Catastrophizing: How to Stop Making Yourself Depressed and Anxious: Cognitive Distortion Skill #6
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful video, Emma McAdam, a licensed marriage and family therapist, delves into the concept of catastrophizing—the tendency to expect the worst—which fuels anxiety and depression. She illustrates the issue with a gripping story and offers practical strategies to combat this cognitive distortion, including embracing uncertainty, reframing negative thoughts, and focusing on positive goals. The video encourages viewers to face life's challenges with courage and vulnerability, fostering a healthier mindset.
Takeaways
- 😨 Catastrophizing is a cognitive distortion where one imagines the worst possible outcome in a situation, leading to anxiety and depression.
- 🛠️ The video provides three strategies to combat catastrophizing: ensuring good sleep, accepting uncertainty, and motivating through positive goals.
- 🚫 Catastrophizing often starts with a genuine setback and escalates into imagining disastrous consequences.
- 🧐 It's important to recognize catastrophizing thoughts, which often include exaggerated words like 'never', 'terrible', and 'fail'.
- 🤯 Catastrophizing can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy where the negative expectations invite the problems one is trying to avoid.
- 💪 Challenging catastrophizing involves noticing the thought pattern, pausing to question its validity, and choosing more rational and helpful thoughts.
- 🛌 A good night's rest can improve one's ability to face challenges and reduce the impact of catastrophizing thoughts.
- 🤝 Accepting uncertainty as a part of life can help in developing emotional resilience against the negative effects of catastrophizing.
- 🏆 Motivating oneself through positive goals and values can be a healthier approach than using fear, which can lead to long-term depression and anxiety.
- 🔄 The process of overcoming catastrophizing includes noticing, pausing, exploring, and choosing better thoughts to replace the negative ones.
- 🌱 Embracing vulnerability and staying engaged in life despite the risks can lead to a more fulfilling life and prevent the paralysis caused by catastrophizing.
Q & A
What is catastrophizing according to Emma McAdam?
-Catastrophizing is expecting the worst and interpreting current or future situations as catastrophes, which can lead to anxiety, depression, and a negative impact on one's life.
Why does Emma McAdam say catastrophizing can ruin your life?
-Catastrophizing can ruin your life because it leads to anxiety and depression by imagining the worst possible outcomes, which can cause people to avoid opportunities and become paralyzed by fear.
What is the story of the man driving on a dark rural road and what does it illustrate?
-The story illustrates the process of catastrophizing. The man gets a flat tire and, instead of calmly seeking help, he imagines a series of increasingly negative outcomes, leading to him reacting angrily and closing himself off from potential help.
How does catastrophizing start according to the script?
-Catastrophizing often starts with a genuine setback, such as getting a flat tire, and then escalates as the person starts to imagine a series of negative outcomes, believing that something horrible is likely to happen.
What are the common examples of catastrophizing mentioned in the script?
-Examples include an anxious person imagining losing control, a depressed person envisioning a future of constant sadness, a person fearing lifelong loneliness if they don't find love, and a teen feeling rejected if not included in a text group.
How does catastrophizing affect our motivation and opportunities?
-Catastrophizing can lead to a lack of motivation and a withdrawal from life due to the belief that future outcomes are hopeless and dreary. It also closes individuals off to opportunities and options that might work, leading to a sense of paralysis.
Why do people continue to catastrophize despite its negative effects?
-People continue to catastrophize because it serves a dysfunctional function, such as a coping strategy to avoid feeling risk or uncertainty, or because they believe that fear is the best motivator.
What are the three strategies Emma McAdam suggests to stop catastrophizing?
-The three strategies are: 1) Start with a good night's rest to face challenges more bravely. 2) Accept uncertainty as a natural part of life and change how you think about anxiety. 3) Motivate yourself by what you want in life, using positive goals instead of fear.
How does Emma McAdam describe the process of challenging catastrophizing thoughts?
-The process involves noticing when you are catastrophizing, pausing to question the validity of these thoughts, exploring alternatives, and choosing to replace them with more honest and helpful thoughts.
What is the role of vulnerability in overcoming catastrophizing according to the script?
-Vulnerability is the potential for both success and getting hurt. It is essential in overcoming catastrophizing because it requires staying engaged even when there's a risk of things not going perfectly, which is the only alternative to guaranteeing failure.
How does Emma McAdam relate acceptance and commitment therapy to dealing with catastrophizing?
-Acceptance and commitment therapy helps in dealing with catastrophizing by training individuals to get better at feeling and opening themselves up to the emotions that come with living the life they value. This approach helps in embracing life and its risks, joys, and loves, which can lead to overcoming catastrophizing.
Outlines
😨 Understanding Catastrophizing
Emma McAdam introduces the concept of catastrophizing, a cognitive distortion where individuals anticipate the worst possible outcomes in various situations, leading to anxiety and depression. She uses a narrative of a man stranded with a flat tire to illustrate how catastrophizing can escalate from a minor inconvenience to imagined catastrophic scenarios, affecting one's actions and emotions. The summary highlights the negative impacts of catastrophizing on mental health and the tendency for such thought patterns to become habitual, leading to a cycle of depression and anxiety.
🤯 The Consequences of Catastrophizing
This paragraph delves into the detrimental effects of catastrophizing on an individual's life. It explains how expecting the worst can paradoxically invite negative outcomes, as the man in the story exemplifies by slamming the door on potential help. Catastrophizing is shown to lead to a cycle of depression by reducing serotonin and dopamine levels, and it can also incite anxiety by perceiving threats everywhere. The paragraph discusses the dysfunctional reasons behind catastrophizing, such as using fear as a coping mechanism or a misguided form of motivation, and emphasizes the importance of recognizing and changing these thought patterns.
🛌 Strategies to Combat Catastrophizing
Emma provides actionable strategies to help viewers overcome the habit of catastrophizing. She suggests starting with ensuring adequate sleep to reduce hypersensitivity to threats and increase resilience. Accepting uncertainty as a part of life is the second strategy, which involves reframing how one perceives anxiety and building emotional muscles to handle uncomfortable emotions. The third strategy is to motivate oneself with positive goals and values rather than fear. The paragraph outlines a cognitive-behavioral approach to ending catastrophizing, which includes noticing, pausing, exploring, and choosing more rational thoughts over catastrophic ones.
💪 Embracing Vulnerability and Growth
The final paragraph emphasizes the importance of embracing vulnerability and staying engaged with life despite the risks of failure or rejection. It discusses the process of acceptance and commitment therapy, which encourages individuals to feel their emotions fully and live according to their values, even when faced with uncertainty and risk. The summary points out that by challenging catastrophizing thoughts and choosing more helpful perspectives, one can achieve a more fulfilling life. The paragraph concludes with a note on the remake of the video to improve its quality and effectiveness in conveying the message.
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Keywords
💡Catastrophizing
💡Anxiety
💡Depression
💡Cognitive Distortion
💡Jack
💡Uncertainty
💡Mindfulness
💡Motivation
💡CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)
💡Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
💡Vulnerability
Highlights
Catastrophizing is defined as expecting the worst and can lead to anxiety and depression.
Emma McAdam introduces three actionable steps to stop catastrophizing.
A story illustrates the process of catastrophizing, involving a man with a flat tire and escalating negative thoughts.
Catastrophizing is identified as a cognitive distortion that interprets situations as unrecoverable catastrophes.
Examples are given of how catastrophizing can manifest in different scenarios, such as school tests and relationships.
The negative impact of catastrophizing on motivation and opportunities is discussed.
Catastrophizing can lead to a cycle of depression by reducing serotonin and dopamine levels.
The role of catastrophizing in anxiety is explained, including the fight/flight/freeze response.
The reasons behind catastrophizing are explored, including as a coping strategy and a misguided form of motivation.
The importance of changing thought patterns to avoid the negative effects of catastrophizing is emphasized.
Strategies to combat catastrophizing include getting a good night's rest and accepting uncertainty.
The video suggests using positive goals and values as motivation instead of fear.
A Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) approach to ending catastrophizing is outlined.
The process of noticing, pausing, exploring, and choosing thoughts is described as a method to challenge catastrophizing.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is introduced as a process to embrace life's emotions and values.
The video concludes with an encouragement to face life's risks and joys courageously.
The video is a remake to improve upon a previous version, showing a commitment to providing quality content.
Transcripts
Hi, everyone. I'm Emma McAdam. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist. And in this
video we're going to talk about catastrophizing, which is expecting the worst. Catastrophizing
is an excellent way to make yourself anxious and depressed and completely ruin your life. Oh, yeah,
and I'm going to teach you three things you can do to stop catastrophizing. So let's talk about that.
Late one night a man was driving along a dark rural road. He was out far from any towns,
and he was just trying to get home. All of a sudden he hears a loud bang and the thump
thump thump of a flat tire. He's irritated, but no need to panic; he knows how to change a tire. So
he gets out of the car, he gets into the trunk, he pulls out the spare tire and the lug wrench. And
then he realizes with a sinking feeling that his jack is missing. You can't change a tire without a
jack. Then he checks his phone and he doesn't have reception. So now he's stuck. As he's wondering
what to do, he looks down the road and he sees a porch light a long ways away. It looks like a
little farmhouse. And he decides to walk over and ask the farmer if he could borrow a jack. The walk
was long and dark. And at one point he trips over a pothole and he falls and he tears a hole in his
pants. And he just he keeps stumbling along in the dark, worrying about what he's going to do.
It's dark, it's late, and he starts to imagine what will happen when he reaches the farmhouse.
The farmer will probably already be in bed. He'll probably be cranky about being woken up.
But the man keeps walking. And as he walks through the dark, other thoughts come to him. What if the
farmer doesn't have a jack? Farmers have guns. What if he pulls that out? The farmer's probably
going to sic a huge dog on him. What if the farmer realizes that the man's alone and he robs him?
He thinks, "I don't deserve to be treated that way. None of this is fair." And at this point
the man is scared, but he's also getting angry. He knows that this farmer is going to be a jerk,
but he still needs his jack. So he walks up to the front door and he knocks. And as he waits
for a response, he imagines this angry farmer screaming at him, threatening him, chasing him,
shooting him. And he hears footsteps. The door swings open, and a man says, "Can I help you?"
And the stranded man, all red-faced and angry, yells, "I don't want your dang
jack anyway!" and he grabs the door and he slams it shut and he storms away. Now,
catastrophizing is a common cognitive distortion or thinking error. It's when we think of a current
or future situation as a catastrophe. So for example, you worry that you're gonna fail a test,
and then you imagine what would happen when you do fail. You're gonna get kicked out of school.
You're going to end up working a dead-end job, fail at life, and die homeless on the street.
And all of this because of a test at school. Catastrophizing is imagining the worst.
It's taking a difficult situation and interpreting it as being horrible, terrible,
and unrecoverable. We all know that person who if they get a B on a test wails, "I'm failing math."
Right? Many of us have had a parent who when we didn't want to do our chores, they said
something like, "Oh, if you don't do your chores, your college roommates will hate you and no one
will want to marry you." Right? Like in the story about the jack, catastrophizing often starts with
a genuine setback, like getting a flat tire in the middle of nowhere. But then the thinking error
turns that reality into a belief that something horrible is likely to happen. "I'm gonna get shot
or robbed and attacked." Right? At its root, catastrophizing is about our habitual response
to challenges or shortcomings. So take a second pause, this video, and ask yourself how do you
think about failure? When these habits, these thinking habits become part of a repeated pattern,
they lead to depression or anxiety, and people tend to imagine that they'll never be able
to recover. So here's some common examples. Someone with anxiety imagines losing control
of himself. So for example, a man with a panic disorder predicts that if he goes to the mall
on a weekend afternoon, he'll have a panic attack ,and then he predicts that having a panic attack
would be a catastrophe rather than just being really uncomfortable.
Or a woman with depression envisions herself being depressed forever and never feeling happy again.
Or a 30-year-old man imagines himself never finding love and imagining that if he doesn't,
he will be plagued by intense feelings of loneliness 24/7 from now until he dies.
Right? Or a teen equates not being in a text group with being totally rejected by everyone.
So how does catastrophizing mess us up? We have all experienced some tragedies in our life,
including painful rejection or failure, and I think that we trick ourselves into believing
that if we can expect the worst we can prevent it. But in reality, usually the exact opposite
happens. So think about the man from the jack story. Because he feared getting rejected,
he slammed the door shut himself. He cut himself off from the opportunity to get
the solution he needed because he was thinking about everything that could go wrong. Seeing
the worst often invites the worst. Not only do we cut ourselves off from opportunities,
but we invite the exact problems we're hoping to avoid. So if we go into a conversation expecting
the other person to get defensive, we often lead off by being harsher or more rigid, inviting the
other to be more defensive. If you expect that your crush will reject you if you ask her out,
then you don't ask her out. You end up alone on the weekend. Catastrophizing invites depression.
When we imagine a future that is bleak, threatening, or hopeless, then our brain
responds by putting out less serotonin and dopamine. These are the happiness, pleasure,
and motivation chemicals. So why be happy or hopeful when the future is impossibly dreary?
This leads to a cycle of withdrawal from life, a lack of motivation, and a pattern of depression.
Catastrophizing also invites anxiety. It forces our brain to see threats and failure
everywhere. And our brain responds to perceived threats with a very real physical fear response,
the fight/flight/freeze response. And this contributes to social anxiety, general anxiety,
panic attacks, and more. Expecting the worst makes us hopeless and depressed
about the future. It makes us unmotivated. Why try if I'm just gonna fail? And it also enables
us to wallow in self-pity. Catastrophizing closes us off to opportunities and options
that might work, and it leads to this sense of paralysis. So if catastrophizing is so harmful,
why do we keep doing it? At this point I've got to pause because some of you out there
have started this super unhelpful thought process of "Yeah, why am I such an idiot? I am so broken.
See, I am defective because I do this stuff." Okay. You need to stop that. Take a deep breath.
You are not defective. You might be doing something that's not working well for you,
but that doesn't mean you're bad or broken. It means you can change and get feeling better.
So if you need to, pause this video and take a second to be kind to yourself and practice some
courage. Changing how we think takes work, but you can do hard things. Okay. So let's go back to the
question, why do we catastrophize? Well, it serves a function, albeit a dysfunctional one. We do it
for one of two reasons. Number one: preparing for the worst is a coping strategy, preventing us
from feeling risk or uncertainty. So if I expect myself to fail, I won't be disappointed if I do.
If I reject myself first, then I don't have to worry that my crush will do it to me.
Catastrophizing is an attempt to avoid feelings, to protect ourselves from feeling sadness or
worry. But the crazy thing is that when we try not to feel, we often end up more depressed and
anxious. So expecting the worst also justifies us for not even trying, and it attempts to excuse our
failure before we put in any effort. So no wonder it feels more comfortable than putting your heart
out there. It's comfortable in the short term, but it crushes the joy out of life in the long run.
When you catastrophize, you're not risking failure, but you can't have success. You're not
getting rejected, but you're still alone on the weekend. Okay. Dysfunctional function number two:
sometimes we think or we've been trained to believe that the best motivation is fear,
that in order to motivate ourselves to study or to go to work we have to predict doom and gloom. Fear
as motivation works briefly, but in the long run it makes us depressed and anxious and overwhelmed
and less functional. Let me use a school anxiety example. So a kid's not going to school because of
anxiety. The parents also feel anxious about this, so they go into a room and say, "You have to get
up or else you are going to ruin your life. You have to go to school or you'll never get a good
job," etc., etc. And in the short term this gets the kid out of bed and into school. But then she
spends the rest of her day worrying about being a failure, and the next day she has even more
anxiety and it's even harder to get motivated to go to school. So do you do this? Do you
try to give yourself a pep talk but it's really more of a fear talk? We or our parents may have
used fear in the past as a strong motivator, but it's just not a sustainable source of motivation.
So let's find something that's more functional than our self-justifying, self-defeating
catastrophizing. So first off, try to start with a good night's rest. When we're sleep-deprived,
we're hypersensitive to threats and we're less resilient in the face of challenges. When you're
rested you'll have a greater ability to face these challenges bravely. Okay. Number two: accept
uncertainty as a natural and acceptable part of living a wholehearted life. This is a fundamental
life skill that can be developed and practiced. It involves changing how you think about anxiety.
So instead of labeling anxiety as bad or harmful or terrible or "I can't handle it," you say,
"Well, this is uncomfortable, but it won't injure me." You say, "I can do hard things."
Courage is not the absence of fear but the judgment that something else is more important.
So living life is about embracing acceptable risk and the anxiety that comes with it as a normal and
natural and helpful part of life. And as you do this, you build up emotional muscles to experience
uncomfortable emotions. And you can also practice this by doing mindfulness and meditation or just
doing something every day that scares you. Okay. Number three: motivate yourself by what you want
in life, by what you value and you hope instead of trying to use fear. So these are called positive
goals. So instead of saying, you know, "Oh, I have to go to school so that I don't die homeless on
the street," you say, "I choose to go to school because I want to be a therapist when I grow up."
Okay. I never said that as a kid, but you get the idea. Right? Choose what you do want in
life. Break it down into small goals, and then just bravely work toward those little by little.
Okay. So here's the classic CBT approach to ending catastrophizing. So number one: just start by
noticing when you are catastrophizing. What are the words you use? Are they things like never,
terrible, fail, rejected, awkward? Anything that's an exaggeration, making things out to be worse
than they are. And then getting better as well at noticing what are the situations you tend to
catastrophize about? And, you know, write down what it looks like when you do it. Ask a family
member or a friend to point it out to you. Right? So this is the first step in emotion processing.
It's observing, it's getting better at noticing what's going on with your thought patterns and
your behaviors. Then the second step in emotion processing is to pause. Right? So just because
you think something doesn't mean it's true. Just because you feel something doesn't mean you have
to believe it. So now is a great chance. Just slow it down. Take a deep breath. Number three is
explore. Right? Challenge those thoughts. Right? Just because you think something doesn't mean it's
true. Learn to notice and gently question your thoughts. You don't have to believe everything you
think, but you also don't need to beat yourself up for having these thoughts, like saying things
like, "Oh, what's the matter with me? Why do I always think this way?" That's also not very
helpful. So instead, like, get better at noticing your thoughts and letting them pass through. This
is another skill from acceptance and commitment therapy. It's called cognitive diffusion, and
you can practice it with activities like Leaves on the Stream or the skills I teach in my video
How to Stop Intrusive Thoughts and Overthinking. So I'll link those below.
Okay. Number four is choose. Right? Replace those thoughts with something more honest and more
helpful. So once you start to notice this type of thinking, you pause and you explore it. You
can bravely pick up your emotional sword, and you can begin to combat this kind of thinking
with more honest and more rational thoughts, thoughts that line up more with who you want to
be and your values. And some of the ways I like to do this are to think things like this: "Okay, even
if something bad did happen, I could learn from it. It wouldn't be the end of the world," etc.
So here's a couple of examples. Say someone says something like, "Oh no, I am such an idiot.
I already made a mistake on this report; I'm never gonna finish it. Or if I do,
it's gonna be so flawed that it won't matter. I'm gonna get fired no matter what." Okay. Wait.
Pause. That's not true. Okay. Let's explore some alternatives here. "Everybody makes mistakes." Uh
okay. "I'm only human." There's another one. "I'll fix this mistake, and if I need to ask
for help I can. But I'm just gonna keep working hard and try to be more careful in the future."
Or something more like, "Oh, nobody's gonna fire me for a mistake or two in a report."
Okay. See how we're replacing the catastrophizing thoughts with thoughts that are a little bit more
helpful? Okay. Here's another example: someone says something like, "Oh, I can't believe I said
that to my boyfriend. He's gonna leave me for sure this time." Okay. Let's replace that with
maybe like, "Oh, I shouldn't have said that to my boyfriend. I really need to learn how to talk
kindly when I'm upset. I'm gonna apologize and try to make it right. Hopefully he'll understand and
accept my apology and we'll both learn something from this." Okay. So challenging catastrophizing,
this approach, it requires us to stay engaged even when there's a risk of things not going perfectly.
And this is called vulnerability, the potential for success and also for getting hurt. But the
only alternative is to guarantee failure by cutting yourself off before you even try.
So I'm a big fan of acceptance and commitment therapy. It's it's a process which basically
trains you to get better at feeling, to open yourself up to the emotions that come
with living the life you value - love, joy and sadness and worry and hope, excitement,
anxiety. As you come to wholeheartedly embrace life and your goals and your values,
you'll get better and better at living with some risk, and you'll be rewarded with lots of good
things happening to you all the time. May good things come to you as you courageously face life
and the risks, joys, loves that come with it. For those of you who are long-time followers, you may
have noticed that this video is a remake of one of my old videos, and that's because that video
had a couple things that needed to be improved. So I hope you don't mind me making a better version
of my video on catastrophizing. So thank you all for watching. Take care.
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