Perls con Gloria, subtítulos en castellano

Summary

La transcripción presenta una terapia en la que el terapeuta busca ayudar a la paciente a recuperar su potencial perdido y afrontar sus conflictos internos. El enfoque es enfocarse en el presente y no en el pasado o el futuro, con el objetivo de que la paciente desarrolle su auto-soporte en lugar de manipular el entorno. La paciente muestra resistencia, utilizando tácticas como sonreír a pesar de su miedo o fantasear con esconderse en una esquina, lo que el terapeuta interpreta como un mecanismo de defensa. A lo largo de la sesión, la paciente oscila entre la necesidad de ser respetada y la de ser rescatada, proyectando sus propias inseguridades sobre el terapeuta. El terapeuta busca fomentar una mayor autenticidad y conexión, poniendo de manifiesto la incongruencia entre la conducta verbal y no verbal de la paciente y ayudando a que asimile sus proyecciones. La sesión termina con una reflexión sobre los avances y los desafíos que presenta el proceso terapéutico.

Takeaways

• 🧘 La terapia de cristal se basa en la ecuación: conciencia = tiempo agradable = realidad, en contraste con la psicología profunda que busca entender lo obvio en la superficie de la situación.
• 🚫 La terapia busca evitar la fuga hacia el futuro o el pasado, enfocándose en el encuentro continuo en el presente.
• 🧩 El objetivo de la terapia es ayudar al paciente a recuperar su potencial perdido y a integrar polaridades conflictivas, comprendiendo la diferencia entre el juego y el comportamiento genuino.
• 💪 La terapia busca fortalecer la eficiencia y el bienestar del paciente al transformar energías de manipulación del entorno en autoapoyo y desarrollo de recursos internos.
• 🛡 La situación terapéutica segura proporciona un espacio para que el paciente tome riesgos y se transforme, lo que se denomina madurez.
• 📚 La técnica básica de la terapia es explicar al paciente y proporcionar oportunidades para que él mismo comprenda y descubra su potencial.
• 🚫 Se considera un error terapéutico realizar interpretaciones, ya que implica que el terapeuta entiende mejor al paciente que él mismo, quitándole la oportunidad de descubrirse a sí mismo.
• 🤔 Se desestima la mayoría del contenido verbal del paciente, concentrándose en el nivel no verbal, que es menos propenso a la autoengaño y donde emerge la gestalt relevante.
• 😕 El paciente muestra miedo y resistencia a enfrentarse a sus propias inseguridades y debilidades, utilizando la sonrisa y la falsa indiferencia como mecanismos de defensa.
• 🤝 El deseo del paciente de ser reconocido y respetado como un ser humano con emociones genuinas, más allá de su máscara de control y superioridad, indica un progreso en la terapia.
• 🔄 La dinámica de la sesión muestra la lucha interna del paciente entre la necesidad de apoyo y la lucha por la independencia, oscilando entre la vulnerabilidad y la fuerza.

Q & A

¿Qué terapia se describe en el transcrito?

Se describe una terapia que se enfoca en la conciencia y el desarrollo de la situación actual, en lugar de profundizar en el pasado o el futuro. La terapia busca ayudar al paciente a recuperar su potencial perdido y a integrar polaridades contradictorias.

¿Cuál es el objetivo principal de la terapia según el transcrito?

El objetivo principal es que el paciente recupere su potencial perdido, integre las polaridades contradictorias y comprenda la diferencia entre el juego superficial y el comportamiento genuinamente auténtico y seguro.

¿Por qué la terapia considera que cualquier interpretación es un error terapéutico?

La interpretación se considera un error porque implica que el terapeuta entiende mejor al paciente que él mismo, privando al paciente de la oportunidad de descubrir y entenderse a sí mismo y de encontrar sus propios valores.

¿Cómo se enfoca la atención del terapeuta durante la terapia?

El terapeuta se enfoca en el nivel no verbal, ya que es menos propenso a la autoengañarse en la autoexpresión verbal y es donde el gestalt relevante emerge para ser abordado en el aquí y ahora.

¿Qué táctica utiliza el terapeuta para ayudar al paciente a enfrentarse a sí mismo?

El terapeuta manipula y frustra al paciente de tal manera que éste se enfrenta a sí mismo, lo que permite al paciente identificarse con su potencial perdido y actuar de forma más auténtica.

¿Cómo se describe la dinámica de la entrevista en el transcrito?

La entrevista muestra una dinámica compleja donde el paciente oscila entre sentirse vulnerable y tratar de mantener el control, mientras que el terapeuta intenta desafiar y confrontar al paciente para promover un mayor entendimiento de sí mismo.

¿Qué tipo de resistencia emocional se identifica en el paciente?

Se identifica una resistencia emocional que se manifiesta en la forma de una máscara de sonrisa y sofisticación, y en la retirada al fantasear con esconderse en una esquina, lo que refleja una lucha interna entre la necesidad de apoyo y la independencia.

¿Qué papel juegan las emociones en la dinámica terapéutica descrita?

Las emociones juegan un papel central en la terapia, ya que el terapeuta busca que el paciente experimente y exprese sus emociones genuinas, en lugar de ocultarlas o actuar de forma superficial.

¿Cómo se describe el concepto de 'madurez' en el marco de la terapia?

La madurez se refiere al proceso por el cual el paciente aprende a depender de sus propios recursos y a estar emocional, intelectual y económicamente independiente, lo que lleva a la disminución de su necesidad de terapia.

¿Cuál es el papel de la proyección en la terapia?

La proyección es un mecanismo psicológico que el paciente utiliza para externalizar aspectos de su personalidad que no está dispuesto a aceptar, proyectándolos sobre el terapeuta. El terapeuta busca ayudar al paciente a asimilar estas proyecciones y a reconocer su propia potencialidad.

¿Cómo se relaciona el concepto de 'juego' con la terapia?

El 'juego' se refiere a las formas en que el paciente interactúa con el mundo y los demás, y cómo estas interacciones a menudo reflejan comportamientos superficiales o inauténticos. La terapia busca ayudar al paciente a distinguir entre el juego superficial y el comportamiento auténtico.

Outlines

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🧘 Terapia de Cristales y Autoconocimiento

Se describe la terapia de cristales, donde se busca la conciencia y el desarrollo de la situación actual. Se enfatiza la importancia de recuperar el potencial perdido y la integración de polaridades en conflicto. La terapia busca transformar la energía de manipulación del entorno en autoapoyo, lo que se denomina madurez. La técnica básica es explicar al paciente y proporcionar oportunidades para que se entienda y descubra a sí mismo, manipulando y frustrando al paciente para que se enfrente a sí mismo y recupere su potencial.

05:01

🤔 Interacción y Defensa en la Terapia

Este párrafo muestra una dinámica de terapia donde el paciente expresa su miedo y defensa hacia el terapeuta. Se discute la actitud del paciente de querer sentirse más relajado y menos defensivo. Se exploran las emociones de miedo, defensa e incomodidad, y cómo el paciente busca que el terapeuta sea más explícito y no lo juzgue. La interacción incluye un intercambio sobre la autenticidad y la percepción de ser un "show-off" o alguien que finge.

10:01

😕 Expectativas y Demandas en la Relación Terapéutica

El paciente expresa su deseo de que el terapeuta sea más humano y no lo juzgue por sus acciones cuando está nervioso. Se discute la diferencia entre la imaginación y la realidad de las acciones del paciente. El paciente busca que el terapeuta acepte sus acciones y no la ponga en defensa. Se refleja la dinámica de poder y la percepción de superioridad en la relación terapéutica, y cómo el paciente siente que debe ser fuerte para ser respetado.

15:06

😠 Confrontación de Emociones y Jugando al Juego

Este párrafo muestra una conversación donde el paciente siente que el terapeuta está juzgándolo y se siente desconectado de él. Se discute la idea de que el terapeuta no parece afectado por las emociones del paciente y cómo esto lleva al paciente a querer más contacto y reconocimiento. Se refleja la frustración del paciente por la falta de conexión y la preferencia por una interacción más genuina, incluso si involucra conflicto.

20:09

😢 Lucha entre la Fortaleza y la Vulnerabilidad

El paciente expresa su lucha interna entre mostrar fuerza y ocultar su vulnerabilidad. Se discute la idea de que el paciente solo se siente respetado cuando es agresivo y fuerte, y cómo esto le impide mostrar su lado débil. Se explora la posibilidad de que el paciente quiera ser consolado pero también teme ser vulnerable. El terapeuta reconoce que el paciente puede ser herido y tocar sus emociones, lo que indica una conexión más profunda.

25:09

📚 Análisis Terapéutico y Cierre del Encuentro

El terapeuta proporciona un análisis de la sesión, destacando cómo el paciente evitó el encuentro genuino a través de la máscara de una persona sofisticada y controladora, la fantasía de esconderse en una esquina y el deseo de llorar para expresar emociones auténticas. Se describe cómo el paciente proyectó varias fantasías sobre el terapeuta y cómo la terapia ayudó a识别 (identificar) estas proyecciones. El terapeuta también destaca la importancia de mostrar la inconsistencia entre el comportamiento verbal y no verbal y trabajar en la eliminación de la falsedad en la vida del paciente.

Keywords

💡Terapia de Cristales

La Terapia de Cristales es mencionada como un enfoque terapéutico que se centra en el desarrollo de la conciencia y la realidad en el presente. Se trata de un método que busca ayudar al paciente a recuperar su potencial perdido y a integrar polaridades conflictivas, enfocándose en la autenticidad y el comportamiento genuino en lugar de juegos superficiales o de manipulación.

💡Gestalt

El término 'Gestalt' se refiere a la psicología de la figura y el fondo, que en este contexto, indica la importancia de la percepción integral de una situación y la formación de una conciencia unificada del yo. En la terapia, se busca desarrollar el 'Gestalt' emergente estrictamente en el 'Ahora y Aquí'.

💡Resistencia

La 'resistencia' es un concepto clave en la terapia, donde se refiere a las tácticas o mecanismos que el paciente utiliza para evitar el enfrentamiento con sus conflictos internos. En el script, se menciona que cualquier escape hacia el futuro o el pasado es examinado como una posible resistencia contra el encuentro terapéutico actual.

💡Autoapoyo

El 'autoapoyo' es el proceso por el cual el paciente aprende a confiar en sus propios recursos emocionales, intelectuales y económicos en lugar de manipular el entorno para obtener apoyo. Este proceso es descrito como 'maturation' y es fundamental para que el paciente se sienta capaz de manejar su existencia sin depender de la terapia.

💡Proyección

La 'proyección' es un mecanismo de defensa psicológico donde el individuo atribuye sus propios sentimientos o pensamientos no deseados a otra persona. En el script, se indica que el paciente puede comenzar a sanar al asumir y actuar según las partes sanadoras de sí mismo, lo que implica la integración de proyecciones.

💡Interpretación

La 'interpretación' en terapia se refiere a la práctica del terapeuta de proporcionar una explicación psicológica de los comportamientos o sentimientos del paciente. Sin embargo, el script sugiere que la interpretación es un error terapéutico, ya que implica que el terapeuta entiende mejor al paciente que él mismo, quitándole la oportunidad de descubrirse a sí mismo.

💡Nivel No Verbal

El 'nivel no verbal' se refiere a la comunicación que no depende de la palabra, incluyendo gestos, expresiones faciales y tono de voz. En la terapia descrita, se da más importancia al nivel no verbal que al verbal, ya que se considera menos propenso a la autoengañó y donde el 'Gestalt' relevante emerge para ser abordado en el 'Ahora y Aquí'.

💡Seguridad en la Terapia

La 'seguridad en la terapia' es un estado en el cual el paciente se siente lo suficientemente a salvo como para asumir riesgos y explorar áreas emocionales vulnerables. El script describe la situación terapéutica como una 'emergencia segura' donde el paciente puede experimentar y transformar sus energías.

💡Maturación

La 'maturación' en el contexto terapéutico se refiere al desarrollo del paciente hacia una mayor autonomía y capacidad de apoyo propio. Es el proceso por el cual el paciente aprende a 'estar de pie' emocional, intelectual y económicamente, lo que lleva a la disminución de su necesidad de terapia.

💡Fantasía de Refugio

La 'fantasía de refugio' es una táctica utilizada por el paciente para evitar el enfrentamiento directo con sus problemas, como se muestra cuando el paciente menciona fantasear con esconderse en una esquina. Esta fantasía actúa como un mecanismo de defensa para protegerse de la vulnerabilidad y el riesgo de ser descubierto o lastimado.

💡Proyección y Asimilación

La 'proyección y asimilación' son procesos psicológicos donde el paciente proyecta sus propias emociones o pensamientos en el terapeuta y luego comienza a experimentar y a actuar de acuerdo con esa proyección. En la terapia, el terapeuta ayuda al paciente a识别 (identificar) y asumir estas proyecciones, lo que lleva a un mayor entendimiento de sí mismo y a un cambio en su comportamiento.

Highlights

Crystal therapy operates on the equation awareness equals pleasant time equals reality, focusing on the present moment.

The therapy aims to help patients recover their lost potential and integrate conflicting polarities.

Patients are encouraged to understand the difference between gameplay and genuine, authentic behavior.

The therapeutic process is designed to transform energies from manipulating the environment to developing self-support.

Maturation is the process by which patients learn to stand on their own feet emotionally, intellectually, and economically.

The basic technique involves explaining things to the patient and providing opportunities for self-discovery.

The therapist manipulates and frustrates the patient to confront themselves, avoiding direct interpretation to prevent therapeutic mistakes.

Non-verbal communication is emphasized as it is less subject to self-deception than verbal expression.

The therapist confronts the patient's fear of being vulnerable and the tendency to act defensively.

The patient expresses a desire for the therapist to be more human and less authoritative.

The patient and therapist explore the dynamics of respect, vulnerability, and the need for genuine connection.

The patient's fear of showing weakness and the potential judgment from the therapist are discussed.

The therapist identifies the patient's avoidance of genuine encounter through control, withdrawal, and emotional manipulation.

The session concludes with the therapist summarizing the patient's behavior and the therapeutic factors at play.

The therapist emphasizes the importance of addressing the patient's existential embarrassment and the need to eliminate phoniness.

The patient's oscillation between feeling superior and feeling vulnerable is highlighted as a key area for therapeutic work.

The therapeutic approach focuses on the here and now, avoiding escape into the future or past.

Transcripts

foreign

to interview a patient

and I'd like to give you some thumbnail

sketch of what Crystal therapy stands

for

Augusta therapy is working on an

equation

awareness equal Pleasant time equal

reality

in contrast to depth psychology we try

to get hold of the obvious of the

surface of the situation in which we

find ourselves and to develop the

emerging Gestalt strictly on the I and

vowel Here and Now basis any Escape into

the future of the past is to examined as

a likely resistance against the ongoing

encounter

modern man has

eliminated given up so much of his

potential that his ability to cope with

his existence becomes badly impoverished

my aim is this

the patient should recover his lost

potential

he should integrate the conflicting

polarities understand the difference

between gameplay especially the playing

of world games

on the one hand and of genuine authentic

confident behavior on the other

the Civil War of inner conflicts weakens

the efficiency and comfort of the

patient

she will strengthen it

now in the safe emergency of the

therapeutic situation

safe emergency of the therapeutic

to take risks and to transform his

energies from

manipulating the environment for support

into developing greater greater

self-support that is reliance on its own

resources

this process is called maturation

once the patient has learned to stand on

its own feet emotionally intellectually

and economically his need for therapy

will collapse

he will wake up from The Nightmare of

his existence

the basic technique is this

to explain things to the patient but to

provide the patient with opportunities

to understand

and to discover himself

for this purpose I manipulate and

frustrate the patient in such a way that

he's confronting himself

in this process he identifies with his

lost potential for instance through

assimilating his projections by acting

out

by acting out the healing parts of

himself

principally I consider any

interpretation to be a therapeutic

mistake as this would imply that the

therapist understands the patient better

than the patient himself takes away from

the patient a chance of discovering

himself by himself

and prevents him from finding out his

own values each Style on the other hand

I disregard most of the content of what

the patient says and concentrate most on

the non-verbal level as this is the only

which only one which is less subject to

self-deception in his verbal pseudo

self-expression on the non-verbal level

the relevant Gestalt will always emerge

and can dealt with in the Here and Now

you're going through an interview for

half an hour

by the way I'm scared

you see you're scared but you're smiling

I don't understand how one can be scared

and smile at the same time

and I'm also suspicious of you I think

you understand very well I think you

know that

I laugh or I can't to cover up

do we have stage five

um I don't know I'm mostly aware of you

I'm afraid that uh

I'm afraid you're gonna have such a

direct attack that uh you're gonna get

me in the corner and I'm afraid of it I

want you to be more on myself I get you

in your corner keep your head on your

chest

well it's like yeah it's like I'm afraid

you know where would you like to go

yeah uh but it's back in the corner

where where I'm completely protected

for me

well I know I wouldn't really feel safer

yeah it made you win this quota

you're perfectly safe now what would you

do in this club I just said Mr just sit

yes no how long would you sit I don't

know but this is so funny as you're

saying this this reminds me of when I

was a little girl every time I was

afraid I

just well no but it's the same feeling

are you a little girl

this feeling reminds me of it

no no no glass

how old are you 30. and you're not the

little girl yeah okay

so you're 30 years girl who's afraid of

a guy like me well I don't even know if

I'm I I don't know I'll be afraid of you

you I get real defensive with you

now what can I do to you

you can't do anything but I can sure

feel dumb and I can feel stupid for not

having the right answers now what would

it do for you to be feel dumb and stupid

I hate it when I'm stupid what would it

do for you to be dumb and stupid

like this what would it do to me if you

would play dumb and stupid that makes

you all the smarter and all the higher

above me then I really have to look up

to you because you're so smart yeah oh

yeah

you can do that all by yourself

I think the other way around if you play

dumb and stupid you force me to be more

explicit

that's been said to me before but I

don't buy it I don't know what I do with

your feet now

wiggling

it's a joke no I'm afraid you're gonna

notice everything I do gee don't you

want me I want you to help me become

more relaxed yes I don't want to be so

defensive with you I don't like to feel

so defensive

you're acting like you're treating me as

if I'm stronger than I am and I want you

to pick

more and be nicer to me are you aware of

your smile you don't believe a word I

know you're gonna pick on me for it sure

your bloody a funny

thank you

do you believe you're meaning that

seriously yeah

you see you're afraid and you laugh and

you giggle and

then oh I I recite that very much can

you explicit yes sir I most certainly am

not being phony I I will admit this it's

hard for me to show my embarrassment and

I hate to be embarrassed but boy I

resent you call me a pony

as I smile when I'm embarrassed or I'm

put in the corner doesn't mean I'm being

a phony wonderful thank you if you did

despite for the last minute well I'm mad

at

it that's all right

no you're in that moment in that minute

you were not approached well at that

minute I was mad though I wasn't

embarrassed another can you imagine

I still resent that I'm not the only one

I'm nervous you're good I want to get

mad at you I

I Want You On My Level so I can pick on

you just as much as you're picking on me

have to wait till the you say something

that I can pick on that what does this

mean can you develop this movement it's

uh I can't find words I wanna

develop this as if you've been dancing

I want to start all over again with you

okay I know what corner I'd like to put

you on I'd like to ask you a question

and because I have a feeling you don't

like me right off the bat and I want to

know if you do can you not play Fritz

spells not liking Gloria what would he

say

he'd say that she's a phony for one

you are a phone you're a phony and

you're a flip little girl

and your show-off

Gloria answer to that

I know what I'd answer I'd say I think

you are too

now say tell this to me you tell me what

The Party Guy

what's your phone

well Pony is not quite the right word

but it's more like a

show-off for sure like you know all the

answers yeah and I want you to be more

human and that doesn't seem very human

to me

is not very

you that oh dear I've got eyes I can see

you're kicking your feet I don't need a

scientific computer to see that you're

kicking your feet

speak about that

to be wise to see that you're kicking

your feet I know but it seems like

you're trying to find some reason for it

okay I know what I'd like from you can I

tell you what I'd like for me yeah I'd

like you to be aware that I'm kicking my

feet and to be aware that I'm giggling

when I'm really nervous and accept it

instead of putting me on the defense of

having to explain it

I want to have to explain why I'm doing

these things did I ask you to explain

you said why am I or what am I doing

well what am I doing you said that's

right kicking your feet I didn't ask you

to explain it

it's your imagination

it's not this foot it's the foot of your

imagination

it's a big difference

now do this again

how do you feel now

I don't know

being stupid

I'm not playing stupid I don't know this

is being stupid

you did something with you here there

it's by the chance something in my hair

what you object to no no

no but I your your hair and your

features go along with the the feeling I

had about you earlier I had a feeling

like I'd be afraid of you

and you're the type of person that seems

like you demand so much respect and so

you're

well you know how smart I am I know more

about psychology than you do Gloria so

anything I say of course is right

can you see the same as Gloria or

something similar as Glory

to the same act as Glory

I demand respect because

I don't know

no I don't I identify it with my father

but not me I don't feel I demand respect

I'd like more I'd like you to respect me

more no you see so you're the mentors

all right yes yes it doesn't matter

right if I could demand respect from you

I would but do it foreign

except yourself

because I feel if I get myself out on

the corner you're going to let me just

drown you're not going to help me one

bit and I know that I can't quite come

up to standards with you

what should I do when you're the cook

for me to come out come out oh we don't

have enough

urge to come out by yourself you need

somebody pull a little

distress out of a cup yeah so anytime

you want somebody to

pay attention to you call into a corner

and wait till the rescue a cup yes

that's exactly what I'd like and this is

what I call phone

pardon me this is what I call phone why

is it phony I'm admitting to you what I

am how is that a phony that is a phony

because

gimmick

to be a rescue I'm admitting it I know

what I'm doing I'm not being phony I'm

not pretending I'm so brave

like you're saying unless I come out

openly and stand on my own I'm not a

phony baloney I'm just just as real

sitting in that corner as I am out here

all by myself but you're not sitting

there well not now

and besides that it's like passing

judgment when you call me phony I just

hate that anyway

I call anybody phony who put some heck

and if you like somebody you want to

meet this person

to go to this person tell them I would

like to meet you I would call not for me

but if you courageously go into that

corner

waiting to be rescued this I call

foreign and I still think you're

judgmental you know what I have a

feeling you've never felt this way in

your life you feel so secure that you

don't have to feel anybody that does

something like this you're going to pass

judgment on there being a phony while I

was in it good no place Goods passing

judgment you are you're sitting up there

in your little chair I am but I passed

Jackson

sketchment on me now

I don't feel close to you at all Dr

pearls I feel that's phony I feel like

you're playing one big game right

sure we're playing games but in spite of

the games I think I've touched you now

and then I think I've helped you in a

culture food of course you did and I

think I hit the Bulls all right that's

why you feel it out

I don't know all I know is when somebody

when I feel the way I feel with you

right now no I it's like you don't have

I can't I can't I want to laugh I wanna

I'd like you to be younger than me so I

could really scold you oh it must have

been

my age three but I'm 13 now imagine I

said you know you're good okay don't be

so sure yourself don't think you're

so doggone smart don't act so proud

because you've never been in the corner

I think you can be just as big a phony

parading around like you're so damn

smart you know all the answers as much

as me sitting in my corner oh and I like

the feeling of you being younger I'd

like to really I'd like to embarrass you

yeah

you wouldn't get embarrassed you seem

unaffected

tell me embarrass me you know how old

how ugly I am

looking ugly you look distinguished and

that gives you that's all the more on

your side if you look so distinguished

then see

your side too

no I know no

I don't think you're fighting with me

but I thought you came out quite a bit

well I'm mad at you what

but you seem so detached you don't even

seem to care that I'm mad at you

I feel like you're not recognizing me at

all Dr pearls not a bit this is correct

I couldn't take this much to superficial

to be involved in catering I care for

you as far as let's see you right now my

client I care for you as far as I like

to like an artist bring something out

which is hidden in you is as far as you

care

well I'd like you to

I'd like to feel that there's some it's

frustrating if I were to leave you right

now and not see you again it would

frustrate me to feel like there hadn't

been more contact I feel completely out

of contact with you like I'm talking to

the baby that doesn't understand me or

something like that I don't feel like

we're a bit in contact and that oh that

frustrates me

well there's me more than being

I'd rather we were angry and fight and

than to have no contact

yeah this reminds me of when my husband

and I used to fight he sits there and he

listens to me but he's not even aware of

how much I hate him and how mad I am at

him I'd

yeah I'd rather affect you you'd really

hate me or something

and I feel like you're purposely staying

out of

the fantasy how could I share you my

concern with you

I can't say in words I know the feeling

I'd say on you but I can't say it's just

a feeling like

I don't know

it's like I want you to respect me more

as a human being that I've got feelings

no become to the beginning so you won't

respect yes I do I do

this is a different kind of respect than

I meant the first time but you want you

need respect yes

I just picked you so much as a human

being that I've refused to accept the

fully part of yourself and address

myself to the genuine part right now the

last few minutes you were wonderfully

gently

playing any more

could see you very difficulty

well I don't feel I've got it right when

I don't like somebody or I disagree with

somebody's doing if if I should respect

them if they're above me they're

Superior to me I don't feel I've got a

right to really really tell you how mad

I am

you're getting back into your safe

Corner that's the way it feels that's

what the safe Corner feels like to meet

you

prestigious if quality came out for a

moment you nearly met me you could get a

little bit angry with me

do your safety I feel like you're

telling me the only way you respect me

as a human being if I'm aggressive and

forceful and strong yeah I feel like you

couldn't even accept my I'd be scared of

death to cry in front of you I feel like

you'd laugh at me and call me a phony

I feel like you don't accept my weak

side only when I'm yelling back at you

or hollering at you

okay no

do this again

I try not to I try not to cry in front

of you I show my weak spot for fear you

jump on me again how do you realize that

your eyes are moist

I'm aware that I feel I'm more chokey

yes I feel it

could you choke me

ten but not for real

well because I don't hate you that much

you want to choke my kiss because you

want me to choke you so you wouldn't cry

I'd like to if I'd like to choke you it

would be to make you cry I'd like to see

you weak

I'd like to see you hurt and and

vulnerable

what would this do for you

make me feel like I'm I have more of a

right to be her and you wouldn't jump on

me so quick

if you jump on me if I would cry no but

I would jump on you if you would cry

be sure to this

no I'm not sure of it

what would you like me to do if you were

to cry

you're smiling you smiling something off

well because I got two feelings I was

gonna say I want you to I want you to

love me and hug me but then I thought no

I don't want to what's your objection

I'd be scared to be too close to you

I'll be getting something first you want

to be close to me

now you're afraid to be too close to me

this is what I'm saying but that's right

now we got the two ports of your

existence but they're two different

feelings close I mean emotionally but

not physically

but we've got the two parts of existence

now either far away in a corner

I'll be so close that you can melt into

one without a person

it depends you travel between the two

extremes

I do you know what I'm thinking when I

am really hurt and really upset about

something and I want someone to love me

like my girlfriend will do it a lot and

she'll come up to hug me I don't I don't

want it

foreign

but are you afraid if you went too close

to your girl and if you let her hug you

um the only thing I'm aware of is like

when I perspire It embarrasses me that

should feel how wet I am

I should hold my body up close and I

don't know are you aware of your facial

expression the kind of disgusting yeah

yes I am I do this more because

it's just icky I can just feel what it

is I don't like it can you see this to

me

no no

what's so difficulty because I feel like

if you really believe me that would hurt

your feelings

oh you must not my feelings

wow I thought I was so indifference you

see before that though nothing could

touch me now you suddenly discovered a

way to touch me isn't it

well you know what I believe I believe

you're the type of person sort of like

me that you act like it wouldn't hurt

your feelings but it really would you

act strong but you're you're soft and

vulnerable inside there too

I think your feelings could be heard

sure

but I don't think you'd show it very

easy

look what I do

feel my feelings by turning it back on

me by saying now what did you get from

that Gloria you turned the whole thing

back on me instead of showing how hard

you were oh can you see this difference

how did you what did you get out of this

face

would you get out of what what you just

see just your secrets

sure I know what you get out of it if I

said what did you get out of this fridge

you'd say

you're hurt so you covered it up same

way with me in the corner no if ever

feel Superior to me you'd be more

vulnerable and I could pacify you and

make you feel better yeah

yes

On My Level I wouldn't have to feel so

dumb with you the other way around you

would have to be my baby

cry you would like to play the baby and

be comforted and heart and the poor

thing well I believe that too

but I'll tell you something wrong I

think we came to a nice closure I think

we came to a little bit of understanding

finish this season

right

now the demonstration was in my opinion

quite successful and consistent with my

theoretical Outlook the avoidance of the

genuine encounter manifested itself in

three ways

the patient was first taking control by

putting on a smiling sophisticated phony

mask of oscillating between a pretense

of being frightened and yet at the same

time having me figured out thus being a

believing to be fully in control of the

situation

secondly

she was withdrawing by fantasizing of

hiding in a corner

three

crying which then would have been the

real emotional meaning of this meeting

the patient was capable of identifying

herself with several fantasies she had

projected onto me she was this was

especially evident with regard to her

initial denial for a need to be

respected

they need for environmental support

started to come out besides so need to

get respected

rescued from the corner

and so on I broke off the session in the

first tears begin to appear she began to

play the role of the Lonely child and

apparently wanted to be hugged and

comforted but here too the assimilation

of a projection began to work and she

began to experience holding me like a

baby

um

assisting her assimilating her in some

projections the main therapeutic Factor

was to show her the inconsistency of a

verbal and non-verbal behavior for

instance saying that he was frightened

and smiling at the same time

the frightened person does not smile

fear it was in the direction of her

embarrassment

this embarrassment was protected by her

brazenness and anger to get her

existence existential embarrassment we

would have to work through and

eliminated the phoniness that is the

ease with which we can superficially

assume any role that is required for a

specific situation

Sylvia

way of life this is about what I got out

of this session