The Key to Anal Sex?
Q & A
Why is relaxation considered the key to anal sex?
-Relaxation is key to anal sex because it helps to reduce tension in the body, allowing for a more comfortable and pleasurable experience. When the body is relaxed, the muscles in the anal region, including the internal and external sphincters, can relax, which is crucial for penetration and pleasure.
What are the two sphincters in the anal canal and how do they respond to relaxation?
-The two sphincters in the anal canal are the internal and external sphincters. The internal sphincter, made of smooth muscle, relaxes involuntarily when the body is relaxed, while the external sphincter, composed of skeletal muscle, can be consciously relaxed. Proper relaxation is necessary for both to function effectively during anal sex.
Why is the anal region sensitive and how does relaxation affect this sensitivity?
-The anal region is rich in nerve endings, making it highly sensitive to stimuli such as touch and temperature. Relaxation allows these nerve endings to be more exposed and responsive, enhancing pleasure. Conversely, tension or constriction can reduce the number of nerve endings involved, leading to less pleasure.
What is the game plan for relaxation before engaging in anal sex?
-The game plan for relaxation before anal sex includes achieving physical relaxation of the pelvic floor and perineum muscles, internal relaxation through deep breathing and creating a calm environment, and maintaining relaxation during the act with slow, deep breaths and communication with your partner.
How does communication play a role in relaxation and anal sex?
-Communication is vital for relaxation during anal sex as it allows partners to express their comfort levels, boundaries, and any concerns. Open communication can alleviate anxiety and ensure that both partners are on the same page, leading to a more relaxed and enjoyable experience.
What are the potential physical risks associated with not relaxing during anal sex?
-Not relaxing during anal sex can lead to physical risks such as tearing, anal fissures, hemorrhoids, painful spasms, and anal incontinence. These issues arise from the forced stretching or tension in the anal sphincters and surrounding tissues, which can cause damage and discomfort.
What is an anal fissure and how can it be caused by anal sex?
-An anal fissure is a small tear in the anus that can result in severe pain, bleeding, and discomfort. It can be caused by anal sex if there is insufficient lubrication and relaxation, leading to excessive stretching and damage to the delicate mucosal lining.
What are hemorrhoids and how can they be affected by anal sex?
-Hemorrhoids are swollen blood vessels in the rectal area that can cause discomfort, bleeding, itching, and pain. Increased pressure or friction during anal sex can aggravate existing hemorrhoids or cause new ones to form. They can sometimes be treated with over-the-counter options, but severe cases may require surgical intervention.
What is anal incontinence and how is it related to anal sex?
-Anal incontinence is the loss of control over bowel movements due to damage to the external sphincter. While it is not a common outcome of anal sex, it can occur if the sphincter is forcibly stretched or remains too tense during anal sex, causing trauma. Kegel exercises can help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles to prevent this condition.
What tips are recommended to help with relaxation during anal sex?
-Tips for relaxation during anal sex include using dilators to gradually prepare the body, selecting an appropriate lubricant to reduce friction, maintaining open communication with your partner, and taking breaks during the act to allow the body to adjust and relax.
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Keywords
💡Anal sex
💡Relaxation
💡Sphincter
💡Nerve endings
💡Lubricant
💡Communication
💡Anxiety
💡Dilators
💡Hemorrhoids
💡Anal fissure
Highlights
The importance of understanding the key to anal sex for a fulfilling experience.
The necessity of preparation and comfort for maximum pleasure during anal sex.
The significance of relaxation, especially for the receptive partner, to avoid discomfort.
The anatomy of the anal canal and the role of internal and external sphincters.
The impact of relaxation on the internal sphincter, which is not voluntarily controlled.
The sensitivity of the anal region due to the abundance of nerve endings.
Strategies for physical relaxation to prepare for anal sex.
The importance of a comfortable environment and mental relaxation for pleasure.
The role of gradual insertion and deep breathing in relaxation during anal sex.
Communication with your partner as a key aspect of relaxation and pleasure.
The effects of anxiety on sexual performance and the importance of addressing it.
How relaxation improves pleasure by allowing nerve endings to be more exposed.
The importance of lubricant in facilitating relaxation and reducing friction.
The significance of relaxation for prostate stimulation and pleasure.
Ways to build confidence around anal sex by overcoming fear and anxiety.
The physical risks associated with not relaxing during anal sex, such as tearing and hemorrhoids.
The role of the mucosal lining in the anal cavity and its vulnerability when not relaxed.
The function of the perenium and the potential for trauma if not relaxed properly.
The definition and causes of an anal fissure, a common condition related to lack of relaxation.
Information on hemorrhoids, their causes, and treatments related to anal sex.
The misconceptions about anal incontinence and its actual causes.
Recommendations for relaxation tips, including the use of dilators and communication.
Transcripts
welcome back to another episode of
spilling the tea with Dr T and Gabriel D
that's me and Laval that's her so the
Trio's back today we're going to be
diving into another topic and today it's
going to be the key to anos sex the key
to anal sex we're going to be talking
about something that I guess we have
touched on in the past a little bit but
what is the key to anal sex today we're
going to get to learn so many things and
details and I have a few questions for
you as always that's what I'm here for
and of course anal SE can be a
fulfilling experience for many but it's
very important to understand what's
going on prepare so you can make sure
that you're comfortable and have the
maximum amount of pleasure throughout
the process awesome so why is this topic
of anal sex is so important that we keep
talking about it over and over again
well I think it's so important because I
have so many patients that ask me about
it and I've had patients recently and
the past and also throughout my training
it was never really um educated the the
Family Medicine practice or residency
programs and it's such a taboo issue I
feel like I never knew anything about it
especially growing up I certainly wasn't
going to talk to my parents about it so
hopefully someone out there this video
reaches them and they're just looking
for some education or understanding on
how they can best prepare themselves and
make it as an enjoyable experience as
possible and hopefully today we're going
to get to learn a few of the things that
you learn with your experience exactly
and so really we're going to be diving
into this episode to discuss relaxation
how it is extremely important especially
for the receptive partner in anal sex so
that they can enjoy themselves and avoid
any irritation any pain any poor
outcomes we want to make this a good
experience for you so remember to relax
if you haven't already sit back relax
now and we're going to dive in to why
relaxation is so important I guess
that's the answer for the question
relaxation is key to animal sex yeah
because again this topic this idea
especially if it's your first time or
you're not really sure what's going on
can be very anxiety provoking and that's
going to result and a lot of tension all
over your body and you do not want to go
into this type of experience with
tension and you want to have fun you
want to enjoy yourself yeah so we're
going to help you learn to relax so you
can enjoy it to the maximum ability and
so what Anatomy should we know of course
we got to start with the basics so the
anatomy we need to know of course is the
anal canal and there are two sphincter
in this area one is an internal
sphincter and one is an external
sphincter the internal actually is not
voluntary it's created by something
called smooth muscle smooth muscle is
not something our brain can trigger on a
own by our Command to relax so it's not
something we can really do much about
you actually have to be relaxed yourself
you can't say all right it's time to
relax your body truly has to be relaxed
and then the external sphincter which is
made of skeletal muscle like the muscles
in your biceps or your legs those
respond to your control so you can
always use your control to relax that
muscle but still you do have to be quite
relaxed to be able to really allow it to
open up so to speak fascinating how the
body is connected our brain needs to be
really relax so our body also needs to
be in that relaxation mode exactly and
so why is this AA so sensitive so the
anal region is Rich in nerve endings and
so nerve endings are always going to be
responding to stimuli so touch sensation
temperature all of those things and
because there's so many nerve endings
it's going to make it very sensitive
that being said if it's tense or if it's
constricted in the anal region there's
going to be less nerve endings as it's
trying to protect itself and if there's
less nerve endings there's also going to
be less pleasure those nerve endings
need to be at their maximum you can have
your maximum pleasure and so what is the
game plan for relaxation before anal sex
first we want to aim for physical
relaxation again those skeleton muscles
in the pelvic floor and the perenium we
can control those so you want to try to
relax them with your brain with your
control as best as possible for some
people out there this can actually be
very difficult there's actually some
physical therapy available to some
patients that are not able to relax this
area because either trauma anxiety or
other past medical history issues can
make it extremely tight and difficult
for them to relax completely so if
you're out there and you're struggling
to relax that area you're not alone you
should definitely consider talking to
your doctor or a physical therapist
there are many treatment options to help
you walk you through the process of how
you can relax so you're able to enjoy
your sexual experiences I feel like
relaxation is going to be the main
character of our topic today but it's
important to point out that in order to
feel pleasure you need to be comfortable
exactly so that means comfortable in
your environment comfortable with your
partner comfortable with yourself too so
all those things need to be checked off
before going going forward with this
activity and again so now that you've
focused on the physical relaxation part
that you can control by trying to relax
those muscles that external sphincter
should then be responding because again
that is skeletal muscle like the muscles
we can control in our arms and legs next
you want to work on internal relaxation
because we need to relax that internal
sphincter which we can't necessarily
control so things like deep breathing
relaxing music making sure you're in a
calm environment can make a big
difference there as well create a mood
for yourself find a good playlist yeah
and then when you're ready for insertion
or your partner is ready for inser ition
you want to continue those same
activities so slow deep breaths gentle
breaths as well you don't want to make
too much of a fuss for yourself
techniques like deep breathing while
your partner is gradually and slowly
inserting is going to make a huge
difference in how you're able to respond
by relaxing during the initial process I
like that you mentioned gradually and
slow because this is something that we
keep talking in our videos and why hurry
exactly and the gradual insertion is
also going to help those fainters in the
anal Canal relax so it's sort of working
with your Brea breathing techniques to
ensure they able to relax you're able to
reach that pleasure Zone and enjoy
yourself and I feel like sometimes in
the middle of the rendevu we forget to
breathe so it's important to remember
that yes so it's also important like you
mentioned mental relaxation is also key
making sure you're keeping yourself calm
breathing that way you can just focus on
the pleasure and avoid any pain and
communicating effectively with your
partner about your boundaries things
you're comfortable with if this is your
first time if this is something that
you're not sure is going to work well
that's going to also put you at at ease
and let your partner know what your
limits are so that way you're both going
in this together with the same sort of
mentality both relaxed with the same
common goal and we never talk about
communication here in this channel
exactly and it's important to note that
anxiety is the ultimate sexual killer so
if you're going into your experience
with anxiety that can cause the release
of these fight ORF flight hormones that
may result in constriction and tension
in both spiners as well as the fact that
anxiety can cause a loss of erection and
a decrease in sexual desire libido so
want to avoid all of that if you're
feeling a little anxious maybe take some
time and definitely wait until that has
passed before going into a sexual
encounter especially if it's one that is
new or you're not sure how it's going to
go and does relaxation improve pleasure
yes you don't have to worry about
whether or not those nerve endings are
going to give you pleasure when you're
relaxed during anal sex you are good to
go the reason is is that when you're
relaxed those muscles in the anal cavity
specifically the internal and external
sphincter are going to release allowing
your partner to penetrate and to get
more surface area exposed to those nerve
IND the more nerve Indies exposed the
more likely you're going to experience
pleasure and not only that when you
relax the blood flow is going to
increase to the area more blood flow
similarly to those nerve endings is
going to result in more pleasure again
the muscles relaxing in the perenium
around the pelvic floor also going to be
more vascular and more responsive to the
pleasure that you're going to get from
friction during intercourse so
relaxation equals pleasure that's great
news if you're not feeling enough
pleasure in your sexual activity be more
relaxed easy to do right yeah and while
we're at it don't forget to add in some
lubricant that's going to only
facilitate further relaxation by
reducing that friction that can occur so
make sure your lube ready relaxed and
the pleasure should be on its way and is
relaxation important for prostate
stimulation yeah so for those of us that
have prostates relaxation is going to be
really important allowing the
penetrative finger device or partner to
reach the prostate and allowing that to
have more surface area as well the more
relaxed you are in the area the more
likely those Nerf fibers are going to
get stimulated and of course that's
again going to increase vasculature to
the area and increase blood flow so
relaxation is key to both anal sex and
prostate stimulation someone in comments
asked if everyone has a prostate great
question if you're a signed male at
Birth it's very likely you have a
prostate unless there's some sort of
genetic problem or some very rare case
where someone is born without one but
many men have theirs removed if they
have a history of prostate cancer or
other medical conditions so not all men
have a prostate see keep asking us
questions we'll get to them right doctor
absolutely and what are some ways people
can build confidence around anal sex
focusing on overcoming fear and anxiety
is going to be step one a lot of people
have anxiety around anal sex because
they have fear of pain or discomfort or
the taboo around it or maybe they're not
quite ready yet and if you are not ready
that is completely okay that is number
one to identify and a number one concern
to bring to your partner communication
just as saying that is the most
important thing to consider right up
there with trying to overcome your
anxiety and fear that's because if
you're you're not communicating
effectively especially before sex you're
certainly not going to be communicating
well during sex and very unlikely to be
communicating better after sex so make
sure you are able to address your
anxiety and fear first and then you want
to make sure you're communicating
effectively and that being said it's
important to also communicate with
yourself if you're not sure how you feel
in the situation always go towards that
negative side right I usually say focus
on the positive but if you're unsure you
always want to say no you always want to
go to something that is going to prevent
you from making a choice that could put
you in pain due to the fact that you
haven't quite overcome those concerns
you have in your head absolutely I think
when going to sex you should be the
priority yeah at first you need to think
about yourself and then once you're with
your partner and the activity has
started then it's about you both
together yes exactly sex is meant to be
fun it's meant to be pleasurable it's
meant to be a positive experience and as
you build those positive experiences
you're going to build more confidence in
yourself and your sexual abilities and
never get discouraged it's really
important to remember that it can take
some time to get comfortable and every
step forward is a success are there any
risks to non relaxing to be frank yes
and we can break these into the physical
risks associated with the anatomical
areas that the risks are present in and
so you want to think about the internal
sphincter which we talked about the
external sphincter the mucosal lining as
well as the anus itself and the pennium
and what happens to the internal
sphincter if we do not relax so if the
internal sphincter remains tense or if
it's forcibly stretched this can of
course result in pain but we want to
worry about the medical conditions
associated with that such as as tearing
or anal fissure or hemorrhoid and we're
going to get more into those diagnosis
and what they actually mean later but
those are two things that can result if
you're not able to fully relax and that
internal sphincter becomes irritated wow
that's crazy and in contrast if this
occurs in the external sphincter if it's
forcibly stretched or if it's too tense
it can result in different medical
conditions something called anal
incontinence or painful spasms wow so
relaxation really is important not only
for pleasure but for our health too
exactly and remind me what is the mucose
aligning the the mucosal lining in the
anal cavity is actually made up of a
bunch of cells those cells release a
very very small amount of fluid which
could be considered lubricant and the
main goal is to help remove any excess
debris and to keep the anal cavity clear
that does make sense and can this area
be damaged absolutely if you're not able
to fully relaxed those cells are going
to also be tense and of course they are
going to be lining the entire mucosa of
the anal cavity so if they were to get
irritated or inflamed it can result in
abrasions it can result in hemorrhoids
bleeding pain so of course again
relaxation is going to be key to all the
anatomical features uh in the anal
cavity and to have a great experience
yeah exactly and what is the perenium so
the perenium is the area between the
anus and the scrotum and so all of the
muscles there if they're forced to relax
or if they uh have too much friction
upon them they can experience trauma
making it more difficult for them to
relax in the future very similarly to
our brain muscles can remember trauma as
well and that can make it much more
difficult for future encounters to relax
and to make sure that you're able to
access the area and proceed with your
rendevu it's very interesting that our
body has a memory exactly all the areas
the organs the tissues the fibers in our
body do store memories not necessarily
the same memories we have in our brain
but their version of what a memory is
very similarly to the penum the anal
cavity opening so the anus is also going
to be very fragile when it comes to
needing to relax if it's too tense or
too tight trying to force it open or
trying to stretch in any capacity is
going to result in a lot of different
options as well including those anal
fissures hemorrhoids bleeding irritation
so from the opening of the anus all the
way through to that internal sphincter
everything needs to be relaxed so you
can really enjoy yourself and avoid any
pain or discomfort and what exactly is
an ano fizure so anes are small tears
that can occur in the anus that are
often going to result in severe pain
bleeding and discomfort crazy and these
can potentially be caused by receptive
anal intercourse if there's not
sufficient lubrication and sufficient
relaxation this excessive stretch that
occurs is going to cause damage to that
delicate mucosal lining which thus
results in the tearing while there are a
lot of topical over-the-counter options
to treat them like topical anesthetics
lidocaine sits bath stool softeners
often times they result in something
called a chronic fissure because they
won't heal they continue to worsen and
may even cause increases in more
fissures to occur that often times has
to be fixed surgically only because
you're not relaxed enough that's crazy
yeah and of course there's many
different causes for these issues but
relaxation can be a key opponent
especially if that is something that you
are not comfortable with yet and the
best way to either prevent them from
occurring or prevent them from coming
back is to ensure you have plenty of
lube and lots of relaxation and what are
hemorrhoids so hemorrhoids are swollen
blood vessels in the rectal area that
often lead to discomfort bleeding
itching and pain increased pressure or
friction during anal sex can aggravate
existing hemorrhoids to make them worsen
or just aggravate the veins that are
present there and cause new hemorrhoids
to form are there any treatments for
hemorrhoids yeah and so again you can do
over-the-counter options like stool
softeners sits bath there's even some
topical creams you can try but
unfortunately they can also worsen
getting so big that they do require a
surgical intervention and sometimes if
the pain is so severe that's the only
option as well wow but in general I will
say the majority of hemorrhoids may even
heal on their own and respond really
well to topical options and just because
you have hemorrhoids does not mean that
you can't participate in anal sex but if
you have any pain bleeding or discomfort
that's a reason to stop and wait till
they heal before you proceeded and what
is anoing Con
anal incontinence is the loss of control
over bowel movements due to excessive
damage at the external sphincter now
many people think this is very common
especially if they've never had anal sex
before they think if you try it once
it's going to result in anal
incontinence or if you do it repeatedly
it's going to result in anal
incontinence that is not true you can
have anal receptive intercourse many
many many many times before you have any
issue like this the problem is when you
have receptive anal intercourse and
you're not ready or that sphincter is
still too tight if it's too tight or
you're not relaxed you're going to cause
trauma to it and thus that's going to
increase your risk of developing this
problem right and there are ways to even
prevent it from occurring those keegle
exercise we talked about in previous
videos you can just strengthen the
perenium muscles or the muscles in the
pelvic floor by just tightening it's
sort of like that sensation like you're
holding on to try to stop yourself from
urinating I'm doing it right now and
help to keep it strong so that you can
avoid anal incontinence well if you
haven't seen our video yet about the Keo
exercise we give an explanation step by
step how to do it yeah so take a look
and in the most extensive cases
sometimes anal incontinence can result
in the need for surgical repair the good
thing is that surgery is typically
extremely successful and oftentimes
covered by insurance so that is
something to consider for those out
there that are concerned or want to talk
to a doctor about maybe having this
issue there are remedies that can help
improve your symptoms so you can get
back on track awesome it's reversible
it's reversible are there any tips that
we can recommend to help with relaxation
absolutely so you can start by
considering dilators so if you already
know on your own you're a tense person
maybe you have anxiety maybe you have
anxiety about going into a sexual
experience you've never had anal
intercourse before or you've tried it
and it didn't work so well for you you
can consider purchasing something called
a dilator they come in multiple sizes of
course you want to start small before
going large that's going to allow you to
prepare yourself and allow your body to
respond to something penetrating that
area teaching your body to properly
relax so that you can enjoy yourself
without any irritation or the risk of
any of these medical complications that
can occur secondly think about lubricant
there are many different options you can
try water-based and silicone based are
both great find one that works best for
you one that's going to help to maintain
that reduce friction so typically that's
going to be more of a silicone base for
more people because it's going to help
it to stay moist longer then you want to
communicate we've talked about this many
many times communication is key not only
with your partner but with yourself are
you ready if you're not sure talk to
yourself a little bit more and finally
when you're in the Act take breaks you
are allowed to tap out for a moment with
your partner maybe tell them ahead of
time you want to take some breaks you're
trying to get better at this you want to
make sure that it's a good experience
for everybody involved and that you're
ready to do it again in the future I'm
sure they'll be understanding if not
that's probably a red flag so take some
breaks give yourself some time so that
your body can adjust and be ready for
whatever comes next for lessons that
were learn today here start slowing and
gradual lots of lubricant three
communication communication is key and
four take breaks it's important to take
breaks drink some water and then go back
yeah listen to a song chill have a snack
you're in no rush take as long as you
need I love that sex is meant to be fun
pleasurable and
relaxing we
match so hopefully you learn to embrace
some relaxation strategies and tips
before your next anal encounter that way
you can make sure you are achieving as
much pleasure with as little discomfort
and pain as possible hopefully this was
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