About My Mom, Chance & Getting Kicked Out..

Summary

The speaker recounts a strained relationship with his mother, culminating in his eviction at 20. Despite a rocky start, including a zero in a college course and a racially motivated incident during a gaming session, he successfully establishes independence. He reflects on the choices that led to his current life, the importance of family, and the potential for future reconciliation, all while maintaining a humorous and candid tone.

Takeaways

• 📅 The last time the speaker talked to his mom was on Mother's Day, which was also the fifth month of the year.
• 💐 He sent his mom flowers for Mother's Day, but she threw them away, expressing her dissatisfaction with the gesture.
• 😔 The speaker's relationship with his mother is strained, with a history of conflict and a lack of communication.
• 🏠 He was kicked out of his home at the age of 20, which he attributes to playing World of Warcraft and a series of misunderstandings.
• 🎓 Despite having a 3.0 GPA in college, the speaker's mother was upset about his academic performance and perceived lack of effort.
• 💻 His ban from playing computer games at home led to a pivotal moment where he chose to leave and be independent.
• 🤝 He moved in with a friend, Harris, and started working and going to school, becoming self-sufficient.
• 🎮 The speaker's friendship and collaboration with 'Chance' played a significant role in his life's trajectory, including moving in together and streaming on Twitch.
• 💔 The speaker's parents eventually divorced shortly after he moved out, which may have added to the family tension.
• 👨‍👧 He maintains a good relationship with his father, contrasting with the strained relationship with his mother.
• 🏡 The speaker has considered moving back to Michigan to be closer to friends and family but is hesitant due to past experiences and conflicts.

Q & A

When was the last time the speaker talked to his mom?

The last time the speaker talked to his mom was during the fifth month of the year, which he mentions was Mother's Day.

What happened when the speaker sent flowers to his mom for Mother's Day?

His mom threw the flowers in the trash and expressed her displeasure, stating that he doesn't get to send flowers and call it a Happy Mother's Day.

Why did the speaker's mom kick him out of the house?

The speaker's mom kicked him out because he was playing World of Warcraft when he was supposed to be studying, and after a series of events involving a game player reporting him to his mom.

How did the speaker's mom react when she found out he was playing games instead of studying?

She was very upset, especially after being racially insulted over the phone by another player, and gave the speaker an ultimatum to either stop playing games and work 40 hours a week or leave the house.

What was the speaker's decision after his mom gave him an ultimatum?

The speaker decided to leave the house and be independent, believing he could support himself without his mom's help.

What did the speaker do after leaving home?

The speaker got a job, went to school, and started living on his own. He also began streaming on Twitch.

How did the speaker's relationship with his dad differ from his relationship with his mom?

The speaker's relationship with his dad was more amicable; they still talk all the time, unlike his strained relationship with his mom.

What happened to the speaker's parents after he moved out?

The speaker's parents got a divorce about two weeks after he moved out.

How does the speaker feel about the possibility of having a daughter in the future?

The speaker expresses excitement about the possibility of having a daughter and seems open to having children at any point in the future.

What is the speaker's current relationship with his sister?

The speaker admits he doesn't talk to his sister as much as he should, implying they have a somewhat distant relationship.

How does the speaker view his friends back in Michigan?

The speaker has a positive view of his friends in Michigan, mentioning that they are all doing well in life and that they are his best friends.

Outlines

00:00

😔 Estranged Relationship with Mother

The speaker recounts the last conversation with his mother, which occurred on Mother's Day. He describes the strained relationship, mentioning being kicked out at the age of 20 due to a combination of academic issues and excessive gaming. The incident that led to his banishment involved a racially charged phone call from a gaming competitor, which resulted in his mother's anger and an ultimatum. The speaker chose to leave and make it on his own, reflecting on the independence he gained from the situation.

05:01

🏠 Starting Over After Family Conflict

The speaker shares his decision to leave home and live independently, moving in with a friend named Harris in a $800-a-month three-bedroom apartment in a rough neighborhood. He describes his life working at a restaurant, attending college, and streaming on Twitch. The narrative includes the unexpected arrival of his friend Chance, who moved in without having met in person, marking the beginning of a significant friendship and partnership. The speaker also touches on the emotional aftermath of his estrangement from his family, particularly his mother, and the subsequent divorce of his parents.

10:04

🤔 Contemplating Reconciliation and Regrets

The speaker discusses the deterioration of his relationship with his mother over the years, including a period of no contact spanning several years. He contemplates the possibility of reconciliation but expresses his unwillingness to concede to his mother's demands. He shares his experiences of visiting home and the emotional turmoil it causes, leading to his decision to avoid returning to Michigan. The speaker also reflects on his close friendships and the success of his friends, considering the idea of moving back to maintain those relationships. He addresses the potential for future regret regarding his mother and the complex emotions tied to family relationships.

Keywords

💡Mother's Day

Mother's Day is a holiday honoring motherhood, celebrated in many countries on the second Sunday in May. In the script, the narrator mentions that the last time he talked to his mother was on Mother's Day, indicating a strained relationship as his mother threw away the flowers he sent her, reflecting the video's theme of family conflict.

💡estrangement

Estrangement refers to a state of emotional distance or separation from someone, often a family member. The video's theme revolves around the narrator's estrangement from his mother, which is evident from their last conversation and his decision to not look back after being kicked out.

💡self-reliance

Self-reliance is the ability to rely on oneself, without depending on others for support or help. The narrator demonstrates self-reliance by moving out at 20, getting a job, and managing his life independently after being kicked out by his mother.

💡World of Warcraft (WoW)

World of Warcraft is a popular online multiplayer game. The game is significant in the script as it was the catalyst for the conflict between the narrator and his mother, leading to his ban from computer games and ultimately his eviction.

💡streaming

Streaming refers to the act of broadcasting content live over the internet. The narrator and his friend Chance both streamed their gameplay on platforms like Twitch, which became a significant part of their lives and contributed to the conflict with the narrator's mother.

💡Twitch

Twitch is a live streaming platform, often used for video games. The script mentions Twitch as the platform where the narrator and Chance streamed their World of Warcraft gameplay, which played a role in the family dynamics and the narrator's eventual path to independence.

💡college

College refers to an institution of higher learning that grants degrees. The narrator mentions his college experience, including his GPA and a biology class he failed, which was a point of contention with his mother and contributed to his eviction.

💡independence

Independence is the state of being free from outside control or support. The video's narrative showcases the narrator's journey towards independence after leaving his family home, highlighting his personal growth and resilience.

💡friendship

Friendship is a close relationship between equals. The script emphasizes the importance of friendship in the narrator's life, particularly with Harris and Chance, who supported him during his transition to independence.

💡divorce

Divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage. The narrator reveals that his parents got divorced shortly after he moved out, indicating a possible broader family dysfunction and contributing to the overall theme of family conflict.

💡legacy

Legacy refers to something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor. The narrator reflects on his family's legacy, particularly his father's role as a father, and how it influences his own perspective on family and relationships.

Highlights

Last conversation with mom was on Mother's Day, which ended with her expressing not wanting him at her funeral.

He was kicked out of home at 20 due to playing WoW, leading to his independence and eventual success.

His mom disapproved of his 3.0 GPA, considering it a waste of her money, even though the student loans were in his name.

He retook a class to improve his grade but faced criticism from his mom for wasting money.

A rival WoW player found his home phone number and racially abused his mom, leading to his ban from computer games.

He chose to leave home rather than follow his mom's strict conditions after being caught playing WoW.

He moved in with his friend Harris, starting a new life with $2,000 from his grandpa.

He worked at a restaurant, which provided him with income, free food, and a sense of family among colleagues.

His friend Chance moved in with him without ever meeting in person, starting their joint venture in streaming.

He reflects on the emotional conversation with his dad about being kicked out and the subsequent divorce of his parents.

He mentions the importance of not bending the knee and not seeking forgiveness for his independence.

He has not spoken to his mom for years, choosing to cut ties rather than endure conflict.

His friends in Michigan are successful and he considers moving back to be closer to them.

He contemplates the possibility of having his own family and the kind of father he wants to be.

He discusses the potential regret of not mending the relationship with his mom and the importance of family.

He considers the possibility of his 'seed might not even work', hinting at potential fertility issues.

A long-time viewer expresses support and gladness for the positive changes in his life.

Transcripts

someone say when's the last time you

talked to your

mom let's

see last time I talked to my mom the

last time I talked to my mom was the

fifth month of the year oh it was

Mother's Day I'm just going to read

these messages cuz I have nothing else

to to to lose at this point so I sent

her flowers for Mother's Day she threw

them in the trash and she says you don't

get to send flowers and call it a Happy

Mother's Day and I go ha unhappy

Mother's Day and then she goes I'm happy

my daughter's taking me to dinner my

sister and I go good that's good

hopefully yall enjoy the food and she

goes you on the other hand if I die

tomorrow I don't want you

here so yeah that was the last time we

talked it's bad dude word for word it

gets worse dude it gets worse it gets

worse yeah I guess I'm just that I'm

just of a kid I mean I got nothing

left to lose I got nothing left like

it's it dude no Mom you know it's just

it's I got nothing left that's what dude

that's why I'm just going to the gym

with the boys dude it's it's just the

what did I do um I just left you know

just kind of left did my own thing you

know I got I I got kicked out when I was

like 20 which is fine you know I'm adult

then and I just never looked back you

know I just left and you know I was just

I just did my own thing and the the tldr

is I I made it without her like that's

really it I just I just left and I just

I'm like all right fine if you want to

kick me out I'm going to do my own thing

so and that was that and I never really

looked back you know so what did you do

that got you kicked out so I mean I can

I can do you want to hear the story

everyone knows the story and in fact I

got I got kicked out of my house

essentially because of chance he had a

he had a big part of it you don't know

the story okay so this was like 14 years

ago or something and I was in college at

the time and uh I had I had like a 3.0

GPA in college right which isn't good it

isn't bad um in fact I can show you my

transcripts which I pulled up last time

I was home cuz my mother was she said I

had zeros but I didn't have zeros I had

I had like a like a 293 or something

like a zero overall but the thing is it

was 293 because I did actually have a

zero on my uh I took this uh chemistry

class not chemistry it was some biology

class right I didn't even go once I

didn't even I went to the first day the

first class and I never went ever ever

again and the reason I didn't go is it

was cuz it was at lunchtime and I was

hungry so I had two classes in the

morning I made the mistake of scheduling

three classes back to back right so I'd

have I had I had math and I had like

some business class or whatever and then

like right after that was like this fing

biology class or something so but I was

like it I'm hungry dude you know

like and so I was like I'm not going to

I'm just not going to go to this class

so I end up taken a zero I didn't even

drop it I should just drop the class you

know instead of eating the zero but what

I what I would do is I would just retake

the class in the summer and I would get

like a like a good grade in it right cuz

there only one class so it's not hard to

get like a like a 35 or 37 right so I'll

just retake it in the summer but my mom

didn't like that cuz she was like oh

you're wasting my money turns out all

the student loans were in my name

anyways so I ended up paying them off

once I started making money streaming in

the first place so it turns out

you know it was my money in the first

place anyways so what whatever you know

so she was just like you're uh you're

around at school blah blah blah

uh she was like all right Nick uh since

you're playing too much WoW with chance

uh you can no longer you can't play on

the computer anymore you know I'm

Banning you cuz I used to live at home

she was like I'm Banning you from

playing on the computer me being 20

Gladiator that I'm queuing up so I was

playing wow with chance at night right

but Chance was streaming on xfire or

whatever wherever he was at the time he

was streaming and we were I'm not

kidding you and this is there's proof of

this if you can go back to the internet

uh no my mom's black uh my dad's white

uh so we're we're and this is actually

important to the story I'll tell you why

in a couple seconds here uh we're

playing at night one night and I'm not

supposed to be playing right we are

number one we are the rank one team in

our battle group we are me chance and

someone else we're just and we're

beating we're beating the rank two team

we're beating the out of him and uh

it was just Paladin his name is

Aesthetics and if I ever see you

athetics I'm actually going to thank you

for doing this because because of you

I'm a multi-millionaire so thank you for

doing what I'm about to say that you did

um so we're beating this rank two team

and this Aesthetics guy uh this paladin

on the rank two team gets mad and I made

and I made the mistake of telling chance

on stream that I'm not supposed to be

playing right now and what happened was

Aesthetics this Paladin decided to find

my home phone number so at about 11:00

at night 12:00 at night he's calling my

house phone and my mom picks up and this

guy uh Aesthetics dis Paladin tells on

me for playing when I shouldn't be

playing and then repeatedly calls my mom

the nword okay on God this World of

Warcraft Paladin name Aesthetics and

he'll probably see this clip you know

whatever uh or he's dead now one of the

two he called my mom the NW word right

pissed her off told him me Etc so my mom

comes upstairs

fuming fuming at me uh for for lying and

her being you know uh you know racially

attacked whatever and she says to me you

have two options number one you can stay

here uh and live here but you have to

get a 40-hour a week job and you can't

play any computer games and you have to

go to school fulltime but you can stay

here and the other option was leave and

I thought about it and I said if I'm

going to be working 40 hours a week I

can just leave and pay for my own

and I did and I never looked back and

that was it where did you go after so I

called my friend Harris remember I told

you about that guy who uh would beat

people up for me in hockey I called

Harris I said hey bro let's get a place

together so we went out and we found

this uh three bedroom uh it was $800 a

month back then for three bedrooms it

was in like the worst part of uh worst

part of town you know it was 800 bucks

for a three-bedroom gunshots blah blah

blah all this you know I was like

it this is the this is the most we

can afford um let's do it and um so I

just left I left with uh I had $2,000 in

my bank account that I got from uh my

grandpa who died remember I said that

joke it was like 350k it wasn't it was

like two it was like $2,000 and I left

with that and that was my oh money

and I never dipped into it even to this

day so I was like that's the oh

money I'm never going to dip into it if

I don't have to and so what I did was I

got a job and I went to school and I was

living on my own so when I was doing

that it was it was like it was working

like I went to work I went to school I

paid my bills I played games and it was

it was fine like everything was working

just fine I I wasn't hurting for money I

worked at a restaurant so I got a ton of

free food you know and it wasn't really

that bad but what h it wasn't Jimmy

Johns it was an actual restaurant but I

recommend like if you work in fast food

I do recommend uh upgrading to like an

actual good restaurant cuz you'll make

more money and it's way more fun and the

people there like become your family and

it's like it's actually awesome uh I

worked there for a while so um I think

it's a little bit better but either way

uh s was stream on Twitch then so yeah

so what happened was uh if you remember

now only the ogs remember this so what I

would do is I had an external hard drive

I put wow on an external hard drive and

I would bring a web camera to my college

and I would stream from my college and I

people would watch it was like we get

like a couple hundred viewers back then

you know and what happened uh as time

was going on chance uh also went to

school and I'm just going to I'm going

to keep it real chance went to his

college and he was streaming on Twitch

and this was early days he went to

school and got four zeros I got one he

got four but at the at the time he I

think he had just gotten this amh High

donation he was making crazy money for

an

18-year-old crazy money right and he was

just like it I'm taking zeros and

then his mom also kicked him out or

maybe his mom or dad one of the two

right uh kicked him out and then chance

moved to me at my apartment that $800 a

month apartment and we shared a room

with me him and my girlfriend at the

time okay we shared an apartment there

and he moved to me without he never even

met me in person we only played wow

together and he was like I'm going to

take a leap of faith and he moved to me

in Michigan and that's how everything

started that's the tldr and ever since

then like I've been just doing my own

thing like I don't I don't call back

home you know I go home for Christmas

you know I'm not like I'll be honest if

you want just me to be real for a second

I'm still bitter about getting kicked

out cuz I think I would have never done

that you know especially when like I

wasn't like completely failing like I

would have I would have never done that

to my son like I wouldn't you know it it

to me is like that's such a bad mistake

like how about you sit me down and like

try and teach me why it's important not

to take zeros you know instead of just

give me the old boot it was just I just

wouldn't have never done that you know

and in fact I even talked to my dad

about it you know and we actually ended

up both started crying cuz it was so

emotional I was like dude Dad how could

you let that happen to me that was wild

you know but whatever um so we ended up

um yeah where was my dad my my my dad's

not the the disciplinarian it's not so

my mom ran the show but it's okay it's

no problem uh me me and my dad still

talk all the time are they still

together hell no dude the second I moved

out they got a divorce like two weeks

later they were waiting it was over no

that was over bro they were they

were waiting they were dude it was it

was a wrap son you know two Christmases

oh no it's one Christmas we're banned

from one house

that's not true we go to Mia's house for

Christmas so we still have two

Christmases and you know M's family has

been great too so did I talk to my

sister not as much as I should she's she

kind of does her own thing too so uh why

a't you moving with your dad after bro I

told you I I left I left and did my own

thing and it worked I I didn't go back

because me and chance you know chance

was doing so well and I didn't have to

go back so I I I just never I never I

just didn't have to and even now it's

like I'm not going to go back and like

crawl on my hands and knees and ask for

forgiveness when like I don't have to I

just I'm good you know so yeah that's

kind of the tldr of why and it it's just

gotten worse over the years like like

like when me and molinaa first got

together like I don't think I wasn't

speaking to my mom I don't think we

talked for like 3 years like I'm not

kidding you it was it was a threeyear

non-talking or maybe two years cuz like

she got mad at mad mad at me about

something and said some and I'm

just like I'm not I'm not going to take

this and I just didn't talk yeah that's

a tldr but about that sort of stuff but

you know I could have I don't know it's

like if I bent the knee more I probably

could have saved it but I'm not the type

of guy to bend the knee it's just not

were things different the last time you

visited your mom when you had to power

wash the deck outside every time I've

gone home uh i' I've ended up leaving in

tears that's that's why I never go back

to Michigan it's just not it's just not

good there's always a massive fight it's

just I just do not go like I I just

cannot you know it's just I got too much

stuff going on yeah I could go back and

see my sister that's for sure and I got

cousins there who are great and I got my

my friends like Harris and stuff too so

I mean I honestly I have I have enough

money now that I could literally get a

little apartment there and just have a

computer and I probably should so I can

go back and see like you know my friends

and stuff like that too so yeah my my my

best friends my best best best best best

friends are still in Michigan and

they're great dude and they're all doing

so well like two of them are married

both of those guys have like jobs that

pay like 150k plus a year they have

beautiful wives like one of them has two

like two kids the other one like my best

buddy works for my other friend who like

has like a Lambo like dude everyone's

doing so good they're all just fing

killing it man like in in every aspect

of the word man or yeah it's just doing

so good man yeah they're doing so good

so we uh we really do need to go back

the weather sucks I actually like this

snow I don't know if I'm gring or not so

yeah that's a little bit of a TLD drr

about all that sort of stuff so can we

get a Michigan stream one day it'll be

good to see what made you yeah you want

me to go talk to my mom on stream you

want me to have a camera going show up

at house see what goes on you want to

film that conversation how about that

it' be good huh but like I I just don't

think that there's any saving the

relationship with me and my mom I don't

think so it's just not possible to save

it unless like I just completely concede

every point that I have so like I I just

I'm just not willing to do so like you

know I'm I'm just I'm just I'm like 33

now like I'm just I'm just going to not

go back and just be like bossed around

and you know is what it is you will

regret it when she's gone you only have

one mom

probably but that's that's what life is

old old people a lot of old people are

filled with regret too you know you know

it's just the way that it goes uh does

she have anyone to look after her when

she gets old if not she's going to need

you I mean I would look after her when

she gets old of course we just can't be

talking daily you know I'm sure you guys

probably have some of those friends that

like you can't you can talk to them like

a once in a while even like parents

maybe but like it can't be a daily thing

cuz it just ends up bad never going

to abandon her so yeah it is what it is

but me me and my dad are chilling I talk

him all the time you know my dad's great

you guys seen my dad like like I said

I'll say it once I'll say it again dude

if I can be half the father to my child

I almost said Son children that he was

to me then I would have been great he

was he was great daughter dude I'm not

even sweating bro if I have a daughter

man then I have a daughter you know at

this point like I'll take anything at

this point man you'll be 50 when it

happens it might not even ever happen at

this point guys I honestly my seed might

not even work so I might it just it

might not even work man that be

like yellow

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so I've been watching you for years and

I'm not a chatter I'm glad you're taking

a turn for the best you still a

though and I'll beat your ass IRL