SEVEN MIND GAMES PLAYED BY THE NARCISSIST

Summary

In this video, the speaker delves into the manipulative mind games narcissists use in relationships, focusing on how they exploit vulnerabilities to maintain control. These include establishing trust to gather personal information, criticizing to assert dominance, instilling fear, sabotaging relationships, and portraying themselves as victims. The speaker offers practical advice on how to recognize and respond to these tactics, urging viewers to stand firm, set boundaries, and avoid engaging in arguments. The ultimate goal is to maintain one’s dignity and self-worth, while refusing to play into narcissists' games.

Takeaways

• 😀 Narcissists use manipulation tactics to control and diminish your sense of self in relationships.
• 😀 One common tactic is gaining your trust by being friendly and supportive, only to later use your vulnerabilities against you.
• 😀 Narcissists often criticize you subtly at first, slowly establishing an upper hand in the relationship.
• 😀 They instill fear in you by being judgmental, angry, or stubborn, making you afraid to express your true self.
• 😀 Narcissists sabotage your relationships with others by speaking poorly about you behind your back, isolating you from support systems.
• 😀 They will exploit any flaws or past mistakes you’ve shared, using them to manipulate or discredit you later.
• 😀 Narcissists often portray themselves as victims, deflecting responsibility for their actions and blaming others.
• 😀 They speak in terms of obligation and control, enforcing their rules and expecting you to comply, often with guilt and pressure.
• 😀 The overall goal of narcissists is to strip away your unique identity and force you to become what they dictate.
• 😀 The key to dealing with narcissists is to recognize their games, set firm boundaries, and avoid reacting emotionally to their manipulations.
• 😀 Standing up for yourself, confronting narcissists, and maintaining a calm, assertive attitude are essential for protecting your dignity and well-being.

Q & A

What is the main theme discussed in the video?

The main theme of the video is the manipulation tactics narcissists use in relationships, and how individuals can recognize and protect themselves from these mind games.

What is the first mind game narcissists play according to the video?

The first mind game narcissists play is pretending to be trustworthy and friendly to gain your trust. They ask personal questions, appear supportive, but use your vulnerabilities against you later.

How do narcissists establish control over others?

Narcissists establish control by subtly criticizing you, belittling your decisions, and asserting their superiority, often making you feel inferior and dependent on their approval.

What is the impact of narcissists instilling fear in others?

Narcissists create fear by threatening emotional outbursts, anger, or judgment. This fear causes individuals to suppress their own uniqueness and conform to the narcissist's demands.

How do narcissists sabotage relationships behind your back?

Narcissists sabotage relationships by speaking negatively about you to others, trying to isolate you from supportive people and maintain their superior position in the relationship.

What do narcissists do when someone reveals their flaws to them?

Narcissists use any personal flaws or mistakes you share as ammunition against you later. They may remind you of these flaws to manipulate or shame you, especially when they want to control the situation.

Why do narcissists portray themselves as victims?

Narcissists portray themselves as victims to avoid taking responsibility for their mistakes. They shift blame onto others and seek to maintain a blameless image, often at the expense of others.

What kind of mindset do narcissists impose on others, according to the video?

Narcissists impose a regulatory mindset, speaking in terms of obligations like 'you must' or 'you have to.' This creates a sense of duty to comply with their demands, further controlling the individual.

What are some strategies to deal with narcissists effectively?

Strategies include not reacting emotionally to their provocations, confronting them calmly, setting firm boundaries, and standing by your decisions without engaging in unnecessary arguments.

Why is it important not to react emotionally to narcissists?

Reacting emotionally plays into the narcissist's game, as they thrive on making you angry, defensive, or fearful. Responding calmly prevents them from gaining the control they seek.