How To Get Physical With A Woman You Just Met
Summary
TLDRDieses Video-Skript behandelt das häufige Problem junger Männer, die Schwierigkeiten haben, physische Intimität mit Frauen zu eskalieren. Der Sprecher teilt persönliche Erfahrungen und gibt Ratschläge, wie man durch soziale Intelligenz und das Sammeln von Erfahrungen die Fähigkeit entwickelt, die Rezeption von Körperkontakt besser einschätzen zu können. Er betont die Wichtigkeit von physischem Kontakt für die Verbesserung von Beziehungen und fordert Zuschauer auf, eine offene, beobachtende Einstellung einzunehmen und aus Misserfolgen zu lernen, um die eigene Fähigkeit zu verbessern, Beziehungen aufzubauen.
Takeaways
- 😌 Die Fähigkeit, physisch zu werden, ist für viele junge Männer eine häufige Herausforderung, die sie meistern müssen, um Beziehungen zu entwickeln.
- 🤝 Der erste Eindruck, der eine gewisse Form von körperlicher Berührung beinhaltet, kann die Wahrscheinlichkeit erhöhen, dass jemand anderen mögen.
- 🧠 Soziale Intelligenz ist entscheidend, um zu verstehen, ob eine Person aufrichtig auf körperliche Nähe reagieren wird oder nicht.
- 🤔 Die Fähigkeit, physisch zu werden, kann durch das Sammeln von Erfahrungen und das Lernen aus ihnen verbessert werden.
- 🚀 Selbstbewusstsein und die Überzeugung, dass man körperliche Nähe schaffen kann, ist ein wichtiger Aspekt, um Beziehungen zu fördern.
- 🙅♂️ Das explizite bitten um Erlaubnis zu einer Berührung oder Umarmung kann als unattraktiv und unnatürlich wahrgenommen werden.
- 💪 Die physische Attraktivität spielt eine große Rolle in der Anziehungskraft und sollte ernst genommen werden.
- 🤷♂️ Es ist wichtig, Ablehnung und Missverständnisse in Beziehungen mit Humor und Respekt zu behandeln.
- 🤗 Ein offener und beobachtender Mindset bei der Interaktion kann dazu beitragen, die richtige Zeit für körperliche Nähe zu erkennen.
- 🌐 Die moderne Gesellschaft hat uns oft davor zurückhaltend gemacht, körperliche Nähe zu zeigen, aber es ist wichtig, dieses Element des Lebens nicht zu vernachlässigen.
- 💡 Das Verständnis und die Anwendung von sozialen Signalen und der Fähigkeit, sie korrekt zu interpretieren, kann dazu beitragen, Beziehungen aufzubauen und zu vertiefen.
Q & A
Was ist das häufigste Problem, das junge Männer bei der Eskalation physischer Nähe zu Frauen haben?
-Das häufigste Problem ist, dass sie nicht wissen, wie sie die physische Nähe nach dem Einladen eines Mädchens nach Hause eskalieren sollen, was zu Ungeduld und der Wahrnehmung als 'better male' führen kann.
Welche Rolle spielt physische Berührung in den ersten Eindrücken auf jemanden?
-Physische Berührung ist sehr wichtig, da Studien zeigen, dass Menschen, mit denen man sich physisch berührt hat, eher sympathisch finden und eine höhere Wahrscheinlichkeit haben, eine Verbindung zu knüpfen.
Wie kann man erkennen, ob eine Frau aufmächtig für physische Berührung ist?
-Man kann es durch das Sammeln von Erfahrungen und das Beobachten von Körpersprache, Mimik und Stimmton erkennen. Wenn eine Frau aufmächtig erscheint und man selbst eine Verbindung knüpfen möchte, kann man vorsichtig mit physischer Berührung beginnen.
Was ist der Rat, den der Sprecher für Männer gibt, die nicht wissen, wie sie physisch werden sollen?
-Der Sprecher empfiehlt, ein Verständnis für soziale Intuition zu entwickeln und eine 'Katalog' von Erfahrungen zu sammeln, um zu lernen, wann und wie man physisch werden sollte.
Was sind die Gefahren des Fehlens von physischer Berührung?
-Das Fehlen von physischer Berührung kann zu einer Verringerung der Attraktion und des Vertrauens führen und kann als 'entmännlichend' empfunden werden.
Wie kann man physisch werden, ohne zu viel nach Zustimmung zu fragen?
-Man sollte eine gesunde Balance finden, indem man auf subtile Signale achtet und nicht zu direkt nach Zustimmung fragt, was als wimpernhaft oder unattraktiv wahrgenommen werden kann.
Was passiert, wenn die physische Eskalation nicht gut akzeptiert wird?
-In solchen Fällen sollte man einfach 'Entschuldigung' sagen und die Situation bedenkend beenden, ohne aggressive oder verärgerte Reaktionen zu zeigen.
Wie wichtig ist die persönliche Auffassung und Haltung vor einer physischen Interaktion?
-Die persönliche Auffassung und Haltung sind sehr wichtig, da sie die Wahrnehmung der Interaktion durch andere formen und die eigene Selbstwirksamkeit beeinflussen.
Was sind die Konsequenzen, wenn man die Zeichen der Aufmerksamkeit oder Ablehnung falsch interpretiert?
-Falsche Interpretationen können zu peinlichen Situationen führen, aber sie sollten mit einer Entschuldigung und Respekt für die Grenzen des anderen verkraftet werden.
Wie kann man sicherstellen, dass die physische Eskalation angemessen und respektvoll ist?
-Durch das Entwickeln von sozialer Intelligenz, das Beobachten von Reaktionen der anderen Person und das Anwenden von Erkenntnissen aus früheren Erfahrungen.
Was ist der Einfluss von physischer Attraktivität auf die Attraktivität und das Vertrauen in Beziehungen?
-Physische Attraktivität ist ein wichtiger Faktor, da sie eine große Rolle bei der Erstbeeinträchtigung spielt und evolutionär Fertigkeiten und Gesundheit signalisiert.
Outlines
😅 Unsicherheit beim physischen Näherkommen
Der erste Absatz beschäftigt sich mit der Herausforderung, die viele junge Männer haben, wenn es darum geht, physisch näher zu einer Frau heranzukommen, nachdem sie Interesse gezeigt hat. Der Sprecher teilt seine eigene Erfahrung, wie er in seiner eigenen Schlafzimmer-Umgebung verlegen war und nicht wusste, wie er die physische Interaktion fortsetzt. Er betont die Wichtigkeit von physischer Nähe, um Vertrauen aufzubauen und gibt Beispiele dafür, wie man durch den Austausch von Körpersprache und kleinen Berührungen eine Verbindung aufbauen kann.
🤔 Die Bedeutung der physischen Verbindung
In diesem Absatz wird die Wichtigkeit der physischen Verbindung hervorgehoben, insbesondere durch den Fokus auf die Verbesserung der Beziehung durch physische Interaktionen. Der Sprecher diskutiert, wie man durch das Teilen von Witzen, Lachen und gelegentliche Berührungen eine enge Verbindung aufbaut. Er teilt auch persönliche Erfahrungen, wie er mit verschiedenen Frauen interagierte und zeigt, dass physische Nähe nicht notwendigerweise intime oder sexuelle Konnotationen haben muss, sondern einfach eine natürliche Möglichkeit ist, die Beziehung zu vertiefen.
🤝 Einführung in den physischen Kontakt
Der dritte Absatz konzentriert sich auf die Einführung in den physischen Kontakt, beginnend mit einem Handschlag oder einer anderen Form der Begrüßung. Der Sprecher erzählt von einem persönlichen Erlebnis, bei dem er eine Frau in einem Café angesprochen hat und wie er den physischen Kontakt eingeführt hat, indem er einen Handschlag angeboten hat. Er betont, dass es wichtig ist, die Reaktion der anderen Person auf den physischen Kontakt zu beobachten, um zu verstehen, ob sie diesen Kontakt gutheißen.
😌 Umgang mit Ablehnung und Missverständnissen
In diesem Absatz geht es um die Umsetzung von physischer Nähe und die Reaktion auf mögliche Ablehnung oder Missverständnisse. Der Sprecher teilt, wie man in Situationen vorsichtig sein sollte, ohne dabei übermäßig vorsichtig zu sein, und betont die Notwendigkeit, Ablehnung respektvoll zu akzeptieren. Er diskutiert auch die psychologischen Barrieren, die Männer dazu bringen, zurückzuhalten, und wie man durch Selbstvertrauen und eine positive Einstellung diese Überwinden kann.
🧘♂️ Mentale Vorbereitung und Umgang mit Rejection
Der fünfte und letzte Absatz thematisiert die mentale Vorbereitung für physische Interaktionen und wie man Rejection und Misserfolge im Umgang mit physischer Nähe handhabt. Der Sprecher betont die Wichtigkeit einer starken inneren Einstellung und des Umgangs mit Ablehnung, indem man sie als Teil des Lernprozesses akzeptiert. Er teilt, wie man durch eine positive Einstellung und die Bereitschaft, Rejection zu akzeptieren, die Fähigkeit erhöht, physische Nähe in Beziehungen auf natürliche und selbstvertrauende Weise zu integrieren.
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Keywords
💡Eskalation
💡Soziale Intelligenz
💡Physische Berührung
💡Attraktivität
💡Rezeptivität
💡Körpersprache
💡Verbindung
💡Erfahrungssammlung
💡Zustimmung
💡Rejection
Highlights
Eskalation von körperlicher Nähe als häufiges Problem für junge Männer
Wichtigkeit körperlicher Nähe für die Entwicklung von Beziehungen
Studien über die Wirkung von physischem Kontakt auf die Wahrnehmung von Menschen
Persönliche Erfahrungen mit der Herausforderung, physisch zu eskalieren
Die Bedeutung von sozialer Intuition für die Interaktion mit Frauen
Vermeidung von unangemessener körperlicher Interaktion durch die Beobachtung von Reaktionen
Die Notwendigkeit, Erfahrungen zu sammeln, um die Rezeption von körperlicher Nähe besser einschätzen zu können
Kritik an der Idee, dass man körperliche Nähe nur mit verbaler Zustimmung einleiten sollte
Die Rolle von Selbstvertrauen und positiver Einstellung bei der Annäherung an andere
Praktische Beispiele für die Einleitung von physischer Nähe in sozialen Interaktionen
Die Auswirkungen von physischer Attractiveness auf die Attraktivität gegenüber anderen
Empfohlene Vorgehensweise, um die eigene Körpersprache und Rezeption zu verbessern
Die Bedeutung der Einstellung und Überzeugungen für die Interaktion mit anderen
Umgang mit Missverständnissen oder Ablehnungen in sozialen Interaktionen
Die Notwendigkeit, Rejection in sozialen Interaktionen als Teil des Lernprozesses zu akzeptieren
Die Rolle der physischen Nähe in der Entwicklung von Beziehungen und das Überwinden von Ängsten
Die Bedeutung der persönlichen Verantwortung und der Selbststandards in der Interaktion mit anderen
Transcripts
imagine you do the hard part of
attracting a girl and you finally bring
her back to your place you go up to your
room and then you just don't really know
how to escalate from here you don't know
how to get physical she's getting
impatient she's starting to think that
you're one of those better males one of
those jefferies and she dreams about the
kind of man who was so utterly confident
and masculine not knowing how to
escalate or start like physical touching
women it's like it's a very common
problem that a lot of young men have and
honestly i was 100 there i've literally
you know how i started this video saying
okay well you brought a girl back and
stuff and you just don't know how to go
from there bro i have had that
experience with maybe 10 15 girls where
i bring them back and i've done the hard
part maybe i'll kiss them in the club
but as soon as you kind of like get back
into your own bedroom you just kind of
don't really know how to escalate from
here you know your netflix and chilling
and you've done the whole arm thing and
now like you know she's she's actually
watching the movie and like i'm not and
i'm just thinking can i go for a kick i
could like should
i just turn around and kiss her right
now should i should i wait not being
able to be physical in general but
especially with like women that you want
to be with it really [ __ ] up your mind
it is a very very like emasculating
thing to experience so i hope that we
can overcome that with some advice that
i can give you in this video i don't
think you need me to tell you that being
physical is very important there was
like studies i remember reading this if
your first impression in someone
included some caliber of physical touch
so whether it was a handshake it was
like a fist bump or hug or if you know
you were speaking to them and you gently
just kind of like tap them like this or
touch their arm or something that person
is way more likely to like you we just
like people that we've been you know a
little bit physical with if you kind of
meet someone and it's just like a
stationary like and we've not touched
each other we're not even handshaking or
anything it's like we don't have that
great of a level of trust with them just
today i was actually aware of this
there's a guy named jack who has like
his own sort of like fitness business
and he came to my muay thai session i've
seen him a few times and his friend had
showed him my videos now he started
watching my videos too [ __ ] sick i
mean him spot he's like he's massive as
[ __ ] so we sparred in muay thai and i
noticed that as me and him were talking
like we kept on like touching each other
in like a very like friendly brotherly
way like we'd make a joke and like tap
each other like this and it's like you
automatically feel way more comfortable
and way more like attracted to someone
where you can be physical with them like
that that's so important to not be held
back so how do you go from a guy who
doesn't do that at all especially not
with women and actually naturally start
doing it because i definitely was on the
far end of the spectrum where i
literally was like that kind of awkward
guy i didn't know what like you know how
to touch girls or anything i remember
like it's kind of vulgar but i remember
like verbally asking for permission to
like become more intimate with girls and
i know that this is what the modern day
like hashtag me too like type of twitter
girls will tell you yep like verbally
ask for consent bro no girl is ever
gonna find you sexy when you say some
[ __ ] like that you've gotta almost like
go with it with some level of like
intuition and that's really the first
piece of advice i can give you you need
some understanding of like social
intuition social intelligence you need
to kind of like just be able to pick up
from someone is there someone who would
be receptive to my touch because some
people won't be and the truthful but
kind of
way to find out about this is
go and try it going like you know you
need to build up this like catalog of
experiences of like times when you've
tried to be a little bit more physical a
little bit more forward a little bit
more escalating with someone and
it didn't work and it didn't work and
then your brain starts processing okay
so when someone you know has this kind
of body like obviously this is like
subconscious but when someone has this
kind of body language when someone looks
at you this kind of way that means that
if you did go and touch them they might
not be receptive to it but if someone's
got this kind of body language this kind
of like you know facial expression when
they talk to you this kind of vocal
tonality and you touch them you'll find
that they're really receptive to you as
well i took a second before making this
video and i was like i don't really know
what advice to give you because it's
kind of like i don't consciously know
either i can't tell you there's like a
hard rule okay you can do this you can
do this because you need to experience
it for yourself you need to have like
that catalogue of like of experiences
you need to have that history with like
trying to be like a little bit more
intimate a little bit more physical a
little bit more affectionate with a
bunch of girls and then as you
experience things some girls aren't
receptive some girls are some guys are
some guys aren't you start to kind of
build up this picture of like okay you
know it's subconscious so you're not
gonna have these clear thoughts but it's
like oh well yeah this person right here
seems receptive so i could go with a
little like pat on the arm as i make a
joke or something because i can stand
here and try and give you that
conventional advice well if someone's
got this kind of body language or if
someone looks at you in this way and
it's not going to help you you'll watch
the video and it'll be so sick like
you'll watch the video this video will
get like really high view retention if i
said okay you can touch a girl if she
has her feet like this and if she
touches her neck like this that means
that she's really into you you'd watch
it and i would get so many views and the
video would do so well but it's like bro
anyone who makes a video like oh well
you know this is the body language that
means that she will sleep with you
tonight bro 13 ways that shut the [ __ ]
up bro 13 ways to know that women are
holding interest in you indicators shut
the [ __ ] up anyone who makes these like
quick like you know specific thing like
if a girl touches her neck while she
talks to you that means that she'll [ __ ]
you tonight bro it's not going to help
you me telling you okay well there's 10
things you know and if she has her feet
like this and if she does this and if
she does this it's going to over
complicate in your brain and now you're
not going to be present when you're
actually going about these interactions
the best case scenario you go into these
situations with this open observing kind
of mindset where you just kind of like
ask yourself common sense is like does
this person seem like receptive and are
you receptive towards like we can always
say like is she receptive is he
receptive but do you like them do you
actually want to connect with them in a
better way because chances are you know
what i can make this video about them
but i think it's so much more empowering
to talk about you
and just ask you if you want to connect
with this person
then shoot your shot and one of the
easiest fastest most natural way for us
to connect is with physical touch and if
you don't really want to connect with
this person if you want to connect with
them out of insecurity or out of
inferiority you know i said well it's a
girl so i'll hopefully i'll happily
connect with her because it's a girl and
uh instead of actually thinking okay
well is this a good girl is this a girl
that i actually want to connect with if
you ask yourself those questions do you
like some kind of quick mental
evaluation of this person in front of
you and think you know what yeah this is
kind of like a sick guy i want to
connect with him more so let's proceed
with that so one of the ways that i can
connect with him more is to tell jokes
and laugh and be a little bit touchy and
like you know like push push him when he
tells a joke or something we grow
through that you know because i just had
to push him when he you know he tells a
joke or something i literally just
thought okay we sparred bro my [ __ ]
leg hurts because that prick [ __ ]
kicked me hard bro there has been formed
our sense of brotherhood and i got a few
good [ __ ] hits on him maybe we'll put
up the clips so you can see our spa
today i'm not gonna lie dude's done like
um some fights before he's practiced for
like one or two years and i was like i
was hitting him instead of like low
kicks and everything i was doing quite
well we grow through some kind of
physical touch and it doesn't
necessarily have to be like intimate and
sexual but we do grow through that it's
very important to just open up this part
of your life and i can give you all
those specific things that's gonna make
you overthink i don't think it's gonna
be helpful you know one of the easiest
things i think that i can tell you right
now that's gonna help you just keep this
in mind just keep in mind okay oh yeah
proceed with more physical touch than
usual and kind of like evaluate how it
goes and learn from it but let me break
down let me give you some examples of
times especially with women as well so
the last girl that i've spoke to here
she was in a cafe i think i spoke about
the story in just a previous video we
had me and my friend nabeel were in a
cafe and there's a girl there that i
like tell him oh bro like i'm really
attracted to her she looks like a girl
that i've previously been with like
three years ago who is a good friend of
mine i'm just kind of like you know
looking at her a little bit but i'm
thinking oh it's not really socially
acceptable to like go up to her in a
cafe she's got her earphones in right
now and stuff so i'm not really gonna do
it maybe hopefully i'll get easy
hopefully like she'll make eye contact
with me soon but she didn't at this
point and so i'm just you know i'm
thinking about other things we're also
thinking about her and then my friend
nabeel stands up he's gonna leave the
cafe early i've got to stay to like
upload these videos because the internet
in the village kind of [ __ ] so i'm just
going to stay there and he kind of
stands up and he says bro before you
leave go and approach a girl i take it
as a challenge okay before he leaves
he's already stood up to leave i'm like
okay before he leaves go and approach a
girl i was literally sat there i brought
i stood the [ __ ] up walked directly to
this girl i'm not gonna lie i'm gonna
tell you the honest truth got a little
bit anxious until i walked past her walk
past her pretend got my phone out so she
was sat like imagine she sat here i'm
sat here and this cafe has like a sea
view over here so i walk past like i
walk towards her going to speak to her
but then i walk past her take my phone
out pretend i'm like recording the sea
view like oh my god then i turn
backwards and see that she has a book on
her her table so i go up and walk past
her and say oh atomic habits and she
doesn't hear me
so it's a little bit awkward obviously
but then i kind of stopped there and go
like yo excuse me and she looks at me
and
you know straight away with that kind of
opener of like okay excuse me just
within a split second i knew she was
receptive just within a split second and
you know what i can give you all like
all this like oh personality is
important stuff bro the amount of times
that i've told you that physical
attractiveness is one of the most
important parts of life a lot of people
say this is shallow like you know the
the sophisticated clean shirt
[ __ ] they'll say like this is
shallow this is really shallow to think
about attractiveness bro it's one of the
most important parts of life your
physical attractiveness is one of the
most important parts of life i've said
this multiple times especially then your
physique because your physique makes up
90 of your attractiveness if your head
obviously like your face is more in view
and your face is used in like pictures
and stuff just by a singular glance we
know if we're attracted to a girl even
if you can't see your face just by the
shape of her body why because we're
attracted to this hourglass shape
because it evolutionarily signals
fertility but really we just [ __ ]
love this this shape and a woman so when
we see a woman with that shape even from
the distance we know we're attracted to
a women when they see a man with this
shape of his upper body automatic
attraction now of course yeah we'll have
so like i'm a woman and i really like
that of course of course there's
outliers of course there's girls who
don't like muscle of course this girl
who really likes skinny guys or who
really like [ __ ] ass of course there's
gonna be some but generally this is what
women are attracted to straight women
and this is what straight men are
attracted to in terms of body shape it's
very important and so when i said excuse
me for the second time and she looked at
me within a second bro i could tell that
she was like there was some kind of
receptability there so then i said oh
like atomic habits and she's like oh yes
yes like i've been reading it to
practice my english and i said what's
one of the things that you've learned so
far and she seems to find that question
quite interesting so she says like oh
well the importance of setting she
didn't know the terms but she said like
the importance of like setting um she
did something like this she's not from
thailand or from like the uk or anything
in english is like a second language
that she's like trying to get better at
so she didn't really know but then i
said oh setting systems over goals and
she said oh yes you've like you've
remembered it you've read the book and
um so we speak there and kind of like so
she's like sat at the table so i kind of
like crouched down literally end up
having like a whole like one minute
conversation with her and then when i
asked for her name that's when i like
okay it's the start of the physical
touch and i just go with the handshake
boom so that's like level one at the
very least when you're telling someone
your name you're telling a woman or a
guy go with a handshake go with the fist
bump go with something there i could
have escalated more there i could have
like you know been you know as we we say
something in the conversation i laugh or
something like this i could have done it
but like maybe that would have been a
little bit forced this felt very natural
to me that okay when we're gonna say our
names i'm gonna hold her hand like this
and also not like you know pull it back
fast or anything i always always always
when i'm handshaking a girl i pretty
much hold it there and do like a little
bit this is sexy as [ __ ] bro so i'm
holding a hand and i do this with my
thumb
like that this is sexy as [ __ ] and it's
also i don't pull away i kind of see how
fast they pull away so some girls will
shake my hand pull away kind of faster
than it's like that's one of those
minute subconscious things that like
maybe then they're not very receptive of
me whereas all the girls will literally
hold my hand for as long as i want to
hold it and she was one of these then
next they invite her to go and like see
a sunset and then there's more like
physical touching there's more like okay
i go straight up and hold the hand and
everything then we're like walking and
so like here's some like small things
and this isn't like oh guys i went on a
date but this is like small things that
i can sort of remember what happened
we're walking through the beach and as
she said something i kind of i put my
hand on her back for like a split second
there then we sit down on the sun and
i'm kind of like leaning back you know
like with one elbow on the floor leaning
back and she's kind of like sat upright
and actually said something i just kind
of like do this to her arm like
something like this it's like that's
fine and actually the first girl that i
saw whilst i was in thailand that's
actually something that we did we went
to a different beach and i remember just
kind of like fully not holding back with
my affection whatsoever because me and
this other girl have connected very
quite well and so
i feel like i'm getting this girl and
this goes
i'm trying not to be a [ __ ] bro so this
other girl we're on the same beach but
at a different time and um pretty much
pretty much the same dynamic yeah i'm
laying back but there's other girls be
kind of like i feel like a dick oh this
other girl and this one and this one and
this one like like i was affectionate
and i often i don't really hold back on
my affection and i think that's one of
the things that you can start to
practice if you want like obviously you
know have the awareness don't be [ __ ]
weird or don't just start touching a
girl that you don't even like or that
doesn't like you but generally if you've
asked the girl on a date and you're an
attractive guy you're well put together
and she's like receptive to you you've
hugged each other and everything it
broke it's absolutely fine that when
someone's saying something that for you
to just kind of like touch their arm
like this like this is obviously like
you have to connect a little bit first
and i think me and this other girl we
kissed first on the beach i'm not
talking about the the one from the cafe
but a different girl we kissed first on
the beach then we sat down and stuff and
then as we're sat down and she's like
talking about life or something i'm like
literally just like stroking her back
something like this and it's like it's
absolutely fine we connected really well
if i was like you know proper cold and
we have to discuss you know what i
wasn't really going to talk about it but
we have to absolutely discuss that kind
of dynamic of like catching a case as a
guy because i could sugarcoat around the
situation but really one of the main
reasons why you feel like you can't be
intimate why you can't be affectionate
why can't really go for physical touch
is because of that fear of like getting
a [ __ ] accusation made about you
which is really sad because connecting
with people is one of the most important
parts of life and we're holding back
especially as like men as a whole gender
these days we're holding back because we
might catch a [ __ ] case if we like
accidentally touch the wrong girl and
everything you know there's different
ways to go about this one of them could
be okay stay ultra safe stay safe ask
ask for verbal consent bro i'm telling
you right now like that's what's
conventionally the good advice i'm
telling you right now the girl that you
asked for verbal consent but can i touch
you can i kiss you bro you're not gonna
do anything with her she's gonna think
that you're a [ __ ] whim she's gonna
think it's kind of weird that you're
asking for it and she's sleeping with
guys she's dating guys she's touching
guys she's getting like [ __ ] by guys
who aren't asking for [ __ ] verbal
consents so it's like you can go with
that soft safe route if you want but
it's it's embarrassing personally and
that's the truth i know this is like
unconventional this is controversial
what i'm saying and like a bunch of
twitter people will like hate me for
this and they'll say like no look look
he's he's a rapist he just said not to
get consent i'm not saying not to get in
consent i'm saying don't like weirdly
ask like ah can i touch you can i kiss
you please is it okay if i kiss you no
girl has
loud ass plain bro i'm telling you right
now no girl has ever fantasized about
like some chad look you know some hot
guy asking for consent no girl that's
ever like dreamt or like read an erotica
book and then and then the the the
masculine guy with bulging veins asked
please may i have sex with you no one
[ __ ] thinks like that bro apart from
these like little twitter girls real
world is not like that you don't need to
like specifically like
can i can i touch your arm please is it
okay if we hold hands you're gonna come
across as like a little wimp it's the
truth and i know it's like it's a little
bit risky then but it is the [ __ ]
truth you're gonna come across as like a
little whim if you do something like
that so the way that you should go about
it is to have this level of social
intelligence where you don't risk you
know you're not acting like a weirdo
you're not like you know like touching
girls who don't want to be touched but
you need to have that awareness okay
does she want to be touched would she be
receptive to my touch and you do it in a
way that if for example she wasn't it's
not like a court case so i mean so it's
like i don't necessarily spend time with
a girl and think oh you know play it
safe
i don't think like that because i
already have that catalogue of
experiences of wisdom to kind of
subconsciously automatically know what
would be appropriate or inappropriate
now if you've already got a bunch of
experience you don't really need to hear
this but chances are you're watching
this and you don't have that many
experiences with women especially not
like being intimate with a new girl in
public and so this is where it can get
tricky because i'm gonna be totally
honest i made a lot of mistakes when i
was younger i was 18 years old and
sometimes like i'd go in for the kiss at
the wrong moment and it'd be awkward and
a girl didn't want to kiss me but of
course i didn't act weird with that does
that make sense all just like let me i
can't think of a specific example but
let's imagine i'm 18 years old i'm on a
date or i'm on a night out and i go for
a kiss and a girl like looks at me a bit
weird or something i didn't just get
angry her i didn't like you know try and
[ __ ] grab her by the [ __ ] skull
and like start gouging her eyes whilst
going for a kill of course not it's like
obviously it's embarrassing if you go in
for a kiss and the other person isn't
receptive and they they [ __ ] do some
like muay thai clinch
to [ __ ] defend themselves you just go
like oh oh sorry boom boom that's it
that's simple no i'm not i'm not even
gonna lie to grow that can still happen
these days it doesn't happen that much
because often when i go in for the kiss
it's kind of like i know that she wants
to kiss me now because i have that like
i'm not trying to sound like a dick i
know about girls but it's after a
certain amount of like times you've
kissed a girl you or you've had sex you
kind of understand these things
subconsciously and if you aren't at that
point with that catalog of experiences
you need to just get those experiences
and of course some of them are going to
be those awkward moments when you go in
for some kind of physical touch or a
kiss or like a hug or something and it
just feels a little bit awkward i can't
tell you the amount of times i speak to
guys who are like at the starting point
of their day in lives and they ask me
like these specific questions of like oh
well when when i see her what do i do
and they'll come back and you know tell
me how like the date went with this
random girl and they're like oh yeah it
was really awkward because like i went
to go see her and we both didn't know if
we should like so we both you know like
didn't know whether they should hug when
they see each other or not so they're
kind of like imagine you you meet a girl
here you are you kind of like stop there
and you're like oh hi uh uh yeah should
we uh should we go to the bar now and
that reminds me of this one time that i
went to see like this this girl from
tinder like months ago and it was
already in my mind yeah i'm gonna hug
her i'm gonna hug her of course i am so
it's like i could have you know waited
and like seen what she wants to do and
let her lead this the initial
interaction but i kind of see her from
afar and we know it's you know i put my
hand up so she knows it's me i walk up
to and literally i opened my arms out
nice and wide we had quickly then going
to like the bar or something that we
were going to because i already had this
like mental perception of okay what i
was planning to do what would be
socially convenient okay i'm meeting
this girl for a date so i'm going to go
in for a hug i'm not going to go in for
you know a big bear hug and like hold
her there and i love you so much it was
more like a one-handed kind of like hug
like this and like oh yeah look come on
let's go let's go this way and i think
the one final thing we can talk about is
your frame your attitudes your beliefs
what are literally the thoughts that
you're having in your mind before you go
for that like physical touch affection
kiss hug whatever because if you're
thinking oh well you know i'm gonna try
and hug her but she might find it weird
she's probably gonna find it weird now
but if you've got this mindspring of
like yep i'm gonna go see this girl for
a date i'm gonna hug her because that's
what's the normal thing to do i've gotta
pre-clarify this in cases you didn't
know like this is going to seem kind of
weird but it's like whatever thoughts
you have in your mind bro it creates the
the objective truth for the world it's
kind of interesting it takes me a whole
video to explain this whatever thoughts
like words that process in your mind
literally become the truth for your
world so if you for example think oh
well i'm a loser well yep you're
objectively a loser if you start
thinking yep i'm a loser but i'm on the
pursuit of becoming a winner well then
everyone else will accept that too if
you think okay i'm going to meet this
girl but i don't know if i should hang
shake shall i go for the kiss should i
uh
then you're going to come across that
way but if you have that solid frame in
mind i'm gonna meet this girl i'm gonna
go for the hug and i'm gonna grab her by
the hand and we're gonna go into the bar
that's gonna seem as normal so make sure
you think on your side make sure you
believe and have these attitudes that
serve you instead of don't so it's an
automatic thing for me at this point but
for example with the experiences of with
the girls that i've just told you about
it's kind of like my brain automatically
would have said to me like yep like
touch her back yep go in for the kiss
now i know that this is like a normal
time to do it and if on the even on the
the weird chance that you know i had
picked up the wrong signals and i go in
for the kiss and a girl like you know
[ __ ] retract back and try [ __ ]
elbow elbow block me or something then i
kind of like can also take that quite
well and so this is the final thing we
should talk about just [ __ ] take the
rejection well because we're afraid you
click on this video and you've watched
so far let's just be [ __ ] honest
don't don't lie don't don't i'm not
afraid of you're afraid of rejection
you're afraid of looking like a weirdo
that's the exact reason why you've
watched this video so far you're afraid
of rejection and you're afraid of
looking like a weirdo or a creep so
don't come off as warm and even if you
do let's say worst case scenario the
girl retracts and like you know looks at
you like you're a little bit of a weirdo
the simplest thing you can just do is oh
i'm sorry boom that's it if you try and
you don't get aggressive and like well
but i thought if i could kiss you that i
thought you wanted to shut the [ __ ] up
oh i'm sorry boom i can't tell you the
amount of times where like i've
escalated with a girl and she like stops
for a bit i could have been weird i
thought you wanted to have sex with you
know i'm like oh sorry boom sometimes i
won't even apologize for it this happens
often when you're about to like sleep
with a girl for the first time and she
can feel like some nerves and you know
she's like a bit unsure and stuff and so
a lot of guys will like push past and
say well why not but i thought we were
gonna have sex why are you saying no now
like we're already in my bed and stuff i
remember this one specific time with
this girl that we were about to have sex
for the first time and she wanted to
like just you know she was like oh wait
i'm unsure so i just said oh yeah no no
worries and i literally all i did was
bro i grabbed the water bottle and just
started drinking and gave it to her then
we just kind of like you know moved away
from like a sexual position talked and
stuff and then re-escalated like 5-10
minutes later when and she was a lot
more comfortable you have to have this
sense of almost like compassion for the
other person and think oh well you know
by her ducking away by her saying no way
i'm not comfortable it's like yeah well
i don't want to do if you're not
comfortable that's the whole point i
like this is a bonding experience it's
like a connecting experience for both of
us so if you see a level of discomfort
or agitation or you know
some kind of like held backness in the
other person well then hold back
yourself have some standards for
yourself and think you know what well i
don't want to kiss someone who doesn't
want to kiss me i don't want to have sex
with someone who doesn't want to have
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