The 2 Mind Games Women Use to Control You (Don’t Fall for It)

Summary

In this video, the speaker highlights two manipulation tactics women may use in romantic relationships: the 'Roller Coaster Effect' and 'Harmless Rejection.' The Roller Coaster Effect involves a woman showering a man with attention, then withdrawing it, making him feel the need to chase her affection. Harmless Rejection occurs when a woman acknowledges a man's positive qualities but rejects him based on trivial reasons, manipulating him into changing himself to fit her needs. The speaker emphasizes the importance of recognizing these behaviors to avoid emotional manipulation and unhealthy relationship dynamics.

Takeaways

• 😀 The first manipulation tactic women use is the 'roller coaster effect,' where they initially shower men with love and attention, then withdraw it, leaving men desperate to win it back.
• 😀 The roller coaster effect often includes love bombing followed by sudden emotional withdrawal, with women giving 'valid' reasons for their behavior, such as personal or family issues.
• 😀 The goal of the roller coaster effect is to make men feel like they need to give more attention, gifts, and affection to restore the relationship, even when there's no real problem.
• 😀 Women using the roller coaster effect seek validation and crave attention, and they manipulate men into pursuing them even more intensely when they withdraw.
• 😀 The second manipulation tactic discussed is 'harmless rejection,' where women reject men by giving seemingly minor reasons that don't hold weight, like fearing competition from other women.
• 😀 Harmless rejection works on men with the 'nice guy syndrome,' making them feel the need to change their behavior or character to gain the woman's approval.
• 😀 In harmless rejection, women tell men they're great but offer a trivial excuse, which makes men attempt to 'fix' themselves to win the woman's affection.
• 😀 A common excuse used in harmless rejection is that the woman doesn’t want to compete with other women due to the man's appearance or friendliness, making men feel they need to act differently to avoid conflict.
• 😀 If a man tries too hard to change himself based on these trivial reasons, the woman can manipulate him further, continuously creating conditions for him to meet, making him feel less valued.
• 😀 The key message for men is to recognize these manipulation tactics and not fall into the trap of constantly trying to please or change themselves to fit the woman's demands in the relationship.

Q & A

What are the two major manipulation tactics women use on men, according to the video?

The two major manipulation tactics discussed in the video are the 'roller coaster effect' and the 'harmless rejection'.

What is the 'roller coaster effect' in relationships?

The roller coaster effect is a tactic where a woman showers a man with love and attention, only to suddenly withdraw it, giving a plausible reason. This causes the man to chase her affection, seeking to earn her attention back.

Why do women use the roller coaster effect?

Women use the roller coaster effect to seek attention and validation. By withdrawing affection and giving a reason for the behavior, they make the man feel the need to do more to earn her love and attention.

How does the 'harmless rejection' manipulation tactic work?

The harmless rejection occurs when a woman rejects a man by saying he is great, but cites minor issues, such as being 'too nice' or 'too fine', implying the need for him to change something about himself to be chosen.

What does the video suggest a man should do when facing harmless rejection?

The video suggests that a man should not try to fix minor issues presented in a harmless rejection. He should recognize that these are manipulative tactics, and not alter his behavior or personality just to be chosen.

How does the roller coaster effect make a man feel in a relationship?

The roller coaster effect makes a man feel confused and uncertain, as he constantly tries to figure out what went wrong, which causes him to shower the woman with more love and attention in an effort to regain her affection.

What does the speaker mean by saying 'never let women micromanage you'?

The speaker advises men to avoid letting women control or manipulate them through small, constant demands that limit their freedom or change their natural behavior. Micromanagement in relationships is seen as a form of control.

What is the significance of 'nice guy syndrome' in the context of manipulation?

'Nice guy syndrome' refers to men who are overly eager to please others, often at the expense of their own needs. In the context of manipulation, such men are more susceptible to tactics like harmless rejection, where they feel the need to change themselves to earn a woman's affection.

What is the potential consequence of falling for the roller coaster effect or harmless rejection?

The consequence is that the man may end up constantly trying to please the woman or change himself to fit her demands, leading to a cycle of manipulation where the woman controls the relationship dynamics.

How can a man recognize when he is being manipulated using these tactics?

A man can recognize manipulation when he notices a pattern of excessive attention followed by sudden withdrawal (roller coaster effect), or when minor, non-serious reasons are given for rejection (harmless rejection). Both tactics are used to make him feel like he needs to prove himself.