Wayne Bennett
Summary
TLDRThe transcript emphasizes the qualities of a true leader, who gains respect through actions and intent, not by seeking it. It discusses the importance of making tough decisions for the betterment of the team, even if it means being unpopular. The speaker shares personal experiences, including the consequences of difficult choices made for the greater good, and the importance of not being used or seen as weak. The narrative also touches on the battle between good and evil within, suggesting that the traits one nurtures determine the outcome of this internal struggle, ultimately shaping the environment and success of a team or organization.
Takeaways
- 🌟 A true leader is defined by the quality of their actions and the sincerity of their intent, rather than self-identification as a leader.
- 🔍 Leaders should make decisions for the right reasons, as this impacts the perception of their actions when things go wrong.
- 🦅 True leaders are like eagles, not flocking with the crowd, and may be difficult to be popular all the time, which is essential for effective leadership.
- 🤔 Leaders must distinguish between being liked and making tough decisions, which can sometimes be unpopular but necessary.
- 💡 It's crucial for leaders to understand the difference between kindness being perceived as weakness and being exploited by others.
- 🚫 Leaders should not tolerate being used or exploited, maintaining boundaries to prevent negative impacts on the team.
- 🛑 Making hard decisions, even if they are emotionally challenging, is a part of leadership, as seen in the example of a coach who had to let go of a player for his and the team's betterment.
- 📈 Accountability is key in leadership; leaders should spend time nurturing new talent rather than solely focusing on seasoned players.
- 🔑 Leaders should set expectations and follow through with consequences, as demonstrated by the coach who warned of changes if performance targets were not met.
- 📊 The importance of creating an environment where everyone works towards a common goal, as opposed to groups that complain and undermine progress.
- 📚 The Cherokee tale of two wolves inside us symbolizes the ongoing battle between good and evil within individuals, with the outcome determined by which 'wolf' one feeds.
- 🛤️ Leaders should foster an environment where problems are solved collectively and progress is made, rather than allowing divisiveness and negativity to prevail.
Q & A
What is the key quality that makes someone a true leader according to the transcript?
-A true leader becomes one by the quality of their actions and the honesty of their intent, rather than seeing themselves as a leader.
How does the speaker describe the impact of making decisions for the right reasons?
-Making decisions for the right reasons leads to a different outcome when things go bad. It helps maintain trust and integrity even in failure.
What is the analogy used to describe true leaders?
-True leaders are like eagles; they don't flock and are found one or two at a time, signifying their uniqueness and independence.
Why is it difficult for a leader to be liked all the time?
-It's difficult because leadership often requires making tough decisions that may not always be popular, thus affecting the likability of the leader.
How does the speaker relate the experience of a teacher to leadership?
-The speaker suggests that sometimes being too soft can be a disservice, and leaders, like teachers, need to make tough decisions for the betterment of those they lead.
What was the outcome of the speaker's decision to sack a player from the Broncos?
-The player later asked to play back with the speaker, acknowledging the need for discipline and guidance that the speaker provided.
What did the speaker do at the end of the 1996 season with the Broncos?
-The speaker sacked four senior players who were underperforming, despite having made a general statement earlier in the season about potential changes.
How did the speaker's actions at the end of 1996 impact the team's performance?
-The decisions led to winning the premiership in 1997 and 1998, showing the effectiveness of the speaker's leadership and decision-making.
What is the significance of the 'two wolves' cliche mentioned in the transcript?
-The cliche illustrates the internal battle between good and evil within people, emphasizing that the one you feed (good or evil) is the one that will prevail.
How does the speaker address the myth about different generations in the workplace?
-The speaker dismisses the myth as rubbish, stating that the core values and principles of leadership and work ethic remain consistent across generations.
What is the speaker's stance on compromising the standards of performance in sports or work?
-The speaker is adamant about not compromising on performance standards, emphasizing the importance of discipline and commitment.
Outlines
🦅 Leadership and Decision-Making
The first paragraph discusses the qualities of a true leader, emphasizing actions and intent over self-designation. It highlights the importance of making decisions for the right reasons, even when they are difficult and may lead to mistakes. The speaker shares personal experiences, including the challenge of making tough choices as a coach, such as sacking players for their own growth. The narrative includes a story about a player who returned to play under the speaker's guidance, acknowledging the discipline and structure it provided. The speaker also touches on the distinction between being liked and being a leader, suggesting that leaders must sometimes make unpopular decisions for the greater good.
🐺 The Inner Battle of Personal Growth
The second paragraph delves into the metaphor of an internal struggle between two wolves representing good and evil within each individual. The 'good wolf' symbolizes positive traits like joy, peace, hope, and faith, while the 'evil wolf' represents negative emotions and behaviors such as anger, jealousy, and ego. The speaker uses this metaphor to encourage self-reflection on which wolf one is nurturing. The paragraph also addresses the importance of creating a positive environment in teams and schools, where problems are solved collectively rather than through complaints and negativity. The speaker refutes the notion of generational differences affecting behavior, arguing that core values and discipline remain consistent across generations.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Leader
💡Mistakes
💡Accountability
💡Tough Decisions
💡Discipline
💡Guidelines
💡Weakness
💡Climbers
💡Evil and Good
💡Environment
💡Boundaries
💡Generational Myths
Highlights
A true leader does not see themselves as a leader but becomes one through the quality of their actions and the honesty of their intent.
Making decisions for the right reasons leads to a different outcome when things go bad compared to when there is an agenda or bias.
True leaders are like eagles - they don't flock and are found one or two at a time.
Leadership is difficult because it requires making tough decisions and sometimes going against being liked or popular.
Coaches and teachers struggle with making tough decisions, but it is necessary for the betterment of the team or students.
Leaders must understand the difference between being kind and being seen as weak, which can lead to being taken advantage of.
Making hard decisions, even when they affect the leader more, is necessary for the overall good of the team or organization.
Accountability is crucial, and sometimes that means making difficult choices like letting go of senior players to improve the team.
The story of the two wolves inside us represents the battle between good and evil within each person.
The wolf that wins in each person is the one that is fed more - it's a choice of nurturing either good or evil qualities.
Creating an environment where winners come together to solve problems and move forward is essential for success.
Leaders must provide clear direction and boundaries to ensure a positive and productive environment.
The idea of different generations having vastly different needs and behaviors is a myth; core values and expectations remain consistent.
Compromise on fundamental principles, like commitment and discipline, should not be made to accommodate changing times or generations.
Leaders must stand firm on essential values and behaviors to maintain a high standard of performance and conduct.
Providing leadership and direction is crucial for setting boundaries and ensuring that everyone knows what is acceptable and what is not.
Without strong leadership and clear expectations, chaos and misbehavior can ensue, as people do not know how to act appropriately.
Transcripts
a true leader does not see himself as a
leader but becomes one or the quality of
his actions and the honesty of his
intent can repeat that for you he or she
becomes one by the quality of their
actions and the honesty of their intent
I can't tell you the amount of mistakes
I've made but people generally start
because they're now I made the decisions
for the right reasons and I'm sure
you've made mistakes but if they feel
you've done for the right reasons it's a
whole different outcome when things go
bad - when they know there's an agenda
when there's a bias and all the other
stuff that goes with it true leaders are
like Eagles they don't flock you find
them one two time
one of the reasons that you know I said
recently you know Allan Lane was when
the all-time great players ever coached
and champion blow but the hem
leadership's difficult because he likes
to be light and there's nothing wrong
with that we all like to be liked but
it's difficult for you to lead when you
when you need to be popular when you
need to be with the group all the time
we all need friends and we need
friendships leaders need them as well
but you have to understand the
difference between the true leaders and
the leaders so for him you know coach
he's always going to be difficult
because it requires a lot of tough
decisions as teaching does and he'll
struggle with those all of his life and
perhaps I give it a little insight
because maybe that's things that you
struggle with and I was talking to a
teacher this morning you know he said
sometimes he is a little bit soft well I
can tell you there's no bigger softer
than me but I know I do them a
disservice and I don't make the right
decision and when I don't carry it
through and when I give in to my
feelings and I go home and I'm extremely
disappointed myself and I don't like
that feeling because they know I've let
them down I know I should have made the
decision and it's hard on them sometimes
but I know it's going to make them
better and I remember a boy I sacked a
check to him actually at the Broncos and
he's back playing with me now the
dragons he rang me up last year and
asked me could he come and play back
with me he said I need you he said you
give me guidelines he said you keep an
eye on me he said and you make me more
disciplined than what I can be myself
and I thought you know but the time when
I sacked him I was more upset than he
was but I knew I had to do that because
to keep him any longer was not going to
get where he wanted to go and we've gone
as far as we could
and you have to make those choices
you've got to realize when they're
wasting your time my friend days of
saying you know he says don't don't
don't start pissing on my boots and tell
me it's raining it's a good line to
remember when you're dealing with people
okay you don't want to be used up
you don't underst
Klein is for weakness repeat that for
you you don't want to misunderstand when
you're being kind to someone that they
see it as a weakness and they start to
use you up that's the one thing I won't
tolerate
I'll tell away a lot of other things in
people but I will not tolerate that and
sometimes you know yeah when you make
that hard call it affects you more than
anybody else but you need to make that
hard call in 1997 1996 at the beginning
of the season I said to the Broncos were
underperforming a lot of talent and
there was a lot of players there'd been
there for a number of years and I said
to them in a general conversation team
meeting I said guys at the end of season
if we don't get what I think we should
go with the amount of talent we have
here I said some of you will not be here
in 1997 didn't make a big deal about it
statement was made I found I was wasting
a lot of my time on players that were
senior players in the team who should
have been more accountable and you know
as you know and teaching the young
teachers coming in they need more of
your time than the ones that have been
doing it for 10 or 15 years that's the
way it should be but I found myself
spending more time with those that were
experienced players and with the young
ones coming in so the end of season came
around we didn't get where we want to go
so I sacked four of them absolute shock
horror what you're doing that for but I
reminded them all I said guys I tell you
the beginning of season we won the
premiership in 1998 1997 we won 98 and
we got one in 2000 as a result of the
decisions that were made at the end of
1996
so I'll just remind you again just make
sure you understand the difference
between climbers and they see weakness
in you just dial em use you up because
again it will impact on everybody in
your team from your staff to your to
your students ID one of the players send
me a cliche about two wolves which I
want to share with you about yourselves
and you can ask yourself the questions
that I run through this cliche is one
evening an old Cherokee told his
grandson a bit a battle that goes on
inside of people he said my son the
battle is between two wolves inside us
all he said one is evil it is anger envy
jealousy sorrow regret greed arrogance
self-pity guilt resentment inferiority
lies false pride superiority and ego
we've all got some of those straights
over it no doubt at all he said the
other was good the other wolf that lives
inside of us it is Joy's peace Slovaks
hope sincerity humility kindness
benevolence empathy generosity truth
compassion and faith the grandson
thought about it for a minute and then
asked his grandfather he said which wolf
wins the old Cherokee simply replied the
one you feed
which one have you been feeding which
one exists in your school the one of a
line that says you know in that school
environment and team environment you
know that that winners come together as
a group and they solve their problems
and they move forward losers come
together in small groups and they pitch
in whinge about the other players and
the coach and staff which ones happening
in your workplace which one is it and
which one is inside of you the good the
evil and I'll go back to where I study
this morning is about the change
not about changing only in the way that
you educate when the change that you
need to make to yourself so you can
create that environment you see you know
over talk today about how you handle you
know guys with bad behavior pad attitude
because of my belief is if you create
the environment you get all the staff on
side you're more work in the one
direction they all follow your lead
then you're clear you'll solve half your
problems anyway without even talk to
them because kids and adults are smart
enough to realize about what's going
down here what's acceptable what's not
acceptable it's when you don't provide
that leadership in that direction
whether it's within the family whether
it's within the team or that's in the
classroom it doesn't happen
and and they don't have boundaries you
know that I mean one of my great myths
one of the great myths that we're
getting thrown at us now is about the
the x y&z generation it's absolute
rubbish absolutely much my parents
they've had TV my parents never like
electric power we never had lights you
know when I come along TV or just hard
to come in what appears they never car
now on the kids are got cars now we walk
about five TVs in the house you know so
let me send an Xbox and they play other
games but the young men that I deal with
are no different to the men are dealt
with twenty thirty years ago there's a
way that we got to play football I can't
compromise that that's not for sale I
can't say listen we can tackle soft now
boys that's going to win us games you
know you can be sloppy with your pass in
hell you have to try and turn up a train
on time that's not going to be an issue
anymore you can come when you when you
want to and we'll all wait for you
because you're seventeen year old now
you're a next generation otherwise in a
generation
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