Time Blindness, Sloth, & a Lack of Discipline: The Path to Victimhood Mentality

Summary

The video script discusses the issue of tardiness, or 'time blindness,' from both a personal and theological perspective. The speaker criticizes a culture that dismisses the importance of punctuality and argues for the need for discipline and preparation. Using the parable of the 10 virgins, the script emphasizes the consequences of being unprepared and late. It also addresses a young woman's complaint about the lack of accommodations for time blindness, suggesting that society should not cater to such excuses but instead promote responsibility and promptness.

Takeaways

• 😀 The speaker discusses time blindness and the lack of accommodations for it in workplaces.
• 😀 The speaker criticizes the idea of time blindness and views it as an excuse for being late.
• 😀 The speaker emphasizes the importance of discipline and preparation, using a biblical parable about the ten virgins to illustrate this point.
• 😀 The speaker connects being late to the sin of sloth and stresses the need for promptness and responsibility.
• 😀 The speaker notes cultural differences in punctuality, mentioning how certain cultures might be late for social events but on time for important commitments like church or work.
• 😀 The speaker expresses frustration with the younger generation's perceived entitlement and lack of discipline.
• 😀 The speaker believes that allowing accommodations for time blindness would lead to a breakdown of work discipline and productivity.
• 😀 The speaker advocates for a firm approach to lateness in the workplace, including setting clear consequences for repeated tardiness.
• 😀 The speaker encourages parents to instill discipline in their children to prevent future issues with punctuality and responsibility.
• 😀 The speaker concludes by highlighting the importance of being prepared and prompt, both in daily life and in a spiritual context.

Q & A

What is the primary topic addressed in this episode of the Father Leo show?

The primary topic addressed is the issue of being late, viewed from both a cultural and theological perspective, and how it relates to discipline and expectations.

How does Father Leo relate the concept of being late to the deadly sin of sloth?

Father Leo connects being late to sloth by discussing how slothfulness manifests as a lack of discipline and preparation, which in turn causes tardiness.

What biblical parable does Father Leo reference to illustrate his point about being prepared?

Father Leo references the parable of the ten virgins from Matthew 25, where some virgins are unprepared and late, leading to them being locked out of the celebration.

How does Father Leo view the concept of 'time blindness'?

Father Leo expresses skepticism towards 'time blindness,' viewing it as an excuse for a lack of discipline rather than a legitimate condition requiring accommodations.

What cultural examples does Father Leo provide to discuss attitudes towards tardiness?

Father Leo mentions that while Filipinos, Latinos, and Italians may culturally be late to social events, they are generally punctual for church and work.

What approach does Father Leo suggest for dealing with employees who are consistently late?

Father Leo suggests a firm approach where repeated tardiness leads to a contract review and potential self-termination if the behavior continues.

How does Father Leo propose handling young people who expect accommodations for their lateness?

Father Leo proposes that young people should face the consequences of their tardiness and learn discipline, rather than expecting accommodations.

What theological consequences does Father Leo mention for being late in the context of faith?

Father Leo mentions that being late can have serious theological consequences, such as being unprepared for the second coming of Jesus and being locked out of the Kingdom of Heaven.

How does Father Leo recommend parents address the issue of tardiness in their children?

Father Leo advises parents to stop being lenient and to enforce discipline, helping their children to understand the importance of punctuality and responsibility.

What is Father Leo's perspective on the current generation's attitude towards work and discipline?

Father Leo believes that the current generation has been raised with little discipline and an 'everybody gets a trophy' mentality, which he argues needs to be corrected.

Outlines

00:00

😤 Struggling with Time Blindness and Workplace Accommodations

The speaker begins the episode addressing the issue of time blindness and the challenges faced by individuals who struggle with punctuality. They recount a personal experience where they were verbally attacked for inquiring about accommodations for time blindness, with the aggressor suggesting that such accommodations do not exist and that punctuality is a prerequisite for employment. The speaker questions the system that does not accommodate such individuals and introduces the topic of sloth from a Catholic perspective, aiming to explore the issue of lateness and its implications on personal and professional life.

05:00

📖 Biblical Insights on Punctuality and Slothfulness

In this paragraph, the speaker delves into the theological aspect of punctuality, referencing the Parable of the Ten Virgins from Matthew 25. They suggest that being late can be a result of slothfulness and lack of preparation, as illustrated by the virgin who ran out of oil. The speaker emphasizes the importance of discipline and readiness, drawing a parallel between the parable and the modern workplace, where being late can have serious consequences. They also touch upon the cultural aspect of punctuality, discussing a social media encounter with a young woman who believes that accommodations for time blindness should be made in the workplace.

10:01

🤬 Critique of Entitlement and Lack of Discipline

The speaker expresses frustration with the attitude of entitlement and lack of discipline among younger generations, using the anecdote of a young woman who expects accommodations for her time blindness. They argue that such expectations are unreasonable and reflect a 'participation trophy' mentality that is detrimental to the workplace. The speaker also discusses cultural differences in punctuality, citing examples from the Philippines and other cultures, and emphasizes the importance of being on time for important events, such as church services or work.

15:01

🛠 The Need for Discipline and Personal Responsibility

In the final paragraph, the speaker calls for a return to discipline and personal responsibility. They argue that being late is not only a sign of disrespect but also a reflection of poor decision-making. The speaker suggests that society should not accommodate lateness but instead should enforce consequences for tardiness. They also address the issue of communication and apology when lateness occurs, advocating for a balance between compassion and accountability. The speaker concludes by encouraging viewers to reflect on their punctuality and to strive for improvement, aligning their work ethic with their spiritual goals.

Keywords

💡Time Blindness

Time blindness is a term used in the script to describe a condition where individuals struggle with time management and being punctual. It is not a recognized medical condition but is used here to illustrate the challenges some people face with time perception. The video discusses the lack of accommodations for such individuals in various settings, such as workplaces, and the frustration it can cause for others who expect punctuality.

💡Accommodations

In the context of the video, accommodations refer to the adjustments or provisions made to help individuals with specific needs, such as those who struggle with time blindness. The script highlights a debate around whether such accommodations should exist, with some arguing that they enable a lack of responsibility and discipline.

💡Sloth

Sloth, one of the seven deadly sins, is presented in the video as a form of laziness or lack of effort, particularly in the context of being late. The host discusses how sloth can manifest in tardiness and the importance of overcoming this sin to improve punctuality and discipline.

💡Tardiness

Tardiness is the state of being late and is a central theme in the video. It is discussed in relation to sloth and the consequences of not being punctual. The video uses examples such as the parable of the ten virgins from Matthew 25 to illustrate the potential negative outcomes of tardiness.

💡Punctuality

Punctuality is the quality of arriving at the agreed time for an appointment or engagement. The video emphasizes the importance of punctuality in various aspects of life, including work and religious observances, and contrasts it with the negative impacts of tardiness.

💡Virtue

Virtue, in the script, is used to describe moral excellence or strength of character. It is mentioned in the context of discipline and the need for individuals to develop strength in their actions, such as being punctual, as opposed to making excuses for tardiness.

💡Discipline

Discipline is a key concept in the video, referring to the practice of training oneself to follow rules or a pattern of behavior. The host argues that discipline is necessary to overcome sloth and tardiness, and to develop virtues such as punctuality.

💡Parable of the Ten Virgins

The Parable of the Ten Virgins from the Bible is used in the video as an allegory to discuss the consequences of being unprepared and late. It illustrates the importance of readiness and the potential exclusion from opportunities due to tardiness.

💡Entitlement

Entitlement in the video refers to the belief that one has a right to special treatment or accommodations without considering the needs or expectations of others. The script discusses the negative perception of individuals who demand accommodations for tardiness, viewing it as a sign of immaturity and lack of responsibility.

💡Cultural Perspectives

Cultural perspectives are discussed in the video in relation to punctuality and the acceptance of tardiness in different societies. The host contrasts the attitudes towards time in various cultures, such as Filipino and Italian, and how these attitudes can impact work ethic and social interactions.

💡Self-Victimization

Self-victimization is a concept mentioned in the script where individuals perceive themselves as victims, often as a result of their own actions or choices. The video criticizes this mentality, particularly in the context of tardiness, where individuals seek accommodations instead of taking responsibility for their time management.

Highlights

The speaker discusses the concept of 'time blindness' and the lack of accommodations for it, leading to a heated argument about societal expectations and individual struggles with punctuality.

Introduction to the 'Father Leo Show' and the episode's focus on addressing the sin of sloth, specifically its manifestation in the form of tardiness.

A personal anecdote about the speaker's own struggles with punctuality and the importance of forgiveness from a Catholic perspective.

The speaker's perspective on the importance of time management and its connection to the virtue of diligence, as opposed to slothfulness.

A discussion on the etymology of words related to 'slowness' and 'tardiness', and how language has evolved to reflect societal attitudes towards these traits.

The use of the parable of the 10 virgins from Matthew 25 to illustrate the consequences of being unprepared and late.

An analysis of the cultural implications of being late, drawing a contrast between the importance of punctuality in certain cultures versus a more casual approach in others.

The speaker's critique of the 'everybody gets a trophy' mentality and its impact on younger generations' attitudes towards discipline and responsibility.

A call to action for parents to instill discipline in their children to counteract the negative effects of a culture that lacks structure and accountability.

The theological implications of being late, drawing a parallel between earthly punctuality and the importance of being prepared for the Kingdom of Heaven.

A hypothetical scenario where the speaker suggests making someone late as a form of retribution to understand the impact of tardiness on others.

The speaker's personal approach to dealing with late employees, emphasizing the importance of setting clear expectations and consequences for tardiness.

A reflection on the speaker's own occasional lateness and the importance of communication, apology, and forgiveness in such situations.

The conclusion of the episode with a reminder of the importance of punctuality in both secular and spiritual life, and an encouragement to strive for improvement.

A final call to action for viewers to engage with the content through likes, subscriptions, shares, and comments, and to support the show on Patreon.

Transcripts

so I'm applying to go somewhere and I

just wanted to know are there

accommodations for people who struggle

with time blindness and being on time

they actually started yelling at me and

saying that accommodations for time

blindness doesn't exist and if you

struggle with being on time you'll never

be able to get a job and then I asked

that person how can you feel good about

yourself upholding this kind of system

and then to think I'm

entitled I don't even know where to

begin with that

one welcome to the father Leo show where

I'm dishing out Faith culture in

commentary and in this episode we're

going to address

a form of the deadly sin it's called

sloth but it manifests itself in a very

unique way when people are late I'm one

of these people who can't stand when

people are late but then at the same

time there are moments when I'm actually

late myself and so I've got to expect

people to forgive me am I just as

forgiving for people who aren't late so

we're going to jump right into it and

learn a little perspective from a

Catholic point of view in how to deal

with people being late and how to deal

with uh your own self being late so this

is going to be a two-way conversation

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so now let's just jump right into it and

talk about faith in a perspective about

being late a faithful perspective on

people are

tardy whenever I give talks about say

marriage and I'm doing a marriage

preparation kind of a marriage ongoing

formation program I talk about how I

personally think that celebrating your

anniversary only once a month is

stupid and people are kind of shocked by

that and then I explain that I think

that St it's stupid because of the Latin

word stuper sleepy it just means that

you're delayed in celebrating your love

for each other and so I I kind of

recommend that if you get the book

spicing up married life it actually

encourages monthly dinner dates month

adversaries that way you are not slow to

show your love for each other we know

that the phrase uh for slow is tardy and

you have derogatory terms like

retardation

which is a slow

development and it's it's really an

inappropriate word these days uh because

when you say someone is mentally

it means that they are slow in

development but it's very derogatory and

therefore completely inappropriate it's

interesting that there's language police

that's controlling how we actually speak

but it's really necessary to understand

the root words of things and I'm talking

about this because there are slow people

and you see that especially if you're

driving there's some people who are very

slow drivers and they're in the left

lane and it makes you crazy because you

you're going to be late for work so to

speak that's another story but then

there are people who are just slow to

capture a skill or a technique so for

example I'm really slow at basketball I

just I just don't have the facility to

play basketball well um there are some

people who are slow to pick up a dance

move in the kitchen oh my gosh drives me

crazy because you know an experienced

cook moves fast and then someone who is

not moves very slowly to the point where

food is going to get burned or get

served

cold so slowness is just a reality in

our world but being late is a compl

completely different

thing it's it's really about not showing

up when you're expected to and that is

very frustrating because it might be a

product of stupidity or a tardy quality

that you have do you see those words

stuper sleepy slow

slow it's not because you're dumb or

you're stupid or you're I mean

again these are terrible words we use it

very

regularly I mean people call me that

because they disagree with some of the

things I have to offer I might say that

in my car or in my mind driving alone

cuz someone cut in front of me or

someone is going really slow when they

shouldn't so from a theological point of

view I kind of turn to the scriptures

and I pay attention to Matthew 25 in the

parable of the 10 virgins remember them

there were 10 virgins and and they all

had to have oil in their lamps and uh

because they were waiting for the

bridegroom to come and he was late in

coming and one of the Bride uh one of

the virgins didn't have enough oil in

her lamp and it might have been because

she herself was unprepared she didn't

look ahead she didn't actually plan well

and so she shows up and she's running

out of oil and she tells the other nine

virgins give me some of your oil and

they're like no that's not happen

happening I'm keeping my oil and so she

they all recommend she goes to a store

in the nearby Village to get more oil

for her lamp so she goes out and on her

return in the meantime the bridegroom

arrives brings the nine virgins into the

celebration locks the door and she comes

back she's

late when I look at this I I I have to

just say that the reason why people are

sometimes late for things is because

they've made bad choices they're

slow and therefore they have created a

stuper in their being which leads to a

tardiness in their activity or in their

actions or in their

response and so we have to know that

being late is connected to a

slothfulness attitude as well as a lack

of discipline and in this case in this

gospel passage a lack of preparation

there are people who are slow to believe

that Jesus is coming again they're just

slow to believe that and they are going

to get in a sense locked out of the

kingdom of heaven so I think from a

theological point of view we need to

fight sloth we need to be more

disciplined and we need to

expect the ex we need to believe that

there is an expectation for us us to

show up on time if not the Kingdom of

Heaven can be blocked out for us for all

eternity where the scriptures say there

is Wailing and grinding of teeth all

because we were late so knowing that

there is a theological

reality of being slow and being late now

let's look at culture and what it has to

say the reason why I want talk about

this is because I came across something

on social media of course uh and this is

very interesting just just check out

what this young woman has to say about

being late so interesting it's actually

sad so I just got yelled at for asking a

very reasonable question okay so I'm

flying to go somewhere and I just wanted

to know are there accommodations for

people who struggle with time blindness

and being on time you know and then the

person I was with interrupted and acted

like I was asking something else and

then when we were done they actually

started yelling at me and saying that

accommodations for time blindness

doesn't exist and if you struggle with

being on time you'll never be able to

get a job you know provided you're

trying your absolute best to be there

and then they're like your stupid

generation wants to destroy the

workplace and yeah I think that a

culture where workers are just cut off

because they struggle with being on time

when there's other solutions that we can

look to I think that just anybody who

thinks it's okay to just treat people

like that yeah that culture needs to be

dismantled and then I asked that that

person how can you feel good about

yourself upholding this kind of system

and then to think I'm entitled no if

people think it's okay to treat others

like this that's

entitlement I don't even know where to

begin with that one first of all I've

never heard of time blindness before so

we're literally just making up words as

we go along that's number one let's just

call it what it is people are making it

up as they go along they're diagnosing

themselves and using kind of fancy terms

or modern terms to make excuses for

their lack of virtue and that word

Virtue just means strength and the way

you get strong is by doing heavy lifting

so this person clearly has chosen to use

language to cover up her lacking and

then for her to say that this is a

system of dismantling that that needs to

be dismantled what exactly does that

mean and so I look at this and I see a

young woman who is still an immature

brat a pure immature brat of a child who

thinks that her being late should have

some sort of accommodation I mean I

wouldn't even know what that means can

she describe what accommodations means

for her it means that she's simply

allowed to be late whenever she wants to

be late because she is blind to time and

no one should care now I say this

because when you're like a church for

example I yell at my family all the time

for not being late at church I mean this

is the most important thing you can do

in your life it's like again the 10

virgins are we making church just

something really casual or is it the

most important thing we do in our week

or if you go to mask daily is it the

most important thing you do daily and if

it is guess what you're going to do

you're going to show up if this girl is

a Swifty I bet you she shows up early

for the concerts for Taylor Swift there

is no doubt about it and if she doesn't

if she's late because she's time blind

do you think the guards are going to be

like oh yeah you can come in anytime you

want even though the doors are

completely closed and someone took your

seat I mean is she going to be time

blind if she's trying to catch a flight

wait knowing that most flights are

delayed anyway but that's another story

this is absolutely infuriating to me

because I experience this from a

generation now Filipinos are always late

but I don't know if it's time blindness

I think it's culture and it needs to

stop but I can say that in the

Philippines mass is always on time when

people say you want to come to a party

they're going to come half an hour 45

minutes sometimes even an hour late

without any excuse whatsoever but that's

kind of like their culture but for

church they show up on time man I can

also say for work Filipinos are

generally on time and this is true for

Latinos this is true for Italians they

they're not just so

casual but this is a job we're talking

about here and this person wants to just

simply make excuses for themselves and

then they want to tear down or dismantle

a system and I don't exactly know what

that system is but that's why I want to

tell you about it in my

commentary this young person once

accommodation

and if an institution or a job doesn't

provide her accommodations which

basically means allow her to be as late

as she wants to be as long as she's

trying this is the everybody gets a

trophy culture mentality which just

needs to

stop then I'm going to say to her fine

guess what I'm going to be late in

giving you your paycheck I'm going to be

late in opening up the door for you to

actually come in to actually work the

hours which means you're going to get

less hours and I am going to be late in

letting you off of work this is the kind

of touche that this

insipidity re requires and

demands now I'm getting kind of worked

up here because I deal with this all the

time people literally showing up late

for work and I kind of give them a

ruling and I say you know what you've

gotten three lates you're going to get

one strike if you get more than three

you're gone and if they get to two kind

of strikes which means they're late at

least six times I sit them down and I

review a contract with them and I say

that if you're late one more time I'm

not going to fire you you are going to

fire yourself here's a document you've

got to sign it if you're late another

time after this very important and

necessary warning I'm not going to fire

you

you have fired yourself because guess

what choices and decisions matter we

need to be compassionate because I will

say that the current younger generation

the Gen zers I think that's what they're

called have experienced no discipline

whatsoever they have experienced again

and everybody gets a trophy culture and

they are expecting that in their

inadequacies should be the way a company

runs things

this is sad because it goes back to the

oil lamp

mentality because some choices of being

late are going to be a matter of life

and death what if this woman was having

a baby and the doctor decided oh you

know what I'm just going to be late in

delivering this child anything can

happen that's why being late is more

serious than we think now are there

times when I'm late of course I am I

mean it's just in our nature but at the

very least you can communicate and let

people know why and be

apologetic and then if I someone

approaches me and they're apologetic

then at least I can forgive them but

often times a young woman like this has

got the same attitude of that indivi

that one virgin who just thought oh I'm

not prepared give me some of yours no no

no no no no you're going to have to deal

with your own decisions and so perhaps

what we need to do is yes be patient

with people let's establish a system

where we show that we are compassionate

yelling at her is not going to help

because she's too immature and even

raising a voice might come across as

yelling in anger and then she'll

probably sue the company for kind of

hurting her feelings but you heard the

word stupid in there that this

particular generation is making itself

stupid making itself self tardy and you

can see all the derogatory words that

come from that and so they're literally

creating a self victimhood mentality and

it just has to stop so perhaps the only

solution that I can say is ask them how

would you feel if I made you late for

something that was

important and if they want us to have

accommodations for them then I'm going

to ask them for accommodations and

making her paycheck 3 weeks

late or making her stay late and not pay

her because she was late you see there's

got to be a real

discipline and the word discipline means

we have to start raising disciples so

I'm talking to parents and particularly

moms and dads who are very how shall I

say loose with the

discipline cut it out stop it now you

are raising wimpy children who are going

to be sniveling like this person and

they are truly not going to not only be

able to get a job they're not going to

make much of their life and it's very

sad I'm just so grateful to know that

our God Jesus Christ is patient even for

those who are late in getting to know

him but in the meantime it's our job to

let you know

better late than ever isn't always a

good phrase when it comes to making the

choice and being prepared and entering

the kingdom of God so consider making

sure work is a stepping stone in

achieving the goals towards our final

goal in heaven this is just my little

discursive conversation about being late

I certainly hope it gives you something

to think about and something to pray

about if you're one of those people who

are late cut it out it's rude it's

disrespectful and if we were late

constantly for you I guarantee you

wouldn't be forgiving either so let's

make sure we treat each other and be

prompt at all times and make sure you

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you deal with late people and if you're

one of these late people how are you

getting over it let us know in the

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