Wisdom In Marriage & Divorce | Ep 8 - Hikmah in the Quran | Dhul Hijjah Series | Nouman Ali Khan
Summary
TLDRيتناول هذا المقطع شرحًا تفصيليًا لأحكام الطلاق في القرآن الكريم، موضحًا كيف أن القرآن يركز على تنظيم عملية الطلاق بأكثر من تركيزه على الزواج. يشير المحاضر إلى أهمية اتباع الأحكام الإلهية بدقة وعدم الاستهزاء بآيات الله، مشددًا على أن الطلاق هو الأمر الأكثر تفصيلاً في القرآن لأنه يتعلق بأمور قد لا يعرف الناس كيفية التعامل معها بمفردهم. ويختتم بذكر كيفية التعامل مع حالات الطلاق، مؤكدًا على ضرورة مراعاة العدل والاحترام في إنهاء العلاقات.
Takeaways
- 📜 أكثر قانون مفصل في القرآن هو قانون الطلاق، وهو موضح بشكل أكبر من أي قانون آخر.
- ❗ الناس اليوم يتلاعبون بقضية الطلاق، مما يجعل من آيات الله سخرية.
- 📚 الفكرة الخاطئة بأن الطلاق لا يحدث إلا إذا تم قوله ثلاث مرات ليست من الإسلام الصحيح.
- 🔄 يمكن للرجل أن يعيد زوجته مرتين بعد الطلاق، على أن يتم ذلك بكرامة واحترام.
- 🌸 يجب أن يتم الطلاق بطريقة جميلة، دون الإضرار أو الانتقام.
- 🚫 لا يحق للرجل أن يسترجع أي شيء أعطاه لزوجته بعد الطلاق، إلا إذا كانت هناك ظروف خاصة.
- ⚠️ إذا طلق الرجل زوجته للمرة الثالثة، فإنها تصبح غير حلال له حتى تتزوج من شخص آخر.
- 💔 الطلاق الثالث يمنع الرجل من التلاعب بالمرأة، ويجبره على إدراك قيمة الفراق.
- 🤝 الحكمة من الطلاق الثالث هي أنه يمنع الرجل من اللعب بمشاعر المرأة ويجبره على التقدير.
- 📖 الله يعلمنا كيفية التعامل مع الطلاق بشكل سلمي، حيث أن العلاقات الجيدة يمكن أن تدار بدون تدخل.
Q & A
ما هو القانون الأكثر تفصيلاً في القرآن الكريم بحسب النص؟
-القانون الأكثر تفصيلاً في القرآن الكريم هو قانون الطلاق.
لماذا يُعتقد أن القرآن يتناول الطلاق بتفصيل أكبر من الزواج السعيد؟
-يُعتقد أن القرآن يتناول الطلاق بتفصيل أكبر لأن الناس يعرفون كيفية الحفاظ على علاقة جيدة بأنفسهم، لكنهم قد لا يعرفون كيفية التعامل مع الطلاق بشكل سلمي، ولذلك يقدم القرآن توجيهات واضحة ومفصلة حول ذلك.
ماذا يُقال عن الطلاق الرجعي في القرآن؟
-الطلاق الرجعي يمكن أن يحدث مرتين، حيث يستطيع الزوج إرجاع زوجته بعد الطلاق مرتين قبل أن يصبح الطلاق نهائيًا.
كيف يجب على الزوج أن يتصرف إذا أراد إرجاع زوجته بعد الطلاق؟
-يجب على الزوج أن يُرجع زوجته بطريقة لائقة وبنية حسنة، مع مراعاة الكرامة والأخلاق الحسنة.
ماذا يعني "إمساك بمعروف أو تسريح بإحسان" في سياق الطلاق؟
-يعني أنه يجب على الزوج أن يختار إما أن يُمسك زوجته بطريقة لائقة أو أن يُطلقها بطريقة جميلة وباحترام.
هل يُسمح للرجل باسترجاع ما أعطاه للزوجة بعد الطلاق؟
-لا يُسمح للرجل بأخذ أي شيء مما أعطاه لزوجته، إلا إذا كانت هناك ظروف تجعل ذلك مناسبًا وتوافق عليه الزوجة.
متى يُصبح الطلاق نهائيًا ولا يمكن الرجوع بعده؟
-يُصبح الطلاق نهائيًا بعد الطلقة الثالثة، ولا يمكن للزوجين العودة إلا إذا تزوجت الزوجة من شخص آخر وطلقت منه.
ما الحكمة من عدم السماح للزوج بإعادة زوجته بعد الطلقة الثالثة إلا بعد زواجها من آخر؟
-الحكمة هي أن الزوج يجب أن يشعر بألم الفقدان وأنه لا يمكنه التلاعب بالمرأة أو معاملتها كشيء يمكن إعادته وإطلاقه كما يشاء.
ما هي الحدود التي يجب على الزوجين احترامها بعد الطلاق الثالث؟
-يجب عليهما احترام الحدود التي وضعها الله وعدم تجاوزها، وإذا تجاوزوها فإنهم يعتبرون من الظالمين.
كيف يُمكن للزوجين استئناف العلاقة بعد الطلاق الثالث؟
-يمكنهم استئناف العلاقة فقط إذا تزوجت الزوجة من شخص آخر وطلقت منه، مما يسمح لهما بالعودة بعد ذلك.
Outlines
💼 The Importance of Divorce Laws in the Quran
The speaker highlights that the most detailed law in the Quran pertains to divorce, contrasting it with the minimal guidance on maintaining a happy marriage. This emphasis on divorce laws suggests that Allah knows humans can manage good relationships but struggle with peaceful separations. The Quran offers extensive guidance on how to handle divorce, including the stipulation that a man can pronounce divorce twice and still reconcile, but this must be done with seriousness and not treated as a joke.
🤝 Wisdom in Handling Divorce with Decency
This section emphasizes the need for decency and dignity in handling divorce. Allah transitions from legal directives to wisdom, advising that reconciliation should be done with good intentions. The Quran also stresses that if a divorce must happen, it should be conducted beautifully, without ugliness. A man is prohibited from reclaiming anything he has given his wife during marriage, but if both parties fear they cannot abide by Allah's laws, compromises can be made to facilitate a peaceful separation.
🔄 The Finality of Divorce in the Quran
The speaker explains the finality of divorce after the third pronouncement. Once a man has divorced his wife three times, she is no longer permissible for him unless she marries and divorces someone else. This rule prevents men from treating women like a yo-yo, emphasizing the seriousness of divorce. The speaker elaborates on the wisdom behind this rule, noting that it forces a man to experience the consequences of his actions, particularly the pain of knowing his former wife was with another man before they could reconcile.
📚 Invitation to Learn the Quran with Bayyinah TV
In the concluding section, the speaker invites viewers to join Bayyinah TV to deepen their understanding of the Quran. They stress that the platform offers an organized, step-by-step approach to learning the Quran, making it accessible for individuals, families, and peers. The content on Bayyinah TV is designed to take students from basic to profound levels of Quranic knowledge, providing a structured alternative to the scattered resources available on YouTube.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡الطلاق
💡الزواج
💡العودة بعد الطلاق
💡الحكمة
💡الحدود
💡النوايا الحسنة
💡التصرف الكريم
💡الانفصال الجميل
💡الرجعة
💡العدالة
Highlights
The most detailed law in the Quran is about divorce, indicating its significance and the need for proper guidance in such situations.
People often make light of divorce by treating it casually and seeking out Muftis to undo their words, which is seen as making a joke out of the ayat of Allah.
There is a misconception that divorce doesn't count unless it's said three times, which is not supported by Islamic teachings.
Allah provides extensive guidance on divorce in the Quran, as it is a situation where humans are less likely to handle it properly without divine guidance.
The Quran provides minimal advice on maintaining a happy marriage because it is assumed that people inherently know how to maintain good relationships.
Divorce is a law in the Quran, but the way one handles the aftermath involves wisdom and decency, which goes beyond just following the law.
The Quran advises holding onto the marriage with decency or letting go beautifully, emphasizing the importance of wisdom in handling delicate situations like divorce.
It is forbidden for a man to take back anything he gave to his wife upon divorce, highlighting fairness and integrity in the process.
If both parties fear they cannot abide by Allah's laws, it is permissible for the woman to give up something of hers to facilitate the divorce.
After the third pronouncement of divorce, the woman is no longer permissible for her husband unless she marries someone else first.
The rule about marrying someone else before returning to the previous husband is designed to prevent men from toying with the sanctity of marriage.
The Quran's guidance ensures that divorce is handled with the utmost respect and consideration for both parties involved.
The wisdom behind requiring the woman to marry someone else before returning to her previous husband is to make the man value her and the relationship more.
This guidance from the Quran is meant to protect women from being mistreated or taken for granted in marriage and divorce.
The detailed explanation of divorce in the Quran is a reflection of Allah's knowledge of human nature and the complexities of relationships.
Transcripts
the most detailed law in the Quran is
divorce nowadays people have made a joke
out of this
what you're going to do now and then two
hours later I didn't mean it
it didn't count
let's go find a Mufti
right because we made a joke out of
though by the way isn't that making the
ayat of Allah a joke
it is right and you know what's even
crazier this is I don't know if this is
just pakistanis or what but a lot of
people have told me oh it doesn't count
unless you say it three times who told
you that what book are you reading
did you are you learning Islam from a
comic book
this new short series is based on the
findings of Dr sakib Hussain and his PhD
thesis wisdom in the Quran which was
summarized and presented by ustad Norman
in front of a live audience the link to
the full paper is in the description
[Music]
this is now our final section and this
is where we're going to spend quite a
bit of time I I explained already to you
the difference between law and wisdom in
the last session right law is black and
white
and wisdom is kind of situation by
situation but now we have to combine the
two of them we have to actually look at
the two of them together
you might not know this but the laws in
the Quran
the one law in the Quran that is talked
about in more detail than any other law
and I'm not talking about worship I'm
talking about a law that has people
people's dealings
the most detailed law in the Quran is
divorce
there's no law that Allah talks about in
more detail in the entire Quran than he
does about
divorce if somebody asked the question
what does the Quran say about
a happy marriage there's like two ayahs
and then if you ask what's the Quran say
about divorce there are several pages
and then a Surah on top of that and then
other references why
and the Quran is silent on relationship
advice
except very little this is the Ayah room
is the Ayah every um some little bit of
hints in the ayat of Ramadan bits and
pieces here and there but the majority
when you talk about divorce oh my God
you know why it's as if it's as if I by
here's the principle
Allah teaches you what you couldn't
possibly learn yourself or know yourself
which means Allah knows that you know
how to have a good relationship
you don't need some outside help to
figure out how to have a good marriage
but what you don't know how to do is to
have a peaceful divorce
that you don't know
you know how to keep things good
but you don't know how to handle the
situation when things go
bad that you couldn't figure out
yourself there I will give you
exhaustive explanation
and so Allah gives exhaustive
explanation about what should happen
when somebody's getting divorced
how that's and the thing is these are
you can call them the laws of divorce so
this part of the Quran is kitab isn't it
it's we're going to look at a little bit
of that I mean we can't go through all
of that because it's huge it's a very
big subject but I'm going to show you
just a one small sampling of it
very brief commentary okay when a man
and a woman are married then a man can
pronounce his divorce and still be able
to take her back twice that can happen
at two occasions two separate occasions
nowadays people have made a joke out of
this
what you gonna do now and then two hours
later I didn't mean it
it didn't count
let's go find a Mufti
right because we made a joke out of
though by the way isn't that making the
ayat of Allah a joke
it is right and you know what's even
crazier this is I don't know if this is
just pakistanis or what but a lot of
people have told me oh it doesn't count
unless you say it three times who told
you that what book are you reading
did you are you learning Islam from a
comic book
this is psychosis Allah says revocable
reversible divorce can happen on two
occasions you can end the marriage that
it's still reversible on two occasions
then he says listen carefully
then after that happens any one of those
he says I divorce you and then he thinks
about it they think about it they talk
about it and he says you know well let's
try again
he says then take back hold on to the
marriage but hold on to it
with decency
hold on to it with dignity with decent
with goodness
now holding on to it with goodness let
me ask you does that sound like law or
wisdom
immediately after the law
Allah switched over to what
wisdom because I cannot check if I'm
taking back for good intention in a good
way or not that's not something to lock
and judge labs are not directly
or let go beautifully
he says Let Go what
beautifully Quran is saying that Quran
is saying that
you know when divorce happens it gets
really ugly right
and now Allah is telling you listen you
don't know how to handle the situation
I'm telling you do everything you can to
let go in a way that is beautiful
and what happens a lot of times is one
person fears Allah and says I want to
let go in a way that's beautiful the
other one says
let me see how I'll show you beautiful
right
then he says
it is not knowledge talking to the men
he says it's not Halal for you you're
not allowed to take anything back that
you gave to them
if you gave her a car if you give her a
ring she'd give her a necklace if you
bought her a PS5
right because you bought yourself a PS5
free but you said this is your eat
present so officially you made it hurry
present
I'm just playing it so it doesn't go
shut up you know I'm just keeping it
if you gave it to her Allah says it's
not Halal for you to take back anything
that you had given to them
okay then
unless they're both scared that they're
not going to be able to abide by the
laws of Allah this is going to be a
longer discussion so I won't go into
details here
with Allah and if you're afraid that
they both cannot abide by the law of
Allah
then there's no harm on either of them
if she gives up some part of what she
owed basically the bottom line here I'm
being very brief here for now is she
wants to end the marriage for example
but he doesn't want to let go and she
says you know what keep the PS5
can you just let me go I just I don't
want to stay just keep the PS5 Allah
says there's no harm if she gives up
something that's actually hers but she
says maybe that'll make the departure
easy for me
okay so she's kind of almost like paying
a ransom in this situation a little bit
so he says that okay he's not making her
do it but he's saying if that's what
gets you away from this situation it's
no harm if you try to do that that's
Halal for you because he already said
it's not Halal to take anything right
but now he says by the way but if you
think giving something up will let him
go easy
then just do that okay after that be
those are the limits set by Allah don't
cross them
whoever crosses the limit set by Allah
then those are the people that have done
wrong now
but if a third time he divorced her
again so two have already been mentioned
this is which time third time
she is no longer permissible for him
they can't be together immediately that
that's not possible thereafter
until she gets married to someone other
than him
so she she can't be with him anymore
zubair is done sorry zubair is just an
example zubair is done
she moved on with her life five months
later she got married to Kareem sorry
Kareem
okay and then she married Kareem and
Kareem turned out that he uh
likes Xbox he doesn't like the PS5
something happened it didn't work out
and now she got divorced again
okay now she got divorced and she sent
us a text message to uh zubair and said
hey uh what you doing
and somebody says why are you aren't you
married no not anymore
says
I'm okay
let's try this again
then it's okay
it's okay for you to go back to him if
you got married to someone else and then
it didn't work out for a lady that's
being told otherwise otherwise the man
is not allowed by the way what could be
the wisdom what's the hikmah behind that
well if a man says to a woman I don't
want you I divorce you okay okay I
didn't mean I didn't mean it so she
comes back two months later
you think I want you I don't want you
get out of here
kicks her out again then takes her back
the third time you don't get to yo-yo
with this woman the third time it's
done now you must experience the pain of
knowing that she was with someone else
because you didn't value her
so if you really want her back Allah is
going to have her live her life and if
that doesn't work out and she still
wants you decides that she wants you
back then maybe you can get back
together otherwise you guys are done
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