Ep: 29: And treat your parents with excellence | Guidebook to God by Sh. Yahya Ibrahim

Summary

This video by Yahya Ibrahim emphasizes the importance of loving and respecting one's parents, known as 'birrul walidayn'. He shares stories, including one of a butcher who gained a high place in paradise due to his devotion to his mother, and another of a man who couldn't say 'la ilaha illallah' until he made amends with his mother. The video underscores that honoring and caring for parents is a significant part of Islamic teachings, reflecting one's faith and devotion to Allah.

Takeaways

• ❤️ Loving and respecting your parents is paramount, referred to as 'birrul walidayn'.
• 🕌 Allah commands us to worship Him and immediately after, to treat our parents with good manners.
• 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Most people do not show enough kindness, time, and generosity to their parents.
• 📞 Daily contact with parents is often neglected by many.
• 📖 A story from Imam Al-Dhahabi about a butcher who was devoted to his mother, showing that such devotion can earn high ranks in paradise.
• 🧺 The butcher's care for his frail mother, including feeding and bathing her, was rewarded by Allah.
• 💔 Many parents feel unappreciated and disrespected by their children despite their sacrifices.
• 🔥 Prophet Muhammad emphasized the importance of parental approval, illustrating it with a story where a mother's forgiveness allowed her son to declare faith before death.
• 🕊️ The significance of a parent's prayer and blessing is highlighted.
• 👟 A story of a man who carried his mother to Hajj illustrates that even great efforts may not fully repay parental kindness.
• 🤲 Emphasis on honoring parents to earn rewards from Allah and to set an example for one's own children.

Q & A

What does 'birrul walidayn' mean according to the speaker?

'Birrul walidayn' means loving your parents, showing them respect, care, and comfort, and being dutiful to them.

How does the speaker describe the treatment of parents by most people?

The speaker describes that most people are not kind, do not give time, are not generous with their wealth and energy, do not call their parents daily, and generally do not show the respect and appreciation their parents deserve.

What is the significance of the story about Moses (Musa Alaihis Salam) and the butcher?

The story highlights the importance of serving and caring for one's parents. The butcher’s dedication to his mother earned him a high rank in paradise, demonstrating that such devotion is highly valued in Islam.

Why was the butcher in the story about Moses considered deserving of being Moses's neighbor in paradise?

The butcher was considered deserving because he had been devotedly caring for his elderly mother for 10 years, bathing, feeding, and looking after her with great love and attention.

What does the story about the Sahabi and his inability to say 'laillaha illallah' teach?

The story teaches that one's treatment of their parents can affect their spiritual state. The Sahabi's inability to say 'laillaha illallah' was linked to his mother's displeasure with him, showing the importance of earning a parent's approval and forgiveness.

What did the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'Alaihi Wasallam) instruct Bilal to do in response to the Sahabi's situation?

The Prophet instructed Bilal to gather firewood and burn the house down with the Sahabi in it, indicating that it was better for him to face punishment in this world than in the hereafter. This prompted the Sahabi's mother to forgive him.

How did the Sahabi's mother react to the Prophet's instruction to Bilal?

The Sahabi's mother forgave her son, expressing her love for him and asking for a high place in Jannah for him, which ultimately allowed him to say 'laillaha illallah'.

What lesson does the speaker draw from the story of Abdullah ibn Umar and the man carrying his mother during Hajj?

The speaker highlights that no amount of service or devotion to one's parents can fully repay the kindness and sacrifices made by a mother, as even the pain of childbirth cannot be equalized by such acts.

Why is the connection with one's parents significant in Islam?

The connection with one's parents is significant because honoring and loving them is directly linked to one's relationship with Allah, and it is considered a major aspect of a Muslim's duties.

What is the closing prayer of the speaker in the script?

The speaker prays for Allah to honor them with 'birrul walidayn', make them from those who will receive it from their own children, and bless the Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.