12 Life Settings That F*ck Teens
Summary
TLDRThis video script addresses 12 life settings that can sabotage teens' lives, offering solutions to enhance productivity and well-being. It covers phone distraction, procrastination, easy access to conveniences, power-hungry habits, and 'simp' dating behaviors. The speaker advises on finding purpose, managing energy, communicating effectively, and building a supportive community. The script also touches on avoiding isolation, comparison, poor body language, and toxic friendships, aiming to empower young men to make conscious choices for a better life.
Takeaways
- π± Use 'Assistive Access Mode' on your iPhone to simplify usage and reduce distractions.
- π Procrastination is common, but overcoming it can place you in the top 5%. List the costs of procrastination to motivate action.
- π 'Easy Access Mode', where convenience is a click away, can lead to a sedentary lifestyle. Replace food delivery and taxi apps with more active options.
- π Be aware of 'Power Hungry Mode' in life, where certain activities drain your energy. Moderation is key to prevent burnout.
- π€¦ββοΈ 'Simp Mode' in dating can be off-putting. Follow five rules to improve dating habits and self-respect.
- β‘οΈ Recognize 'High Power Mode' in life and learn to switch to 'Low Power Mode' to conserve energy and prevent exhaustion.
- πΆ 'Data Roaming Mode' symbolizes aimlessness. Set clear goals and work towards them to find purpose.
- π« 'Silent Mode' can lead to isolation and depression. Open communication about problems is crucial for mental health.
- ποΈ 'Isolation Mode' is common among men. Joining male-dominated communities can help combat loneliness.
- π 'Comparison Mode' can be detrimental. Compare yourself to the average for a more realistic and healthy perspective.
- πΆββοΈ 'Restricted Mode' is characterized by poor body language. Improve posture and eye contact to appear more confident and approachable.
- π 'Hotspot Mode' can be positive when shared with supportive friends. Evaluate your friendships based on mutual support and energy exchange.
Q & A
What is the first life setting discussed in the script that can negatively impact a young person's life?
-The first life setting discussed is 'Phone Distraction Mode', which refers to the way young people use their smartphones and get distracted by apps and notifications.
What is the third way to use a phone that is suggested to double productivity without distractions?
-The third way to use a phone is by enabling 'Assistive Access Mode', which allows for a simplified version of the iPhone with only the necessary apps, reducing distractions.
According to the script, what percentage of people are said to procrastinate and what is the suggested solution?
-The script states that 95% of people procrastinate. The suggested solution is to list all the costs associated with procrastination to understand its impact and motivate action.
What is 'Easy Access Mode' and how does it contribute to ruining one's life according to the script?
-'Easy Access Mode' refers to the convenience of modern life where services like food delivery and taxi apps are readily available with a click. It contributes to a sedentary lifestyle and lack of personal effort.
Which five apps are suggested to be deleted to combat 'Easy Access Mode' and what habits should replace them?
-The five apps to delete are food delivery, taxi service, dating, social media, and wallet apps. They should be replaced with habits like picking up takeout, walking or using public transport, meeting people in real life, reading, and using physical cash to avoid overspending.
What is 'Power Hungry Mode' and how can it be reduced in one's life?
-'Power Hungry Mode' is when activities that consume a lot of one's life, such as alcohol, drugs, social media, and video games, are all engaged in simultaneously. It can be reduced by practicing moderation and being mindful of these draining activities.
What is 'Simp Mode' and what are the five dating rules suggested to turn it off?
-'Simp Mode' refers to men chasing after women in a way that decreases their attractiveness. The five dating rules to turn it off include not settling for indecisive women, not abandoning friends for a partner, not paying to see a woman naked, not looking at a woman twice without approaching her, and taking her for a coffee date before a dinner.
What is 'High Power Mode' and how can it be switched off to conserve energy?
-'High Power Mode' is a state of constant high energy output that can lead to burnout. It can be switched off by engaging in nature, going for walks while listening to music, and reducing stress levels.
What is 'Data Roaming Mode' and how can one find purpose to turn it off?
-'Data Roaming Mode' is a state of aimlessness in life. To turn it off, one should identify and work towards achievable goals such as having a certain amount of savings, a part-time job, a healthy BMI, a good GPA, and physical fitness.
What is 'Silent Mode' and how can young men learn to turn it off to improve their mental health?
-'Silent Mode' refers to not expressing one's problems and feelings. To turn it off, young men should write down their issues and make an effort to communicate them with the relevant people within 24 hours, or seek help from a licensed therapist.
What is 'Isolation Mode' and how can joining a community help to overcome it?
-'Isolation Mode' is the feeling of loneliness and not being understood. Joining a community, especially sports teams or other male-dominated groups, can provide a sense of belonging and support to overcome isolation.
What is 'Comparison Mode' and how can one change their comparison habits to avoid feeling depressed?
-'Comparison Mode' is the habit of comparing oneself to the best of the best, leading to feelings of depression. To change this, one should compare themselves to the average for their age group in various aspects of life to set more realistic goals.
What is 'Restricted Mode' and what are the body language tips to turn it off?
-'Restricted Mode' refers to the limitations one's body language can impose on their social interactions. To turn it off, one should stand up straight, stand tall, look casual, appear confident, and maintain direct eye contact.
What is 'Hotspot Mode' and how should one manage their social circle to ensure positive energy exchange?
-'Hotspot Mode' is when friends are draining one's energy without giving back. To manage this, one should evaluate their friends based on their reciprocal behavior, support, and genuine interest in one's well-being.
Outlines
π± Overcoming Smartphone Distractions
The first paragraph discusses the impact of smartphones on productivity and introduces three types of smartphone users. The first type is easily distracted by their phones, the second tries to limit distractions by deleting apps but often redownloads them, and the third uses 'Assistive Access Mode' to simplify their phone use and stay focused. The speaker suggests setting up this mode for increased productivity. Additionally, the paragraph addresses procrastination, suggesting that by recognizing and listing the costs of procrastination, one can overcome it and join the top 5% who do not procrastinate.
πββοΈ Combating Procrastination and Easy Access
The second paragraph continues the discussion on life-disrupting habits, focusing on 'easy access mode,' which refers to the convenience of modern services that can lead to complacency. The speaker recommends deleting certain apps like food delivery and replacing them with more active behaviors, such as picking up food oneself. Also mentioned is 'power hungry mode,' which parallels a phone's power consumption when running many apps simultaneously, suggesting that engaging in multiple draining activities can deplete one's energy and life quality. The paragraph concludes with a recommendation to use 'Better Help' for professional guidance in managing social pressures and developing healthier habits.
π€¦ββοΈ Avoiding the 'Simp' Mode and High Power Mode
The third paragraph introduces 'simp mode,' where men chase after women without realizing it decreases their attractiveness. To counter this, five dating rules are provided to help men become more appealing. The concept of 'high power mode' is also discussed, drawing a parallel to a phone's power-saving mode, and suggesting that one should find ways to conserve energy to prevent burnout. The speaker proposes being in nature and listening to music as ways to achieve this. Lastly, the paragraph touches on the importance of having a sense of purpose and setting achievable goals, recommending the use of 'Better Help' for accountability and support in reaching those goals.
π£οΈ Breaking the Silence and Finding Community
The fourth paragraph addresses the issue of 'silent mode,' where men do not express their problems, leading to feelings of loneliness and higher rates of suicide. The speaker encourages writing down issues and confronting them with the involved parties. If direct confrontation is uncomfortable, seeking help from a licensed therapist is suggested. The paragraph also introduces 'isolation mode,' discussing the importance of joining a male-dominated community for support and self-improvement. The speaker expresses a desire to create such a community, called 'The Institute,' which will offer real-life experiences and education for men to grow together.
π Turning Off Comparison and Restrictive Modes
The fifth and final paragraph talks about 'comparison mode,' where men compare themselves to the best instead of the average, leading to depression. The speaker advises comparing oneself to the average for a more realistic and motivating goal. 'Restricted mode' is also discussed, which refers to poor body language that can limit a man's social success. To overcome this, the paragraph provides tips on improving body language. Lastly, 'hotspot mode' is introduced, which is about friends taking more than giving. The speaker suggests a checklist to evaluate friendships and recommends keeping only those friends who reciprocate and support each other.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Phone distraction mode
π‘Procrastination
π‘Easy access mode
π‘Power hungry mode
π‘Simp mode
π‘High power mode
π‘Data roaming mode
π‘Silent mode
π‘Isolation mode
π‘Comparison mode
π‘Restricted mode
π‘Hotspot mode
Highlights
Phone distraction mode can be managed by using assistive access mode to simplify iPhone usage and increase productivity.
Procrastination is common, but overcoming it can place you in the top 5%; listing the costs of procrastination can help combat it.
Easy access mode, facilitated by apps for food delivery and transportation, can lead to a sedentary lifestyle and should be moderated.
Power hungry mode in life, similar to a phone, drains energy and should be managed in moderation to avoid burnout.
Simp mode in dating can be detrimental; five rules are provided to help improve dating habits and self-respect.
High power mode in life should be balanced with low power mode activities like nature walks to conserve energy and prevent burnout.
Data roaming mode symbolizes aimless living; setting goals and working towards them can provide purpose and direction.
Silent mode can lead to isolation and poor mental health; addressing issues directly with those involved can alleviate this.
Isolation mode can be combated by joining male-dominated communities or sports teams for camaraderie and self-improvement.
The Institute is an online community aimed at providing real-life experience-driven education for men to improve together.
Comparison mode can be harmful; comparing oneself to the average for one's age group can provide more realistic goals.
Restricted mode due to poor body language can be limiting; improving posture and eye contact can help overcome this.
Hotspot mode in friendships should be evaluated; maintaining relationships that are mutually supportive is key.
Turning off 12 life settings can lead to significant improvements in productivity, mental health, and overall success.
BetterHelp is recommended for professional guidance in managing social pressures and developing skills to improve life settings.
The importance of accountability in achieving goals, suggesting the use of services like BetterHelp for support and tracking.
A checklist is provided to evaluate friendships and decide whether to keep 'hotspot mode' on or off with certain individuals.
Transcripts
here are 12 life settings that screw
teens up which means you're ruining your
life before it even begins starting with
number one phone distraction mode most
young men will use your iPhone one of
two ways without realizing that there is
a third way that will double your
productivity without ever being
distracted the first type of guy will
use his phone as normal allowing the
phone to distract the second type of guy
is the guy that actually tries so he'll
delete the apps that take most of his
time but let's be real you always end up
redownloading them in the future however
the third type of guy will use something
called assistive access mode this will
allow you to use your phone without ever
being distracted so to do this you will
go into your settings accessibility and
then assistive access you're going to
tap to set up assistive access and then
follow the steps which will now allow
you to use a simplified version of your
iPhone with only the apps you actually
want making you much more productive
number two procrastination mode look
you're not alone according to research
95% of people procrastinate this this is
a good thing because it means that if
you as a young guy can help overcome
procrastination you're already in the
top 5% now this research was published
in science direct and what they found is
that the biggest reason for
procrastination is that you do it
because it comes without an immediate
cost now this is great because what they
then found is that one of the best ways
to overcome procrastination is for you
to sit down and now list all the costs
that involve every time you
procrastinate let me give you an example
of this if you're for example putting
off your homework or that project at
work I want you to sit down and start
listing everything that is costing you
every day you procrastinate this
includes getting a worse grade which
leads to a lower GPA which then leads to
having trouble finding a good job or
Landing a low paining job which will
then lead to having more trouble
attracting high quality women all
because you're still in procrastination
mode now within seconds you have now
just turned off two bat settings in your
Life phone distraction mode and
procrastination mode with just those two
you're going to feel like you have more
time and energy but there's still 10
more settings that are completely
destroying your life let's moves on to
number three easy access mode think
about it in the past when you were
hungry you would have to get up you
would have to go out and hunt for your
food and then carry that back and cook
it today all you got to do is pull out
your phone and your favorite meal gets
delivered to you in minutes the only
work you have to do is a click of a
button this is easy access mode and it
is ruining your life so I'm going to
show you the five apps you need to
delete and stop using and The Five
Habits you should replace them with
first we have food delivery apps I want
you to replace that with you getting up
and going to pick up your takeout second
we have taxi service apps I want you to
replace that with either walking or
taking public transportation third I
want you to get rid of all dating apps
and replace that with approaching women
in real life fourth I want you to
replace your social media apps with
reading apps to build better focus and
fifth I want you to replace your wallet
app with physical cash to avoid you
overspending number four is power hungry
mode when your phone has all its
applications open it's in power hungry
mode causing your battery to drain that
much faster the same principle applies
to your life those things that consume
the most out of your life are what
drains you and ruins you for example
alcohol drugs social media pornography
and video games now what I'm not telling
you to eliminate these from your life
but it's important to realize that when
you enter power hungry mode and you're
doing all of these together like you
have them all open you're going to drain
yourself and ruin your life the best
thing you can do is reduce them in
moderation now the difficult part is to
do this when you have the peer pressure
of your friends dragging you to do it
even more this is why I recommend to
reaching out to somebody like today
sponsor better help through better help
you will be connected to professional
who will help you navigate the social
pressures you're facing while also help
you develop the skill sets you need to
reduce these power hungry habits to
learn more you can go to betterhelp.com
men's fashion or click the link in the
description number five simp mode most
men will chase after women their whole
life without without realizing that the
more they chase the less interested the
women becomes in you so I'm going to
give you five rules for dating that will
help you turn off simp mode rule one if
a girl can't decide between you and
another man stop talking to her rule
number two never drop your friends to
hang out with your girl rule three never
pay to see a girl naked both in person
or online rule four never look at a girl
twice if you have no intentions of
approaching her and rule number five
take her to a coffee date first before
you ever buy her dinner you start doing
these you will turn off SI mode
immediately this takes us to number six
high power mode when your phone has been
running in high capacity all day long
you will likely switch it to low power
mode to save on battery well the exact
same thing can be said about your energy
if you don't learn how to shut off high
power mode into low power mode you're
going to burn out in ruining your life
so to switch off high power mode in real
life I need you to do three steps first
be a nature then go on a walk while
listening to your favorite music now
scientific
all of these have been proven to reduce
your stress level when you combine them
all at once it becomes a powerful
mechanism to turn off high power mode in
your life and go into low power mode and
conserve energy number seven data
roaming mode you see most men will roam
through life without any purpose and
when men don't have purpose it's so easy
to lack motivation and turn to things
like drugs alcohol and women so I'm
going to show you a simple way to find
purpose and turn off data roaming mode
to start I want you to look at five
things every young man should have after
I reveal this list to you I want you to
pick any of these whichever one
interests you the most that you also
don't have and I want you to start
working towards it and once you achieve
it I want you to replace it for another
one that's in this list so first every
guy should have at least $11,000 in
savings second every guy should have a
part-time job third every guy should
have a BMI under 25 fourth every guy
should have a GPA over a three fifth
every guy should be able to do at least
40 push-ups now when it comes to goals
it's all about accountability and if you
can't count on your friends then use a
service like better health because as
soon as you talk about your goals with
another person especially somebody you
can trust somebody you feel safe with
you will now be held accountable because
you've already said them out loud and it
can also help you keep you on track so
essentially it's like having somebody in
your quarter 24/7 you can reach out
whenever whether it's through a video
call phone call or through text message
whatever feels comfortable and because
they have thousands of therapists you
can always switch out therapists until
you find somebody you truly feel good
with this takes us to number eight
silent mode men commit suicide more than
women in 99% of the countries one of the
biggest reasons for this is that we're
always on silent mode meaning we don't
even know how to talk about our problems
and this as a young man if you don't
learn how to turn it off will ruin your
life so I want you to sit down and write
down everything that's annoying you with
your family with your teachers with your
relationships then I want you to make it
a goal for you to bring up any of these
issues with the people you have the
issue with in the next 24 hours just
doing that will help eliminate the drain
that you feel of carrying these problems
and in the process you'll become much
healthier and happier and the more you
do it the better you'll get at it now if
you truly find it uncomfortable to
confront your friends your family or or
your girl about any of the issues you
face with or simply just don't know how
to approach it again this is where
talking to a licensed therapist can
really help you having somebody like
this in your corner can help you think
through these issues better and help you
formulate them so you do know how to
approach these people again if you guys
want to check out better Heth they're
going to be linked down below but by
this point you've already turned off
smartphone mode procrastination mode
easy access mode power hungry mode simp
mode high power mode data roaming mode
in silent mode you've turned off eight
terrible settings that most young guys
will never figure out how to solve but
there are four last settings I need you
to turn off before it's too late and you
end up ruining your life this takes us
to number nine isolation mode according
to research 2/3 of men feel lonely and
as if no one really knows them now to
fix this you're going to want to join
some sort of community that's dominated
by men and are always looking to improve
themselves and the best places for this
are sports team especially if you're in
school now according from a study from
2021 the most highly male dominated
Sports in order are are soccer baseball
basketball track and field and in first
place football but if you're not in
school or maybe you just don't like
sports you still need a community and
this is where it gets difficult finding
a community of men so you no longer feel
lonely till this day I haven't been able
to find one and this leads me to
something that I'm itching I've been
dying to share with you guys for a while
because that's exactly what I want to
build a community where men no longer
feel lonely and instead con constantly
improve themselves actually that's what
we've been building over the last 12
months we've been working hard on
something called The Institute an online
community where traditional learning in
a classroom it'll take a backseat over
real life experience driven education
now the core offering here is a
community where we can all come together
and learn from around the world now
we're still working through this and I'm
going to be very present in the
community as a matter of fact every
month there will be a lottery where a
handful of guys with the community will
come with me and go somewhere around the
world to Unique locations and
experiences to learn new skill sets and
for 2024 where we have lined up the
first few members we're going to be
taking you to the most advanced business
entrepreneurial focused locations like
New York Shanghai Mumbai and Tokyo now
if you're interested in this again more
information is coming but you want to
join a global movement of men that are
no longer trying to progress by
themselves alone but instead together
bettering themselves I'm going to leave
a link down below where you can
subscribe to our newsletter because more
information is coming and spots will be
limited this takes us to number 10
comparison mode comparing yourself to
other it's a great way to motivate
yourself the problem however is that
most men will compare themselves to the
best of the best this is what leads them
to feeling depressed so here's how you
change that instead of focusing on the
achievements of the best guys in the
world I need you to start comparing
yourself to the average
for your age group for example if you're
in school I want you to go to a website
called GPA standards and see what
standard or average is for your age
group if you want to compare yourself
with physical fitness you can go to
strength standard find a workout and see
what the average is for your specific
weight class this will provide you a
more realistic goal to beat and it will
no longer drain you number 11 restricted
mode you see the quality of a man is
restricted by his body language a man
with poor body language he's restricted
he's not going to get much attention
from women however a man with great body
language he turned restriction mode off
and he's going to get all the attention
he's looking for so here's how I want
you to turn off restricted mode first
stand up straight pull your shoulders
back and down second Stand Tall by
raising your head almost as if somebody
is pulling you up by a string third look
casual by leaning and putting most of
your weight on one leg fourth look
Confident by putting your arms on your
hips like a Superman pose or behind your
back back and fifth always maintain
direct eye contact and never look away
number 12 hotspot mode think about it
when you have your Hotpot turn out in
your phone you're basically sharing your
your data your internet with all your
friends when you're in Hot Spot mode in
your real life all your friends are
draining your energy they always take
and never give now unlike all the other
settings in this video this is the one
setting I actually want you to keep it
on but only with the right people so I'm
going to give you a quick checklist of
questions to know whether you should
keep your friends around or not first if
you ever buy your buddy food do they
offer to buy you food the next time next
do they ask you to hang out as much as
you ask them to hang out do they come to
your house as much as you come to their
house build you up when you're around
the girl they know you like and do they
ask about how you're doing as much as
they talk about themselves if you
answered yes to three or more of these
then they're worth keeping around three
or less turn hotspot mode off around
those type of people but if you listen
to me and switch up all these 12
settings in your life you're going to be
more successful than everybody else that
doesn't even realize all these settings
are ruining them
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