【ハーフの苦悩】日本人なのに日本人の友達がいない？アメリカ人なのにアメリカ人からは、よそ者扱い？Why she left Japan! Experience growing up half!

Summary

このビデオでは、日本とアメリカのハーフの姉妹が、それぞれの文化の中で育った経験を共有しています。彼らは、日本の学校での生活やアメリカでの生活における文化的な違い、特に日本での友人作りの難しさやアメリカでの人種差別的な体験について語ります。また、日本での生活の利点と欠点、そして姉妹が日本に戻った理由についても触れています。彼らの体験は、異なる文化の間で育つことの複雑さを示しており、視聴者に共感を呼び起こすでしょう。

Takeaways

• 😢 脚本中提到了在日本成长时遭遇的种族歧视和欺凌的经历，如被追赶和投掷石块。
• 🌟 尽管有负面经历，但也有积极的一面，例如孩子们对来自美国的孩子们表示好奇和友好。
• 👨‍👧‍👦 家庭成员在外貌上差异很大，有的看起来像菲律宾人，有的像中东人，而有的则看起来很白。
• 🗣️ 在日本，人们常常试图用英语与他们交流，即使他们看起来像日本人。
• 🏫 在学校，由于历史原因，如珍珠港事件，有时会感到尴尬和被排斥。
• 🎓 主讲人在日本上大学，体验了与美国不同的教育系统，例如每天上课。
• 💼 在日本工作，主讲人感到工作压力很大，形容为“奴隶般的工作”。
• 👫 主讲人发现在日本交朋友比较困难，部分原因是语言和文化差异。
• 🏠 主讲人最初计划在日本建立未来，但最终因为个人原因回到了美国。
• 👶 主讲人的女儿在视频中出现，她的纹身在日本可能会引起老一辈人的反感。
• 🍜 日本的便利性和食物是主讲人喜欢的地方，但最终因为孤独和缺乏家庭联系而离开。

Q & A

脚本中提到的孩子们在日本学校的经历是怎样的？

脚本中提到的孩子们在日本学校有时会被告知“回到你的家”，并且有一次在购物中心被几个年纪较大的男孩追赶，这让他们感到非常害怕和不安。

孩子们在美国和日本长大时，他们的身份认同感有何不同？

在美国，孩子们因为看起来是亚洲人而被嘲笑和欺负，例如被称为“ching chong”。而在日本，尽管他们看起来可能不像典型的日本人，但人们仍然会尝试用英语与他们交流，显示出一种尝试适应和包容的态度。

脚本中提到的孩子们如何看待他们家庭成员的战争历史？

孩子们了解到他们的美国祖父为美国而战，而他们的日本曾祖父为日本而战。尽管存在这样的历史背景，孩子们并没有听到他们的祖父母对此有任何负面评价。

为什么脚本中的一个角色最初想要移居日本？

该角色一直想要体验更多关于自己文化的东西，并且想要重新学习日语，所以她选择在高中毕业后移居日本。

脚本中的一个角色在日本的大学生活是怎样的？

她在日本的大学生活中，学习非常努力，因为她需要克服语言障碍。她几乎每天都要上课，这与美国的大学生活有所不同。

脚本中的一个角色在日本工作的经历如何？

她在日本作为一名英语家教工作，但她并不喜欢在日本工作，因为感觉像是在做奴隶般的劳动，而且工资是每月支付一次，这让她感到经济上的压力。

为什么该角色最终选择回到美国？

她回到美国是因为在日本的一段关系变得糟糕，以及她感到孤独，想念家人。另外，她发现重新适应日本的生活比预期的要困难。

脚本中提到的在日本生活的不便之处有哪些？

除了工作生活平衡问题和工资支付周期长之外，还有语言和文化上的障碍，使得交友变得困难。

脚本中的一个角色如何看待她在日本的社交生活？

她发现在日本交朋友很困难，部分原因是语言问题，部分原因是文化差异，她觉得自己在个性上更倾向于美国式的外向和直接。

脚本中的孩子们如何看待他们在日本和美国长大的不同经历？

他们认为虽然在两个国家长大都有正面和负面的体验，但在美国长大时，他们更频繁地遭遇种族歧视和身份认同的困扰。

脚本中的孩子们对于纹身和个人表达有什么看法？

他们认为纹身是个人表达的一种方式，但在日本，尤其是老一辈人中，对纹身持有负面看法，这导致他们在家人面前需要遮盖纹身。

Outlines

00:00

😢 異文化交流の苦労

第1段落では、話者は日本で育った子供時代の出来事を振り返ります。彼らは外国人として見なされ、時折不快感を味わうことがありました。特に、ショッピングモールで石を投げられ、アメリカから来たと糾弾された経験について語っています。また、日本で学ぶ際に英語で話しかけられることが混乱を招くこともあると述べています。

05:02

😒 アメリカでの生活と文化衝突

第2段落では、アメリカでの生活経験について語られています。話者は、アメリカで生活する際に遭遇した偏見や差別的な言動について触れています。例えば、学校で日本とアメリカの戦いについて学んだ際に、不快感を感じたと述べています。また、家族の歴史的な背景も興味深く、アメリカと日本の両方の祖父がそれぞれ国のために戦ったという事実が紹介されています。

10:02

🎓 日本での学びと生活の難しさ

第3段落では、話者が日本で大学に通う経験について詳述しています。日本での生活は、言語や文化的な障壁を感じる一方で、自分の文化を深く知る貴重な機会であったと感じています。しかし、日本での生活は孤独感や文化的な隔たりを感じ、友達を作ることが難しかったと述べています。また、日本での就労経験についても、給与の支払いサイクルや労働環境に不満を持ったことが明かされています。

15:03

🏙️ 日本とアメリカの生活体験

第4段落では、話者が日本での仕事と生活体験について語ります。日本での生活は、便利な交通や食事の文化を楽しむことができた反面、家族との距離や文化的な隔たりを感じ、孤独を感じたと述べています。アメリカと日本での生活体験を比較し、それぞれの良い面と悪い面について語っています。最後に、彼らがアメリカと日本で育った経験を通じて学んだことを結びにしています。

Keywords

💡ハーフ

「ハーフ」とは、両親のうち一方が日本人で他方が外国人であることを指します。ビデオでは、両国文化を持つハーフの子どもたちが、その成長体験について語っています。例えば、彼らは日本で生活する際には日本人と見間違われる経験があったと述べています。

💡文化衝突

「文化衝突」とは、異なる文化背景を持つ人々が相互理解を図る過程で発生する摩擦や不一致のことです。ビデオでは、アメリカと日本という異なる文化の中で育ったハーフの子どもたちが、両国の文化的な違いに直面する経験を共有しています。

💡日本語

「日本語」は、日本の公用語であり、ビデオの中の登場人物が学習や日常生活で使用する言語です。特に、ビデオでは日本語の学習や使用に関する挑戦や達成について触れられています。

💡ハラスメント

「ハラスメント」とは、人を苦しめること、または不快感を与える行為を指します。ビデオでは、ハーフの子どもたちが学校で経験したハラスメントについて話しており、それが彼らの生活に与えた影響を示しています。

💡家族

「家族」は、ビデオの中心的なテーマの一つであり、登場人物が家族とのつながりや支えについて語っています。特に、彼らが異文化的な背景を持つ家族から得た影響や、家族との距離感について触れられています。

💡タトゥー

「タトゥー」とは、皮膚に入れ墨を施すことを指します。ビデオでは、タトゥーを持つ登場人物が日本の文化的な価値観と衝突し、それをどのように対応するかについて述べています。

💡アメリカ

「アメリカ」は、ビデオの登場人物が一方の文化的なルーツを持つ国であり、彼らがアメリカでの生活体験や文化的なアイデンティティについて話す場を提供しています。

💡日本

「日本」は、ビデオの登場人物が他方の文化的なルーツを持つ国であり、彼らが日本での生活体験や文化的なアイデンティティについて語る重要な背景です。

💡アイデンティティ

「アイデンティティ」とは、個人が自己認識し、社会的な役割や属性を持つ状態を指します。ビデオでは、ハーフの子どもたちが自己の文化的なアイデンティティを探索し、それを形成する過程について述べています。

💡孤独感

「孤独感」とは、孤立しているか、または他人から離れているような感情を指します。ビデオでは、登場人物が日本で生活する際に感じた孤独感や、それをどのように克服しようと努力したかについて話しています。

💡友情

「友情」は、ビデオの登場人物が異文化的な環境で友人を作る難しさや、友人との関係を築く過程について触れる重要な概念です。彼らは、文化の違いや言語の壁を超えることで友情を築く取り組みをしています。

Highlights

One child started throwing rocks at the speaker, claiming 'you bombed us, I'm going to bomb you now'.

The speaker and siblings were chased by older kids in a mall, causing distress and fear.

The speaker's desire to build a future in Japan was influenced by their mixed heritage.

Cultural identity struggles, with the speaker not being perceived as Japanese despite appearances.

Language barriers and cultural misunderstandings when shopping, with shopkeepers speaking English to the speaker.

The speaker's experience of being bullied in school in America due to their Asian heritage.

A poignant moment when the speaker was pelted with rocks and accused of their ancestors' actions during World War II.

The family's complex history, with American and Japanese ancestors on opposing sides of World War II.

The speaker's sister's experience with tattoos and the cultural stigma attached to them in Japan.

The difficulty of making friends in Japan due to language and cultural barriers.

The speaker's experience of feeling isolated in Japan, contrasting with their upbringing in America.

Challenges in the Japanese work culture, including monthly pay and the intense work ethic.

The speaker's decision to move back to America due to personal reasons and the emotional toll of living in Japan.

Positive aspects of living in Japan, such as convenience and the love for food.

The emotional struggle of being away from family and the longing for their presence.

The video concludes with the speaker reflecting on their experiences growing up between two cultures.

Transcripts

there was this one kid that started

throwing rocks at me and said you bombed

us I'm going to bomb you now yeah like

oh guys in the they started chasing us

in the mall I wanted to build a future

in Japan what changed what made you go

back to

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America

you live in

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America M we we're both obviously half

so I wanted to talk about growing up

half in America SL growing up half in

Japan yeah her daughter is here so she

might be in the background a little bit

but it's okay so first we'll just talk

about the

obvious but we don't look anything

alike

right my oldest sister she looks like

looks like our mom she looks like her

Grandpa but she looks like

Filipino yeah then you look very

Japanese I look white and then our

youngest brother looks like Middle

Eastern when you're in Japan do people

think you're Japanese no really I I

thought that people assumed you were

Japanese just cuz to me you to me she

looks so may be but everybody always

tries to speak English to me what are

some experiences that we've had um

growing up half in

Japan remember when we went to

elementary

school is it with

you so so so so so when we used to go to

school in Japan I used to get this all

the time I don't know about my siblings

I guess they got it too yeah we we I

personally always

heard so they would always tell us to go

back home one one memory I remember as a

kid is remember when we got chased in

the mall oh yeah so we were in older

kids so we were in

y i remember the mall and we were

with Kum and all of a sudden we were

away from my mom and my grandma we were

looking at something looking at toys

three older boys I remember I was like

seven years old I remember the boys just

said like oh go and then all of a sudden

they started they started chasing us in

the mall and I just remember I

personally remember crying I remember

crying freaking out I remember Grace

holding Ken and I remember we were

running down the escalator like trying

to find our mom and grandma and then we

saw Baba you're also just scared cuz we

were kids we were little kids and they

were much older than us they were much

older than us yeah and they were all

boys and then finally when we found our

grandma but that was like I mean for me

that was like one negative experience I

can fully

remember as a like when we went to

school here yes we had negative

experiences and people telling us to go

back to America but I remember a lot of

positive experiences like kids wanting

to get to know us because we were from

America just kids being always like

hello hello hello hello hell that's one

thing even now when we see kids they're

always like H I think it's cute it's

very cute yeah yeah so like yeah there's

negative experiences but we've also

dealt with positive ones too growing up

half when we are going shopping and

stuff they speak back to us in English

right and it's so confusing right can

you explain

why

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and like they asked me do you want

omelets they asked me in English do you

want an

omelet I didn't know I didn't know what

they were saying sometimes it's awkward

for me to be

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like cuz like they're trying cuz I

understand that they're trying to

practice English and stuff and trying

yeah and trying to be accommodating to

me

M that's how I feel too yeah they were

they were trying to say omelets but like

I

don't yeah that can be confusing

sometimes for us when they speak back in

English I think sometimes it can be more

confusing just CU obviously the

pronunciation we might get confused it's

very confusing yeah I

heard do you wanta no and I was like

what were you like see he said it one

more time and I was

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like okay okay but it was confusing so

were your experiences growing up half in

America I think compared to Japan I

think it was way worse in America I feel

like people reminded me daily that it

was different it's like I couldn't never

go a day without people just being like

you're Asian it's like no I think

being Asian when we were kids I think

it's very common that we get made fun of

like I know for a lot of Japanese people

I don't look very Japanese but in

America look Asian and you know you get

your regular ching chong ching chong in

America during history class we learn

about Pearl Harbor and obviously it's

Japan against America so we learn about

that kind of thing but in class what

would happen when we talk about

it eyes just go to you yeah everyone

will stare at you when we talk about

what Japan and everyone's just like and

it's not in a good way it's just like oh

my God I think we learned about it in

like fourth or fifth grade and then I

remember like going out in outside in

recess I I was playing with my friend

and then there was this one kid that

started throwing rocks at me and

said you bombed us I'm going to bomb you

now and then started throwing rocks at

me yeah I remember being school in

America people would be like your people

bombed me but you know what's

interesting in our family our American

grandfather fought for America obviously

and then our Japanese

great-grandfathers fought for Japan So

within our family too it's kind of like

a interesting Dynamic but like we've

I've never thought of it about that like

too no specifically right I've never

heard our grandparents say one bad thing

about yeah thing one thing I want to

talk about is I hear your daughter

coming up one thing I want to talk about

is my sister my sisters both have lots

of

what so both both my sisters have a crap

ton of tattoos you had any negative

experiences being Japanese no with

tattoos no except for with our

grandparents right yeah our grand our

grandparents literally would make her

cover up her tattoos right yes I wear

long sleeves whenever I come see them

cuz I don't want to kill them my

grandparents have never seen all of this

they've only seen like small I have more

up here but they've only seen like small

bits so they obviously are older

generation so they have negative netive

stigma stigmas against tattoos yeah your

experien is having tattoos you don't

have but you can't go to like

on I had to cover up with the patches

ofand yeah and then my whole she has

tattoos she has tattoos everywhere her

fingers her neck the only place she

doesn't have tattoos is her face so when

she comes to Japan she only comes during

the winter time it's only for our

grandparents um because if she comes we

don't want to kill them yeah we really I

think I don't want to kill them either I

want they my

Mya she saw one of my tattoos I think it

was this one mhm she almost had a heart

attack she saw it I was laying on the

couch and she

said and I was like oh sh I forgot to

cover it up cuz you forget about it and

then she went like purple and she was

like she was like she was

like like she she looked like she was in

pain also when like I can't do this to

her again I think she'll I think she'll

die she'll die yeah no I really think

she's going to have a heart attack if

she saw the rest of your tattoos but

whenever also you have a nose ring too

but they're they're used to that but

they don't like it well Baba's tried to

take it out multiple times and literally

just stuck so then there she literally

reaches in her nose and she tries to

pull it out

and

how long did you live in Japan for how

many

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years

she moved back to

America what how old were you when you

moved to

Japan After High School you mean after

high school so you were

18 oh and then so why did you move to

Japan I think I always wanted to

experience living in Japan

after you know coming here every summer

as

kids I've always had a sense or

i' when I was younger I felt more

Japanese in certain ways and so I just

wanted to you felt more Japanese yeah

culturally yeah sometimes so I just

wanted to experience more of my culture

you know and everything relearn the

language I think that was the most

important thing for me so out of all of

our siblings she's actually the one

that's the best speaking

Japanese yeah because she went to

college in Japan so I think like your

level increased a lot when you went to

school

right yeah yeah yeah so then you went to

college in Japan so then how was Liv how

was it when you first moved to Japan was

it like a very different

experience like when you first moved by

yourself like was it like oh what was

shocking col I mean schooling is

different than America I know that from

from like my friends and my siblings

that in America you don't go to school

as often like in college in college

really like I would go to school 8 hours

a day 5 days a week in Japan oh yeah we

don't do that it's in in America it's

like you have maybe a class here or

there yeah but in Japan it's classes

every day I went to school every day I

didn't know that yeah like a lot but

maybe it's because I was trying to to um

just rack up my credits really quickly

so then when you first moved to Japan

how was your experience in college like

was it good bad or and actually it was

really difficult because I mean like I

just had to study my butt off for the

was the language aspect mhm then while

you were in Japan what happened you did

you get you had a job right right you

had a job not the first year

oh like what aspects did you actually

enjoy I don't know I think that's

difficult for me to answer because I was

in

college or like I was I was at

University so like

there wasn't really I I was having fun

but I wasn't I wasn't here to have fun

you were here to study yeah so I just

studying a lot but were you planning to

move here forever when you moved here

initially yeah I wanted to stay I wanted

to build a future in Japan so what

changed what made you go back to America

cuz you went she came here once went

back to America and then she came here

again and then went back to she came to

Japan she was dating someone and he was

crazy I guess right yes so that's why

you can put two and two together yeah so

that's why she had to go back to America

but then the second time what made you

come back to Japan

again I I didn't choose to leave the

first time yeah it wasn't your choice

was more so that like I had to yeah and

so I came back wanting to

restart my studies and everything but I

think it just kind of came emotionally

too hard for me to be in such a Negative

place like like a it was a place that

just kind of filled like a lot of or had

like really a lot of bad memories and I

left that for a reason and so like when

I came back I thought I'd be fine but no

the second time you went back to America

it was because you felt lonely uh I mean

like I always growing up there was

always someone there i' I I we have I

have three siblings yeah I'm always with

somebody but in Japan I was very

isolated I guess guess you know all I

did was go to school go to work and go

home was it easy for you to make friends

in Japan no why cuz I have the same

experience for me it's very hard to make

friends in Japan um one I think it's a

language issue but too culturally it's

just very different making friends

personality wise

um sometimes I just don't Vibe with

certain Japanese people I think I'm very

American in that sense so like an

American as in like you're over what do

you mean like you're more

extrovert compar to compar to Japanese

people yeah I don't know even when I was

staying in J Japan I always immediately

just had foreign

friends I think we

are more open and easily able

to it's something about the conver so

when I've noticed this too when I'm

speaking to Japanese people I kind of

feel scared to like offend them

or like cuz you know Japanese people use

kle but then you also have to think

about how old are they that kind of

stuff but in America nobody really cares

whenever I meet some whenever I meet

anybody in Japan I'm AO like

automatically I'm friendly and I don't

use K and stuff like that and I know

that's kind of weird for them but that's

just how I am yeah yeah no I get that

too like I want them to be themselves I

feel like in Japan I feel like it's guni

they don't know how to be themselves and

then then it makes me feel kind of like

kind of scared yeah that's exactly how I

feel is she in the

Chapstick yeah that's exactly how I feel

too I'm just like how to go through the

Friendship kind of relationship is kind

of tough cuz I don't want to come across

rude but then in America I don't worry

about that so it's kind of challenging

was there anything tough anything else

tough about living in Japan like work

life balance oh yeah hate working in

Japan okay so why did you hate working

in Japan it's like slave work initially

I was in an English tutor okay to kids

and then yeah what was challenging about

it um you get paid once a

month you get paid once a month and I

feel like that's not that's not very fun

you get paid once a month oh I wait are

all Japanese jobs like that where you

get paid once a month I think so and

it's actually really hard I feel like

it's harder than getting paid two times

a month yeah that's true when I was at

my first job we got paid once a month

and I felt like by the end of the month

I was like barely surviving for some

reason it just felt like I would work a

lot more than I did in Japan than

America so even though you did move back

to America because not just your

negative experiences just because of

your own personal reasons I think it was

all mostly all personal even though you

had bad experiences in Japan what were

some good experiences that you Haden

yeah I love everything about

Japan it's easy to travel around

convenience the everything's very

convenient in Japan obviously I love to

eat I think it was just unlivable

because I didn't have my

family I just missed my daddy and my

siblings yeah she just missed me right

mhm yeah and then she left and then I

left so that's our experiences growing

up half in Japan then I saw this in

Japan oh growing up well growing up half

in America and Japan

uh so yeah that's our experiences

growing up half in Japan and America uh

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