Let's talk about sex

Bjorn Andreas Bull-Hansen
10 Jul 202415:41

Summary

TLDRIn this video, the host discusses the alarming decline in sexual activity among young people, particularly men, and its impact on birth rates. Factors like social media, dating apps, education, career focus, and falling testosterone levels are highlighted as potential reasons. The speaker encourages embracing natural masculinity and femininity and warns against the negative effects of digital distractions on real-life relationships.

Takeaways

  • 📉 There is a notable decline in sexual activity among young people, especially young men.
  • 🔢 In 2018, 28% of men and 18% of women aged 18-30 reported no sexual activity, and in 2021, around 20% of men and women under 35 had not had sex in the past year.
  • 📱 Social media, smartphone use, and dating apps have changed dating behavior, with women rating men lower in attractiveness than vice versa.
  • 🎓 Education and career pursuits result in women having fewer children later in life.
  • 🤝 Lack of social skills, exacerbated by the digital age, contributes to less face-to-face interaction.
  • 🧬 Declining testosterone levels in young men result in lower sex drive.
  • 😟 The #MeToo movement has made some young men fearful of approaching women due to potential negative labeling.
  • 👫 Society is witnessing a demonization of positive masculinity and femininity, impacting young people's perceptions of their own gender roles.
  • 🌿 The speaker advocates for returning to natural, real-life interactions and celebrating traditional masculinity and femininity.
  • 🌍 An observation was made about the unusual lack of mosquitoes and flies in a Scandinavian forest during July, highlighting potential environmental changes.

Q & A

  • What is the main topic discussed in the video?

    -The main topic discussed in the video is the decline in sexual activity and birth rates among young people in Western and developed countries.

  • Why is the speaker hiding in a shelter?

    -The speaker is hiding in a shelter to protect his location because he found chanterelles and doesn't want to reveal where he is, as it's a serious matter in Scandinavian culture to protect chanterelle locations.

  • What statistics did the speaker find disturbing regarding sexual activity among young people?

    -The speaker found it disturbing that in 2018, 28% of men and 18% of women aged 18 to 30 reported no sex ever, and in 2021, around 20% of men and women under 35 had not had sex during the last year. This is a significant increase from 2008 when the number was under 10%.

  • What are some reasons the speaker suggests for the decline in sexual activity among young people?

    -The speaker suggests reasons such as social media, smartphone use, dating apps, education and career priorities, lack of social skills, and a decrease in testosterone levels in young men.

  • How does the speaker feel about the term 'sexual market value'?

    -The speaker personally dislikes the term 'sexual market value', but mentions it in relation to how women rate men lower in attractiveness on dating apps.

  • What does the speaker believe is contributing to the decline in birth rates?

    -The speaker believes that the decline in sexual activity among young people, especially men, is leading to people having children much later in life, which in turn results in fewer children being born.

  • What personal anecdote does the speaker share about his own life?

    -The speaker shares that he threw away his smartphone more than three years ago and doesn't miss it, suggesting that life is better without it.

  • What does the speaker suggest about the role of masculinity and femininity in society?

    -The speaker suggests that society needs to get back to celebrating masculinity and femininity, and that people should be proud of their natural qualities.

  • What is the speaker's view on the demonization of masculinity?

    -The speaker believes that positive masculinity is being demonized as 'toxic masculinity', which is contributing to the decline in sexual activity and birth rates.

  • What unusual observation does the speaker make about the environment in the video?

    -The speaker observes that there are no mosquitoes or flies in the Scandinavian forest in July, which is unusual and something he has never experienced before.

Outlines

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🔥 Declining Sexual Activity Among Youth

The speaker begins by addressing the serious topic of declining sexual activity and birth rates in Western and developed countries. He mentions his location in a shelter to protect his privacy and discusses disturbing statistics from a 2018 poll, which showed that 28% of men and 18% of women between the ages of 18 and 30 reported having no sexual experience. The speaker also notes a significant increase in the number of people under 35 who had not engaged in sexual activity within the last year, from under 10% in 2008 to around 20% in 2021. He suggests that this trend could lead to a decline in population and emphasizes the importance of addressing this issue.

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📱 Impact of Technology on Dating and Relationships

In this paragraph, the speaker delves into the reasons behind the decline in sexual activity, particularly among young men. He highlights the influence of social media, smartphones, and dating apps, which have altered dating behaviors. Research indicates that women rate men as less attractive on these platforms, leading to a perceived increase in their 'sexual market value.' The speaker also discusses the impact of education and career pursuits on women's decisions to have fewer children later in life. Additionally, he points out the decline in social skills and the falling testosterone levels in young men, which may contribute to a reduced sex drive. He personally adds that men, especially young ones, are becoming more hesitant to approach women due to fear of being labeled negatively, such as being called 'creeps.'

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🌳 Returning to Natural and Authentic Relationships

The speaker emphasizes the need to return to celebrating masculinity and femininity and encourages young men and women to be proud of their identities. He argues against the demonization of masculinity and the negative portrayal of men in society. The speaker also discusses his personal decision to abandon his smartphone three years ago, claiming that life is better without it. He suggests that people should focus on real-life interactions and relationships rather than digital distractions. He criticizes the current trend of women adopting extreme appearances and attitudes that may deter men from finding them attractive. The speaker concludes by urging viewers to embrace authenticity and natural behaviors in relationships.

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🌲 Observations on Nature and Unusual Absence of Insects

In the final paragraph, the speaker shifts focus to his observations of the natural environment, specifically noting the unusual absence of mosquitoes and flies in the Scandinavian forest during July. He reflects on the importance of reconnecting with nature and the need to return to what is real and natural. The speaker also hints at the potential recognition of his location by viewers, prompting him to end the video. He concludes by encouraging viewers to like, subscribe, and comment on the video, inviting them to share their thoughts on the discussed topics.

Mindmap

Keywords

💡Sex

In the video, 'sex' is the central topic being discussed. The speaker addresses the decline in sexual activity among young people, particularly men, which is linked to the decrease in birth rates in developed countries. This is a serious societal issue as it impacts the future population dynamics. The speaker also uses the topic of sex to discuss broader issues like masculinity, femininity, and societal expectations.

💡Birth Rates

The term 'birth rates' refers to the number of live births per 1,000 people in a given year. In the video, the speaker highlights the decline in birth rates in Western and developed countries, which is a significant concern due to the aging population and the potential for population decline. This is directly related to the decrease in sexual activity and the delayed age of having children.

💡Virgins

'Virgins' in the context of the video refers to individuals who have not engaged in sexual activity. The speaker cites statistics showing that a significant percentage of young men and women, particularly in the age group of 18 to 30, reported being virgins or having had no sex since the age of 18. This is indicative of the broader trend of reduced sexual activity among the younger generation.

💡Sexual Market Value

The concept of 'sexual market value' is mentioned in relation to how women rate men on dating apps. It implies the perceived attractiveness or desirability of individuals in the context of seeking romantic or sexual partners. The speaker criticizes this concept, suggesting it contributes to unrealistic expectations and impacts how people view themselves and others in the dating scene.

💡Education and Career

The speaker discusses how focusing on education and career can lead to women having children later in life or fewer children overall. This is tied to the broader theme of the decline in birth rates and the impact of societal priorities on personal life choices and demographic trends.

💡Social Skills

The term 'social skills' is used to describe the ability to interact effectively with others. The speaker suggests that the reliance on smartphones and digital communication has led to a decline in face-to-face social interactions, which in turn affects the development of social skills. This is relevant to the video's theme as it impacts how people form relationships and engage in social activities.

💡Testosterone

'Testosterone' is a hormone that plays a significant role in the sex drive of men. The speaker mentions that the levels of testosterone in young men are falling dramatically, which could contribute to a reduced sex drive and, consequently, a decrease in sexual activity.

💡Masculinity

The concept of 'masculinity' is discussed in the video in relation to societal perceptions and expectations. The speaker criticizes the demonization of masculinity and encourages embracing positive aspects of being a man. This ties into the broader discussion about societal attitudes towards gender roles and how they affect personal identity and relationships.

💡Femininity

Similar to 'masculinity,' 'femininity' is discussed in the context of societal expectations and the importance of embracing one's identity. The speaker encourages both men and women to be proud of their respective gender identities and to value the qualities associated with being a man or a woman.

💡Chantels

'Chantels' in the video refers to a location or place that the speaker is trying to protect. Although not directly related to the main theme, it is mentioned as a reason for the speaker's choice to film inside a shelter, indicating a desire for privacy and security.

💡Smartphone

The speaker discusses the impact of smartphones on social interactions and personal relationships. He mentions having discarded his own smartphone three years prior and advocates for a return to more traditional, face-to-face forms of communication. This is relevant to the video's theme as it highlights the potential negative effects of digital technology on human connection.

Highlights

The speaker discusses the decline in birth rates in Western and developed countries, highlighting the issue of aging populations and potential extinction.

28% of men and 18% of women aged 18-30 reported no sex ever in a 2018 poll, indicating a significant number of virgins in that age group.

In 2021, around 20% of men and women under 35 had not had sex during the last year, compared to under 10% in 2008, showing a dramatic decline in sexual activity among young people.

The speaker mentions the impact of social media, smartphone use, and dating apps on dating behavior, suggesting that women rate men lower in attractiveness than men rate women.

Education and career focus is linked to women having fewer children and at a later age, contributing to the decline in birth rates.

A lack of social skills due to reduced face-to-face interactions is identified as a factor in the decline of sexual activity among young people.

The speaker notes a dramatic fall in testosterone levels among young men, potentially leading to less sex drive.

The 'me too' effect is discussed, where men are scared of approaching women due to fear of being labeled negatively.

The demonization of masculinity and the concept of 'toxic masculinity' are mentioned as contributing factors to the decline in sexual activity.

The speaker encourages celebrating masculinity and femininity and being proud of one's identity.

The importance of intimacy and sex as a natural part of life is emphasized, countering the trend of digital distractions.

The speaker shares his personal experience of discarding his smartphone three years ago and the positive impact it had on his life.

The speaker discusses the perception of women's attractiveness, noting that obesity and a hostile attitude towards men can be deterrents.

The speaker observes a lack of mosquitoes and flies in Scandinavia during July, which is unusual and worth noting.

The speaker concludes by encouraging viewers to be better than the hostile attitudes often found online, promoting a more positive approach to gender relations.

Transcripts

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in this video we are going to talk about

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sex yeah that's

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right your Uncle B sitting there by the

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campfire is going to talk about sex

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that's right and I'll give the good

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people um few moments to um to write

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funny

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comments um but it's actually a very

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serious matter uh I have U come across

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some disturbing numbers some statistics

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that uh we need to uh talk

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about uh first of all why am I inside

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this shelter um well actually because I

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don't want to Ral my location because I

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found

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Chantels yes hundreds and I don't want

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to reveal where I am this is a very

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Scandinavian thing we protect our

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Chantal U places

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um with uh everything we

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have it's a serious matter in a recent

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video I talked about the decline in

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birth rates in Western you know and

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developed countries and that's an

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obvious problem um because the

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populations are getting older and older

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and eventually we will die

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out and closely linked to

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that is

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well six of

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course and if you look at the numbers

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it's quite disturbing

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especially when you look at young people

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now I made some notes because I can't

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remember all these numbers so let's go

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back to

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2018 uh there was a poll and it the

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results were

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shocking um and this is uh concerning uh

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people between I believe it was between

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the ages of of 18 and

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30 and in that age group

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28% of men and 18% of women reported no

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sex ever so basically they were virgins

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or um that they had not had sex since

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the age of

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18 um it needs to be said that as men

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gets closer to to uh you know 30 in that

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group you know the older men in that

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group uh the number was much much lower

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in

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2021 around 20% of men and women under

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35 had not had sex during the last

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year in 2008 that number was under 10%

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all these polls all these statistics

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they point at the same problem we are

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seeing a quite dramatic decline

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in sexual activity among young people

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and especially young men this is a

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problem because not only are young

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people having less sex but also it means

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that people are having children much

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later in life and that again means that

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they will have fewer children than

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previous

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generations and from that we can see

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that you know the birth rates are going

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down quite

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dramatically well since we are talking

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about sex I'll I'll get my Wen shirt off

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it's yeah I know um you are free to make

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all the jokes you want in the comment

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section it's comment section of

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course um and um that's all fine

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um but it it is July actually so

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yeah it is it was a cold morning

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actually but it's getting warmer

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now the people who did actual research

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on this they have um basically arrived

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at the same conclusions and they are

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pointing

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at several reasons why this is happening

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and um I find it interesting so I'll

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just briefly uh read uh these bullet

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points to you um so why is this

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happening well social media smartphone

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use and dating apps it has

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changed um dating Behavior or mating

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behavior so the research shows that

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women rate men on these dating apps much

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lower in attractiveness than men rate

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women um it's mentioned her inflated

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perception of her so-called sexual

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market value me personally I hate that

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term but anyway education and career um

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it tends

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to result in women having fewer children

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and children later in life for obvious

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reasons um also lack of social skills um

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you know my ation we we had to develop

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social skills uh we didn't have any

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smartphone or anything like that but now

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you you know you don't really have to

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interact face to face with people uh so

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much um and

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also and this is this is an important

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one

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um the testosterone level in young

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men is just falling dramatically and

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that should result in you know less sex

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drive

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basically um I will personally add to

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this um that there is a me to effect

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here men got scared of approaching women

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especially young men especially when

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you're maybe you know less confident and

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you hear and you read about all these

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cases where men are BAS basically called

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bad things for approaching women uh

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they're called creeps and so on um you

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get scared you know of approaching women

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if you're a young man that's that's

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natural you

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know and I will also personally add that

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we are seeing and we have seen for a

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long time

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a they demonize men and masculinity

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positive real masculinity it's being

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demonized toxic masculinity and all that

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you know all of these things that I

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mentioned now um and many other things I

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guess they all contribute to this

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disturbing Trend where

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people you know especially young people

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are having less sex now not only is sex

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of course a should be a a an important

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part of your life you know um but we

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need it

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in order to survive a

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suspicious yeah I've uh I've come out

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and I've changed the microphone so I

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don't know how the sound will be but I I

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decided that it would it will be very

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difficult just from this footage to to

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tell where I am

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um um but yeah um I'm going to

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harvest some of the

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larger

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chantells um just enough for my steak

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tonight and uh leave the rest for a few

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days and we'll

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see um yeah

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you know I I think we need to get back

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to

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celebrating masculinity and

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femininity we need to get back

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to being

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proud you know of who you

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are so you know if you're a man why you

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should be proud of your masculinity and

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if you're a woman you should be proud of

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your

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femininity

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and you know I want to to to especially

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young men and women out there I want to

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I want to tell you this you know you

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matter you have

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qualities that matter you matter you're

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important and

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I I hate this idea that you know more

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and more people they they are just

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giving up on on finding someone I think

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that life should

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include intimacy and and and sex and you

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know it's it's a natural part of

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life you know and we need to get away

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from this all the fake stuff you know

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the digital stuff and sitting there for

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hours you know just looking at the

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smartphone and all

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that and if you have been following this

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channel you know that I threw away my

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smartphone uh it's more than three years

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since I did that now

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and you know it was a good thing to do

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you know I I don't miss it it's it's

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just life is better without it

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and you know we we need to get back to

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the basics you know

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and because where we are now it's it's

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not healthy it's not

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good uh and it's it's hurting

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people many of you have uh seen my video

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where I uh I was out by the Sea and I

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talked about um you know men opting out

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of

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you know the

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whole dating mess and and and all of

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that and uh in that video I said

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something along the lines so you

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know the uncomfortable truth that women

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don't want to hear is that uh we have

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gotten to a place now

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where women are not always seen as

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attractive or should I say less and less

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women are

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perceived as attractive and it has to do

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with you know things like obesity let's

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be honest and a certain attitude you

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know a hostile attitude towards men and

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um also a rather

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extreme rather extreme Look to You Know

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many you know the blue hair nose ring

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thing and all that it's quite extreme

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you know and and especially men who have

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um who want to have kids and so on they

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they're not going to be attracted uh by

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that um and and that's a truth that

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people don't like to hear uh but it's

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still the truth you know

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so again you know we need to get back to

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what's natural what is right what is

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how we are meant to be and I I find it

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difficult to find the right words to to

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express this but I think you all know

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what I'm talking about here I'm out

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there in nature and there's a reason for

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that you know let's get back to what's

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real what's natural who we are as a

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species you know men and women and all

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that it's not complicated it really

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isn't you know

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and

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um in my experience is you know when you

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are as a man honest about these things

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and you know it that in itself is

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actually seen as attractive by women

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these you know people on the internet

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and so on I'm I guess I'm on the

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internet as well but they're probably

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not going to tell you that because it's

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always it's so hostile you know

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it's so full of

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conflict and oh women are the worst or

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men are the worst and and all of

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that let's let's be better than that

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shall we I

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mean we're getting nowhere with that

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kind of

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attitude I'm getting into uh areas now

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that people might recognize so I better

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stop filming um but I want to end this

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video with just mentioning something

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that I have observed during the last few

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weeks no

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mosquitoes no flies

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nothing and I'm in Scandinavia in a spce

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forest there should be I mean it's July

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it should

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be a million mosquitoes here

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and I know this this is a different

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topic but I thought I would mention it

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because I've never experienced something

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like this before what's

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happening no

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mosquitoes not a single

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one okay uh I hope you enjoyed the video

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and if you did you know like And

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subscribe uh if you want to that would

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be awesome and um leave a comment let me

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know what you think about the whole

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mess you know um okay have a wonderful

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day and I'll uh I'll see you soon bye

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