to include them in a conversation. The paragraph also touches on vocal cues, such as intonation and speech rate, as indicators of a person's mental state, and facial expressions, including micro-expressions, which are involuntary and believed to be universal across cultures. It suggests practicing with micro-expression tests to improve the ability to decode these expressions in real-time.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Body Language
💡Control
💡Crossed Arms
💡Open Palms
💡Handshakes
💡Feet
💡Micro Expressions
💡Pupils
💡Congruence and Incongruence
💡Power Dynamics
💡Gut Feeling
Highlights
The importance of understanding body language for gaining control over interactions and one's future.
Debunking the myth that crossed arms always indicate a defensive or blocking behavior.
The concept that there is no single 'Pinocchio effect' behavior that reveals deception.
Relaxed hands with a natural curvature indicate comfort and ease.
Open palms during a conversation suggest honesty and the absence of deception.
Handshakes can reveal subtle non-verbal messages about a person's intentions.
The significance of observing feet movements to gauge a person's openness to interaction.
Foot kicks as a sign of discomfort or unwillingness to answer a question.
Vocal cues, such as intonation, can indicate a person's emotional state or confidence.
Facial expressions, particularly the absence of tension, can signal comfort.
Micro-expressions as a window into someone's true emotions.
Pupil dilation as an indicator of genuine interest or approval.
The significance of congruence in non-verbal communication for understanding a person's true feelings.
Incongruent body language can reveal deception or hidden intentions.
The ability to detect power dynamics within a group through non-verbal cues.
The importance of timing and gut feeling in detecting dishonest body language.
Transcripts
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being able to read people like a book
gave aan aoji unbreakable confidence
think about it how could you possibly
not be filled with a Godlike sense of
certainty when you know things about the
people around you that they themselves
are not even aware of what I want you to
get from this video is control control
over your interactions control over your
environment and ultimately control over
your own future this is why in this
guide you will learn about how to read
body language in three stages the
foundational stage the intermediate
stage and the Mastery stage each of
these levels builds upon the other so
let's sit up straight take a deep breath
and lock
in let's first get some popular body
language myths out of the way when you
see someone sitting with their arms
crossed do you assume that they are
doing a blocking Behavior that's
actually not necessarily true in essence
crossing your arms is like a self hug so
more than anything it's a self- soothing
Behavior also before we go into more
Advanced Techniques it is important to
understand that there is no Pinocchio
effect in other words there is no single
behavior that can reveal things like
deception when you want to understand
people you always need to assess a
broader range of factors now let's talk
about the meaning of key gestures and
postures while talking about hands it is
important to keep in mind that when
someone is relaxed their hands naturally
assume a more curved position rather
than being completely straight this
relaxed curvature indicates comfort and
ease in the situation also relaxed hands
are more likely to move freely without
tension or stiffness so if you notice
that someone's hands are slightly curved
and moving freely it's a sign that they
are feeling comfortable additionally
when someone shows you open Palms during
a conversation there are more likely to
be honest this is because exposing the
Palms is a vulnerable gesture that
suggests the absence of deceptive
intentions lastly handshakes are a gold
mine if you want to gather more
information about someone and I am not
just talking about the firmness for
example the position of the Palm during
a handshake can convey subtle non-verbal
messages a vertical Palm orientation
with the Palm facing sideways or
slightly downward is most likely neutral
and respectful it indicates openness and
a willingness to engage conversely a
palm down position could signal
dominance or assertiveness while a
palm-up position often denotes
submission other than that a technique
that politicians often utilize to
display dominance is offering a
two-handed handshake where the free hand
covers or clasps the shaking hand if you
look up Donald Trump handshakes you can
see this in
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action feet can offer such valuable
insights because when people try to
control their body language they focus
mainly on their facial expressions and
hand and arm gestures so body language
below the waist is often where the truth
can be found here's a practical example
you notice two classmates engaged in
conversation in the hallway you're
interested in joining them but are
unsure whether your presence would be
welcomed or seen as an interruption want
to find out pay attention to their feet
as you approach their reaction will show
whether they are open to including you
or prefer to keep the the conversation
private if their feet remain stationary
while they turn their upper bodies
toward you it suggests they may not be
interested in your company however if
their feet adjust to include you in
their stance it's a good sign that they
genuinely want you to join the
conversation I will now show you a short
clip try to deduce how the interviewed
women feels about the question she gets
asked why did you want to own a
town I'm glad you asked me this question
I'll bet you are there was so much
written about I'm so glad um did you see
the foot kicks these kick happen when
people hear something negative or they
don't want to answer a question but are
forced to her doing this Behavior
signals High discomfort and shows a
subconscious effort to kick away
something she doesn't like to use this
practically observe what question
triggers the foot kick in the other
person if you want to keep a good
relationship ease off on the questioning
or offer emotional
support vocal cues can also be a big
source of information especially
intonations are important here
intonation is simply the rising and
falling of the voice during speech in
general a Rising intonation indicates
that someone is submissive or insecure
while a falling intonation displays
Authority however keep in mind that a
rising intonation could also just show
curiosity besides that the rate of
speech is quite an obvious window into
someone's mental state people generally
tend to increase their speaking rate
when they are nervous you have probably
noticed this too when you speak in front
of an audience adrenaline rushes through
your body which warps your experience of
time this causes a lot of people to
speed up during
presentations it's it's finally time for
us to talk about facial analyses let's
first approach this by considering the
dichotomy of comfort and discomfort as
these are fundamental states that the
brain reacts to in the world in facial
expressions Comfort is typified by the
absence of tension the muscles are
relaxed and features appear soft and
open genuine Smiles known as duen Smiles
are also a good indicator of comfort you
can spot these Smiles by looking out for
the engagement of the muscles around the
eyes conversely facial expressions
associated with discomfort often involve
the activation of facial muscles in
response to stressors the furrowing of
the brow or squinting of the eyes are
typical examples tension in the jaw or
clenching of the teeth may also be
observed Beyond these overt Expressions
micro expressions are a great gateway to
someone's mental state a micro
expression is a very brief involuntary
facial expression humans make when
experiencing an emotion they usually
last 125th to 1 15th of a second and
cannot be faked what makes micro
Expressions so special is that they are
believed to be Universal across cultures
take a minute to make yourself familiar
with the seven universal micro
Expressions on
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screen how can you actually start to
decode these micro expressions in real
time besides just carefully paying
attention one interesting way to train
this skill is to practice online with
microexpression tests there are a lot of
free options you can try
out before we talk about congruence and
in congruence let's take a closer look
at the OD eyes if someone's pupils widen
it could suggest that they agree with
what you just said but why is that pupil
dilation allows more light to enter the
eyes which enhances their ability to
focus on and process visual information
this subconscious physiological response
happens when we are genuinely interested
or approve of something under certain
circumstances this dilation might be
hard to spot but this is still something
useful to keep in mind and could really
help you in some circumstances you may
also notice that someone's eyes blink
more than usual this is a big sign that
they are struggling to keep calm however
but before you can make a proper
judgment you first have to get a rough
idea of their Baseline blinking
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rate congruence refers to a state where
different aspects of non-verbal
communication align harmoniously on the
other hand incongruence occurs when
there is a discrepancy between verbal
and non-verbal cues in congruent body
language various channels of
communication such as facial expressions
gestures posture and vocal tone convey
consistent messages that support the
person's verbal statements for example
someone might show you a genuine smile
while also having a relaxed body posture
and using open gestures conversely an
example of in congruence could be that
someone verbally expresses agreement to
you while displaying tense facial
muscles or avoiding eye contact being
able to spot these inconsistencies is
what really allows you to make more
robust assumptions about someone else's
thoughts and opens the way for you to
enter the Mastery
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stage being able to accurately detect
the power dynamics of a group is what
really sets people people like aan aoji
apart to master this skill pay attention
to the direction of individuals feet
when they're engaged in conversation
within the group interestingly the feet
are often pointed towards the center of
the group or towards the person they
subconsciously perceive as the leader
also be aware of everyone's position
when walking as a group the person who
naturally assumes the position at the
center of the group while walking often
holds a position of
influence at some point in your life you
will probably come across someone who
consciously tries to trick you into
believing something based on their body
language noticing these attempts comes
down to two things gut feeling and
timing when talking about timing it is
important to keep in mind that for the
honest person a hand gesture comes a
beat before the words on the other hand
an anxious Liar's gestures will follow
the words in doubt it is always best to
follow your gut feeling your
subconscious mind often picks up on
subtle cues that your conscious mind May
overlook
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