P*rn Killed My Dad - Undisciplined Sexuality Ruins Your Potential
Summary
TLDRThe speaker candidly addresses the pervasive issue of male sexual addiction, particularly to pornography, and its detrimental effects on personal growth and productivity. Drawing from personal experience, he emphasizes the importance of intentionality and conscious choice in overcoming this addiction. He contrasts the negative impacts of compulsive sexual behavior with the positive effects of channeling sexual energy into creativity and meaningful relationships. The video is a call to action for men to evolve, harness their potential, and break free from the cycle of addiction, offering support and community for those on this journey.
Takeaways
- 😀 The speaker shares his personal journey with pornography, highlighting the negative impact it had on his life from a young age.
- 🔒 He emphasizes the importance of breaking free from sexual addiction, such as pornography and masturbation, to reach one's full potential.
- 🌟 The video aims to educate and provide a perspective on the topic without resorting to guilt or shame.
- 🚫 The speaker discusses the concept of 'PMO' (porn, masturbation, orgasm) and how it can be a nightly ritual for many men, which he believes is detrimental.
- ⚡️ Sexual energy, when not squandered, can be harnessed for creativity and productivity, leading to personal and professional growth.
- 🔄 The speaker differentiates between negative polarity (e.g., pornography, casual hookups) and positive polarity (intimate connections) in sexual energy.
- 💡 He suggests that intentionality and conscious choices are necessary to overcome addiction and to evolve as a person.
- 📈 The video encourages setting intentions, journaling, and meditating as steps towards breaking free from sexual addiction.
- 👥 The speaker recommends surrounding oneself with like-minded individuals who are supportive of personal growth and integrity.
- 🌐 He highlights the importance of community and offers an online community, the 'Conscious Men Community,' for further support and discussion.
Q & A
At what age was the speaker introduced to pornography?
-The speaker was introduced to pornography at the age of 10.
What is the term 'PMO' used to describe in the script?
-PMO stands for 'porn, masturbation, orgasm', which refers to the act of viewing pornography and engaging in masturbation leading to orgasm.
How does the speaker suggest that pornography affects one's motivation and drive?
-The speaker suggests that pornography can squander a person's motivation and drive, leading to a lack of productivity and a sense of emptiness after indulging in it.
What does the speaker propose as an alternative to negative sexual behaviors?
-The speaker proposes that positive sexual energy can be harnessed through intentionality and conscious choices, such as engaging in sexual activities with someone one feels a deep connection with, rather than just physical attraction.
What advice does the speaker give for someone trying to quit pornography addiction?
-The speaker advises setting intentions, journaling about it, meditating on it, and taking small steps like curating one's social media experience to avoid exposure to triggering content.
How does the speaker describe the difference between negative and positive polarity in sexual energy?
-Negative polarity is described as engaging in sexual activities that lead to feelings of emptiness and lack of motivation, such as masturbation to pornography or casual hookups. Positive polarity involves sexual release with someone one feels a genuine connection with, leading to a sense of peace and increased productivity.
What personal experience does the speaker share regarding his father's struggle with pornography?
-The speaker shares that his father, who was a religious man, struggled with pornography and inappropriate behavior, which eventually led to his business being at risk and his eventual suicide.
What is the name of the online community the speaker has started for men?
-The speaker has started an online community called the 'Conscious Men Community'.
How does the speaker suggest one should approach friends who are not receptive to personal growth?
-The speaker suggests that if friends are not receptive to growth and self-improvement, it might be better to distance oneself from such company, as one becomes the company they keep.
What is the speaker's stance on the role of religion in overcoming pornography addiction?
-The speaker believes that merely agreeing with a religious ideology does not set one free from addiction; instead, it requires intentionality, conscious choice, and inner work.
Outlines
🔞 Impact of Early Exposure to Pornography
The speaker begins by addressing the issue of men being enslaved to their sexual desires and the impact of pornography. He shares his personal experience of being introduced to pornography at a young age and how it has affected him. He emphasizes that the discussion is not meant to induce shame or guilt but to educate and provide a different perspective. The speaker also mentions the challenges of discussing such topics due to age restrictions on platforms like YouTube. He acknowledges the potential for the video's visibility to be limited but hopes to reach a wide audience, including both children and adults, to make the content relevant to all. The speaker also shares some background information about his current setting, which is outside his car, and the potential issues with recording due to weather conditions and the car's age.
🚫 Overcoming Sexual Addiction and Harnessing Energy
In this paragraph, the speaker delves into the effects of wasting sexual energy and how it can impact a man's life. He discusses his own past habit of pornography and masturbation, which he refers to as PMO (porn, masturbation, orgasm), and how it consumed his motivation and drive. The speaker shares that he has been free from this addiction for several years and has experienced a significant increase in his productivity and creativity as a result. He explains the concept of positive and negative polarity in sexual energy, giving examples of each. Negative polarity includes activities like watching pornography and casual sex without emotional connection, which lead to feelings of emptiness and lack of motivation. Positive polarity, on the other hand, involves sexual release with someone with whom there is a deeper connection, leading to a sense of peace and maintained productivity. The speaker encourages viewers to reflect on their habits and consider the impact on their potential.
💡 Finding Serenity Through Positive Sexual Experiences
The speaker continues by contrasting the feelings of emptiness that follow negative sexual experiences with the peaceful calmness that can come from positive ones. He explains that after a positive sexual experience, such as with a partner with whom there is a deep connection, there is no negative aftermath like the one that follows masturbation or casual sex. The speaker shares his journey of self-discovery and the realization that breaking free from sexual addiction is not about guilt or shame but about reaching one's full potential. He emphasizes the importance of surrounding oneself with like-minded individuals who are also focused on personal growth and integrity. The speaker also touches on the idea of casting pearls before swine, suggesting that it's better to be alone than to associate with people who do not value personal growth.
💔 The Consequences of Addiction and the Path to Healing
In the final paragraph, the speaker shares a personal story about his father's struggle with pornography and its eventual impact on his life, leading to his suicide. He uses this story to illustrate the importance of humility and vigilance in maintaining freedom from addiction. The speaker encourages viewers to set intentions, meditate, and take small steps towards breaking free from pornography addiction. He also suggests using social media algorithms to one's advantage by showing disinterest in provocative content. The speaker concludes by emphasizing the importance of community and support, mentioning his own online community for men called the Conscious Men Community. He invites viewers to join if they are interested and assures them that they are not alone in their struggles. The speaker ends on a hopeful note, reminding viewers of their worth and potential.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Sexual Desires
💡Pornography
💡PMO (Porn, Masturbate, Orgasm)
💡Addiction
💡Intentionality
💡Sexual Energy
💡Negative Polarity
💡Positive Polarity
💡Humility
💡Conscious Men Community
Highlights
The speaker discusses the impact of pornography and sexual addiction on men's lives, emphasizing the importance of addressing the issue without shame or guilt.
He shares his personal experience of being introduced to pornography at a young age and the long-term effects it had on him.
The video aims to make the content relevant to men of all ages, from children to adults, to foster understanding and awareness.
The speaker clarifies the term 'PMO' (porn, masturbation, orgasm) to educate viewers on the specific behaviors being discussed.
He emphasizes the importance of intentionality and conscious choice in overcoming sexual addiction.
The speaker discusses the cultural and religious context of the west, particularly the United States, and how it relates to sexual addiction.
He shares how sexual energy can be harnessed for creativity and productivity when not squandered on negative behaviors.
The concept of positive and negative polarity in sexual energy is introduced, with examples of each.
The speaker encourages viewers to set intentions and take small steps towards breaking free from sexual addiction.
He suggests using social media algorithms to one's advantage by curating content and avoiding triggers.
The importance of surrounding oneself with like-minded individuals who are also striving for growth and self-improvement is highlighted.
The speaker shares a personal story about his father's struggle with sexual addiction and its tragic consequences.
He advises staying humble and vigilant even after breaking free from pornography, as the temptation can still arise.
The speaker encourages self-inquiry and envisioning the kind of man one wants to be, especially for those who envision having children.
He discusses the importance of compassion and awareness in helping others overcome sexual addiction.
The speaker invites viewers to join his online community, the Conscious Men Community, for further support and discussion.
He concludes by reassuring viewers that they are not alone in their struggles and that they have great potential.
Transcripts
hey buddy tonight I want to talk to you
about how most men are a slave to their
sexual desires and how things like
pornography keeps you stuck in more
ways then you might
realize hopefully the YouTube algorithm
doesn't
limit the visibility of this video
because sometimes with topics like these
it limits it to 18 and up but I was
introduced to
pornography when I was 10 years
old so if you're watching this and you
are a child or if you're watching this
and you're a full grown man I'm going to
trying to make this video relevant
to the male species in the west as much
as
possible
and one thing I'm going to say is none
of this is going to be from a place of
Shame and guilt because the times in the
past that I tried to quit my sexual
addiction to things like pornography
masturbation orgasm we're going to use
the term pmo it's when you view
pornography and you you know do the
whole deal
pmo I'm clarifying that because in
previous videos I get tons of comments
of people asking what that
is anyway we're not going to do it from
guilt and shame I'm just going to share
my
perspective I'm just going to try to
educate you from a different
angle and I hope this video helps you
because as we grow and evolve and become
better
men the collect
gets better the world itself evolves as
we
evolve couple things I want to preface
it's extremely humid outside so there's
a chance that my camera that the lens
might fog up cuz my camera is on the
outside of my car it's what gives it
this fun cinematic look and also the
suspension on this
vehicle this is a 2001 Toyota Avalon I
inherited it from my father after he
died
and uh the suspension is very loud and
I'm just running this thing into the
ground I'm not really doing any repairs
and once it dies out then I'll get a new
car but in the meantime it's been going
strong for 20 years this is the only car
I've ever owned anyway I digress I just
wanted to give you a little bit of
background if this is your first time on
this
channel so little story I was introduced
to
pornography when I was 10 years old I
was man this is that's how long ago is
that 26 years ago that's
insane I was at a sleepover I went to
private Christian school and I had a
buddy and his parents had the all the
channels and I'm not just talking about
late night HBO where you might see
some some softcore
porn I was in the living room I don't
know what I don't recall what happened I
think his parents were asleep my friend
was just in his room playing video games
I turned on the TV and I stumbled
upon a gang bang scene as a 10-year-old
Conservative Christian child who I don't
even know if I'd ever seen a female
nipple at that
point so that level of
Innocence going from you know zero to a
th000 in a sense
really really traumatized me and [ __ ]
me up in ways that I didn't realize
until later in life so I have a lot of
compassion for guys who are addicted to
pornography and are don't really have
control of the lustful animalistic
nature that is inherent within every man
and in this Modern Age that doesn't
really fix itself it takes
intentionality and it takes a conscious
choice to shine a light on this area of
life now it gets very difficult because
here in the west at least a lot of
people are involved in religion in a lot
of cases fundamentalist Christianity and
the philosophy here in the west I live
in the United
States it comes down to hey invite Jesus
into your heart so you won't go to hell
and then everything will be okay
however that's not true because doing
that mentally agreeing with a
certain religious ideology doesn't
actually set you free in any way shape
or form and it does not give you
any outward manifestation of inward
healing you have to intentionally take
these things
on now religion aside all that stuff
aside I want to talk about how
wasting your sexual energy as a man how
it really affects
us most men their entire
life they develop a habit of pmo just
like brushing their teeth for me it was
one of those things where I had a ritual
a nightly ritual
of I would you know I would wind down
I'd do my thing and then I would fire up
the computer at at the time or the phone
and I would find the perfect
video and I would do the whole
deal I have
learned at this point in my life I've
been free of pornography I've been free
of being a slave to the animalistic
sexual nature for several years
now and in
hindsight I am
amazed at how much of my motivation and
drive was being squandered on these
things I had no idea and you won't
realize it until you get to a point
where you're free of this completely it
doesn't mean that you know you're still
not always be attracted to women you'll
always be drawn to the feminine but that
urge to just ejaculate all the time
whenever you feel the urge when you
learn to resist
that men were created to use that sexual
energy that tension that you feel that
discomfort of just like wanting to
release that can be harnessed and is
harnessed into things like creativity
whether it's building a business whether
it's writing a book whether it's you
know writing a song Whatever your
individual
creative tendency might
be become supercharged truly I am not
bullshitting you I would never ever in a
million years go back once I tasted the
fruits of retaining my Sexual Energy now
this doesn't mean just taking a vow of
celibacy okay here's another thing that
I've
realized there is such a thing as
positive and negative polarity when it
comes to Sexual
Energy so examples of negative polarity
would be
masturbating
pornography you know it's like you
ejaculate you get that release and then
you're just sitting there
alone on your couch or in your bed with
your pants down and the moment that the
orgasm is done you get this emptiness
you feel
this this sad dark feeling you know and
if you do it during the day you don't
want to be productive you know you want
to veg out you want to play video games
names that creative spark I won't say
it's gone completely because I know that
there are successful men out there who
have these habits and still achieve
success but those men imagine what they
would accomplish if they were operating
at their full potential and not
squandering this Sexual
Energy so that's one negative polarity
another negative polarity is hooking up
with women that you feel absolutely no
connection to
whatsoever other than maybe a little bit
of physical
attraction that gives you an empty
feeling it it will give you a similar
feeling to masturbating by yourself to
pornography cuz what you're doing is
you're just
using another person's body to sort of
get off to it you're like masturbating
with their body and then after that
release you might not even want them in
your house anymore you're just like uh
that is also negative
polarity and positive polarity is having
a sexual release with someone that you
feel a connection
to you know this could be your
girlfriend this could be someone that
you just care
about that when you're not having sex
you enjoy their presence you enjoy
spending time with them there's
something deeper there
miraculously after ejaculation with
someone like this you don't get that
empty feeling if anything I won't say
that you feel
recharged but there's like a there's
like a
peaceful calmness that you have you feel
more Serene you feel focused you feel a
bit more
conscious
and you can still after that be
productive you might not have like that
intense energy behind you but you don't
have that negative polarity that you
usually do when
you're addicted to that sexual
release so these are things
that I had to sort of find out for
myself and once I found these things out
I was able to quit those things and it
wasn't motivation from guilt and shame
it was motivation from like oh my God
I'm literally not reaching my maximum
potential and something like this
doesn't really get talked about you know
it's like there are dudes who just like
glorify you know they talk about their
favorite porn stars they talk about oh I
need go home and and
and and whack off or whatever like first
of all if that's the vibration of your
circle of
friends I would say brother that it is
easier to go through a season of being
alone for a Time
and maybe not having any friends that to
associate with those kinds of people
because you really do become The Company
You Keep I'm very selective now with who
I spend time with whe whether it's women
whether
it's
other guys I need them to be
like-minded either at my
level or above and if they are maybe not
where I'm at they need to be receptive
to growth they need to be
eager to essentially become a better
version of themselves because whenever I
see someone who's maybe at like a lower
point in their
evolution I naturally have a desire to
condescend and like pull them up and if
they're not receptive then that's the
whole idea of casting Pearls Before
Swine I think that's in the Bible I
could be wrong but essentially casting
pearls before swine is like you're
dropping knowledge you're dropping
wisdom and they're
just not receptive I've had friends like
this who are like in terrible shape and
they'll you know kind of inquire about
how to get better shape diet and I'll
tell them and it's like it goes in one
ear and out the other they never take
any action they never um ask for
clarification it's like I'm not
interested anymore to share
insights or wisdom with people who can't
receive it because it takes humility
both ways you know so anyway I
digress so a few steps you know again
back to the guilt and shame sometimes
quitting pmo can be a process and it's
not going to happen
overnight the best thing that you can do
right now if you're deeply in the throws
of that and it's like that addiction is
so ingrained is to just set intention
and I know that might seem small but
truly set in intention like Journal
about it meditate on it and slowly take
steps and something as simple as
scrolling on
Instagram and going in you know if
you're on social media I'm on social
media because I I get inspired by
uplifting content I create content but
like in your discover page and whenever
there's like just some girl in yoga
pants doing Thoughts with her ass facing
the camera hold the button down click on
not interested and over time the
algorithm will start to chill the [ __ ]
out and you could start to
uh curate your uh social media
experience so you're not being exposed
to these things all the time so like
Little Steps like that and self- inquiry
the kind of man that you want to
be when you imagine having kids I've got
a four-year-old son it's like you know
what kind of man do you imagine you want
their father to be what kind of father
do you want to be and again not from
guilt and shame but just to become the
best version of yourself to take steps
towards
that my
dad committed suicide when I was 16
years
old and essentially you know I talk
about this in other videos this is if
you're new to the channel he had a
business a chiropractic
business and his anim istic nature got
the best of him
he engaged in inappropriate behavior and
then he essentially long story short was
facing losing his business he was facing
potential jail time because people were
pressing charges with inappropriate
behavior it turned his whole world
upside down and I
remember you know he ultimately ended up
taking his own life when he was going
through all of this because he was
losing his business was life insurance
he wanted to make sure his family was
taken care of but I remember having a
private conversation with
him and uh him just breaking down
basically saying that when he engaged in
that
behavior he was also giving
into consuming pornography and all those
things and it sort of overtook him
because he broke free from it for a
while you know he was involved in church
he was like a pretty religious guy but
then ultimately he kind
of got pulled back into that and
so when you do Break Free of pornography
I would encourage you to stay humble I
still have a lot of humility when it
comes to the stuff I have to because
even though I've been free from it for
years and
years every man is susceptible
pornography pornography is literally
created
to it's like a low blow you know it's
like it attacks you at the knees it
attacks you when you least expect it so
you have to stay vigilant if you want to
be a man who's not a slave to these
things and not get sucked back into it
stay
humble I still you know if I'm on
Instagram whenever I see content of
stuff that just you know even just like
really mild stuff some some bimbo just
like doing squats with her ass facing
the camera you know it's like oh it's my
fitness channel she knows what she's
doing cuz you look at the comments it's
all thirsty dudes and stuff the moment I
see that stuff I just click on it not
interested or I just like block it or
something to basically show the
algorithm hey this isn't the kind of
content that I respond
to and you know you can take steps like
this find a community of men you know it
could
be in religious group maybe you're
Muslim maybe you're Christian maybe you
have just a group of guys with similar
goals of wanting to be in have integrity
and virtuous and all that again not to
be self-righteous but simply when you do
this inner work and you break free of
these
vices I'm telling you right now that's
how we make the world a better place
Gandhi become the change you want to see
in the world and what happens is when
you get to this place where you're no
longer judging yourself and you're able
to break free of it you'll also stop
judging other people there was a time of
self-righteousness where when I broke
free of this I was just kind of like all
these dudes are whacking off every day
and they're addicted to porn and they
have no idea uh you know how much
they're slacking and how unproductive
they are and now at this place in my
Evolution dude it's just been replaced
with
compassion you know this is one of the
biggest weaknesses for dudes a lot of
guys are suffering and struggling with
this so awareness and compassion is
ultimately what I think contributes to
other guys doing this kind of healing
work
so hope this helps you in some way at
the very least just know you're not
alone a lot of guys I'd say a majority
of men are addicted to pornography it's
just they don't really talk about it
they keep it to themselves and so you
know I'm grateful for this kind of
community on YouTube
if you want a more in-depth Community
I've started an online community it's
called the conscious men
community and uh we get pretty
vulnerable we go deep we talk about all
kinds of things
including Breaking Free of pornography
addiction and spiritual
work and uh health and fitness all kinds
of things no topics are off the table
you know so if that interests you the
link is in the description if not no
worries I have a whole whole channel of
videos that are just meant to support
you so that way you don't feel alone in
this
journey comment if you have anything to
add and I think that's all I got for you
tonight
man you are loved you
matter and you've barely scratched the
surface of what you're capable
of talk to you
soon can we change your face
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oh can we change our face
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