Why getting a girlfriend is (a lot) easier than you think...
Summary
TLDRThe speaker reminisces about his eighth-grade crush, highlighting the importance of shared interests and mutual attraction. He emphasizes the significance of identifying the type of partner one desires for a long-term relationship, rather than seeking short-term connections. The video encourages self-reflection to understand what makes a man attractive to his ideal woman, suggesting that being genuine and having a clear purpose in life are key attributes. The speaker also discusses the impact of negative feedback and the importance of not seeking validation from everyone, but focusing on the right partner.
Takeaways
- 😄 The narrator fondly recalls an eighth-grade crush, highlighting the excitement of mutual attraction and the joy of communication.
- 🤔 The narrator reflects on the importance of shared interests, such as basketball, as a foundation for attraction and connection.
- 🧐 The narrator acknowledges the power of physical attraction and personality traits in forming a crush, and how these can outweigh perceived negatives.
- 🤷♂️ The narrator admits to not having a clear idea of what makes him attractive to the 'girlfriend' he envisions for his future, emphasizing self-discovery as part of the journey.
- 👫 The narrator emphasizes the difference between seeking any girlfriend and seeking a life partner, advocating for a deeper, more meaningful connection.
- 💭 The narrator suggests an exercise of self-reflection to identify what qualities one finds attractive in a partner and how these mirror one's own qualities.
- 💪 The narrator identifies himself as masculine and driven, suggesting that such traits may attract a feminine partner, and vice versa.
- 👎 The narrator discusses the negative impact of rejection and backlash from peers and how it led to a realization that not every girl is meant to be attracted to him.
- 🌟 The narrator values authenticity and individuality, stating that being universally attractive may indicate a lack of genuine personality.
- 👀 The narrator encourages viewers to actively seek out relationships and self-knowledge, rather than passively waiting for the right person to come along.
- 👋 The narrator concludes by sharing some of the qualities he values in a potential partner, such as being a great mother, having a great smile, and having a purpose in life.
Q & A
What was the narrator's experience in eighth grade regarding his crush?
-In eighth grade, the narrator had a massive crush on the most attractive girl in his class, who also had a crush on him. They would talk every night after school, and he cherished these conversations, which often lasted 1 to 2 hours or more.
What was the significance of basketball in the narrator's relationship with his crush?
-Basketball was significant because both the narrator and his crush loved the sport, which was a common interest that attracted them to each other.
How did the narrator describe his crush's physical attractiveness?
-The narrator described his crush as very physically attractive, which was one of the main reasons he was attracted to her.
What does the narrator believe are the two main things that attracted his crush to him?
-The narrator believes his crush was attracted to him because they both liked basketball and possibly because he blushed in class, which she might have found attractive.
How did the narrator perceive the negatives of his crush and himself?
-The narrator acknowledges that both he and his crush had negatives, but these were outweighed by the positives they found in each other, such as their shared interest in basketball and physical attraction.
What is the narrator's perspective on what makes a man attractive to a woman?
-The narrator believes that being masculine, driven, and ambitious are attractive qualities in a man, especially to a feminine woman.
What advice does the narrator give for finding a long-term partner?
-The narrator advises reflecting on what makes you a man and finding a partner who values those qualities. He emphasizes the importance of not seeking validation from every woman but focusing on the one you want to spend your life with.
What is the narrator's view on the importance of personality in building long-term relationships?
-The narrator believes that personality is crucial in building long-term relationships, as it is through personality that one can truly connect with a partner and build a lasting bond.
How does the narrator handle negative feedback or rejection from girls?
-The narrator has learned not to let negative feedback or rejection from girls affect him emotionally, understanding that it's not from the girl he wants to spend his life with and that it's a part of the process of finding the right person.
What qualities does the narrator value in a potential long-term partner?
-The narrator values qualities such as being a great mother, having a great smile that can light up his day, being physically attractive, having a purpose or ambition in life, and being feminine.
What is the narrator's approach to self-improvement and understanding oneself?
-The narrator suggests actively seeking out experiences, talking to women, and getting to know oneself to understand what one values in a partner and to grow as an individual.
Outlines
💞 High School Crush and Mutual Attraction
The speaker reminisces about an eighth-grade experience where he and the most attractive girl in his class had mutual crushes on each other. They would talk every night after school, with the speaker looking forward to these conversations immensely. The girl's attraction to him was likely due to their shared love of basketball and his physical attractiveness. The speaker also reflects on what he found attractive in her, which was a mix of physical and personality traits. He emphasizes the importance of identifying what makes a man attractive to the 'girlfriend' he wishes to attract, rather than just any girl, and encourages self-reflection to understand one's own masculine qualities.
🌟 Finding the Right Partner and Dealing with Rejection
The speaker discusses the challenge of finding a life partner rather than a casual girlfriend, highlighting the importance of identifying the type of woman he wants to spend his life with. He shares his experience of negative feedback from girls in school when he started making content, which initially affected him deeply. However, he learned not to let rejection from any girl affect him emotionally, as it's not from 'the girl' he's destined to be with. He stresses the importance of being genuine and true to oneself, as trying to appeal to everyone can make one seem fake. The speaker also mentions the qualities he values in a woman, such as being a great mother, having a smile that lights up his day, having a purpose in life, and embodying femininity. He concludes by encouraging viewers to actively seek out and get to know women, as well as to understand themselves better, which will make finding the right girlfriend easier.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Crush
💡Attraction
💡Basketball
💡Validation
💡Femininity
💡Masculinity
💡Personality
💡Reflection
💡Rejection
💡Ambition
💡Communication
Highlights
The narrator had a mutual crush with the most attractive girl in his eighth-grade class, leading to nightly conversations that were a highlight of his day.
Their shared interest in basketball was a significant factor in their mutual attraction.
The narrator reflects on the importance of physical attraction and personality traits in forming a crush.
The narrator acknowledges the negatives of the girl he had a crush on but emphasizes how the positives outweighed them.
The narrator suggests that identifying what makes a man attractive is essential for attracting the right partner.
The narrator discusses the concept of masculinity and femininity in attraction, suggesting that opposites often attract.
The narrator emphasizes the importance of seeking a partner for a long-term relationship rather than a casual encounter.
The narrator advises viewers to reflect on what makes them attractive to the type of partner they desire.
The narrator shares his experience of negative backlash from girls at school and how it affected his self-esteem.
The narrator explains how he learned not to be affected by rejection from girls who are not the right partner for him.
The narrator suggests that being attractive to everyone is unrealistic and that authenticity is key in building long-term relationships.
The narrator advises viewers to actively seek out and get to know women to understand what they value in a partner.
The narrator lists qualities he values in a woman, such as being a great mother, having a great smile, and having a purpose in life.
The narrator recognizes his own youth and the journey of self-discovery in understanding what he values in a partner.
The narrator offers to make a video on communication if viewers are interested, to help them get to know women better.
The narrator concludes by reiterating the importance of finding the right partner and not just any partner.
Transcripts
in eighth grade I had a massive crush on
the most attractive girl in my class and
funny enough she had a massive crush on
me as well we would talk every single
night after school that is the number
one thing I would look forward to that
text just h i or hey with a couple of
wise at the end that was my favorite
definitely and I think she enjoyed it as
well we would sit probably around maybe
1 to 2 hours every single night
sometimes more sometimes with FaceTime
even every single night bro and
sometimes more on the weekends as well
and but I loved it yeah I was smiling
every single second of those
conversations and I smile looking back
at it now man I was more so year seven
so I was 13 at the time and you know how
excited 13y olds get and especially when
they're little kids who you know never
really got you know attention from women
in Primary School like in the earlier
years of school once you're you know
once you know the most attractive girl
in your school has a crush on you it
makes you feel a different way and it
changed me a lot bro it did it
definitely did but the reason I was
attracted to this girl in year seven
and8 was two main things it was because
she loved basketball and I love
basketball as well yeah so that was
always a W for me and it was also
because she was very very physically
attractive and I never really asked her
this but I'm sure she felt the same way
about me the reason she you know was
attracted to me was because I like
basketball she liked basketball and you
know she probably thought I was
attractive in some way I'm guessing that
was the main reason the only other
reason I can think of is because I
blushed in the middle of class and maybe
she found that attractive yeah maybe I I
don't know when you have a crush on a
girl when I had a crush on this girl I
found two things extremely attractive
about her one was physical one was kind
of more personality right those two main
things outweigh this girl's negatives by
a long shot this girl if I look back at
now I didn't really look at him because
those two positives out like outweigh
the negatives by so much but she had
quite a lot of negatives again no hate
against her I had a lot too we're human
and that's the same with women bro women
see and if there's any girls watching
this vouch me on it women see two to
maybe five things five at the max things
about you that she finds extremely
extremely attractive and maybe a few
things that she does a little bit but
those things two three things that she
finds extremely attractive about you out
away the negatives as I said before by
so much so I was thinking back to 8th
grade when I had this experience and I
was trying to think of those two to
three things that would make me up as a
man that would be extremely attractive
to the girlfriend that I want to attract
but to be honest bro I couldn't think of
them I'm not at a stage of my life right
now where I can tell you what that is I
don't really know who I am at this point
in my life that but that's completely
fine that is completely fine I'm in the
18yearold high school on the internet do
you notice 10 seconds ago how I said the
girlfriend and not a girlfriend the
reason I say that is because you're not
just attracting any type of girl if you
want to attract any type of girl to get
laid tonight and him and go
and watch another Channel bro this isn't
the channel for you it is the girl that
you spend the rest of your life with
okay you date to marry if that's your
goal and I want you to do this exercise
with yourself right now with me I want
you to say in your mirror or while you
watching this video or whatever whatever
you want to do how do I get a girlfriend
ask yourself that question think about
it for maybe 10 to 30 seconds and then
ask yourself how do I get the girlfriend
you will start to see your mind
automatically goes to her and not you
your mind automatically questions who
this girl actually is who is the
girlfriend and those 30 seconds will
probably be spent or most of them
identifying who this girl actually is
and how you find those things that
really make you up as a man if you're a
man watching this that other women you
find attractive in you so you can get
the girlfriend is by reflecting what is
in this girl in you so one thing I
thought of the other night when I was
thinking about this is a woman's
femininity yeah I believe I'm a very
masculine man okay I don't like you know
like to boast my masculinity but
I'm a very driven ambitious young man
and I believe I'm masculine and I know
that because I seek out you know
femininity in a woman okay because you
know opposites if you're a masculine man
most of the time not always but most of
the time yeah going off hormones and
just you know how we think as different
Sexes you will be attractive to a more
feminine woman and she will most likely
be attracted more to you than other you
know more feminine dudes but that is
subjective that's just my perspective
and as the title says I think it's going
to be the title anyway getting a
girlfriend is easier than you think it
is it's getting the girlfriend finding
who you want to spend the rest of your
life with it's not just any girl
okay a one night standing on a
girlfriend and once you identify who you
want to spend the rest of your life with
it's very very easy to make up your own
character and what makes up you as a man
I remember in n9th and 10th grade when I
started making content I would get a lot
of negative backlash from the girls in
my school especially the girls in my
class right the more you know kind of
naughty girls if you want to call him
that and it affected me quite a lot bro
because I would seek attention from
every single woman I wanted to be
validated from every single woman at my
school not the woman and I've observed
the girls at my at my school not in a
creepy ass way but right now none of
them are the woman and that's completely
fine just because they aren't the woman
doesn't mean they're less of a woman so
I came to realize that negative backlash
from any girl you know rejection from
any girl it's not going to affect me
emotionally it's not I'm not going to
let it cuz it's not from the girl and
you can relate this to the quote if
you're friends with everybody you're
probably not friends with anyone it's
the same type of thing and know it's
very very different but think of it this
way if you are like if you if you ignore
physically physical attractiveness
because if you're physically attractive
basically every single girl is going to
be attracted to you yeah that's just how
we work but think of person ality wise
right cuz that's how you build long-term
relationships every single girl is
different in what they value if your
personality is attractive to everyone
you're you're a fake you're not real
you're not being yourself not every
single girl is meant to be attracted to
you but the girl is and maybe you don't
know that girl yet and that is
completely fine if you are watching this
video 99% of you are under the age of 25
and that's that is fine bro there I bet
you there's someone 35 watching this
video right now who doesn't know the
girl yet and that's fine as long as
you're actively seeking out going out
there you know talking to women getting
to know them getting to know yourself
that's the main thing you don't be
sitting in your room and doing nothing
and look the girl for me is a great
mother that's definitely one she has a
great smile she lightens up my day I
come home from a you know a poor day at
work or you know a bad day at the office
or whatever her smile lightens up my day
that's one she's physically attractive
of course you know she has a purpose in
her life that doesn't mean she goes out
there and works
24/7 but she has some purpose goal
ambition right that she's working
towards she's feminine she's not really
masculine yet maybe a masculine woman
might have been my friend and look at
the top of my head bro that's really all
I have right now again I'm only young
and I have still have a long way to go
and you still do as well if you have
nothing that you can see in a woman yet
that's fine because once you start maybe
talking to more girls and maybe I can
make a video on communication yeah if
you really really want that you know hey
can go out there and talk to girls and
actually get to know them if you want a
video on that let me know once you do
that and once you start working yourself
you will find what you value and that's
how getting a girlfriend can be easy the
girlfriend not a girlfriend okay hey
this housepro and I'll catch you in the
next video peace
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