What to Expect Losing Your V-Card (guys)
Summary
TLDRIn this informative video, adult film star Sterling Cooper addresses the common concerns of male virgins about their first sexual experience. He reassures viewers that it's normal to be inexperienced and emphasizes the importance of having fun and not being too hard on oneself. Sterling offers practical tips such as engaging in multiple rounds if possible, using dim lighting to reduce nervousness, and being enthusiastic and curious during the encounter. He advises against self-shaming and encourages embracing the learning process of sex as a skill that improves with time and experience.
Takeaways
- π Male virginity is increasingly common, with around 27% of men aged 18 to 30 reporting as virgins.
- πΆ First-time sexual experiences may be awkward, but it's a normal part of learning a new skill.
- π Sterling Cooper, an adult film star, offers advice to make the first time more enjoyable for both parties.
- π It's common for first-timers to ejaculate quickly or not at all, and both are okay.
- π Don't be hard on yourself if things don't go as expected; sex is a skill that improves with practice.
- π€ Embrace the awkwardness and laugh it off to create a more relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere.
- π If you ejaculate early, take a moment and then try again for a second round to enhance the experience.
- π‘ Opt for dim lighting to reduce self-consciousness and create a more comfortable setting.
- π As a virgin, your enthusiasm and curiosity are your greatest assets in a sexual encounter.
- π Develop an appreciation for the female body and make exploration and enjoyment a priority.
- π Avoid self-shame or guilt, and instead focus on having fun and learning from the experience.
Q & A
What is the estimated percentage of men aged 18 to 30 who identify as virgins according to the video?
-Approximately 27 percent of men aged 18 to 30 identify as virgins.
What is the main purpose of Sterling Cooper's video?
-The main purpose of the video is to guide men who are virgins on what to expect during their first sexual experience and how to make it more enjoyable for both parties involved.
What is Sterling Cooper's professional background mentioned in the video?
-Sterling Cooper is an award-winning adult film star and a former high-class male companion.
Why might some men ejaculate too quickly during their first sexual experience?
-Some men might ejaculate too quickly during their first sexual experience due to excitement and being new to the experience, which is considered normal and understandable.
What is another possible experience some men might have during their first time having sex?
-Some men might not orgasm at all during their first sexual experience, which can be due to the difference in sensation compared to self-stimulation.
What advice does Sterling give about handling premature ejaculation during the first sexual experience?
-Sterling advises not to beat oneself up over premature ejaculation, but to accept it as part of the territory of being a virgin and to view it positively.
What should a person's attitude be during their first sexual encounter according to the video?
-The person should have a positive attitude, focusing on having fun, exploring, and being enthusiastic, rather than feeling guilt or shame over less than perfect performance.
What does Sterling suggest about the lighting in the room during the first sexual experience?
-Sterling suggests a dimly lit room to reduce self-consciousness and create a comfortable atmosphere for both parties.
Why is it beneficial for a man to go into a second round quickly after an early ejaculation?
-Going into a second round quickly can make the female partner feel more satisfied, as it can appeal to her desire to bring pleasure to the man.
What is the single greatest asset a virgin can bring into their first sexual experience according to Sterling?
-Enthusiasm is the single greatest asset a virgin can bring into their first sexual experience, as it can make the encounter fun and enjoyable.
What is Sterling's advice on exploring the female body during the first sexual experience?
-Sterling advises to let curiosity be the guide, to explore every part of the female body with affection and interest, which can lead to a more enjoyable experience for both parties.
Outlines
π Embracing Inexperience: A Guide for First-Time Sex
Sterling Cooper, an award-winning adult film star and former high-class male companion, introduces his video aimed at helping male virgins navigate their first sexual experience. He acknowledges that approximately 27% of men aged 18 to 30 are virgins and emphasizes that it's normal to be inexperienced. Sterling reassures viewers that it's okay not to be a sex expert on the first try and encourages them not to set unrealistic expectations. He discusses common concerns such as premature ejaculation and the possibility of not climaxing at all during the first encounter, explaining that these are normal outcomes due to lack of experience and the difference between self-stimulated and partner-stimulated sensations.
πΆββοΈ Navigating First-Time Sex: Expectations and Self-Compassion
In this section, Sterling focuses on the importance of self-compassion and realism during one's first sexual encounter. He advises against self-blame and unrealistic expectations, comparing the learning process of sex to learning to drive a car. Sterling stresses that sex is a skill that improves with time and experience. He encourages viewers to approach their first time with a focus on enjoyment and exploration, suggesting that laughter and a relaxed attitude can ease awkwardness. Practical advice includes being prepared for multiple rounds if possible and considering dim lighting to reduce self-consciousness. Sterling also addresses the potential difficulty of undressing and the benefits of being present and open about any awkward moments.
π‘ Practical Tips for a Positive First Sexual Experience
Sterling provides practical advice for an enjoyable and memorable first sexual experience. He suggests finding a balance with room lighting to alleviate self-consciousness while still being able to navigate the experience. Sterling emphasizes the importance of enthusiasm as a key asset, especially for younger individuals, and encourages curiosity and exploration of the female body. He advises viewers to fall in love with the female form and to use the first experience as an opportunity to learn and appreciate it. Sterling also recommends maintaining a positive and playful attitude, even in the face of awkwardness, and ends with a teaser for another video on the topic of proper fingering techniques during sex.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Virgin
π‘Premature Ejaculation
π‘Orgasm
π‘Sexual Experience
π‘Anxiety
π‘Self-Consciousness
π‘Enthusiasm
π‘Exploration
π‘Communication
π‘Body Image
π‘Curiosity
Highlights
Approximately 27% of men aged 18 to 30 report being virgins.
Male virginity is on the rise, with fewer men having sex compared to women of the same age group.
Sex is a learnable skill, similar to any other, and expectations should be realistic for a first-time experience.
Premature ejaculation is common and understandable for first-timers, and should not be a source of shame.
Some men may not orgasm at all during their first sexual encounter due to unfamiliar sensations.
The importance of not self-blaming or shaming oneself for not performing perfectly during the first sexual experience.
The comparison of first sexual experiences to learning to drive, emphasizing that proficiency comes with time and practice.
The value of focusing on having fun and enjoying the experience rather than solely on performance.
The suggestion to laugh off awkward moments to create a more relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere.
The advice to be enthusiastic and curious, especially when exploring a woman's body for the first time.
The potential for multiple rounds of sexual activity to enhance the experience for both partners.
Practical advice on creating a comfortable environment with dim lighting for first-time sexual encounters.
The importance of being present in the moment and not being overly self-conscious during the first sexual experience.
The recommendation to explore and appreciate the female body, fostering a deeper connection and understanding.
The emphasis on enthusiasm as a key asset for making the first sexual experience enjoyable and memorable.
A teaser for a separate video on the top 10 do's and don'ts of fingering for inexperienced individuals.
Transcripts
you are a virgin
that statement is going to be correct
for about 27 percent of you and
unfortunately a lot of guys have kind of
a nerve-wracking time
when they lose their virginity but don't
worry your big brother sterling's here
to help you out in today's video i'm
gonna
baby step you through
what to expect
as a virgin the first time
you have sex and more importantly how to
make it a far more enjoyable experience
for you and your partner
my name is sterling cooper i'm an
award-winning adult film star i'm a
former high-class male companion
and i'm here to help you improve your
sex life now it may not come as much of
a surprise to you to hear
that male virginity is on the rise these
days somewhere around 27
of men from the ages of 18 to 30
are reporting themselves as virgins and
even if you aren't a virgin
then the chances that you've had sex in
the last year
are relatively slim compared to women of
the same age
now it's channels like mine which
aim to
tip those numbers back in a more
equal level now the first thing to
understand
if you're a virgin
is
the first time you have sex
you're going to be [Β __Β ] at it
this is totally normal and totally okay
sex is a learnable skill just like any
other that's the whole point of my
youtube channel so
don't go in to your
first sexual experience
expecting to blow
her mind
it's very very unlikely that you're
gonna
do
much
that's gonna get her off
now
a lot of guys
go into their first sexual experience
kind of worried
that they might
ejaculate too quickly they might have a
you know premature ejaculation they
might get super excited and be really
into it and they might
bust early
okay cool
that is the case for some guys and
that's perfectly understandable because
it's your first sexual experience you're
really if you're really excited about it
you're really into it then that's a good
thing take that as a positive okay don't
get don't beat yourself up over it
kind of
accept that as part of the territory of
being a virgin and this being your first
time look the first time you hopped on a
bike
without training wheels
you probably fell over a time or two
so
don't beat yourself up over it like you
wouldn't have beat yourself up as a as a
kid getting on a bicycle right
now the more important thing to
understand is that in fact a lot of
dudes will have
the complete opposite experience
when they have sex for the first time
and that is they don't actually orgasm
at all i know that was my experience i
know that's the same experience with a
number of my friends when we've talked
about this
and the that might actually surprise you
as you know a guy who's
going into his first sexual experience
because
you know you've been taught
to expect to pop early that that's what
every mainstream movie
tells you that's what all these you know
uh teenage coming-of-age movies teach
guys that are the first one to have sex
they're going to be terrible they're
going to bust really quickly
but there's a whole segment of the male
population who the first time they have
sex it
just doesn't happen they don't orgasm
they don't climax and they wonder why
well here's the reason why because
you've spent
your
adolescence
jerking off you spent your
teenage years
beating your meat
and
a
a first-time partner
a woman who's
being with you for the first time ever
is not
likely to replicate the sensation of
your hand
exactly with her vagina it's just not
very likely to happen
so
you've kind of trained your body to
respond to a certain stimulus certain
rhythm certain pressure whatever with
your hand and then
you get
a vagina for the first time or a woman's
mouth for the first time or whatever and
it's not the same sensation
and so
your sort of expectations and your
reality are a bit
far apart
and that's why you don't climax and that
is also totally okay
don't put yourself up over it just
expect that now you've heard this
it's not going to be as much of a
surprise to you and more importantly
you're not going to beat yourself up
over it that's something i really
really want to emphasize here is
as a virgin
if you bust really quickly or if you
don't bust at all no matter what happens
here
this is okay
like the the single worst thing that you
could ever do
in your first sexual encounter is to is
to like beat yourself up or guilt-trip
yourself or or shame yourself
or sort of get down on yourself for not
being this sort of mega superstar in the
bedroom dear god man like don't
that's so unrealistic
the first time
you learned to drive a car you weren't
racing formula one like
immediately know you probably had like a
little datsun or a nissan or hyundai or
some [Β __Β ] and you're roaming around
the suburbs cool
that's what's to be expected you know
like i said before sex is a learnable
skill
and it takes time and it takes
experience to get good at it
it takes experience to
learn the ins and outs of the female
body okay
to learn what they respond to really
well to learn what buttons to push it
takes time to learn your own body in the
sexual experience it takes time to learn
how to control
your sensations to control
you know
how long you last takes time to learn
how to get out of your head if you might
be a bit nervous
these things take time so most
importantly i do not want any of you
guys to ever ever ever
beat yourself up over a
less than ideal sexual performance
[Β __Β ] all that
you're there to have fun
and that's one of the main things i want
you to go into your first experience
focusing on is having
fun with it
learn to laugh about it learn to learn
to explore
your partner's body if you can go into
your first sexual experience even if she
knows you're a virgin or if she doesn't
know you're a virgin either way it
doesn't matter
but if you can go into that first sexual
experience
just looking to have some
fun laughing if something awkward or
silly happens like you know you're
struggling to get
this will this will definitely happen
you'll be struggling to get your jeans
off if you're wearing jeans jeans suck
for having sex like if you've got a pair
of [Β __Β ] jeans on when you're trying
to get those bastards off your knees
it's it's horrible so you can learn to
laugh and make fun of that kind of [Β __Β ]
get that makes you present in the moment
that makes you less serious less awkward
right it's relatable it's something that
she's going to be kind of finding you're
calling out the elephant in the room if
there's like any awkwardness so that's
totally fine it makes everyone involved
kind of more relaxed and calm and
less nervous
but more importantly get in there have
some fun with it have fun exploring the
female body because this is a new thing
for you right
and
here's a couple of uh
here's a couple more pointers i can like
really specific pointers i can give you
guys as well
if you happen to bust a nut quickly and
early
well
typically you're probably gonna if
you're a version you're probably gonna
be a younger guy
probably gonna be easy for you to go
into round two relatively quickly
especially if this is your first time
having sex it's new it's exciting
obviously was exciting if you busted it
out early
so just take a couple of seconds take a
minute or two
recompose
have a have a laugh
dry yourself off whatever and then
get into round two as quickly as you can
why not you know it doesn't if you can
go multiple rounds then if they if
they're shorter rounds but you can do
multiple rounds do it
that's gonna make
that is actually gonna make her
feel like she is gonna appease the
female ego
in her it's gonna it's gonna appeal
appease that part of her where she gets
off on getting a dude off
so if you can bust multiple rounds even
if they are shorter rounds because you
know you're relatively inexperienced
that's still fantastic go in and do that
another bit of practical advice i'll
give you is if
it'll help you
to uh
be in a room which is kind of dimly lit
so
it's it's more nerve-wracking
i guess to be in a room which is just
like full lights fully lit up
uh kind of like how i would do on a film
set
where you can see absolutely everything
because hey i'm not gonna lie some guys
are probably maybe a bit self-conscious
about their own body sometimes
and
a lot of women ask set relatively
self-conscious about their body as well
so
the first time having sex with somebody
if the lights are like fully blaring on
you can just add this
this layer of um
sort of awkwardness nervousness to a
degree whereas dim
lighting
where you can still see things but the
shadow
is still darkness here and there that
just makes things a bit more comfortable
for everyone involved and it's probably
gonna make things more comfortable for
you as a first timer
the opposite of that being in a
completely blacked out room the problem
with that is that
you're you as a virgin you don't know
your way around a human uh you don't
need your way around the female body so
it's gonna be
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harder for you to [Β __Β ] navigate and
find your way into things and know if
you're in and know if you're not in and
know what the [Β __Β ] is and all this sort
of stuff
so find that balance
somewhere between a pitch black room and
a fully lit room a dimly lit room
will allow you to sort of
see what you're doing but have enough
uh
i guess leeway where you're not
feeling super super self-conscious and
then and she's not feeling super
subconscious either so that's
that's a real practical piece of advice
for the first time but your single
greatest asset
going into your first sexual experience
is going to be
your enthusiasm
your enthusiasm my friend is what is
gonna make
it a fun enjoyable experience
even if
even if
you know you don't really know your way
around a woman's body yet
just by being enthusiastic
about it
especially at a younger age like this
really
goes over well like enthusiasm and
energy and fun
it's just gonna make it for a more
enjoyable experience for both you and
her let
curiosity
be your best friend
like i said before if you've never seen
a woman's body before you want to
explore every inch of nook and cranny
and
and kiss and lick and touch and fondle
fine
do that
use this as an opportunity to explore
the female body fall in love with the
female body i'll say that as well
if there's one thing
that will really make you a a good lover
in the long term
it's
falling in love with the female form and
loving every goddamn
inch of their bodies if you're the kind
of guy who you know ends up maybe you
will end up getting off on getting women
off at some point in your life that's
also a fantastic thing
but
appreciating the female form
loving the female body for what it is uh
and being really enthusiastic and being
really curious and having a lot of fun
and
you know laughing off and playing off
any kind of awkwardness
that is a surefire way to make your
first time a positive
enjoyable memorable experience
so
i'd like you to take that
with you
hopefully you'll be popping your v card
soon
my fingers crossed you i want you to
take that attitude going into the
bedroom now there's one mistake that a
lot of inexperienced guys do
tend to make and that is to do with
fingering so if you want to know the top
10 fingering do's and don'ts then check
out this video right here
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