Asking Strangers How to Approach a Girl

Summary

The video transcript explores the question of whether women appreciate being approached in public, with a focus on the perspective of New York City women. The narrator challenges the notion that women dislike such advances, citing a statistic that over 75% wish to be approached more. Through street interviews and personal experiences, the video reveals that confidence and respectful approaches are key, while dating apps are seen as a low-risk alternative but often result in mediocre outcomes. The summary of interviews suggests that a genuine conversation and a nice approach can be well-received, and the narrator's own attempts at approaching women demonstrate the mixed results and learning experiences in real-life scenarios.

Takeaways

• 🗣️ Confidence is key when approaching women in public; even if you're not tall, a confident personality can be very attractive.
• 📊 Over 75% of women reportedly wish they were approached more, indicating a general openness to being approached.
• 🚶‍♂️ Men are often hesitant to approach women due to fear of being perceived as creepy or disrespectful, which may stem from safety concerns.
• 📱 The prevalence of dating apps has changed the dynamics of meeting people, with some women feeling that men are less likely to approach them in person because of the convenience of apps.
• 🤔 Women have mixed feelings about being approached; some appreciate it, while others prefer a more natural or organic interaction.
• 🙅‍♀️ Approaching a woman while she's busy or on the phone is generally seen as inappropriate and should be avoided.
• 💬 A respectful and genuine conversation is preferred over a pickup line when approaching women in public.
• 👍 Positive reactions are more likely when the approach is respectful, polite, and not overly aggressive.
• 👥 Women generally prefer meeting someone in person rather than through dating apps, valuing the authenticity and vibe of face-to-face interactions.
• 🕺 The narrator's personal experience with approaching women in public was mixed, with some successful interactions and others ending with rejection, highlighting the unpredictable nature of such encounters.
• 🔗 Social media, such as Instagram, can be an effective way to meet women, offering a more personal connection than traditional dating apps.

Q & A

What is the main topic discussed in the video script?

The main topic discussed in the video script is whether girls like to be approached in public and the experiences and opinions of various women on this subject.

What percentage of women, according to the script, wish they were approached more?

Over 75% of women, according to the statistic mentioned in the script, wish that they were approached more.

What is the speaker's approach to finding out if the statistic is true?

The speaker decides to go out and ask women in New York City directly, and also to make a real-life approach to see if the statistic holds in the real world.

What factors do the women in the script believe are important when being approached in public?

The women in the script believe that confidence, personality, being nice and respectful, and not being creepy or making the approach seem sleazy are important factors.

What are some common reservations women have about being approached in public?

Some common reservations include concerns about safety, the approach being creepy or weird, and the person approaching being too pushy or not respecting the woman's personal space.

Why do some women in the script complain about not being approached enough?

Some women complain because they feel that men are too reliant on dating apps and are not making an effort to approach women in person, missing out on opportunities for natural interaction.

What is the speaker's opinion on the role of dating apps in modern dating?

The speaker believes that dating apps provide a low-risk way of meeting people but can lead to mediocre results because there is less personal risk involved, which may reduce the potential for a meaningful connection.

What advice do the women in the script give for approaching a girl in public?

The advice includes being confident, starting with a genuine conversation, being respectful, and not using cringey pickup lines. It's also suggested to compliment the person or find a natural way to start a conversation.

What is the general preference of the women in the script regarding meeting someone: in person or on a dating app?

The general preference of the women in the script is to meet someone in person, as they value personality, the vibe, and a more organic and authentic interaction.

What was the outcome of the speaker's real-life approach attempts?

The speaker had mixed results with the real-life approaches, with some interactions going well until the speaker found out the woman had a boyfriend, and others leading to an exchange of Instagram information.

What is the final advice given by the speaker based on the experiences in the script?

The final advice given by the speaker is that confidence is key, and that approaching women in a genuine and respectful way can lead to positive reactions and relationships.

Outlines

00:00

🗣️ Public Approaches and Women's Preferences

The paragraph discusses the common belief that women do not appreciate being approached in public. However, the speaker challenges this notion with a statistic that over 75% of women wish they were approached more often. To verify this, the speaker conducts a street interview in New York City, asking women about their thoughts on public approaches. The responses vary, with some women expressing discomfort due to safety concerns and others stating that the approach's manner is crucial. The paragraph also touches on the role of dating apps, which have become a popular alternative to in-person approaches, offering a low-risk way to meet people. The speaker concludes with advice on how to approach women in public effectively, emphasizing confidence and respectfulness.

05:01

📱 Dating Apps vs. In-Person Encounters

In this paragraph, the speaker explores women's preferences for meeting potential partners, either through dating apps or in-person encounters. The majority of the women interviewed express a preference for meeting in person, citing the authenticity and natural vibe of face-to-face interactions. They criticize dating apps for being fake and for encouraging superficial judgments based on profile pictures. The speaker also inquires about the minimum height requirement for a potential partner, with one woman suggesting 6 feet would be ideal. The paragraph concludes with a discussion about the speaker's personal dating experiences and the decision to test the effectiveness of in-person approaches compared to using dating apps.

10:05

🕒 The Challenge of Real-Life Approaches

The final paragraph details the speaker's personal challenge of approaching women in public to test the theory that women do want to be approached. The speaker sets a timer to see how long it takes to successfully initiate a conversation and exchange contact information. Despite the initial lack of success and the time running out, the speaker remains determined and eventually manages to have a positive interaction that leads to an Instagram exchange. The paragraph highlights the importance of persistence and the effectiveness of genuine, respectful approaches. It concludes with a promotional mention of a course that teaches men how to approach women authentically and the speaker's intention to continue practicing public approaches.

Keywords

💡Approach

In the context of the video, 'approach' refers to the act of initiating a conversation with someone, particularly in a public setting with the intent of getting to know them better or expressing interest. It is central to the video's theme, which explores whether women appreciate being approached by men in public spaces. The script includes various instances where the concept of approaching is discussed, such as the statistic that 'over 75% of women wish that they were approached more' and the real-life approach attempts made by the speaker.

💡Confidence

'Confidence' in this video script is portrayed as a key attribute that can make a person more attractive, regardless of physical stature. It is highlighted as an essential factor when approaching someone in public. For example, the speaker mentions that even if a man is 5'7", being confident can make him appealing to women, emphasizing the importance of self-assurance in social interactions.

💡Personality

The term 'personality' is used to describe the character traits and qualities that make an individual unique and attractive. In the video, it is suggested that a person's personality can be more appealing than their physical appearance. The script mentions that being confident and having a good personality can be 'so hot to girls,' indicating that personality plays a significant role in making a positive impression when being approached.

💡Respectful

'Respectful' is used in the script to describe an approach that is considerate and mindful of the other person's comfort and boundaries. The video emphasizes the importance of being respectful when approaching someone, as it can influence the outcome of the interaction. For instance, one woman suggests that approaching someone who appears busy or on the phone is not respectful, while a more considerate approach can be well-received.

💡Dating Apps

Dating apps are digital platforms used for meeting and connecting with potential romantic partners. The script discusses the impact of dating apps on the dynamics of in-person approaches, suggesting that they have changed the way people interact and potentially reduced the frequency of public approaches. The video also contrasts the low-risk nature of dating apps with the higher stakes and potential rewards of in-person interactions.

💡Safety

In the context of the video, 'safety' refers to the concern for personal security when being approached by strangers in public. Some women express reservations about being approached due to safety concerns, highlighting the importance of trust and comfort in such situations. The script mentions that the fear of creepy or weird encounters can make women hesitant about public approaches.

💡Authenticity

'Authenticity' is the quality of being genuine and not false or imitation. The video emphasizes the value of authentic interactions over superficial ones. Women in the script express a preference for natural, organic connections that occur in person rather than through curated profiles on dating apps, which they perceive as less authentic.

💡Pickup Line

A 'pickup line' is a phrase or conversation opener used to initiate a conversation with the intent of attracting a romantic interest. The script discusses the effectiveness of pickup lines in public approaches, with some women suggesting that a genuine conversation is more appealing than a preconceived line. The video also provides examples of pickup lines used in the speaker's real-life approach attempts.

💡Height

In the video, 'height' is mentioned as a physical attribute that some women consider when evaluating potential romantic partners. The script includes a humorous exchange about the speaker's height, illustrating how perceptions of physical attributes can vary and can be a topic of conversation during approaches.

💡In Person

'In person' refers to interactions that occur face-to-face rather than through digital means. The video script includes several instances where women express a preference for meeting potential partners in person, valuing the authenticity and vibe of direct interactions over the convenience of dating apps.

💡Instagram

Instagram is a social media platform that is mentioned in the script as a modern way of connecting with people after an in-person approach. The speaker uses Instagram as a means to exchange contact information with women he approaches, demonstrating how social media can facilitate further communication following an initial in-person interaction.

Highlights

Confidence is key in approaching women, regardless of physical stature.

Over 75% of women wish to be approached more, contrary to common belief.

Personality and respectfulness are crucial when approaching women in public.

The speaker decides to test the theory by approaching women in New York City.

Women's responses vary, but many appreciate a respectful and nice approach.

Some women complain about not being approached enough, especially in social settings.

The prevalence of dating apps may contribute to men's hesitance to approach in person.

Dating apps provide a low-risk way of meeting people, unlike in-person approaches.

The best approach is to be confident, make the first move, and be genuine.

Using a pickup line can be cringey; starting a natural conversation is preferred.

Women prefer meeting in person for the authenticity and vibe, rather than through apps.

Some women dislike dating apps due to the superficial and fake nature of online interactions.

In-person meetings allow for better assessment of honesty, unlike profile-based dating.

The speaker's experiment in approaching women in public resulted in mixed outcomes.

The importance of being persistent and trying multiple approaches is highlighted.

The final advice emphasizes confidence and genuine interaction for successful approaches.

The speaker offers a course for learning how to approach women authentically and respectfully.

Transcripts

I go it do girls like to be approached

in public absolutely are you kidding me

I complain about it on a daily basis

confidence is key even if if you are

like 5 seven and you are confident

personality is so hot to girls get up

and make a move get up and make a move I

don't want to like be disrespectful you

know did you know that over 75% of women

wish that they were approached more I

wanted to see for myself so I decided to

hit the streets and ask the beautiful

women of New York City if this was true

or not to up the stakes even more I

decided to go out and do a real life

approach for myself so stick around to

the end to see if my Approach was

successful and if this statistic pulls

up in the real world so the question is

do girls like to be approached in public

by hot men yes oh yeah for sure for sure

100% no well I don't know I mean you

approached me obviously and that seemed

normal but I I don't know it really

depends on your approach I think but I

think the overall answer is no I think

think it's different honestly for most

girls I think if you're just nice and

respectful and you see that she's on

like a rush or in the middle of anything

that's fine but she seems like busy on

the phone she has something to do then

avoid it no the question is yes do girls

like to be approached in public

absolutely are you kidding me I complain

about it on a daily basis what do you

complain about do you guys not approach

you enough like why do you complain no I

don't think it's that I just think for

example I was at a bar last night and

there was a group of three guys clearly

just got off work staring at us and we

were just sitting there three single

girls like why don't they get up and say

hi to us and you know what it is is

because there's dating apps now guys

think they have all these options

there's something better you think a

girl's cute you're like oh she's cute oh

but this one's hotter she might not have

a better personality but she's hotter I

feel like back in the day they didn't

have the app so they were forced to

actually go up and talk to girls and now

that they're these dating apps it's like

they can hide behind a screen and talk

and not be shy I don't know but I just

it's really annoying she's cooking right

now she's cooking right you know the

funny thing is is that when you ask if

they like to be approached in public

most say yes and if they say no or if

they have some sort of objection or

reservation around being approached in

public it's always that of it being

creepy or weird or something regarding

their safety or the danger of meeting

someone on the street and when you think

about it like that it makes it really

obvious why dating apps are so popular

because it doesn't require you to really

risk anything you just throw up some

pictur on a profile and it's really easy

to meet someone that's really what

dating apps provide is that they provide

a lowrisk zero skin in the game way of

meeting women and that's why everyone is

on them and that's why they're so

popular but that's also why guys have

mediocre results because if you have no

skin in the game and you have low risk

there's very really low potential for

you to have a reward what's the best way

to approach a girl in public I feel like

you should just be confident about

yourself and like just make the first

move cuz like I like somebody that makes

a like takes the first step just be like

hey like what's your name I love that

cuz if you come off as like really

strong like the pickup line I feel like

that could be cringey sometimes so just

like natural like I definitely think

just like being nice saying excuse me hi

sorry and then just like go in with your

best line whatever works for you I guess

complimenting them or like starting a

conversation is good and then if you

kind of see there's like a little Vibe

going then you can get their number or

give them yours I feel like there's a

thing now though that's like I feel like

guys are so scared and cautious yeah but

like I'm like I always admire when a guy

is brave and like says something to you

and is like like cuz that takes guts to

be like I love your sweater or whatever

like I saw you walking and I whatever

the line is like I think that's nice and

like we need that like say hey do you

want Drinks dinner on me what if you're

not at a bar or like you're walking down

the street and a guy wanted to stop you

and start a conversation cuz he was

interested say Hey you look really

beautiful and what would the followup be

you want a Chanel bag what is it about

the Chanel bag that that would it just

depends on the girl's style like it

could be a Chanel it could be a Louis V

it you know it just depends um for me

out it depends it doesn't matter the

place I think it more matters the way in

which they approach you cuz if it's in

some sort of like weird and sleazy way

it's kind of uncomfortable but if it's

in more of a wholesome like hey like I

think you're cute type of way I think

it's less weird what would be an example

of a weird or sley way to approach a

girl like going up to someone and

immediately just being like can I get

your number you know like there's no

like introduction like it's like too

like sharp cat calling like that type of

situation it's weird what would be the

best pickup line that is not weird and

would actually work I would just start

like a genuine conversation with the

girl and then kind of be like hey like I

honestly think you're cute would you

want to maybe grab dinner sometime like

what's your number got no pickup line

just like be like a gen like have a

conversation like we're people like just

like talk like a person if it seems like

you guys are hitting it off that I think

you can like proceed and ask for their

number would you prefer to meet someone

in person or on a dating app oh in

person 100% I go for personality so like

in person I need to feel the vibe

definitely in person I'm not really into

the whole dating app thing as much I

prefer something more natural what is it

about dating apps that you don't like

it's just not for me again I like

something more natural more wholesome

something definitely more organic I

don't like being on like my phone that

much on social media I think it's pretty

fake sometimes so yeah why

in person over an app feels more

authentic I would always rather like see

someone face to face than their profile

in person why in person because I know

if they're lying about their height or

not like on the dating apps a lot of

guys lie about their height and uh you

see them in person they don't look the

same I guess it can be said for girls

too like girls do the same like you know

with the face app and everything so what

is kind of the minimum height

requirement for a guy to date you to

date me or to date like in general I

would say like 6ot would be nice how

tall do you think I am okay I'm 5'7 so

you're probably like 6 foot I'm 5'10

you're 5'10 okay no you're not you're 6

foot cuz I I have heels on that's not

true how tall do you think I am six2 I'm

six I'm I'm six I'm 6 fo I was going to

say he's at least six foot

5 people in are 510 are like our he yeah

yeah yeah like I know a 510 when I see

him got it okay

didn't girls got do that was funny again

okay so how would you rate your

experience on dating apps overall I

would much rather be approached in

person agree I'm if I like if no one had

dating apps I wouldn't be on them but I

feel like I have to be because guys are

too scared to approach you in person

boys come here come here okay so when

was the last time you approached a girl

in person gy no I had to holler at you

see it's exactly I guess not right now

um I don't know like week or two ago how

often do you approach girls not often

not often why why don't you I don't want

to like be disrespectful you know well

why would it be disrespectful to

approach a girl on the street like what

I have it what's the reason for me

approaching them well if you were

interested and you like wanted to start

a conversation I know I don't want to

come up as like creepy or like imposing

you know I want to be respectful so what

would be the correct way to approach a

girl either on the street or in a

daytime setting without being creepy you

could say I really like your coat or I

could say hey walking if I said I really

like your coat you would just keep

walking don't know until you try well

thanks guys see that's exactly what I'm

talking about if a girl is looking at

you what does that mean does that mean

she wants you to approach her is that a

hint no yeah it for sure it is like if

she's staring at you for too long that

means something like do something about

it cuz like she wants you to approach

you she's just like maybe too scared to

like take the first step so you should

do it for sure so if a girl is looking

at you is that like a hint that get up

and make a move get up and make a move

you heard it here first have you ever

had a situation or a time where a guy

did approach you perhaps in public or

you were out somewhere and it went well

uh yeah a few times and it's worked out

and what did they say to start the

conversation if you're remember I

honestly don't remember a lot of times

it was just on nights out but people

that were definitely friendly and I

don't know not too pushy for sure I

could you some dating tips I'm actually

supposed to go on a date tonight so wait

you're supposed to go on a date tonight

how did how did you meet him he was like

well a lot of mutual friends but um just

SL into the DMS on Instagram so so it's

sliding into the organic but it's slid

into the DMS on Instagram an effective

way to meet a girl sometimes I feel like

almost more than dating apps because you

can you know see a lot more than dating

apps and you can I don't know I feel

like it's pretty effective it's direct

it's okay so what would be your final

advice confidence is key even if if you

are like 5 seven and you are confident

personality is so hot to girls so be

confident so after successfully

interviewing the women on the street it

was time for me to go out and put this

to the test in the real world so up stes

even more I'm also going to turn on this

stopwatch and see how long it takes me

to get a successful approach all right

cameraman how long do you think it's

going to take me best guess 20 minutes I

think I can do 15 we're already burned a

minute doing this so I'm going to guess

15 minutes or less so comment below what

you think and to show you it's real this

is the time 4:35 let's see what happens

I'll show that I shouldn't even be near

the

camera if I wanted a phase rugged I

could just approach a bunch of girls and

hopefully it worked but I want to make

it realistic I want to approach a GU i'

actually be interested it we may go 15

minutes and not see it got to pick up

the pace and walk fast this is honestly

so much more fun dating apps are cool

when you're in a new city it's useful to

be on a dating app you don't have to go

anywhere they're convenient dating apps

have a lot of benefits but this is fun

you got to go out on the hunt try and

make something happen the outcome is

uncertain stressing or running laps I

have like have 3 minutes left 2 minutes

50 seconds not seeing a whole ton right

now oh wait I lied maybe let's see if

this goes

somewhere

oh no he's old excuse me hi

sorry damn it literally 30 seconds left

30 seconds 30

seconds excuse me hi I saw you I thought

you were cute I wanted to come say hi

I'm sorry I have to go be like side yeah

no worries we are not pH rugging this

bro what happened till you're 20- minute

Mark excuse me excuse me hi I saw you I

thought you were cute I wanted to come

say hi what is your

name nice to meet you I like your I like

your outfit you're pretty dripped out

for a for a Thursday afterno or Thursday

night rather thank you I I'm on my way

to yoga class so yeah yeah this

interaction went on for almost 5 minutes

things were going well until do you have

Instagram it would be cool to exchange I

do I have a boyfriend so I don't want to

oh yeah yeah no worries no wor go ahead

sorry about that goad have a good day

things weren't looking good at this

point it was getting late and they're

just weren't many suitable women out on

the street that was until I turned

around and excuse me

hi hi I like your outfit oh thanks

what's your

[Applause]

name cool well I have to go meet a

friend um but it would be cool to keep

in touch do you have Instagram I

do that is 34 minutes 25 seconds not bad

not terrible could be worse so after

failing the 15-minute challenge I

decided one approach just isn't good

enough so I decided to do another as I

was walking down the street looking to

make my second approach I saw a cute

girl walk right past me most guys would

quit at this point but not me I decided

to turn around and make the approach

happen anyways hi I saw you and I

thought you were cute I just had to come

say hi Oh I'm sorry my hands are kind of

[Music]

okay

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do you have Instagram yeah

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yeah cool well I don't want to keep you

but it was nice to meet you it was nice

to meet you too you have a good night

yeah I'll message you byebye so it's

5:27 we are 53 minutes in got two

approaches not the best time there just

wasn't a lot of people to approach that

were really my type so it wasn't 15

minutes and it wasn't 20 minutes but I

think all things considered we can

successfully say that we put it to the

test and it is indeed true women do want

to be approached in public if you want

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