How to Stand Out in Your Industry | Simon Sinek

Simon Sinek
25 May 202103:04

Summary

TLDRThe speaker criticizes the transactional nature of relationships in their industry, where individuals prioritize closing deals over genuine connections. They recount a personal experience with a mortgage broker who, after securing a sale, immediately sought referrals rather than expressing genuine care. The speaker emphasizes the importance of honesty and building authentic relationships, sharing their own approach to business that involves being transparent about their strengths and weaknesses. They argue that this honesty fosters trust and loyalty, as demonstrated by their willingness to recommend others even when it means not securing business for themselves.

Takeaways

  • πŸ“ The importance of genuine relationships over transactional interactions in business.
  • 🀝 The disappointment when a professional's care is revealed to be insincere post-transaction.
  • 🏑 The speaker's personal experience with a mortgage broker who prioritized self-interest over client satisfaction.
  • πŸ“ž The expectation that a caring professional would show genuine excitement for a client's success rather than immediately seeking referrals.
  • πŸ“‰ The realization that the speaker was merely a number in the broker's business model.
  • 🚫 The speaker's decision to not recommend the broker due to the lack of a genuine relationship.
  • πŸ’Ό The speaker's emphasis on honesty in their early career, which involved being transparent about their strengths and weaknesses.
  • πŸ”‘ The positive reception from clients when the speaker admitted to not being the best fit for certain tasks and recommended other companies.
  • πŸ”„ The speaker's belief in the power of honesty to build trust and long-term business relationships.
  • πŸ› οΈ The speaker's encounter with a service provider who was honest about not being the best for a job, which paradoxically made the speaker more inclined to work with them.
  • πŸ—£οΈ The value of honesty in a transactional business environment, where it is rare and appreciated.
  • πŸŽ–οΈ The speaker's willingness to become a champion for honest brokers, even if they never directly benefit from their services.

Q & A

  • What is the main issue the speaker is addressing in the transcript?

    -The speaker is addressing the issue of superficial relationships in the industry, where people pretend to care but are only interested in making a transaction and moving on.

  • Why did the mortgage broker's behavior disappoint the speaker?

    -The mortgage broker's behavior disappointed the speaker because after the sale, the broker immediately asked for a recommendation instead of showing genuine excitement for the speaker's home purchase.

  • What does the speaker suggest is the key to building genuine relationships in business?

    -The speaker suggests that honesty and transparency are key to building genuine relationships in business, as demonstrated by admitting one's strengths and weaknesses.

  • What example does the speaker give to illustrate the importance of honesty in business?

    -The speaker gives the example of a marketing consultancy where they were honest with clients about their areas of expertise and recommended other companies for services they were not good at.

  • Why did the speaker decide to never recommend the mortgage broker again?

    -The speaker decided to never recommend the mortgage broker again because the broker's actions revealed that the speaker was just a number on a spreadsheet and not a valued relationship.

  • What is the speaker's view on the importance of honesty in a transactional business?

    -The speaker believes that honesty is crucial in a transactional business, as it builds trust and can lead to long-term relationships and referrals.

  • What impact does the speaker think honesty has on a client's perception of a service provider?

    -The speaker thinks that honesty can make clients more inclined to do business with a service provider, as it shows integrity and a genuine concern for the client's needs.

  • Can you provide an example from the transcript where honesty led to a positive outcome?

    -An example is when the speaker needed wallpaper and the recommended person admitted they were not the best at it and referred the speaker to someone else, which made the speaker want to work with the honest person again.

  • What does the speaker mean by 'an honest broker' in the context of the transcript?

    -An 'honest broker' in this context refers to someone who is transparent about their abilities and limitations, and does not overpromise or mislead clients for the sake of making a sale.

  • Why is the speaker willing to become a 'champion' for an honest service provider even if they never do business with them?

    -The speaker is willing to become a 'champion' because they value honesty and integrity, and they want to support businesses that prioritize building relationships over making a quick sale.

  • What is the underlying message the speaker is trying to convey about the business industry?

    -The underlying message is that genuine relationships and honesty are more valuable in the long run than short-term gains from transactions, and that businesses should focus on building trust with clients.

Outlines

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🀝 The Illusion of Genuine Relationships in Business

The speaker expresses disappointment with the superficial relationships in their industry, where professionals often pretend to care about clients only to make a transaction and move on. The speaker recounts a personal experience with a mortgage broker who, after closing a sale, immediately asked for referrals rather than showing genuine concern for the client's satisfaction. This experience highlights the importance of building authentic relationships and contrasts with the speaker's own approach to business, which emphasizes honesty and integrity.

πŸ“ˆ Honesty as a Business Differentiator

The speaker reflects on their early career, where they intentionally chose to be transparent about their strengths and weaknesses in a marketing consultancy. By openly admitting to areas where they were not the best fit, the speaker gained the trust of clients and built a reputation for honesty. This approach is highlighted as a key differentiator in a competitive industry where many claim to be experts in everything. The speaker suggests that honesty is a rare and valuable commodity that can significantly enhance business relationships.

πŸ”„ The Power of Genuine Referrals and Partnerships

The speaker shares an anecdote about seeking a service provider for wallpaper installation and receiving an honest referral to another specialist by the initial contact. This act of honesty and self-awareness by the service provider not only earned the speaker's trust but also led to a strong desire to work with them again and to recommend them to others. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being an 'honest broker' and how it can lead to long-term business relationships and referrals, even if the initial transaction does not occur.

πŸ† The Unrecognized Value of Integrity in Business

The speaker concludes by addressing the short-sightedness of industry professionals who fail to recognize the value of integrity and genuine relationships. They argue that even if a business interaction does not result in a sale, the potential for becoming a strong advocate for the service provider remains high. The speaker suggests that many in the industry miss out on this opportunity by prioritizing short-term gains over long-term trust and advocacy.

Mindmap

Keywords

πŸ’‘Relationships

Relationships in the context of this video refer to the connections or bonds established between service providers and clients. The speaker criticizes those who claim to value relationships but are actually more interested in the transaction itself. The video's theme revolves around the importance of genuine relationships over mere business transactions, as exemplified by the mortgage broker who quickly asks for referrals after closing a sale.

πŸ’‘Transaction

A transaction in this video is the act of conducting a business deal or sale. The term is used to describe the primary focus of some industry professionals, who prioritize closing deals over nurturing long-term relationships. The speaker contrasts this approach with the value of honest and caring service, which can lead to more meaningful business outcomes.

πŸ’‘Honesty

Honesty is a central theme in the video, emphasizing the importance of being truthful and transparent in business dealings. The speaker highlights the rarity and value of honesty, especially in a transactional business environment. Honesty is exemplified by the marketing consultant who openly admits their strengths and weaknesses, thereby building trust and loyalty with clients.

πŸ’‘Mortgage Broker

A mortgage broker is a professional who arranges mortgage loans on behalf of borrowers. In the video, the mortgage broker is used as an example of someone who appears caring but is actually focused on the transaction and securing referrals. This character represents the type of businessperson the speaker criticizes for lacking genuine relationship-building.

πŸ’‘Recommendations

Recommendations are endorsements from satisfied clients that can help a business gain new customers. The video discusses how a genuine relationship can lead to heartfelt recommendations. However, the speaker recounts a situation where a mortgage broker's immediate request for recommendations felt insincere and transactional, undermining the value of such referrals.

πŸ’‘Human Behavior Business

The speaker mentions being in the 'human behavior business,' which is a metaphor for understanding and responding to the actions and motivations of people in a professional context. This concept is key to the video's message about the importance of recognizing and responding to genuine human needs and desires in business interactions.

πŸ’‘Marketing Consultancy

A marketing consultancy provides strategic advice and services to help businesses with their marketing efforts. In the video, the speaker's own experience with a marketing consultancy serves as a positive example of honesty and specialization, where the consultant admits to not being the best fit for certain tasks and recommends other companies instead.

πŸ’‘Specialization

Specialization refers to focusing on a specific area of expertise within a broader field. The video script uses the concept of specialization to illustrate the importance of acknowledging one's strengths and weaknesses. The marketing consultant's admission of being 'mediocre' or 'not the best' at certain tasks exemplifies the value of specialization and honesty in business.

πŸ’‘Honest Broker

An honest broker is a term used to describe someone who acts with integrity and fairness, especially in negotiations or transactions. The video emphasizes the value of being an honest broker in building lasting business relationships. The wallpaper installer who admits to not being the best at his job and refers the speaker to another professional exemplifies this concept.

πŸ’‘Volume and Numbers

Volume and numbers in the context of the video represent the quantity of transactions or clients, often at the expense of quality relationships. The speaker criticizes the focus on volume in commodity businesses, where the emphasis is on the number of deals rather than the depth of connections with clients.

πŸ’‘Champion

A champion in this video is someone who actively supports and promotes a business or individual. The term is used to describe the speaker's willingness to advocate for businesses that have demonstrated honesty and care, even if they never directly benefit from the transaction. This reflects the video's theme of the reciprocal benefits of genuine relationship-building.

Highlights

People in the industry often pretend to care about relationships but are actually focused on making transactions and moving on.

The speaker had a negative experience with a mortgage broker who only called after the sale to ask for referrals, showing they didn't genuinely care.

The mortgage broker's immediate request for referrals after the sale made it clear they were only interested in the transaction, not a lasting relationship.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of genuinely caring about building relationships, rather than just focusing on transactions.

When starting a marketing consultancy, the speaker prioritized honesty with clients about their strengths and weaknesses.

The speaker would recommend other companies for tasks they were not best at, which made clients trust and want to work with them more.

Honesty is a key factor in building strong relationships, especially in a transactional or commodity business.

An honest broker who admits their limitations and refers clients to better options can create lasting goodwill and referrals.

The speaker shares an example of a wallpaper contractor who recommended a competitor for a specific job, leading to trust and future referrals.

Even if a service provider doesn't do business with you, their honesty can make you their biggest champion and promoter.

Many people in the industry fail to understand the long-term value of building genuine relationships over just focusing on transactions.

The speaker's experience in the human behavior business has taught them the importance of authenticity and honesty in building trust.

Clients appreciate when service providers are upfront about what they can and cannot do well, rather than pretending to be good at everything.

Being honest about one's capabilities and limitations can actually attract more business, as clients value trustworthiness.

In a competitive industry, differentiating oneself through honesty and relationship-building can lead to greater success.

The speaker advocates for a shift in mindset from transaction-focused to relationship-focused in order to achieve long-term business growth.

Transcripts

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there are many people in your industry

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who talk a good game they talk about

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relationships

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but let's be honest it's they

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just want to make the transaction and

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move on

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and uh they pretend that they care and

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they pretend

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it's you know that they care about their

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relationship when the reality is

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it's one and done and on to the next and

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that's what happened to me

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i i had a mortgage broker uh he sold me

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a mortgage he was recommended to me

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that's how most of us meet somebody you

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know uh

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and he was very nice and charming and

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was there with me and then my my

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my sale went through and he called me up

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to congratulate me

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and i was feeling all warm and fuzzy

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towards him and then

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as soon as he congratulated me said and

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if you could recommend me to anybody

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else i'd be really grateful

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like and he wasn't calling to

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congratulate me

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he was calling to remind me to put in a

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good word for him somewhere else

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like if he actually cared about me and

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my house then he would have just called

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me really excited that i got my house

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and if he wanted something from me he

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would have waited a wee a week or two

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to ask the favor but the gu it became

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abundantly clear to me i'm in the human

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behavior business

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yes he never called me because he cared

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about me

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and by the way i will never ever

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recommend him

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because it was never i realized that i

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was just a number on a spreadsheet

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and so if you actually care about

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building relationships then actually

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build relationships

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you know i remember when i was starting

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out my career i had a young ma

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a little marketing consultancy and i

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came from an industry that pretended

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that they were good at everything the

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marketing world like literally they

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pretended they were good at everything

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whether they were or weren't and when i

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went off by myself

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it was important to me to be honest and

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clients would come and talk to me and

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say

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we want to hire you to do all these

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things and i'd say i'll do that one i'm

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really good at that

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pretty good at that i like doing that

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that i'm mediocre on

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that i suck at i highly recommend you

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hire another company to do that and i'm

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happy to

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partner with them and it made them want

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to do business with me more

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because you said no because i told them

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what i was good at what i was bad at

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where i was super honest yeah

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and we've all had that experience where

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you want to hire somebody and they go

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you should let me introduce you to

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something it happened to me recently

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yeah

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i wanted a is it like something silly

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yeah you know i needed wallpaper

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yeah i he highly recommended i called

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him up he came he gave me a quote

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he's like you know what i'm not the best

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at this thing and he gave me the number

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of somebody else yeah now all i want to

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do is work with him again and i keep

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giving out his phone number

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to other people even though i actually

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never did work with him

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because what builds a relationship is an

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honest broker

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honesty is such a hard thing to get

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especially in a transaction business

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especially in a commodity business

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because it is just volume in numbers

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yeah and that when you actually find an

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honest one

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all you want to do is help them build

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their book of business even though you

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may never do business with them and

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that's what a lot of finite minded

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folks in your business don't get yeah

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which is you may never sell me a

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mortgage but i'll become your biggest

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champion

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