HOW To VIBE with WOMEN emotionally via words by speaking NONSENSE to gain her ATTRACTION
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the speaker discusses an unconventional method for building social skills and attracting women by talking about seemingly trivial topics, like peanut butter and oatmeal, to create intrigue and maintain mystery. The key is to slow down, avoid over-qualifying, and focus on being light-hearted, similar to how a child engages with the world. The speaker emphasizes that effortless conversations and staying in a relaxed, confident state are crucial for connecting with others on a deeper level, without overthinking or over-analyzing interactions.
Takeaways
- 😀 Talking about random, lighthearted topics can create an intriguing atmosphere on dates without revealing too much personal information.
- 😄 Speaking slowly (15-25% slower) can make your words more impactful and create a more captivating interaction with women.
- 🍯 Using personal anecdotes, like a long story about oatmeal, peanut butter, and honey, can engage women by showing personality while keeping mystery intact.
- 🤔 Avoiding deep intellectual conversations helps maintain a sense of intrigue and mystery, which can enhance attraction.
- 💬 The key to good conversation with women is not taking yourself too seriously and focusing on simple, enjoyable topics like nature, food, or the environment.
- 🚫 Avoid using books like 'Fifty Shades of Grey' to improve social skills; such material can distort focus on meaningful communication.
- 🌲 Discussing light topics like trees, the sun, or the atmosphere during dates can foster a positive and relaxed vibe.
- 📚 Overloading yourself with knowledge or feeling pressure to have deep conversations can hinder authentic connections.
- 🧠 Keeping a playful, childlike mindset—where you talk about what you want without overthinking—is a way to stay in the right vibe for dating.
- 💪 Cultivating a calm, grounded energy (stoicism or masculine energy) can make you more attractive by showing confidence without trying to impress.
Q & A
What is the main purpose of the speaker's video?
-The speaker's main purpose is to teach viewers how to improve their social skills, particularly in conversations with women, by using relaxed, non-serious storytelling techniques like the 'peanut butter and oatmeal' story.
What does the 'peanut butter and oatmeal' story represent?
-The 'peanut butter and oatmeal' story represents a casual, light-hearted conversation technique. The speaker uses it to illustrate how talking about everyday, simple things can make you relatable and keep a woman intrigued without revealing too much personal information.
Why does the speaker advise against reading books like '50 Shades of Gray' to improve social skills?
-The speaker advises against reading books like '50 Shades of Gray' because they focus too much on lust and intimacy, which can destroy social skills by distracting people from building meaningful connections in conversations.
Why does the speaker believe that 'talking nonsense' works in social settings?
-The speaker believes 'talking nonsense' works because it keeps the conversation light and fun, preventing the person from over-qualifying themselves or revealing too much personal information, which could destroy the sense of mystery.
How does the speaker suggest improving at speaking nonsense?
-The speaker suggests improving at speaking nonsense by deprogramming your brain from unnecessary knowledge, focusing on simple observations (like the environment), and speaking slower to create a relaxed, enjoyable atmosphere.
What does the speaker mean by 'keeping the mystery' in conversations?
-By 'keeping the mystery,' the speaker means not revealing too much personal information too quickly in conversations, allowing the other person to remain curious and intrigued.
How does the speaker suggest using body language and tone in conversations?
-The speaker suggests talking 15-25% slower and using a calm, relaxed tone to create a sense of grounded masculine energy, making the other person feel comfortable and drawn to the conversation.
Why does the speaker emphasize not over-qualifying to women?
-The speaker emphasizes not over-qualifying to women because trying too hard to prove your worth can come across as insecure. Instead, the speaker advises being relaxed and confident, which naturally draws women in.
How does the speaker suggest handling compliments or lengthy descriptions in conversations?
-The speaker suggests responding to compliments or long descriptions with simple, direct comments. For example, if someone gives a long explanation, responding with a lighthearted comment like 'too many words' can create humor and keep the conversation light.
What is the speaker's overall advice for staying relaxed during conversations?
-The speaker's overall advice is to adopt a childlike mentality, focusing on simple, present-moment observations and not stressing over deep or intellectual conversations. This helps create a relaxed, carefree vibe that draws others in.
Outlines
🚀 Buckle Up for the Oatmeal Story!
The speaker introduces the video by asking viewers to prepare for an engaging story. The narrative begins with an email about 'the oatmeal story,' which references a previous video where the speaker shared an anecdote about talking about oatmeal on a date. He humorously explains how he discussed oatmeal with peanut butter and honey for 30 minutes, creating a sense of fascination by focusing on trivial details. The speaker then uses this example to answer a question from a subscriber who asked if reading books like '50 Shades of Grey' is a good way to learn how to speak engagingly. The speaker humorously dismisses this idea, stating that such books would focus the reader’s mind on the wrong topics. He then outlines that to become an expert in social skills and create a magnetic presence, one must talk about themselves in a way that keeps a woman curious and intrigued, without revealing too much. He emphasizes that most men lose this mystery by over-talking and not keeping a sense of curiosity alive.
🗣️ Mastering the Art of Speaking Nonsense
The speaker delves into the concept of 'verbal nonsense,' describing how to engage in casual, seemingly unimportant conversations that keep a date interesting. He explains that the key to mastering this art is to avoid taking oneself too seriously and not to feel the need to prove anything. By talking about light, everyday subjects like the sun, trees, or food, one can maintain a relaxed atmosphere that feels natural and easy. The speaker emphasizes the importance of appearing calm, confident, and comfortable in one's own skin. He suggests that maintaining a 'masculine frame' or calm energy is vital. He advises against striving for deep, intellectual conversations, which he believes can be intimidating or dull. Instead, he recommends embracing a childlike simplicity in conversations, highlighting that this approach helps to connect with women on an emotional level, without stress or anxiety. He concludes by stating that speaking nonsense in a confident, laid-back manner is key to forming a genuine connection and creating a fun, engaging atmosphere.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Nonsense
💡Mystery
💡Vibe
💡Slower speech
💡Descriptive language
💡Qualifying
💡Childlike mindset
💡Oatmeal story
💡Peanut butter and jelly
💡Masculine energy
Highlights
Talking about a random topic like oatmeal for 30 minutes to keep conversations light and nonsensical.
Using vivid descriptions like peanut butter and honey mixing in oatmeal to maintain an engaging conversation.
The key to maintaining a woman's interest is not revealing too much personal information, keeping a sense of mystery.
Avoid heavy, logical conversations that might destroy attraction, focusing instead on emotional engagement.
Deprogramming your brain from overthinking and focusing on simple topics like nature or the atmosphere.
Using slow speech (15-25% slower) during dates to create a captivating effect.
Humor and light comments (e.g., too many words in a food description) can create positive responses from women.
Talking about mundane things like the sun, trees, and food can help avoid over-qualifying yourself to women.
Maintaining a relaxed and effortless vibe is key to coming across as a grounded, masculine man.
The simplicity of childhood behavior (eating, sleeping, observing surroundings) can serve as a conversational model.
Reducing the need for deep intellectual meaning helps create a stress-free interaction.
Life doesn’t need to be heavy with excess knowledge or purpose; this keeps you stuck in your head.
Focusing on the vibe and being present in the moment enhances connections with women.
A man should embody a calming, confident energy to attract women, without trying too hard.
Success with women lies in avoiding over-explaining or proving oneself, and instead letting the conversation flow naturally.
Transcripts
can you buckle up I'm going to smoke
this fat cigar and then I'm going to go
on a fat hike
now this is going to be such a great
video everybody needs to buckle up okay
because I got a email in my inbox and
the subject line was the oatmeal story
hm what would be the oatmeal story a day
or two I had a video you know actually
I'll screenshot the clip or I'll put the
clip in so that way you can see it I
talked about hul what I did on a date
was I talked about the oatmeal there was
once I talked like I'm dead serious when
I when I tell you this there was a date
that I went on and I talked about my
like sometimes throughout the week I
have oatmeal and I put peanut butter and
honey in it okay and I talked about the
oatmeal the peanut butter and the honey
for probably like 30 minutes and I sit
there and I say things like God I just
love it when the peanut butter mixes
with the honey it's so good I always do
too much honey because then it's like
sugar overload and then when I do all
the sugar overload I just feel so good
and then it's like a snack and then it's
almost kind of like I'm eating dessert
and the dessert just feels so good in my
tummy and how before I work out I like
the oatmeal and then I put the honey in
it and the peanut butter and oh it's so
full and I giv I love it and blah blah
and the point that I was trying to
making and the point that I was trying
to make is how to stay in the right Vibe
and in the right flow so we have a
question from our subscriber and he goes
hey
Casey how do I learn to speak nonsense
like the oatmeal and the peanut butter
story is reading some books like 50
Shades of Gray a good way to start
question mark very descriptive just like
you were in the story guess using
qualifiers adverbs are required I don't
even know what an adverb means that's
high IQ I do not believe in high IQ or
low IQ I literally believe in no IQ the
stupider you are when you talk in
general as you're socializing with the
ladies the more she's going to go I
really like him
okay anyways thanks for the example
probably on my way to success you are on
your way to success now we are going to
take each of these line by line okay but
I'm going to hammer out the middle of
this first is reading some books like 50
Shades of Gray a good way to start
absolutely not number one that is a
movie number two your brain is going to
be so focused on going to the bedroom
and lust that your social skills are
going to totally get destroyed number
three in order to get to that level of
intimacy with a woman on 50 Shades gray
there is a buildup and a progression you
cannot just go from Zer to 100 in
today's video I'm going to explain how
to be the absolute Grandmaster with
social skills how to be the absolute
Grandmaster with speaking to women and
virtually how to talk about yourself
24/7 so you give off the vibe that it is
all about you she is entering into your
world you are the center of attention
you are the man that she wants to be
with and who she wants to associate with
I'm going to show you how to talk all
about you without telling her anything
about you personally and this is the
biggest secret because 99% of you when
you are on these dates you run your
mouth far too much and then you know
what happens you're sitting there
wondering what happened here's what
happened you are no longer a
mystery you have no longer sparked her
curiosity and her Intrigue and it is a
chapter book or a novel that she
finished far too quickly and she is on
to the next novel this is what majority
of men are running into all right now
that we covered the 50 Shades of Gray
stuff let's actually dissect this line
by line hey Casey how do I learn to
speak the nonsense like the peanut
butter and the oatmeal Story how do you
speak the nonsense the first thing you
have to do is you have to deprogram your
brain from all of the useless
information that you learned you have to
understand that life is simple look at
the trees look at the colors talk about
the Vibrance of the
colors breathe talk about the air talk
about the atmosphere talk about things
you like okay I'm going to be getting as
descriptive as I can with this but let
me give you an example the peanut butter
and the oatmeal store the reason why I'm
talking about this is because she got an
Insight that had personality but she
didn't actually know anything about me
by the end of the day did she know
anything about my hobbies my interests
what I do for a living why I do what I
do no none of that because that logical
in-depth conversation is what destroys
her attraction to keep the mystery you
need to make sure she feels comfortable
the first thing you do when you are
speaking to women is you talk
slower okay so far since I've moved I've
been on a few dates on two of them so
far I have been called dramatic on both
of them even though I wasn't saying
anything that provoked drama why would
that be as I speak slower when I'm on a
date I aim to talk anywhere from 15 to
25% slower why because I want her to
feel almost intoxicated or drunk on the
words the words are the only thing that
penetrates a woman's Soul the words are
the only thing that penetrates her
feminine emotion the first key okay here
is how you learn to talk the verbal
nonsense I'm going to tell you two
things as to how I do this the first key
with this verbally is you need to not
take yourself so seriously how do you
not take yourself so seriously by not
trying to over qualify to the woman how
do you not over qualify to the woman you
do not feel the need to prove anything
to her while you're there on that date
so what do I do I talk about the
sun I talk about how nice the sun feels
if I'm outside okay I'm going to talk
about the trees I'm going to talk about
the food okay when I was on a date I had
a server the server came and gave me
this big long 2-minute shiel on all
these different crisscross mix matched
dinner combinations it was so long
winded by the time he left I just smiled
I went like that by
go too many
words one sentence like that too many
words she starts giggling she starts
laughing because it was so naal on it
was so centered she could tell that it
worked this is definitely some Nuance to
this but here's the the way I do this
okay I believe that God made man and
woman like peanut butter and jelly so if
God made man and woman like peanut
butter and jelly what does that
mean that means he made man and woman to
go together in an easy fashion this
doesn't have to be hard you don't have
to do jumping jacks to prove yourself to
her you don't have to do handstands or
back flips you don't have to be a
professional NASCAR driver you don't
have to be CEO of a Fortune 500 company
you don't have to do any of that you
don't have to even typically have looks
about your status but you have to know
how to be a man to be a man when you're
with a woman means that you have a
calming energy that is grounded in who
you are okay some call that
stoicism some call that masculine energy
some call that masculine frame use
whatever word that you need to solve
that problem for
yourself but if you believe that your
dating life should be easy and you
believe that the vibe should be
effortless you sit there with that girl
and you talk about the things that are
around you you talk about Mother Nature
you talk about the colors you talk about
the things you like if I notice
something about her as she speaking I
will call that out okay you can talk
about why she painted her fingernails
that way why you like the fingernails
that way why things you like about women
things you things personality traits you
don't like by the end of it she feels a
depth that you have
character so when people are actively
trying to qualify women you have to
understand you end up doing these things
naturally when you just are in this
chilled relaxed state so to conclude
your question my friend how do you get
better at talking nonsense I want you to
imagine that you are a child again with
absolutely zero
responsibilities what does the child do
the child eats the child
sleeps the child shits the child will
occasionally throw a temp temper tantrum
if needed the child is ruthlessly
demanding in the things that he wants
and that he likes in that moment the
child will walk down the street and he
goes trees look at the
trees the child will walk down the
street and goes ice cream I want ice
cream I want chocolate ice
cream when you stop feeling the need to
go deep when you stop feeling the need
to prove yourself when you stop feeling
the need to have everything have deep
intellectual meaning there's so much
talk that so much heavy energy whether
that be purpose or direction or having
meaningful conversations or having
chemistry I don't believe that life was
meant to be that stressful and I also
don't believe life was meant to be that
deep this excess knowledge and this
excess information is what keeps you
stuck it's what keeps you in your head
when you Vibe and chill the [ __ ] out and
you tell yourself none of this [ __ ]
matters that is when you finally come
across as a strong grounded stoic
masculine man without trying like you
have not a care in the world like you
have no anxiety in the world world and
like you're completely free to be who
you are and who you'd like to be that my
friend is how you get better at talking
nonsense to connect on the right vibe in
the right wavelength with women if you
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