10 Self Help Books That Changed My Life! (here's what I learned...)
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful video, the speaker shares their personal experiences with self-help books, offering valuable insights and lessons learned. They discuss the importance of setting boundaries, building self-worth and confidence, and adopting a millionaire mindset. The speaker also emphasizes the power of small daily improvements, the impact of subconscious beliefs on wealth, and the significance of understanding one's attachment style for healthier relationships. With a focus on self-development and healing, the video provides a concise guide to personal growth through literature.
Takeaways
- π The book 'The Book of Boundaries' by Melissa Urban is recommended for learning to stand up for oneself and setting boundaries in various relationships.
- πͺ 'Why Men Love Bitches' is a life-changing book that teaches self-respect and how to expect others to treat you well, not as a dating guide but as a self-value guide.
- π± 'Atomic Habits' emphasizes the '1% rule' for gradual self-improvement, suggesting that small daily improvements are more sustainable and effective than drastic changes.
- π 'You Are a Badass' is a self-development favorite that promotes self-healing and self-discovery, and advises seeking personal growth rather than revenge when wronged.
- π° 'Secrets of a Millionaire Mind' discusses the importance of a wealthy mindset for building wealth and understanding the energy around money.
- π 'Think and Grow Rich for Women' offers updated advice and stories for women looking to build wealth and success, focusing on the energy of money.
- π΅ 'You Are a Badass at Making Money' is not recommended as highly as other books mentioned, as it is more of an introduction to the concept of wealth and mindset.
- β€οΈ Understanding attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, secure) is crucial for balancing relationships and personal well-being.
- π§ 'You Can Heal Your Life' and 'The Body Keeps the Score' explore the connection between emotional trauma, physical pain, and the importance of healing.
- π The speaker encourages following them on social media for more insights and support on personal development and self-help topics.
Q & A
What is the main focus of 'The Book of Boundaries' by Melissa Urban?
-The main focus of 'The Book of Boundaries' is to teach readers how to stand up for themselves, set limits, and establish boundaries in various areas of life such as the workplace, relationships, friendships, and with neighbors.
What is the key takeaway from 'Why Men Love Bitches' that the speaker found life-changing?
-The key takeaway from 'Why Men Love Bitches' is the importance of holding oneself with high value, respecting oneself, and showing others how to treat you by being someone who knows what she wants and is not afraid to walk away when not treated well.
What is the '1% rule' mentioned in 'Atomic Habits'?
-The '1% rule' in 'Atomic Habits' suggests that individuals should strive to be 1% better every day, showing up as a slightly improved version of themselves, which is more sustainable and effective for long-term change.
How does 'You Are a Badass Every Day' help with self-sabotage and self-discovery?
-'You Are a Badass Every Day' helps with self-sabotage and self-discovery by providing insights into the ego, intuition, subconscious mind, and understanding what self-sabotage looks like, encouraging personal growth and self-improvement.
What is the significance of a 'financial thermostat' as discussed in 'Secrets of a Millionaire Mind'?
-The 'financial thermostat' in 'Secrets of a Millionaire Mind' refers to the internal setting of what one feels they are worthy of having in terms of money. It influences one's spending, saving, and earning habits.
Why does the speaker recommend 'Think and Grow Rich for Women' for women in business or those looking to build wealth?
-The speaker recommends 'Think and Grow Rich for Women' because it provides stories of successful women, updated advice, and perspectives on the energy of money, which can be beneficial for women in business or those looking to build wealth.
What is the main theme of 'You Are a Badass at Making Money'?
-The main theme of 'You Are a Badass at Making Money' is understanding the energy around money and wealth, and developing a mindset that is conducive to financial success and independence.
What is the concept of 'attachment styles' as discussed in the script?
-The concept of 'attachment styles' refers to the different ways individuals relate to others in terms of love and closeness, including anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles, which can impact relationships and personal well-being.
How does 'You Can Heal Your Life' relate to the body's response to trauma and emotions?
-'You Can Heal Your Life' discusses how the body holds onto trauma and emotions, which can manifest as physical pain, and provides insights into understanding and addressing these manifestations for healing.
What advice does the speaker give for those who have experienced hardship and have emotional pain?
-The speaker suggests reading 'You Can Heal Your Life', 'The Body Keeps the Score', and 'The Body's Wisdom' as a trifecta of books that can help understand and address emotional pain and its physical manifestations due to past hardships.
Outlines
π Self-Help Book Reviews and Life Lessons
The speaker shares their experiences with various self-help books over the past year and a half, focusing on the lessons learned and their value. They discuss 'The Book of Boundaries' by Melissa Urban, highlighting its usefulness for setting personal limits and boundaries in different aspects of life. 'Why Men Love Bitches' is mentioned as a life-changing book that teaches self-respect and how to command respect from others. 'Atomic Habits' is praised for its 1% rule, encouraging daily incremental improvements. 'This New Version of You' is recommended for self-healing and self-discovery, while 'The Secrets of a Millionaire Mind' is suggested for building wealth and a wealthy mindset. 'Think and Grow Rich for Women' is noted for its stories of women who have built wealth, but the speaker suggests other books might be better. The speaker also mentions 'You Are a Badass at Making Money' as a good introduction to the energy around money and wealth.
π Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships
The speaker delves into the concept of attachment styles, explaining the differences between anxious, avoidant, and secure attachments. Anxious individuals are described as being preoccupied with relationships and seeking reassurance, while avoidant individuals equate closeness with a loss of independence. Secure individuals are portrayed as comfortable with love and security, providing warmth and reassurance. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own attachment style and how it can affect relationships. 'You Can Heal Your Life' is mentioned as a book that explores how the body holds onto trauma and emotions, which can manifest as physical pain. The speaker suggests that understanding these connections can be beneficial for those who have experienced emotional turmoil.
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Keywords
π‘Self-help books
π‘Boundaries
π‘Confidence
π‘Atomic Habits
π‘Healing
π‘Wealth mindset
π‘Financial thermostat
π‘Attachment styles
π‘Self-sabotage
π‘Glow up
π‘Trauma
Highlights
The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban teaches how to stand up for oneself and set boundaries in various relationships.
Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov is a life-changing book that emphasizes self-respect and setting personal standards.
Atomic Habits by James Clear introduces the 1% rule for incremental self-improvement.
The New Jim by Jim Kwik is recommended for those in their 'healing' phase, offering insights into self-discovery and overcoming self-sabotage.
The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker discusses building a wealthy mindset and understanding the energy around money.
Think and Grow Rich for Women by Sharon Lechter updates the classic with stories of female founders and wealth-building.
You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero is not recommended; better alternatives are suggested for understanding money energy and mindset.
Attachment styles in relationships are discussed, with anxious, avoidant, and secure styles impacting how individuals seek reassurance and closeness.
You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay explores how the body retains emotional trauma that can manifest as physical pain.
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk delves into the connection between trauma, emotion, and physical manifestations.
The importance of understanding one's attachment style for personal growth and relationship balance is emphasized.
The concept of a 'glow up' is introduced as a form of self-improvement that may not always be externally visible but is significant for personal well-being.
The transcript suggests that seeking revenge is less beneficial than focusing on personal growth and 'glow up' after being wronged.
The role of the subconscious mind in shaping everyday life, including financial decisions and relationships, is highlighted.
The transcript recommends subscribing for more insights and following the speaker on social media for additional content.
Transcripts
so I read all these self-help books in
the last year and a half and I'm going
to let you know if they're worth it and
the lessons I learned from them so you
don't have to read them and make sure to
subscribe down below gives me a thumbs
up and let's get started the first book
is the book of boundaries by Melissa
Urban this book is great if you want to
learn how to stand up for yourself how
to set a limit how to set a boundary
whether it's in the workplace
relationship a friendship a neighbor
it's basically a good guide on what to
do when you don't know what to do the
majority of this book is basically just
templates of things to say and how to
say boundary now do I think this is an
essential book yes if you're just very
new into learning when to draw a line
and walk away but if you already know
how to do that you don't need to read
this why men love
this is tabbed this book was one
of the books that changed my life in
terms of sense of myself confidence yes
this is a dating book but I don't view
it as that I view this as a book of
holding yourself with high value how to
respect yourself and show other people
how to treat you and there's this
concept in this book between the nice
girl aka the dmat and the the girl
who knows what she wants the is
someone who is not afraid to walk away
when she's not being treated nice she's
not whiny she's not begging for someone
to treat her right she knows who she is
she knows what she's worth and if you
are not treating her right she's going
to walk away but the nice girl that
dorat will people please will make
excuses for someone's poor actions will
constantly try to beg someone to be
there in her life because she doesn't
know how to be on her own so this is
great Atomic habits this is I think a
self-development book favorite I think
you have all seen this book heard of
this book every time I go into the
bookstore I just see this everywhere the
number one lesson I've learned from this
book which I talk about in my Tik toks
all the time and I've talked about on my
podcast is called the 1% rule meaning
you be better by 1% every day you show
up as your higher self by 1% % every day
this new version of You by 1% every day
because I feel like if you go to bed
tonight and tomorrow you show up as this
higher version of yourself by 100% it's
not sustainable first of all and you're
going to get imposture syndone you're
going to be like this is not me this is
not how I show up so if you just show up
by 1% which is so easy so doable over
time the trajectory of your life will
change the mountain as you I cannot
recommend this book enough if you are in
your healing girl era if you want to
have a better understanding within
yourself this book is phenomenal the
author has a bunch of other books
however this is the only one that I
recommend from her it's a short easy
read such a good introduction into
self-development self-healing
self-discovery when are you
self-sabotaging and what does that look
like your ego your intuition your
subconscious mind even and one thing I
took away from this book is that when
someone does us wrong don't seek out
revenge seek out a glow up within you
best types of glow up is when you feel
good in yourself and sometimes a glowup
is not something someone else can see
and that's okay because that is for you
the secrets of a Millionaire Mind this
is for all of girls that want to build
wealth and build a wealthy mindset as
you follow me on my channel and my
podcast glowing from within which you
should be listening to it you know I
talk about how our subconscious mind
plays a huge role in our everyday life
in the money we earn in our friendships
and our relationships and our
self-concept and our confidence our
brain is so powerful and when we want to
accumulate wealth we have to have a
wealthy money mindset and one of the
lessons I love in this book is it's
talking about how we kind of have a
financial thermostat right we have a
thermostat of what we feel worthy of
having is your financial thermostat set
towards spending saving earning this
whole book is understanding the energy
around money because money is an energy
and I highly recommend this it's a short
book so yes read this because it is so
small I flew through this so quickly
Think and Grow Rich for women um I read
this on my Kindle this is the same book
as thinking Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
however it's updated and more for women
and it's by Sharon lecher there's so
many stories in here from women Founders
and women who you know took a chance on
themselves and and creating their dream
life so if you're a woman in business or
you're starting a side hustle or you're
wanting to just build wealth within
yourself this is great because again
this talks about the energies of money
and the way that you view Money the way
you receive money you are a badass and
you are badass making money this was the
very first self-help book I've read
along with why men love and this
one is all about money I don't recommend
this one um I think these two books I
recommended in this video are much
better this is kind of like an
introduction into the energy around
money and wealth and your mindset and
this one is a good book again it's a
good introduction into self-development
into knowing yourself however I think
this book that I recommend is better
than this one so do I recommend these
yes if you're just getting started into
reading self-development but I feel like
over time there are a lot better books
attached we have an attachment style
whether you're an anxious attachment an
avoidant or secure so anxious people
right often are preoccupied with the
relationship and tend to worry about
their partner's ability to love them
back right they're anxious about the
relationship they need more reassurance
avoidance equate love and closeness with
loss of Independence right and
constantly trying to minimize closeness
and the thing is is a lot of anxious
people and a lot of avoidant people are
in relationships and it's this constant
pull and back of a cycle that you don't
want to be in and secure people are
people who feel comfortable with love
and security and they're warm and loving
and these are the types of people that
are really good for anxious people
because an anxious person wants
reassurance wants that love and the
secure person is able to give it because
they know that showing love does not
mean you're losing your freedom I think
there's nothing wrong with all three
attachments I think it's just knowing
what you are and what kind of
relationships you need in your life to
balance that out is what is key this
book is called you can heal your life
this kind of goes along with this book
um the body keeps a score our body holds
on to trauma it holds on to emotion and
ultimately that can manifest in physical
pain this book talks about in great
detail this one talks about in like you
know what area do you feel pain and then
what that means and it is really
fascinating to read if you have gone
through some hard stuff and you have AEM
Motion in your body these are great
along with the mountains youth that's
like a trifecta that I love so those are
all the books I read make sure to follow
me on Instagram and Tik Tok at w INSP Co
Victoria and follow this YouTube channel
because it helps me out so much and I
will see you guys in next video bye guys
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