How To Make Any Boring Conversation Flirty (Say This)

Summary

This video script offers a guide for men to transition from mundane conversations to meaningful interactions with women. It addresses common issues like being overly logical or too direct, and suggests a gradual approach to displaying intent. The speaker emphasizes the importance of teasing and push-pull dynamics to create attraction and build confidence. He also introduces the concept of progressive desensitization to overcome intent anxiety, providing actionable steps and offering a mentorship program for personalized coaching.

Takeaways

• 😀 The speaker used to struggle with initiating man-to-woman interactions and often ended conversations without sparking the necessary attraction.
• 🔍 A common mistake is either keeping conversations too logical and boring or being too blunt and direct, both of which can hinder progress in relationships.
• 💡 The speaker suggests that physical attraction is just an initial intrigue for women, and a well-run conversation is crucial for deeper connection.
• 🚶‍♂️ To transition from platonic to romantic interactions, one must learn to display intent confidently, starting with small steps.
• 👶 The concept of 'baby stepping' into displaying intent is introduced, emphasizing gradual desensitization to reduce anxiety.
• 🌟 Teasing is highlighted as a crucial step in transitioning from logical to romantic conversations, serving as a playful way to introduce negative emotions.
• 🤔 Playful disagreement is suggested as an initial step towards teasing, helping to avoid constant agreement which can be uninteresting.
• 💬 The speaker recommends using push-pull techniques in teasing, which involves a mix of negative and positive emotions to keep the interaction engaging.
• 🔄 Incremental progression from teasing to flirting is encouraged, allowing for a smoother transition into displaying romantic intent.
• 📞 The speaker offers a mentorship program for those interested in more in-depth coaching and personal analysis of their dating and communication skills.

Q & A

What is the main issue the speaker addresses in the video script?

The speaker addresses the issue of struggling to transition from boring, platonic, logical conversations to engaging, man-to-woman interactions that can lead to attraction and dating.

What does the speaker describe as the two common mistakes made by men in conversations with women?

The two common mistakes are either keeping the conversation on a very boring logical level or being too blunt and direct, which can lead to either a 'blow me or blow me out' situation.

What is the speaker's advice for someone who is afraid to display intent in conversations with women?

The speaker advises to start by 'baby stepping' into displaying more intent, beginning with small, non-threatening compliments and gradually building up to more direct expressions of interest.

What is the concept of 'teasing' as introduced by the speaker?

Teasing is a concept where one playfully disagrees or gives a light-hearted negative response to create a more engaging and less predictable interaction, which can be a stepping stone to displaying intent.

What is the purpose of 'push-pull' in the context of the speaker's advice?

The purpose of 'push-pull' is to create a dynamic in the conversation where one moment you might be teasing or disagreeing (pushing away), and the next moment you could be complimenting or showing interest (pulling in), creating a balance of emotions.

What is the speaker's suggestion for someone who is completely new to displaying intent?

The speaker suggests starting with simple compliments like saying the person looks cute, and then gradually incorporating more intent as one becomes comfortable with the interaction.

What does the speaker mean by 'progressive desensitization'?

'Progressive desensitization' refers to the process of gradually exposing oneself to a feared situation or behavior in small increments to build confidence and reduce anxiety over time.

How does the speaker define 'intent anxiety'?

'Intent anxiety' is the fear or nervousness one might feel when trying to express romantic or sexual interest in a conversation, especially when it's a new or uncomfortable behavior for the person.

What is the speaker's view on the importance of physical attraction in the context of man-to-woman interactions?

The speaker believes that while physical attraction is important and can serve as an initial intrigue for women, it is not the only factor. Running the conversation well is also crucial for progressing the interaction.

What kind of program does the speaker offer for those who want to learn more about these concepts?

The speaker offers a mentorship program, which includes live coaching and one-on-one sessions, to help individuals improve their communication and dating skills.

What is the final call to action the speaker makes to the audience?

The speaker encourages the audience to click the link in the description to fill out an application for a free consultation call, where they can discuss their current situation and how to achieve their dating goals.

Outlines

00:00

😐 Overcoming Boring Conversations and Displaying Intent

The speaker discusses the common struggle of maintaining engaging conversations with women and transitioning from platonic to romantic interactions. They emphasize the importance of displaying intent confidently and gradually to avoid being seen as either overly direct or too reserved. The speaker shares personal experiences and offers actionable steps, such as starting with subtle compliments and gradually increasing the level of intent, to help viewers overcome their fears and improve their dating skills.

05:01

😜 The Art of Teasing and Push-Pull Dynamics

This paragraph delves into the concept of teasing as a bridge between boring conversations and displaying romantic intent. The speaker explains that teasing, which involves playful disagreement and mild negative emotional spikes, can make the transition to flirting smoother. They introduce the idea of push-pull, where after a tease, a light compliment is given to balance the interaction. The speaker encourages viewers to practice this technique to become more comfortable with displaying intent and to stand out from others who only offer praise.

10:02

📈 Building Confidence and Transitioning to Intent Display

The final paragraph focuses on the progression from teasing to confidently displaying intent. The speaker suggests that by starting with small, non-threatening interactions and gradually incorporating elements of attraction and teasing, one can build up to displaying intent without it feeling like a significant leap. They highlight the importance of practice and desensitization to make the process feel more natural and less intimidating. The speaker also promotes their coaching program for personalized guidance in mastering these concepts.

Keywords

💡Platonic conversation

A platonic conversation refers to a discussion that is friendly and non-romantic in nature. In the context of the video, the speaker discusses the struggle of transitioning from such conversations to more intimate interactions, emphasizing the need to overcome the limitations of platonic discussions to spark romantic interest, as exemplified by the phrase 'boring platonic logical conversation that leads nowhere'.

💡Intent

Intent in this video script refers to the display of romantic or sexual interest towards another person. The speaker mentions the importance of displaying intent as a man to progress from a platonic to a romantic interaction, noting that without it, one remains stuck in the 'nice guy' role, as seen in the line 'you need to understand that displaying intent is completely normal'.

💡Attraction

Attraction in the video is the feeling of being drawn towards someone, often on a physical or emotional level. The script discusses the need to spark the right level of attraction in a conversation to move beyond a logical exchange, as indicated by 'you're not sparking the right attraction and emotion that you need'.

💡Teasing

Teasing in the context of the video is a playful form of communication that involves light-hearted mockery or playful disagreement. It is presented as a bridge between boring conversation and direct intent, as in 'teasing is a nice happy medium that you could start to get comfortable with'.

💡Push-pull

Push-pull is a technique mentioned in the script that involves creating a balance of interest and disinterest in a conversation. It is used to create intrigue and keep the interaction dynamic, as the speaker explains 'that's when you would just sprinkle in the you're cute but blank, you're cute but I feel like you're low-key trouble'.

💡Desensitization

Desensitization in the video refers to the process of gradually becoming accustomed to something that initially causes anxiety or discomfort, such as displaying romantic intent. The speaker advises using baby steps to desensitize oneself to the nervousness associated with expressing romantic interest, as mentioned in 'the way you're gonna become confident in that situation is by going through it more and more times'.

💡Confidence

Confidence in this script is the self-assuredness required to express romantic interest and navigate social interactions effectively. The speaker discusses building confidence through practice and desensitization, as illustrated by 'you'll actually build up your core confidence on the way up'.

💡Logical level

The logical level refers to the surface or factual层面 of a conversation, devoid of emotional or romantic depth. The speaker criticizes conversations that remain at this level as 'very boring logical level or they try to just inject some direct style intent into the conversation'.

💡Nice guy

The 'nice guy' in the script represents a person who is friendly and well-intentioned but lacks the assertiveness or ability to express romantic interest. The video aims to help such individuals overcome their challenges, as indicated by 'I used to be that nice guy that would have conversations that would fizzle out'.

💡Mentorship program

A mentorship program in this context is a structured learning opportunity where an experienced individual (the mentor) guides and supports the learning and development of another person (the mentee). The speaker offers such a program to help men improve their dating and social skills, as seen in 'I do have a mentorship program in place the links in the description'.

Highlights

Struggling with boring platonic logical conversations that don't progress to man-to-woman interactions.

The importance of transitioning from logical conversation to sparking attraction and emotion.

Common mistake of keeping conversations on a boring logical level or being too blunt and direct.

Physical attraction in women is more about intrigue rather than just physical appeal.

The need for displaying intent in conversations to make them man-to-woman interactions.

Overcoming the fear of displaying intent by practicing in baby steps.

The concept of progressive desensitization to build confidence in displaying intent.

Starting with simple compliments like 'you look really cute' to ease into intent.

Using the word 'q' as a casual way to compliment and ease into deeper conversation.

The role of teasing in transitioning from platonic to flirtatious interactions.

Teasing as a way to introduce negative emotions in a playful manner.

The importance of balance between positive and negative emotions in conversations.

Starting with playful disagreements as a form of teasing.

Using push-pull techniques to transition from teasing to displaying intent.

The gradual progression from logical conversation to teasing, and then to displaying intent.

Building confidence through practice and desensitization to comfortably display intent.

Offering a mentorship program for one-on-one coaching on these concepts.

Encouraging viewers to apply for a free consultation call to discuss personal coaching.

Transcripts

are you someone that struggles with

boring platonic logical conversation

that leads nowhere if so I'm going to

show you guys the easiest steps needed

to transition from boring logical

conversation all the way to getting into

a man-to-woman interaction what that

progression looks like and more

importantly the applicable techniques

and lines you need to be doing to make

that transition this was something I've

struggled with for years before I

actually got this down pat okay I used

to be that nice guy that would have

conversations that would fizzle out they

wouldn't become well I would get a bunch

of nice to meet shoes and there's

nothing more frustrating than that when

you can finally go up and start talking

to the girls they're engaging they're

responding but you're not sparking the

right attraction and emotion that you

need to get to a point where it is man

to woman the biggest problem I see a lot

of guys doing is that they either keep

it on a very boring logical level or

they try to just inject some direct

style intent into the conversation

you're either the nice guy that's

completely afraid to display intent it's

nervous talking to you and you just

don't know how to do it and I'll show

you how to overcome that in this video

watch this in full or you're the guy

that just goes in you start conversation

but then you're just too blunt you're

too direct and you either give all your

power away or you're in this kind of

situation what we like to call is like

blow me or blow me out the girl's like

either about it right away or she's not

and from my experience most women are

not going to be about that because

they're not just turned on physically

like how men are yes physical attraction

is a thing with women they can look at

you and determine whether or not they

are somewhat attracted but from my

experience physical attraction is

nothing more than Intrigue from a girl's

position if she finds a guy attractive

she's intrigued to go and talk to him

and you still need to run the

conversation well to get that girl in

either situation you're probably not

getting the girls you really want

because you're just too boring and

logical you're not getting any women if

you're blunt and direct you're only

getting the girls that are already super

into you and we're already attracted to

you before you even started talking so I

don't like either one of those

approaches and for that reason let's

talk about the right things to do and

how you can overcome some of these

struggles the biggest problem that I was

doing wrong when I was going up and I

was talking to girls initially I didn't

even have the balls to say I'm attracted

to you or I think you're cute or I like

your hair I couldn't even do that if

you're at that level well then the first

thing you need to do is actually start

baby stepping your way into displaying

more intent you need to understand that

displaying intent is completely normal

it's something you need to do as a man

if you actually want to get the woman if

you want to make the interaction man to

woman there needs to be some level of

intent at some point and the only way to

get there is to be able to deliver

intent from a confident place if you

can't do it at all you're not going to

be able to just go in and do it from a

confident place which is why I said we

need to start practicing that to get

desensitized to it the way you're gonna

become confident in that situation is by

going through it more and more times so

right away the first time you do it yeah

it's going to be nerve-wracking and I

recommend you do it in baby steps so

you're not just going to go up to the

first girl you see and just say oh my

God I thought you were so attractive I

think you're so sexy I was wondering if

I could take you out on a date if you're

the guy that has intent anxiety that is

a nerve-wracking traumatic experience

and even if you were to try to do that

you're gonna panic and run away and be

terrified to do that again okay that's

like if you're afraid of heights and you

just go from jumping off of a one foot

cliff to trying to jump off the 50-foot

Cliff you may jump off but it would be a

traumatic experience you're not going to

be freed from that the way to build up

the confidence is incrementally through

desensitization Progressive

desensitization so what I want you to do

is instead of going from jumping off of

no Cliff to a 50-foot extremely

terrifying clip we're gonna do a five

foot cliff and a ten foot cliff and a 15

foot cliff and then a 20 foot cliff and

as you start building your way up it no

longer becomes that terrifying of a

process because the progression is very

small increments and you'll actually

build up your core confidence on the way

up so what tell guys to do is initially

what you could do the first couple times

you just want to sprinkle in the word q

if you can just sprinkle in the word q

it makes things a lot easier you don't

need to ask the girl out you don't need

to do all the stuff you could literally

just tell the girl honestly I thought

you looked really cute by the way I just

wanted to tell you that have a good day

take care if you're in conversation some

of you guys may just ask for directions

start talking to the girl and say anyway

I'm gonna get going I just wanted to say

you look really cute by the way take

care you can literally leave right after

that sentence but at least you said it

and you gave yourself the evidence it's

okay to say it that is like jumping off

that five foot cliff for some of you

guys that's not a big deal and you're

like dude that's like really easy okay

if that's easy then I recommend saying

it and not leaving the interaction at

some point in the interaction you could

say something like oh honestly you look

really cute by the way but like I was

just saying I just noticed that blah

blah blah blah and you can keep talking

just sprinkle in that little tiny line

for some of you guys that even may be

challenging so another easy thing you

could do to bridge the gap is instead of

just going right into intent you want to

focus on teasing before displaying

intent so instead of going from boring

logical talk to intent I think a nice

half step in between is teasing and this

is of a crucial step I actually spend a

whole module inside of my program going

in depth on teasing mastering the art of

teasing and going over applicable

techniques okay so I'm gonna give you

guys one or two in this little video

right here and for those of you that

actually want to learn more about these

Concepts I do have a mentorship program

in place the links in the description

you can fill out an application right

down below okay I'll talk more about

that at the end of the video but if you

guys do want live coaching one to one

click that link okay but aside from that

let's talk about teasing and why this is

such a crucial step the reason most

dudes don't do it I think it's just like

it's not something that's commonly

taught in this industry but also if you

don't do it it makes the progression

from platonic logical to man to woman a

very big step and when something is a

big jump you're going to be very likely

to not do it or be afraid to do it so I

like teasing because it's a nice happy

medium that you could start to get

comfortable with and then once you're

here I'll even show you how you can baby

step teasing into flirting in a very

subtle way too okay so let's talk about

teasing instead of pesticizing the girl

or complimenting the girl what we're

actually going to do with teasing is be

pushing the girl away we're gonna be

telling her either a reason it doesn't

work or at the very least we're gonna

give her some kind of negative emotional

spiking out you don't need to be a

[ __ ] or an [ __ ] and say like mean

things to the girl to start teasing her

but I think she needs to experience some

kind of negative emotion even if it's a

small little bit it's automatically

going to make the interaction a little

bit more polarizing and not so

pedestalizing walking on eggshells

praising the girl which is what a lot of

you guys are doing if you have intent

anxiety you're probably afraid to give

the girl any negative emotion and you're

used to just complimenting or

pesticizing or maybe not even doing that

because you're afraid of doing that so

the first step I think you guys could be

doing in the teasing side of of things

is just sprinkling in the tiniest bit of

negative emotional Spike and that would

look something like a playful disagree

you want to playfully disagree with the

girl in the set and the reason this is

powerful is because again most nice guys

are just in agreement with everything

that the girl says they're either like

supplementing to the girl or just like

praising the girl or pedicizing the girl

it's nothing but positive emotions all

right if this is positive and this is

negative down here

the gut nice guys only are up here I

want you to start practicing giving the

girl small negative spikes because it's

gonna separate you from every other dude

that she talks to and that way when

there is a little bit of negative to

actually sprinkle in the positive which

would be intent it's not that big of a

step and it actually makes the net

around zero okay so instead of

pedestalizing or instead of being a

[ __ ] I like a combination of both

because that's what's ultimately going

to get you a positive result and it's

gonna be an easy step for those of you

guys that actually can't just display

intent and also keep in mind when it

comes to teasing there's a Vibe behind

teasing most dudes they don't have the

vibe to deliver powerful man to woman

intent so for them to go from logical to

powerful man to woman they can't do it

if you guys can start getting in the

habit of teasing and getting that

playful fun vibe to go from there to a

little bit of push pull is a very nice

transition and I think you'll actually

be able to execute on that so with that

being said I would like you guys to

playfully disagree with the girl what no

way or some of you guys that are a

little bit more ballsy you could even

add in like an F-bomb honestly what [ __ ]

no no [ __ ] way are you are you

[ __ ] serious no way that's a good

small little negative emotional Spike

it's not even really teasing the girl

it's just disagreeing which is the first

step towards teasing is giving the girl

some negative Spike giving her a little

bit of a push the last piece that I want

to talk about is the idea of push

pulling and I've talked about push

pulling before you guys know what that

is but when you start to tease the girl

first right on the fact that she's

either like cocky like what wow or what

ew oh my God that was so cocky or no way

I don't even believe you that's [ __ ]

you're a liar or you're a bad influencer

oh my God you're trouble you got to get

away any one of these is a little bit of

a tease whatever you're teasing the girl

on you could take that adjective or that

concept and you turn that into the

push-pull and that's when you would just

sprinkle in the you're cute but blank

you're cute but I feel like you're

low-key trouble I feel like you're

low-key of Brad I feel like you might be

a bad influence I feel like I don't know

I can't trust Latinas whatever you were

already teasing the girl about you just

you go from platonic logical get to know

you talk then to a disagree or a tease

about something once the combo is going

well you could sprinkle into your Cube

but say you're cute but that was so

cocky oh my God I can't right that's a

easy transition to baby step your way

into displaying more intent the problem

that you guys do is that you'll just get

into boring conversations small talk

question answer question answer you

never tease the girl and you never

display in 10 because that's a big jump

for a lot of you dudes so I'm telling

you take that step start teasing the

girl and then from there you could take

the teases and turn those into push

pulls and that's what's gonna give

yourself permission to make that easy

progression and over time you'll

actually get comfortable doing that once

you get comfortable doing that you'll

have confidence around that situation

and at some point you'll actually be

able to just look at the girl with

confidence and certainty because you've

gone through this process and you can

confidently display antenna that's an

easy progression that most of you nice

guys that struggle with this kind of

stuff could start implementing to start

getting a real result okay hope you guys

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Kyle signing out

peace out

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