Intro Video 1 Why Discernment is Spiritual

Well-Ordered Family
29 Feb 202404:18

Summary

TLDRThe video script delves into the profound spiritual significance of decision-making within the family context, emphasizing the concept of discernment as a crucial process for aligning choices with personal values and beliefs. It explains how discernment, derived from the Latin word 'Des,' involves seeking divine guidance to make choices that contribute to the family's narrative and individual growth. Highlighting the impact of decisions on forming habits and identities, the script underscores that family decisions are not merely logistical but move the family closer to or further from spiritual goals. It also draws parallels between family and business dynamics, stressing the importance of balancing individual and collective wellbeing through discernment.

Takeaways

  • 😀 Discernment is the spiritual practice of carefully considering choices to align with values and beliefs
  • 🤔 Decisions shape who we become based on the actions we repeatedly take over time
  • 💡 Family decisions require balancing what's best for each individual and the collective good of all
  • 🔍 Reflect deeply before making important choices that can influence your family's path
  • 🙏 Seek divine guidance when discerning as a family to align with God's will
  • ❤️ Consider how potential decisions may impact each family member's well-being and identity
  • 🚦 Family decisions are not just logistical, they move you closer to or further from heaven
  • 🔎 The concept of discernment comes from the Latin word meaning 'to separate' or 'distinguish'
  • ✂️ Decisions 'cut away' options to move towards a particular choice or outcome
  • 💬 Upcoming video will explain the difference between decision making and problem solving

Q & A

  • What is the meaning of the word 'discernment' and why is it important for families?

    -Discernment comes from the Latin word meaning 'to separate or distinguish'. It involves aligning choices with personal values and beliefs. It is important for families because every decision a family makes contributes to its members' growth and influences their identities.

  • How do decisions impact who we become over time?

    -Decisions shape our habits and actions. Aristotle said human beings are habitual animals. Over time, if we make virtuous decisions, we become more virtuous people. If we make lazy choices, we become lazier.

  • Why must families balance personal desires with the collective good?

    -Family decisions affect all members. What one person wants may not serve the whole family best. Good family discernment considers each member's wellbeing but keeps the focus on the family's common good.

  • What did the speaker mean by saying families should move closer to or further from heaven?

    -He meant that through discernment and decision-making, families shape their ultimate eternal outcomes. Their choices bring them metaphorically closer to or further from heaven.

  • What is the difference between decision making and problem solving?

    -The speaker said he would explain the difference in a later video, implying there is an important distinction. We do not have the details yet from this transcript.

  • Why did the speaker compare families to businesses?

    -He drew a parallel - just as business leaders balance care for individuals and the whole team's common good, families must consider each member but focus first on the family's collective wellbeing.

  • What are some examples of family decisions requiring discernment?

    -The speaker mentioned choices around leisure activities and education. Other examples could include parenting approaches, division of household responsibilities, finances, healthcare, etc.

  • What did the speaker mean by families not being mere 'logistical moves'?

    -He meant families are not just carrying out practical tasks and transactions like a delivery company. The choices families make have deeper spiritual significance and long-term impacts.

  • Why is discernment described as a 'spiritual' process?

    -Seeking divine guidance to align with God's will makes discernment spiritual. It connects decision-making to personal beliefs, values and ultimate purpose.

  • What are some practices or steps families can take to improve discernment?

    -The transcript did not specify particular steps. But based on the themes, families could: reflect deeply, discuss beliefs and values, consider collective good, balance perspectives, pray or meditate.

Outlines

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😇 Making family decisions with spiritual discernment

Paragraph 1 explains that family decisions have spiritual significance and require discernment - deep reflection for aligning choices with values and beliefs. Like decision, discernment involves distinguishing and separating options. It is a spiritual process of seeking divine guidance to align the family with God's will.

😌 Our decisions shape our identity and future

Paragraph 2 states that decisions shape who we become over time based on our actions - we become what we repeatedly do. Family decisions impact individual identities and the whole family, contributing to growth and future outcomes. Thus discernment considers all members' wellbeing, balancing personal desires with the greater good.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡discernment

Discernment refers to the process of carefully considering options and making judgments to determine the best course of action. In the context of family decisions, discernment emphasizes reflection and seeking divine guidance to align choices with personal values, the wellbeing of family members, and God's will. The video explains how every family decision has spiritual significance and impacts the identities and trajectory of family members.

💡decision

Decisions refer to the choices made by a family that shape its direction. As stated in the video, the root of 'decision' means 'to cut away from,' indicating the sacrifice or tradeoffs involved in selecting one option over others. Family decisions range from leisure activities to educational choices and contribute to the broader family identity.

💡identity

A family's identity consists of its members' individual identities as well as its collective identity. The video emphasizes how family decisions impact and define these identities across generations. Discernment in family decision making requires considering both personal desires and the greater good of the family unit.

💡values

Values refer to the principles and beliefs that guide priorities and judgments. The video highlights how discernment involves aligning family choices with personal, spiritual values to determine the best course of action. Over time, the values reflected in repeated decisions shape the family's identity.

💡heaven

The concept of heaven represents spiritual ideals and alignment with God's will. The video makes the bold statement that family decisions move families either closer to or further away from this ideal. Hence discernment in decision making is so important for families seeking spiritual growth.

💡problem solving

Problem solving is distinguished from decision making, though the video states people often confuse the two. While details are provided in a later video, the speaker implies problem solving is more analytical while decision making involves reflection on values, identity, and spiritual alignment.

💡leadership

The video compares family decision making to business leadership decisions that balance care for individual team members with responsibilities towards collective goals. This analogy underscores the role of parents as leaders guiding the family unit through discernment.

💡growth

Spiritual and identity growth emerges from the cumulative impact of family decisions over time. The video emphasizes how choices shape who members become through ingraining habits and virtues. Discernment facilitates growth by aligning decisions with core values.

💡dignity

Human dignity represents the fundamental worth and rights of each family member. The video states that discernment requires never degrading individual dignity while also discerning choices for the collective good. This balance helps make decisions that enable human flourishing.

💡trajectory

A family's trajectory refers to its directional course over time shaped by decisive moments. The video underscores how daily choices contribute to the family story or legacy, ultimately impacting its higher trajectory towards or away from spiritual ideals.

Highlights

Discernment is spiritual and derived from the Latin word meaning 'to separate or distinguish'

Discernment involves aligning choices with personal values and beliefs

Decisions metaphorically 'cut away' from other options, while discernment distinguishes between them

Discernment seeks divine guidance to align the family with God's will

Family decisions contribute to the family's growth and influence its members

Decisions shape who we become over time through habit

Family discernment impacts the identities of individual members and the whole family

Discernment requires considering the wellbeing of all family members

Leaders balance care for individuals and the collective good, as in families

Family decisions have eternal significance, not just logistics

Each decision moves a family closer to or further from heaven

Problem solving differs from decision making

Families are not just logistics but have a spiritual dimension

Discernment guides the eternal outcome for families

Next video will explain decision making vs. problem solving

Transcripts

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every decision made within a family

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context has spiritual significance the

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concept of discernment emphasizes deep

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reflection which is required to make the

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best choices for your family and every

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family has its own Dynamics therefore

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every fam family needs its own

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discernment now discernment is spiritual

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and it's derived from the Latin word Des

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meaning to separate or distinguish and

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it involves aligning choices with

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personal values and belief now when you

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think about the word decision that also

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has a Latin root that means to cut away

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from so think about it when you have a

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decision you're cutting away from when

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you make an incision you're cutting into

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so a decision Cuts away from and

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discernment is a related concept to this

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the reason it's spiritual is because and

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every time you're making a decision you

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have to cut away from something and

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you're going towards something else so

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discernment is spiritual and it's

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through discernment individuals seek

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Divine guidance and aim to

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align themselves their family with God's

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will there's a lot of choices in a

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family from leisure activities to

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educational choices and these contribute

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to the family story and influence its

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member influence on its members growth

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now decisions are not just something we

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do decisions are something that we

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become there's an old saying you are

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what you eat well Aristotle the great

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ancient Greek philosopher

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understood that human beings are

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habitual animals and it's through our

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decisions and our actions that over time

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we become what we do if you do virtuous

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things over time you become a virtuous

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person if you be if you do lazy things

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over time you become a lazy person so

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the decisions that you make in your

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family life the discernment that you go

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through in your family life isn't just

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something that your family does it it's

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something that your family becomes and

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that's how much I want to emphasize

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discernment as a part of this family

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management system is that discern is is

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the pathway through which your family

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becomes something else now Family

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decisions impact and Define individual

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identities and the family as a whole so

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discernment requires Cons considering

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the wellbeing of all the family members

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balancing personal desires with the

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family's Collective good and of course

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you've experience this sometimes what

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one individual family member wants is

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not always best for the family as a

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whole guess what same thing in business

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you care about each individual member of

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the team at work but you have a common

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good that you must focus on first never

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degrading or looking past or stepping by

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the Dignity of that individual human

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person but a good leader always keeps

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their eye on both the good for the

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individual person and the good for the

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whole and you have to do that through

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discernment in a family setting now the

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point is this understand that your

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decisions as a family are Not Mere

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logistical moves okay your family is not

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FedEx rather you're helping your family

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move a little closer to heaven or a

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little further away from heaven with

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each and every decision that's a bold

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claim that's a bold statement I'm making

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but that's the level of importance I

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believe that your discernment your

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decisions and your problem solving

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has on the ultimate Eternal outcome of

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your

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family in our next video we're going to

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distinguish between decision making and

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problem solving something that people

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often confuse there's a big difference

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and I'm going to help explain it to you

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see you

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then