the fear of being average | a perspective from Jung on unique potential & integrating your shadow
Summary
TLDRCe script de vidéo explore le concept de potentiel unique selon Carl Yung, confrontant le spectre de l'insatisfaction même après une vie réussie. Il distingue le potentiel interne, lié à la réalisation de soi, de l'external, dicté par les attentes sociales. Il discute des rôles du Persona et de l'ombre, et comment l'intégration de ces aspects cachés peut mener à une vie plus accomplie. Le message clé est que la réalisation de son potentiel unique dépasse l'adaptation sociale normale, offrant une vie plus riche et significative.
Takeaways
- 🏡 L'auteur a déménagé récemment et utilise cette vidéo pour discuter de son sujet préféré, le concept de potentiel unique d'après Jung.
- 📚 Il partage des idées issues du livre 'Modern Man In Search of a Soul', qui explore les raisons pour lesquelles nous pouvons craindre la normalité et être en deçà de notre potentiel.
- 🤔 Il y a deux compréhensions du mot 'potentiel' : le potentiel externe, basé sur les attentes sociales, et le potentiel interne, lié au développement de la personnalité innée.
- 🧩 Jung croyait que nous naissons avec tous les éléments nécessaires à notre potentiel unique, qui doivent être développés pour être pleinement réalisés.
- 🎭 Le 'Persona' est la façade sociale que l'on crée, influencée par notre rôle dans la société et qui peut être un obstacle à la réalisation du potentiel unique.
- 🔍 Jung s'oppose à la théorie de la tablissement, arguant que nous ne sommes pas des tableaux blancs mais que nous avons une personnalité innée à développer.
- 😷 L'inconscient peut contenir des secrets réprimés qui peuvent avoir un impact destructeur sur notre vie, ce qui est abordé par la méthode de psychothérapie de Jung.
- 🛠️ Jung a introduit la méthode de transformation pour aider ceux qui, malgré une adaptation sociale et un succès apparent, se sentent insatisfaits et cherchent à réaliser leur potentiel.
- 🌱 Le 'Shadow' contient tous les aspects de nous-même que nous avons réprimés et qui, non développés, peuvent influencer notre vie de manière négative.
- 🔑 Pour atteindre notre potentiel unique, il est nécessaire de récupérer et de développer les aspects de notre personnalité contenus dans notre 'Shadow'.
- 🌟 L'auteur encourage à travailler sur son 'Shadow' pour surmonter les limitations mentales et atteindre une vie de réalisation personnelle et de paix d'esprit.
Q & A
Pourquoi l'auteur a-t-il décidé de parler du potentiel unique selon Jung?
-L'auteur a choisi de parler du potentiel unique selon Jung car il a constaté que de nombreuses personnes, même ayant une vie réussie, peuvent se sentir insatisfaites et il pense que c'est un sujet auquel beaucoup peuvent se rapporter.
Quel est le sens du mot 'potentiel' selon l'auteur?
-Selon l'auteur, le 'potentiel' peut être compris en termes d'un 'potentiel interne' et d'un 'potentiel externe'. Le potentiel externe est la pression sociale pour atteindre les attentes, tandis que le potentiel interne, ou le potentiel unique de Jung, est le développement de la personnalité inhérente que l'on est né avec.
Quelle est la différence entre le 'Persona' et le 'potentiel unique' selon Jung?
-Le 'Persona' est l'image que l'on se fait de qui l'on veut être, influencée par le rôle social, tandis que le 'potentiel unique' fait référence au développement de toutes les facettes de la personnalité inhérente, qui guident vers une vie personnelle et pleine de réalisme.
Pourquoi les secrets réprimés peuvent-ils être destructeurs selon Jung?
-Selon Jung, les secrets réprimés tombent dans l'inconscient et deviennent une partie de l'ombre, où ils exercent une influence destructrice ou non productive sur tout ce que l'on fait, causant ainsi de l'auto-sabotage.
Quel est le rôle de la 'catharsis' dans la psychothérapie selon Jung?
-La 'catharsis', ou la confession, est la première étape de la psychothérapie selon Jung. Elle permet de libérer l'influence non consciente des secrets réprimés et de retourner à une vie saine et normale.
Quelle est la différence entre les méthodes de Freud et d'Adler selon l'auteur?
-Freud introduit la méthode d'explication, étudiant les symptômes et les racines dans l'inconscient, mais laissant les patients sans solutions. Adler, quant à lui, s'occupe de l'adaptation sociale et de la normalité, aidant les personnes à vivre une vie utile et normale.
Quel est le quatrième stade de Jung que l'auteur mentionne?
-Le quatrième stade de Jung mentionné par l'auteur est la méthode de transformation, qui est destiné à combler le déficit laissé par les étapes précédentes et à répondre à un besoin non satisfait, celui de la réalisation du soi.
Pourquoi la normalité peut-elle être insatisfaisante pour certaines personnes selon Jung?
-Selon Jung, la normalité peut être insatisfaisante pour ceux qui ont déjà une adaptation sociale réussie et qui se sentent toujours insatisfaits, car ils n'ont pas réalisé leur potentiel unique et n'ont pas atteint la réalisation du soi.
Quel est le lien entre l'ombre et le potentiel unique selon Jung?
-Selon Jung, l'ombre contient tout ce que l'on réprime ou rejette en soi, mais qui ne disparaît pas. Ces éléments tombent dans l'inconscient et restent en état immature, ce qui peut causer des insécurités et des croyances limitatives. Cependant, ces éléments représentent également les graines du potentiel unique, car ils peuvent être développés et utilisés de manière productive.
Comment l'auteur suggère-il de travailler sur son ombre pour atteindre le potentiel unique?
-L'auteur suggère de faire appel à la 'travail sur l'ombre', un processus de réintégration des aspects de soi réprimés et non développés, pour atteindre le potentiel unique. Il propose également de regarder une vidéo qu'il a faite sur le sujet pour en savoir plus sur la démarche.
Outlines
🏠 Déménagement et la quête du potentiel unique
Le présentateur a déménagé et aborde le sujet du potentiel unique, en se basant sur les idées de Carl Yung. Il mentionne avoir lu 'Modern Man In Search of a Soul', où il trouve des éléments clés sur la peur de la normalité et de l'idée d'un potentiel unique. Il souligne que même une vie réussie peut ne pas être remplissante, ce qui est un sujet souvent abordé par Yung. Le présentateur explique les deux compréhensions du mot 'potentiel': le potentiel externe, qui est les attentes sociales, et le potentiel interne, ou le potentiel unique, qui est la réalisation de l'individu tel qu'il est né, avec toutes les pièces du puzzle de sa personnalité à développer.
🤔 Le danger des secrets et la méthode de transformation
Le texte explore l'idée de la confession comme méthode pour atteindre le bonheur, en tant que prototype de méthodes psychologiques futures. Il explique que les secrets, s'ils sont réprimés et tombent dans l'inconscient, peuvent devenir destructeurs. La méthode de catharsis est liée à la confession et peut aider à libérer ces influences. Cependant, il y a des méthodes supplémentaires, telles que celle d'Adler, qui vise à l'adaptation sociale et à la normalité, et la méthode de transformation de Yung, qui répond à un besoin non satisfait par les étapes précédentes, en permettant aux individus de dépasser la normalité et d'atteindre leur potentiel unique.
🌱 La quête de l'auto-réalisaton au-delà de la normalité
Dans ce paragraphe, le présentateur discute de l'idée que la normalité peut être insatisfaisante pour ceux qui ont déjà atteint un certain niveau d'adaptation sociale et de succès. Il mentionne que la restriction à la normalité peut causer de la souffrance et de l'insatisfaction, même pour ceux qui sont considérés comme 'normaux'. Il insiste sur l'importance de la réalisation de soi, en développant tous les aspects de sa personnalité, y compris ceux qui ont été réprimés et qui se trouvent dans l'ombre de l'individu.
💪 L'ombre comme source de potentiel
Le présentateur conclut en expliquant que l'ombre, qui contient tous les aspects de soi réprimés, est en réalité la source de son potentiel. Il souligne que ces aspects, bien qu'inférieurs et souvent négatifs, sont essentiels pour atteindre le potentiel unique de l'individu. Il encourage à l'intégration de l'ombre et au développement de ces aspects pour vivre une vie remplie et sans limitations, en se référant à d'autres ressources pour commencer à travailler sur l'ombre.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Potentiel interne
💡Potentiel externe
💡Persona
💡Adaptation sociale
💡Confession
💡Repression
💡Ombre
💡Transformation
💡Auto-réalisation
💡Courage d'être détesté
Highlights
L'auteur a déménagé récemment et discute de la difficulté de vivre une vie moyenne par rapport au potentiel unique.
La lecture du livre 'Modern Man In Search of a Soul' a inspiré la discussion sur la peur de la normalité et de l'averageness.
L'idée de Jung sur le potentiel inhérent et la réalisation de ce potentiel tout au long de la vie.
La définition de deux types de potentiel: interne et externe, et leur impact sur la perception de la réussite.
Le potentiel externe est vu comme une pression sociale pour atteindre les attentes, tandis que le potentiel interne est lié au développement personnel.
Jung a rejeté la théorie de la 'tabula rasa', affirmant que les individus naissent avec une personnalité inhérente.
La notion de potentiel unique selon Jung implique le développement et la réalisation de la personnalité inhérente.
Le 'Persona' est présenté comme le masque social qui permet d'adapter et de se conformer aux attentes de la société.
La difficulté de suivre le chemin du 'Persona' en essayant de se plier aux normes sociales.
L'importance de la réalisation de soi pour la joie et la réalisation personnelle, au-delà de l'adaptation sociale.
L'explication de la méthode confessionnelle comme prototype pour les méthodes psychologiques modernes.
L'influence des secrets refoulés sur le comportement et la santé mentale, menant à l'auto-sabotage.
L'introduction de la méthode d'explication par Floyd pour ramener les aspects perdus de soi à la conscience.
L'importance de la méthode de transformation de Jung pour aller au-delà de l'adaptation sociale et atteindre la réalisation de soi.
L'idée que la normalité peut être une source de souffrance pour ceux qui ont plus de capacité que la moyenne et qui cherchent à se réaliser pleinement.
La 'Shadow' de Jung, contenant tout ce qui est refoulé, est présenté comme une source de potentiel non réalisé.
L'importance de l'intégration de la 'Shadow' pour surmonter les insécurités et atteindre le potentiel unique.
L'appel à l'action pour que les téléspectateurs explorent leur 'Shadow' et travaillent sur l'intégration de ces aspects pour une vie plus réalisée.
Transcripts
hey guys welcome back it's been a minute
and that's because I just moved I'm
still getting the place set up so it's a
bit bare at the moment but in this video
I want to talk about my favorite topic
which is Yung and more specifically why
we may struggle with living an average
life and the idea of unique potential so
I've been reading Modern Man In Search
of a soul and there's a bit in here that
really struck me as to why we may fear
the idea of normality and being average
and I feel like this is something that a
lot of people are going to relate to
because even if you have a successful
life you may still feel unfulfilled and
this is something that Yung has talked
about a lot the idea of everyone having
an inherent unique potential that they
want to realize in their lifetime now
you guys know I love Yong and he's
written a lot about the idea
of living up to your fullest potential
in life and there are some bits in this
book that I want to share with you in
this video but first of all what is
potential the other day I was actually
talking to my friend about this and I
was trying to explain this idea of
living up to your potential to her and
to my surprise she really recoiled at my
use of the word potential and explain
that to her it felt like such a burden
like an expectation that's put on You by
Society the whole idea of oh you have so
much potential that you have to live up
to this kind of pressure for achievement
and success and this is actually what
inspired me to do this video today
because I realize that there are two
very different understandings of the
word potential and if you misunderstand
that then you're missing the entire
point of Yong when he talks about unique
potential so to fix my past mistake with
this I want to start with a definition
to keep things simple I'm going to use
the terms internal and external
potential external potential is what I
think my friend was thinking of when I
was explaining this it is the push that
comes from others to be the best version
of what is expected of you and this can
mean being the best at everything you do
having the best job making the most
money it's to reach the Skies of society
that is the idea of external potential
and while all of these things aren't bad
it's not what I mean when I'm talking
about the word potential these things
are all the aim of your persona it's
about social success however the kind of
potential I want to talk about is what
Yung calls your unique potential so
yung's whole idea with this goes against
the popular belief from at the time
of tabasa which is that people are born
as a blank slate that you're shaped
entir irely by your experiences and Yung
was against this Yung was an
essentialist he believed that people are
born with an inherent personality that
ideally through their life experiences
they get to develop and fulfill you can
think of it like this you're born with
all of the puzzle pieces to reach and
fulfill your unique potential in life
but all these pieces need to be
developed they need to go from an
immature to a mature state so that you
can actually use them so the idea of
unique potential is to Simply develop
all these pieces of your personality
that you are born with and realizing
them together he believe that everything
that is already within you will guide
you towards the life that only you can
pursue the life that is the most
fulfilling for you there's no
competition only yourself in developing
these parts now when I was talking about
the other type of potential I briefly
mentioned the Persona now the Persona is
like
the image you have of who you want to be
it is the right way to be and it's
shaped by your role in society the word
Persona literally means your social mask
but the path of your persona is a very
difficult path to follow because you're
constantly trying to fit yourself into
this mold of what you should be the
Persona is an important part of you and
it's something you need to be able to
use when it's needed because it's what
allows you to adapt to Society the aim
of the Persona is adaptation and
normality and while this is very
important for life it's not the only
goal so this poses a question which has
been around in Psychology for a very
long time and that is what does man need
to be happy or rather fulfilled yung's
predecessors all found their own answer
to this question each building upon each
other but even before then there's been
one very simple treatment that is
supposed to help people achieve
happiness and that is the confessional
this is something that was the prototype
for all these psychological methods that
are to come after as Yung explains as
soon as man was capable of conceiving
the idea of sin he had recourse to
psychic concealment or to put it in
analytical language repressions arose so
think of it like this anything that is
concealed is a secret and this is both
good and bad because on the one hand
whenever you have to maintain a secret
it acts like a psychic poison that
eventually alienates you from the
community and it can even bring up
feelings of shame but on the other hand
having a secret that you can share with
other people can be really helpful for
the differentiation of an individual it
can help you build a stronger sense of
identity however the real danger is when
these secrets have been repressed when
even you aren't aware that you have them
and this is where they fall into the
unconscious they become a part of your
shadow where they start to enact a
destructive or unproductive influence
over everything you do this is what
causes you to self-sabotage so whenever
you get in your own way whenever you do
something that you don't like that you
do it's because of these unconscious
influences that come from a repression
so this is why the first stage of
psychoanalysis the method of catharsis
has its roots in the age-old practice of
confession and if you're aware of the
things you conceal confessing them can
be helpful enough that you can release
this unconscious influence this
unconscious power it has over you and go
back to living a normal and healthy life
but the problem is this clearly doesn't
work for everyone because what if you
aren't aware of the things you repressed
and this is then where Floyd stepped in
and introduced a method of bringing
aspects of the self that were're lost
back into the light this is the method
of explanation and Floyd has a very
physician likee attitude towards this he
treats his patients by studying their
symptoms and tracing it back to the root
in their own unconscious and in doing so
he gives somewhat of an explanation but
otherwise leaves the person high and dry
they might now be aware of the problem
but they have no way of going about to
fix it and then here is where a Hy's
former student adla comes in to fill the
Gap he begins at the very point where
hyd leaves off he helps the person who's
found a way to see into himself also
find a way to live a normal life he's
realized that it's obviously not enough
for the person to know they have a
problem they also need to know how to
fix it ad's teachings were all about
achieving social adaptation and
normality he believed that being a
normal person and useful for society
were the most desirable goals and the
most fulfilling Pursuit for any human
being now I'm a big fan of adla and if
you're in a tough spot in life right now
and you're struggling to just make it
day to day then I really recommend
reading the book the courage to be
disliked this explains a lot of his
ideas in a very simple way through a
dialogue between a philosopher and a
young man who comes to seek his help and
I found this so helpful myself so I'll
mention it in the description again if
you want to check it out but even after
this stage Yung realized
that there are people who have learned
how to see into themselves and
understand their problems who have
achieved a normal adaptation and they're
able to function in society they've
achieved success but are still left
unfulfilled and it's at this point that
Yung created an additional fourth stage
the method of transformation so I want
to read you yung's explanation for this
its part is to make up a deficit left by
the previous stages it comes to meet an
additional and still unsatisfied need in
other words we must ass certain what
could seem more desirable or lead
further than the claim to be a normally
adapted social being nothing is more
useful or fitting than to be a normal
human being but the very notion of a
normal human being suggests a
restriction to the average as does also
the concept of adaptation it is only a
man
who as things stand already finds it
difficult to come to terms with the
everyday world world who can see in this
restriction a desirable Improvement a
man let us say whose Neurosis unfits him
for normal life to be normal is a
splendid idea for the unsuccessful for
all those who have not yet found an
adaptation but for people who have far
more ability than the average for whom
it never was hard to gain successes and
to accomplish their share of the world's
work for them restriction to the normal
signifies the bed of hostus unbearable
boredom infernal stability and
hopelessness as a consequence there are
many people who become neurotic because
they are only normal as there are people
who are neurotic because they cannot
become normal for the former the very
thought that you want to educate them to
normality is a nightmare their deepest
need is really to be able to lead app
normal
lives so the idea of this is that there
are still people who even after they've
achieved a normal life they've created a
Persona that successfully allows them to
be a part of society they still feel
unfulfilled they feel that something is
still lacking and it's this pain through
which problems are created as young
rights normality may be great for those
who struggle to live a normal life but
there are also those who struggle in
life because of this restriction to
normality their pain comes from
unfulfilled potential and I'm pretty
sure anyone who's clicked on this video
belongs to that same group if you're
looking to improve yourself if you're
looking to get something more out of
life and I think this may be of a lot of
interest for you too and now this is
where we come back to the shadow Your
Shadow contains everything you suppress
or reject within yourself but these
things never just disappear you can't
destroy anything that's a part of you
instead it falls into the unconscious
where it can no longer be controlled or
developed it remains stuck in an
inferior State and it has this immature
and often times unproductive influence
over your life next to this you have
your persona remember this is the image
The Mask you have of who you want to be
so the Persona is there to help you
adapt to society so that you're safe
you're protected you're reliant on other
people to be able to survive we've
evolved to have a Persona that allows us
to fit in but the problem is anything
that's a part of you that's in conflict
with this image of your persona falls
into your Shadow it's immediately
rejected and suppressed and you can no
longer use it intentionally and these
are often the very parts of yourself
you're missing in order to live your
unique potential however whenever you
sort out pieces of yourself that are bad
like this you suppress them and their
lack in your personality shows up as
these sinks these blind spots where you
develop insecurities fears limiting
beliefs for example let's say you
suppress your anger because you want to
be seen as some someone who's very
easygoing and likable but this is then
exactly the area where your
inferiorities will develop for example
if you're unable to intentionally use
and express your anger if you keep
suppressing it you will start to see
yourself as overly weak and passive you
will start to develop resentment in your
relationships when you don't speak up
and you may struggle to reach your
career goals because you're not able to
be assertive when that's needed from you
and so on these are just some examples
of ways that you will feel this lacking
in yourself and then it's through this
that you develop all these insecurities
that continue to hold you back you can
trace so many of these problems in life
back to your Shadow and the goal is to
find what's missing it's to retrieve
these pieces of the puzzle and to
integrate it so say you have a dream you
have a vision of your ideal life so why
can't you just go for it it's usually
because you're missing something to get
there and it's when you then try to
reach for this goal that you'll be
confronted with exactly what it is you
need to deal within yourself exactly
what it is you need to develop in order
to reach this goal as Yung explains it
your Highest Potential as an individual
is in the realization of the self which
is simply all of the pieces of your
personality developed as a whole so your
unique potential then lies in retrieving
all of these pieces the ones you've
sorted into piles of good which is
embracing your persona and bad which has
been suppressed into your Shadow
retrieving them and fully developing
them and now the parts of yourself that
are already embraced in your persona
these are parts of yourself that are
conscious you have relative good control
over them they should be easy because
you've already developed them a lot
however it's the parts of yourself that
you've suppressed that you're missing
and that you feel that missing in order
to reach your potential whenever you
suppress a part of yourself you will run
into insecurities and fears and limiting
beliefs and all these things come from a
lack in personality a sort of void where
there should have been a supportive
aspect to your character that's missing
because it's been suppressed just like
suppressed anger can sabotage you
through a lack of confidence and
assertiveness any part of yourself that
you suppress will create an inferiority
in that area that is the nature of your
Shadow but this is exactly why Yung
believed that your Shadow contains the
seeds to your potential it's because
even if you've achieved normal
adaptation to Life by creating an
amazing Persona and you can live as this
you might not find fulfillment from it
because you haven't realized your full
personality you haven't realized
yourself or as he puts it your unique
potential and it's in these suppressed
aspects of your personality that if
allowed to surface and to grow you will
find all of your strengths and talents
and potentials you may have because all
parts of yourself are pulling you
towards it just think like this example
with anger if your Shadow isn't a
causing you to unconsciously
self-sabotage or B being out of your
conscious control to be able to use
productively then there's actually
nothing between you and the vision you
have for your life you have to try and
understand that the shadow isn't bad I
think this is a very common
misconception that the shadow is evil it
is something terrible that you must get
rid of that you must destroy but this
couldn't be further from the truth it's
merely inferior and that's why it can
show up in unproductive or destructive
ways anything that falls prey to the
unconscious can no longer be controlled
or developed which is which is why it's
stuck in an immature state it hasn't
matured and been developed like all the
parts of your personality you've
embraced and you live and use every
single day you can almost imagine your
Shadow like a toddler trying to do the
tasks of an adult this is the kind of
understanding you must find for it
although Your Shadow may get in your way
and hold you back in life you have to
understand it's not out of malice in
fact it's showing you exactly what you
need to deal with in order to be able to
reach your goals it's showing you the
pathway you have to take to get where
you want to go even if this may be
expressed in unproductive ways such as
through fear self-criticism or explosive
behaviors you have to understand that
these parts of yourself haven't matured
that's why they're unproductive but they
can be developed and they can be used
productively just imagine how different
could your life look if you could pursue
youram dreams without these limitations
of your own mind you are meant to live
up to your fullest potential and you are
capable of learning and achieving
everything you need to get there that's
the whole point for a lot of people
normal adaptation isn't enough there's
the psychic need for self-realization in
other words to realize your unique
potential now like I said young believe
that you are born with all of these
pieces of your personality you just need
to go back and retrieve them from your
Shadow and develop these pieces in order
to fulfill your potential in life to
live a life of fulfillment and peace of
mind now if you're wondering how do you
do this how do you integrate Your Shadow
I've done a whole video on Shadow work
how to get started with it what it is I
will link that in the description so you
can check it out but I hope you like
this video thank you so much for
watching let me know your thoughts and
I'll see you next week bye
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