5 SCIENTIFIC TRIGGERS That Cause A Man To Regret Losing You And Think About You Nonstop!

Summary

In this video, dating coach Elliot Scott shares five powerful strategies to trigger a man’s regret after pulling away or leaving a relationship. The key tactics include allowing him to reflect on his decision, making him experience the reality of being without you, and ensuring you maintain emotional strength and independence. By 'winning the breakup,' avoiding desperation, and creating a sense of loss, women can shift the power dynamics, making him reconsider his decision. Scott emphasizes the importance of patience, distance, and self-control to make a man regret his choice and potentially come back.

Takeaways

• 😀 Let him go through the complete decision-making process: Allow him to reflect on his choice without interference, as this is key to triggering regret.
• 😀 The four stages of regret: Stage 1 is the initial decision; Stage 2 involves living out the decision; Stage 3 is reflection; Stage 4 is deciding if regret occurs.
• 😀 Outcome valence is crucial: Make sure the reality of leaving you is worse than the expectation. He needs to experience the negative consequences to trigger regret.
• 😀 Winning the breakup means maintaining your power: Stay strong, have a life outside of the relationship, and avoid showing desperation or vulnerability.
• 😀 You must allow him to see you thriving: Posting about your life, having fun, and showing confidence makes him feel the loss and triggers his need to come back.
• 😀 Men often regret leaving when they realize the grass isn’t greener: Let him experience the downsides of being single or without you before he regrets the decision.
• 😀 The longer you hold out, the more psychological power you gain: When you stop chasing and make it hard for him to repair things, he’ll start second-guessing his decision.
• 😀 Counterfactual thinking encourages regret: He needs to reflect on what could have been, which only happens if you pull back and act as if you’re moving on for good.
• 😀 You must make it difficult for him to return easily: If he feels he can come back at any time, he won't experience the regret or the urgency to fix the situation.
• 😀 The ability to repair regret is important: He should feel that the longer he waits, the more difficult it will be to repair the relationship, pushing him to act before it’s too late.

Q & A

What are the four stages a man goes through when he pulls away from a relationship?

The four stages are: 1) Initial stage, where he feels leaving is the right decision based on available evidence; 2) Living it out, where he tests the reality of being without you; 3) Reflecting on what life is like with and without you; and 4) Deciding whether he regrets the decision or not.

Why is it important to let a man go through the decision-making process without interference?

It’s crucial because, during this process, he reflects on the decision and its consequences. If a woman interferes or reaches out prematurely, it disrupts his reflection, preventing him from realizing if he made the wrong choice.

What is 'outcome valence,' and how does it affect the process of a man regretting his decision?

Outcome valence refers to the positive or negative outcome of a decision compared to what was expected. If a man leaves, he must experience the reality of being without you. If it doesn’t meet his expectations, he may begin to regret the decision.

What does 'winning the breakup' mean, and why is it important?

'Winning the breakup' means maintaining your dignity and moving forward with your life, showing that you are doing well despite the separation. It’s important because it makes the man question his decision and feel like he missed out on something good.

How can a woman effectively win the breakup?

A woman can win the breakup by focusing on herself, having fun, talking to other people, and not giving in to the temptation of contacting the man. Posting updates on social media that show she’s living her best life can also trigger feelings of regret in him.

Why should a woman avoid acting desperate or hovering after a breakup?

Acting desperate or hovering sends the message that she is still available and waiting, which removes the urgency for the man to miss her. To trigger regret, she must act as if she’s moved on, forcing him to reflect on his decision.

What role does counterfactual thinking play in making a man regret his decision?

Counterfactual thinking occurs when the man starts to question if he made the right choice. He wonders if he could have done things differently. This mindset is triggered by the woman pulling back and creating a sense that it may be too late to repair things.

How can a woman create psychological power over her ex after a breakup?

A woman creates psychological power by being emotionally detached, having fun, and acting like she doesn’t care if he comes back. This makes the man feel like he has to fix the situation before it becomes too late.

What does 'the ability to repair the regret' mean in the context of relationships?

The ability to repair the regret refers to how difficult it is for the man to reverse his decision to leave. The more he struggles with the consequences and the longer he waits, the harder it becomes to fix things, which can lead him to regret his decision.

How should a woman behave if her ex blocks her or cuts off contact?

Even if he blocks her, the woman should continue to live her life and not reach out. She must play the role of moving on, showing him through her actions that she is better off without him, which can trigger his regret.