Attracting Her Back After I Acted Crazy, Jealous & Insecure

Summary

Dieses Video-Coaching-Newsletter behandelt das Thema 'Wie man eine Frau zurückzieht, nachdem man eifersüchtig und unsicher gehandelt hat'. Coach Corey Wayne erzählt die Geschichte eines Mannes, der durch eifersüchtige Ausbrüche und Alkoholprobleme sein Beziehungsverhalten ruiniert hat. Der Mann in seiner späten Dreißig, der mit seiner Freundin gelebt hat, hat ständig Misstrauen und Ausfälle gezeigt, was schließlich zum Bruch führte. Wayne empfiehlt, das Buch 'Three Percent Man' zu lesen und die Prinzipien anzuwenden, um sein Verhalten zu korrigieren und wieder attraktiv zu werden. Ohne Verhaltensänderung ist eine Wiedervereinigung unwahrscheinlich.

Takeaways

• 😔 Die Hauptbotschaft des Skripts ist, dass Verhaltensänderung notwendig ist, um eine Beziehung erfolgreich zu führen oder wiederherzustellen.
• 🔑 Das Verhalten des Mannes im Skript, der eifersüchtig, besessen und unsicher ist, hat zu seiner Trennung beigetragen.
• 📚 Corey Wayne empfiehlt das Lesen des Buches 'Three Percent Man' als einen Schritt zur Verhaltensänderung.
• 🚫 Der Mann im Skript sollte aufhören, eifersüchtig und abhängig zu sein, um seine Attraktivität für Frauen zu steigern.
• 💔 Die Frau im Skript hat die Beziehung beendet, nachdem sie genug von dem unangenehmen Verhalten des Mannes ertragen hat.
• 🤔 Corey Wayne diskutiert die möglichen Gründe für das Verhalten der Frau, einschließlich möglicher Selbstwertprobleme oder Kodependency.
• 🚫 Der Mann sollte nicht erwarten, dass die Frau zurückkehrt, solange er das gleiche unattraktive Verhalten beibehält.
• 👋 Die Trennung erfolgte nach einem Streit, bei dem der Mann die Frau vor Freunden beschimpft und in Verlegenheit bringt.
• 🛑 Corey Wayne betont, dass der Mann eine 'Neuansage' benötigt, um eine Beziehung wiederherzustellen, und das bedeutet, sein Verhalten zu ändern.
• 🌐 Die physische Distanz zwischen dem Mann und der Frau, die jetzt in Hawaii lebt, macht die Wiedervereinigung noch schwieriger.
• 💬 Der Mann sollte eine 'No-Contact-Regel' anwenden und sich auf die Verbesserung seiner Fähigkeiten und das Verständnis der Prinzipien aus dem Buch konzentrieren.

Q & A

Was ist das Thema des Videocoaching-Newsletters von Coach Corey Wayne?

Das Thema des Newsletters ist das Anziehen seiner Ex-Freundin zurück, nachdem er eifersüchtig, verrückt und unsicher gehandelt hat.

Was ist ein 'Jack In The Box' im Kontext des Newsletters?

Ein 'Jack In The Box' ist ein Mann, der ständig seine Fassade verliert und aus Versehen kommt, ähnlich wie die Figur in einer Jack-in-the-Box Spielzeug, die plötzlich herausspringt.

Wie alt ist der Mann, von dem Corey Wayne in seinem Newsletter spricht?

Der Mann ist in seinen späten 30ern und hat mit seiner Freundin in den letzten anderthalb Jahren gelebt.

Was war das Hauptproblem in der Beziehung des Mannes?

Das Hauptproblem war, dass der Mann eifersüchtig, verrückt und unsicher war, er wurde betrunken und beschuldigte seine Freundin ständig, ihn zu betrügen.

Wo hat die Freundin des Mannes zurückgezogen?

Die Freundin hat nach Hawaii zurückgezogen, um mit ihrer Familie zu sein.

Was hat Coach Corey Wayne dem Mann als erstes Empfehlung gegeben, um seine Ex-Freundin zurückzugewinnen?

Coach Corey Wayne empfiehlt dem Mann, das Buch 'Three Percent Man' zu lesen, um sein Verhalten zu ändern und attraktiver zu werden.

Was ist die Meinung von Coach Corey Wayne über das Verhalten des Mannes in der Beziehung?

Coach Corey Wayne findet das Verhalten des Mannes absolut abscheulich und erschreckend, da er ständig unruhig und eifersüchtig war, was keine Frau ertragen würde.

Was hat der Mann in seiner Beziehung als 'Männlichkeit' vermisst?

Der Mann hat in seiner Beziehung eine Ruhe und Gelassenheit vermisst, die typisch für Männlichkeit ist, stattdessen war er ständig aufgeregt und eifersüchtig.

Was hat Coach Corey Wayne über das Verhalten der Freundin des Mannes gesagt?

Coach Corey Wayne vermutet, dass die Freundin selbstbewusstseinsschwierigkeiten hatte und annahm, dass sie auf diese Art und Weise behandelt werden sollte, da sie die Beziehung so lange ertrug.

Was hat der Mann in seinem letzten Versuch, mit seiner Ex-Freundin zu sprechen, getan?

Der Mann hat versucht, Kontakt zu halten, indem er ihr half, ihre Sachen zu packen, und sie bat, nicht auf ihn zu warten und dass die Trennung unwiderruflich sei.

Was ist die Empfehlung von Coach Corey Wayne für den Mann, wenn er seine Ex-Freundin zurückhaben möchte?

Coach Corey Wayne empfiehlt dem Mann, das Buch zu lesen, sein Verhalten zu ändern und sich auf andere Frauen zu konzentrieren, um seine Fähigkeiten zu verbessern, falls seine Ex-Freundin zurückkehren sollte.

Outlines

00:00

😔 Beziehungsprobleme durch Eifersucht und Unsicherheit

Der erste Absatz beschäftigt sich mit einem Fall von Beziehungsproblemen, die durch eifersüchtige und unsichere Verhaltensweisen des Mannes entstanden sind. Er war in der Lage, seine Emotionen nicht zu kontrollieren und verlor oft die Kontrolle, insbesondere wenn er betrunken war. Die Situation verschlechterte sich, als seine Partnerin, nach zweieinhalb Jahren dieser Beziehung, ihre Sachen packte und zurück nach Hawaii zog, um bei ihrer Familie zu sein. Der Mann suchte nach Rat, wie er seine Partnerin zurückziehen könnte, und wurde vorgeschlagen, das Buch 'Three Percent Man' zu lesen, um sein Verhalten zu verändern und attraktiver zu werden.

05:00

😠 Unzulängliches Verhalten und Konsequenzen

In diesem Absatz wird die unzureichende Kommunikation und das ständige Misstrauen des Mannes thematisiert, das zu wiederholten Auseinandersetzungen führte. Er beschreibt, wie er seiner Partnerin vorgeworfen hat, ihm untreu zu sein, obwohl es unklar ist, ob diese Vorwürfe berechtigt waren. Der Absatz betont die Wichtigkeit, Vertrauen und Grenzen in einer Beziehung zu etablieren und wie das Fehlen dieser Elemente zu einer ungesunden und unattraktiven Beziehung führen kann.

10:01

😢 Der Weg zur Trennung und der Versuch der Annäherung

Der dritte Absatz erzählt die Geschichte von der Trennung und den Bemühungen des Mannes, die Beziehung wiederherzustellen. Nach einem groben Streit, bei dem er sie wegen Flirtens beschimpfte, entschied sie sich für die Trennung. Obwohl sie kurzzeitig zusammen war, entschied sie sich schließlich, in eine kurzfristige Mietwohnung zu ziehen. Der Mann beschreibt seine emotionale Reaktion auf diese Ereignisse und seine Hoffnung, dass Distanz und Zeit hilfreich sein könnten.

15:01

😞 Ratlosigkeit und der letzte Versuch der Annäherung

In diesem letzten Absatz drückt der Mann seine Verzweiflung und sein Gefühl der Zerstörung aus, nachdem seine Partnerin die Stadt verlassen hat. Er reflektiert über seine Bemühungen, Kontakt zu ihr aufrechtzuerhalten und die Hoffnung, dass sie möglicherweise zurückkehren möchte. Er empfiehlt, das Buch zu lesen, um sein Verhalten zu verändern, und betont, dass er seine Fähigkeiten verbessern muss, um eine erfolgreiche Beziehung führen zu können, falls es zu einer Wiedervereinigung kommt.

Keywords

💡Jack in the Box

Diese Metapher beschreibt jemanden, der ständig seine Launen verliert und auslösbar ist, vergleichbar mit einer Spielzeugfigur, die aufspringt. Im Video wird der Begriff verwendet, um die unkontrollierte Eifersucht und Unsicherheit des Mannes zu beschreiben, die zu einem Beziehungsproblem führt.

💡Eifersucht

Eifersucht ist eine Emotion, die durch Befürchtungen oder das Gefühl ausgelöst wird, dass jemandem das Vertrauen oder die Aufmerksamkeit entzogen wird, in diesem Fall die Beziehung zwischen dem Mann und seiner Freundin. Im Video spielt Eifersucht eine zentrale Rolle im Zusammenbruch der Beziehung.

💡Unsicherheit

Unsicherheit bezieht sich auf das Mangel an Selbstvertrauen oder das Gefühl, nicht gut genug zu sein. Im Video zeigt sich die Unsicherheit des Mannes durch seine eifersüchtige Verhaltensweisen und die Annahme, dass seine Freundin ihn betrügen könnte.

💡Kommunikation

Kommunikation ist der Austausch von Informationen, Gedanken oder Empfindungen. Im Video wird angemerkt, dass der Mann seine Missverständnisse und Emotionen nicht angemessen kommunizierte, was zu Konflikten führte.

💡Beratung

Beratung ist der Prozess, bei dem jemand Rat oder Unterstützung in einer bestimmten Situation erhält. Im Video bietet Coach Corey Wayne beratungsähnliche Ratschläge, um dem Mann zu helfen, seine Beziehungsprobleme zu lösen.

💡Selbstwert

Selbstwert ist das Gefühl, werter und geschätzt zu werden. Im Video wird vermutet, dass die Freundin des Mannes möglicherweise Selbstwertprobleme hatte, da sie die schlechten Behandelungen tolerierte.

💡Ko-Abhängigkeit

Ko-Abhängigkeit ist eine Beziehungsform, in der eine Person versucht, die andere zu 'heilen' oder zu 'retten', oft mit dem Hintergrund einer familiären Abhängigkeit. Im Video wird dies als mögliche Erklärung für das Verhalten der Freundin diskutiert.

💡Verhaltensänderung

Verhaltensänderung bedeutet, dass jemand sein Verhalten ändert, um bessere Ergebnisse zu erzielen. Im Video wird betont, dass der Mann sein Verhalten verändern muss, um eine Beziehung wiederherzustellen oder zukünftig erfolgreich zu sein.

💡Respekt

Respekt ist die Anerkennung und Wertschätzung eines anderen. Im Video wird gesagt, dass der Mann nicht respektvoll war und dass dies ein wesentliches Element für eine gesunde Beziehung ist.

💡Grenzen setzen

Grenzen setzen ist das Festlegen von Bedingungen oder Erwartungen in einer Beziehung. Im Video wird erwähnt, dass der Mann nicht in der Lage war, gesunde Grenzen zu setzen oder diese zu respektieren.

💡Kommunikationsfähigkeit

Kommunikationsfähigkeit ist die Fähigkeit, effektiv und angemessen mit anderen zu kommunizieren. Im Video wird betont, dass eine fehlende Kommunikationsfähigkeit zu Problemen in der Beziehung beigetragen hat.

💡Persönlichkeitsstörung

Eine Persönlichkeitsstörung ist eine dauerhafte und signifikante Abweichung von der normativen Persönlichkeitsstruktur. Im Video wird angedeutet, dass die Freundin möglicherweise eine Persönlichkeitsstörung hatte, die zu Betrugsverhalten führen könnte.

💡Selbstreflexion

Selbstreflexion ist der Prozess des Nachdenkens über eigenes Verhalten und Gedanken. Im Video wird der Mann aufgefordert, sich selbst zu reflektieren und sein Verhalten zu verändern.

💡Verantwortung

Verantwortung bedeutet, dass man für das eigene Verhalten oder die eigenen Entscheidungen zur Rechenschaft gezogen werden kann. Im Video wird der Mann dazu aufgerufen, Verantwortung für sein Verhalten zu übernehmen.

💡Bewährungsprozess

Ein Bewährungsprozess ist eine Phase, in der Verhaltensänderungen oder Verhaltensweisen nachgewiesen werden müssen. Im Video wird der Mann dazu ermutigt, sich durch sein geändertes Verhalten zu bewähren.

Highlights

Coach Corey Wayne discusses the challenge of attracting a partner back after exhibiting jealousy and insecurity.

The concept of a 'Jack In The Box' is introduced, describing someone who frequently loses control and gets triggered.

A case study is presented involving a man in his late 30s who has driven his girlfriend away through abusive behavior.

The importance of not expecting a partner to tolerate poor behavior indefinitely is emphasized.

The possibility that the girlfriend may have self-esteem issues due to staying in an abusive relationship is considered.

The role of codependency in relationships and its potential impact on the case study is explored.

Coach Corey Wayne advises reading 'The 3% Man' as a crucial step for those serious about improving their behavior.

The damaging effects of constant jealousy and insecurity on relationships are highlighted.

A discussion on the importance of trust and emotional maturity in maintaining a healthy relationship.

The man's realization of his behavior's consequences and his struggle with grief is shared.

Coach Corey Wayne stresses the need for a complete behavioral change to avoid repeating past mistakes.

The man's actions during a birthday party that led to a breakup are recounted, illustrating the depth of his issues.

The importance of not begging or groveling after a breakup and focusing on self-improvement is underlined.

The man's attempts to reconnect with his ex and her responses, indicating a final breakup, are detailed.

Coach Corey Wayne critiques the man's approach to trying to win back his ex, labeling it as ineffective and desperate.

The final advice given is to learn from the book, apply the teachings, and improve one's dating skills with other women.

The transcript concludes with a reminder to book a coaching session for personalized help.

Transcripts

hi I'm Coach Corey Wayne and this is my

video coaching newsletter and the topic

of today's newsletter is going to be

attracting her back

after I acted crazy jealous and insecure

well I've got an email today this is

from a guy who is a classic case

of being a Jack In The Box

and what is a jack-in-the-box it's like

guy who constantly loses his [ __ ] and

gets triggered he also would get drunk

so this particular guy he says he's in

his late 30s and he'd been living with

his girlfriend for the past year and a

half

and he acted jealous crazy like a

jealous crazy insecure [ __ ] as he puts

it

he get drunk he'd get abusive he was

constantly accusing her of cheating on

him now there may be something to it

maybe she was doing things

to push his buttons because all women do

this

but

you cannot behave this way and expect

your girl to stick around forever and so

what's happened now is she got to the

point

after about two and a half years and

she's like she packed her stuff she

moved back to Hawaii to be with her

family so she's a six hour six hours

away from by plane from where he lives

now

he's like how do I get her back

so this is not an easy case to get her

back because she's now living a plane

ride away we're gonna cross the ocean

so let's see we can see because you do

not want to act this way and quite

frankly I'm amazed at this girl stuck

around

so long and put up with this stuff so it

would tell me more likely she probably

has some self-esteem issues because deep

down she thought she deserved to be

treated this way and that's why she put

up with it and kept making excuses maybe

there's some codependency going on there

as well which you guys can all read

about

people that are codependent tend to have

people in their family that they grew up

with making excuses for they had drug or

alcohol addiction problems

or whatever and then they get in

relationships with people that they're

trying to fix that they're trying to

save or like oh he'd be the perfect guy

if I could just fix this one thing

so let's see we can do to potentially

help this guy out or if else he needs to

put a fork in it and consider he's toast

because it's pretty hard to come back

from stuff like this but they parted on

good terms and it's obvious that she

still does care but she's she's leaving

she's had enough every woman's got their

breaking point and she reached hers

he says coach I just lost a great one

having trouble grieving this as it's a

total [ __ ] dagger to the heart and

could have easily

been avoided I'm looking for advice on

getting her back well first and foremost

if you're serious about getting her back

you need to read three percent man if

you're not interested in doing that I

can't help you you're like especially

with your behavior your behavior is

absolutely disgusting and it's appalling

and no woman is going to stick around if

you're going to act this way masculinity

is calm and you've been the opposite of

calm you've been a constant drunk Jack

in the Box for the whole time of your

relationship and it's like nobody's

gonna put up with that crap you just

cannot behave that way and have a good

relationship or even good friendships

for that matter

he says I'm in my late 30s and I had

been dating one of the better women I've

ever met we dated for a year before

moving in together the past year and a

half

I acted like a jealous crazy insecure

[ __ ] for the entirety of the

relationship and never listened to what

she wanted

that is a bad way to go in other words

you were constantly communicating that

you were an incompetent man you were

emotionally immature you were a man baby

and you constantly threw temper tantrums

like a five-year-old it's extremely

unattractive but the one caveat I will

say is that you can apply what's in the

book and you can be the best boyfriend

or best husband in the world and if you

did a shitty job of vetting your girl

and you're with somebody that's a bum

[ __ ] and she's got a lot of character

flaws

well that's you can't make good wine

from Bad grapes but that's what's inside

I'm assuming that you had a good girl

and she treated you properly

and she was a great girl and you're

wanting to get her back but

I said you could be the best boyfriend

in the world if she's a bomb [ __ ] she's

gonna cheat on you and there's nothing

you can do

so getting crazy and losing your [ __ ]

and freaking out over girls because

you're you want women to trust you you

want them to feel safe and comfortable

with you to the point where they think

they got you

and if you're in a relationship or

you're dating somebody that's got

character flaws they're gonna lie you're

gonna catch them in their lies and then

you're going to catch them doing things

that are totally inappropriate and then

when you set healthy boundaries they'll

continue to violate them

but if you're a Jack In The Box and

you're losing your top constantly and

you're constantly jealous and you're

with somebody that's a bum [ __ ] and has

character flaws she's going to do an

excellent job of hiding all that [ __ ]

from you and you won't find out for a

very long time

and then when you try to leave it's

gonna be a lot harder because you're

going to be in love with the fantasy of

who you thought she was while you're

ignoring the reality

so he says she's very understanding very

chill independent successful and pretty

some of the craziness I showed her leads

me to believe that now she's officially

packed up and left she'd never give me

another chance so it's possible

as I talk about some pretzels to get an

ex back the article and video I did

years ago and I talk about my book is

like you should assume it's over and

you'll probably never hear from her

again

what you need to do is be reading the

book and applying it to clean up your

unattractive Behavior because this will

make you attractive to women everywhere

not just potentially the ex because if

you don't correct this you will drive

away the next chick the next good woman

that you meet for exactly the same

reasons because you're constantly losing

your [ __ ] and you're a jack-in-the-box

everybody in our Corner would be right

to tell her to run for the hills because

of my actions two months ago we had our

final fight that destroyed our

relationship in a fit of drunk jealousy

I berated and embarrassed her in front

of some friends for flirting at a

friend's birthday party which led to a

larger fight caused by me later that

night and me kicking her out of our

apartment

well so if she's flirting with another

guy was she flirting or just talking to

him does she give out her number to

other men

does she play with her hair when she's

talking to them she touched their arm

does she hang out and go on one-on-one

happy hours friendly happy hours with

the co-workers I don't know

but obviously he's getting jealous

because she's flirting was she actually

flirting I don't know maybe there's

something to it I can't tell because

this has been this guy's pattern

constantly and so maybe there was

nothing there maybe the reason he was

flirting was because he could tell that

she's just not that into him and was

totally tired of his crap and so anytime

she looked at a guy or talked to another

guy he just assumed she was cheating

because he he could tell that her

attention was not on him

but the bottom line is even if that may

be the case that's unattractive in

general you cannot be that way again you

want her to feel like you totally trust

her implicitly so you can catch her

inner lies and if you catch her in lies

you catch her doing ratchet things then

you will learn that you've got a girl

that's just not capable of loyalty

that's incapable of keeping her pants on

basically that's what you're trying to

find out is is she gonna honor her

commitment to me yes or no

will she tell me the truth all the time

yes or no will she flirt with other guys

and invite their attention or when other

guys come and hit on her she'll say oh

that's my boyfriend over there he's the

love of my life

I can't give you my phone number sorry

because you're not always going to be

around your girl and if she's loyal and

she's faithful and a guy hits on her

she's gonna be like I got a boyfriend

can't do it sorry not interested

but if she's disloyal she'll give out

her phone number and they go oh it's

just a friendly thing

and think there's nothing wrong with it

and keep doing it even after you've

talked to her about it

so he says from that point on it had

been over I got her to come back to the

apartment the next day but I could tell

that it was from her end that it was it

from her end

after several similar albeit not as

intense fights over the two and a half

years

she was all but done a week or so after

that fight she flew home to Hawaii to

get space

which obviously means she's feeling

smothered by you and be with her friends

and family which lasted two weeks

when she came back every little thing I

did bothered her and she ended up

telling me after a small disagreement

that it was over the first night she

returned yeah if you're still fighting

with her it's like

and more likely a lot of the fights are

stemming from the fact that she's not

paying attention to him and he can tell

that she's not giving her heart to him

willingly anymore so now he's having to

beg for it and be angry and upset he's

like the little boy that didn't get any

attaboys for Mommy so this guy's

definitely got some mommy issues here

you must love in such a way that the

person you love feels free is Tick net

Han said and she definitely did not feel

free

from that point forward we live together

without any intimacy six weeks or so

and she still tried to make it work

she ended up going back home for another

week and then she returned the

resistance was stronger and ultimately a

strong a small disagreement led to her

telling me this was done she needed

space and was moving out into a

short-term rental down the street it

didn't matter what I said she was

leaving yeah I mean Elvis had left the

building

you can only get upset at her so many

times before she's just like that's it

I've had it

when I left for a nine-day work trip she

moved out the next day which was planned

but she left some boxes in our guest

bedroom

I still thought as long as she was just

a few blocks away if I gave her time and

space worked on myself I'd have a shot

the first few days it was tough to go

into the no contact route as I had to

tell her when she was receiving packages

at our building

eventually I was able to apply the no

contact for four days and then she did

reach out to me about something minor

and irrelevant and I felt like I won a

game and then the next day she reached

out again to tell me that we needed to

get together when I was back as she was

planning on heading out of town and

heading back home to Hawaii for a bit to

clear her mind

you just imagine this guy's just

constant Relentless

constant Jack in the Box

I didn't know what to think so I was

obviously anxious to see her and hear

her plan

the day I got back she texted me that

she had to come by to close up the boxes

as they were being picked up on Thursday

by a moving company which had me

wandering further as to what her real

plan and intentions were well she's

leaving you she told you she was leaving

you she's in the process of leaving you

and you didn't want to believe it

believe it and on top of that you still

continued to act like a jackass

a jackass Jack in the Box

she came over last Wednesday and as soon

as she walked in and locked our eyes on

me she started crying and then I did as

well we hugged and she asked me how I

was doing and told me she was a mess

with everything going on been implied

more so due to the wildfires in her

hometown in Hawaii

obviously he's talking about Maui

than us but I believe it's a combination

of both after the first set of emotions

were gone she explained that she was

moving back home to be with her friends

family and Community through these tough

times

the reality is she's not in love with

you she lost attraction and she just

wanted to get the [ __ ] away

because all you do is make her feel

miserable when you're with her

whatever you cause a woman to feel when

she's with you is what she's going to

associate with being with you

and so every time I got together what

did he do he got upset at her

I was like who wants to put up with that

day in and day out

she told me not to wait for her that

this was a breakup and she was most

likely not returning to the state

I helped her pack what was left over

stuff I broke down to her multiple times

and we ended up hanging out on the couch

a bit kissed her a bunch grabbed food

with her and went back to her place to

hang out

after leaving her apartment on my walk

home I texted her how I felt about

seeing her to which she replied I do

miss you and a follow-up I love you that

felt good

the next day was a bit different as that

was the day the movers were coming to

pick up her boxes and this would sever

all ties to her and her condo again I

got emotional we hung out all day ran

errands grabbed a bite went back to her

place tonight she was tired and didn't

really want to hang out or hear my

emotional plea and eventually said bye

to me yeah she's she's had enough dude

and you begging and pleading and chasing

after and groveling again dude if you're

serious you gotta read the book I mean

come on you're watching videos but

cherry picking and copy and pasting is

not going to fix this Pro you need to

radically change your behavior and start

acting like an attractive man not a butt

hurt [ __ ] baby dude no woman is going

to want a guy that behaves this way

you're a [ __ ] total child

she officially left town yesterday and

texted me thanks for everything I know

what you're feeling be good to yourself

you lead a good life enjoy it and I love

you

I replied back that I loved her and to

take care of herself I'm beyond crushed

but accountable and FYI I sent her

mother flowers with a nice note which

she'll receive next week that's not

going to save your relationship dude

maybe you gotta apologize to your mom

because maybe you were a dick to her mom

I don't know but

I mean that's just a bribe for sex in a

relationship and it looks pathetic to be

honest with you unless you did something

to piss off Mom it's a nice gesture to

apologize but more than likely you're

just groveling and hoping you can get

the mom on your side and she'll talk her

daughter into coming back for more abuse

it's obviously Super Fresh but asking

for advice in the next steps and hoping

to attract your back become a serious

student read the book or unsubscribe and

go away because if you're not going to

read the book and you're not going to

apply what's in seven principles within

ax back you got no chance dude there's

absolutely no chance even if she was

open to talking to you potentially the

first time you get butter she'll be gone

again

she has to encounter the new you the

dude that acts like the guys to that are

in my book the guys that read the book

10 15 20 30 times whatever happens to be

and have all the great success stories

that I've covered over the years you not

reading the book and just cherry picking

the videos I'm

you are 100 guaranteed to lose her

forever she may be gone forever there's

I mean she's left the state so the

chances it's going to work out are slim

to none and what you should be doing is

reading the book and applying it and

getting improving your skills with other

women so if she does come back you're a

different guy

and she'll even say where was this guy

two years ago what happened where did

this guy come from

assuming the only play is to do the no

content yeah it's like she left you you

don't keep chasing somebody who's left

you you begged and you groveled for the

last two months and where did that get

you I'm leaving the state

well you begged grovel then you got

angry at her but she still left

if she reaches out is your advice try to

set up a trip to see her and if so how

soon and how would you phrase it would

it be a six hour flight so

if she reaches out in a couple of weeks

do a video date and then just say hey

you know I'd love it if you came to stay

for the weekend and hung out

that'd be great to see you and she's no

I don't think that's a good idea I was

like all right well call me if you

change your mind

I'm gonna run talk to you later

and then

just like I talk about instead pretzel

good next Packer she calls a few weeks

later and you talk again ask her to come

visit she says no then you're just gonna

say hey

well if you ever want to see me again

and rekindle things that would be great

get in touch but otherwise there's

really no point in US continuing to talk

I don't want to be a friend I don't want

to be a digital pen pal I want to see

you romantically and fix our

relationship and work on a relationship

if you don't want to do that then you

got to let me go and I'm Gonna Let You

Go and we're gonna wish each other the

best

and so you should be following the

script it's right out of seven pretzels

again and expect it's all laid out

there's I don't have a copy and paste

solution there's not a magic phrase

that's going to fix this your behavior

has been absolutely disgusting

unmasculine

and totally atrocious

and so the thought of her coming back

flip a coin it could go either way but I

would say the odds are not in your favor

but you never know because you spent a

couple years together if you just let

her be

she knows you want to work it out but

it's not you can't work anything out

unless she's willing to

and if she's not willing to work it out

it's like it's over dude

your goal should be to learn my material

as quickly as possible put the audiobook

on two speed follow along a digital or

physical copy while you're doing that

you can get through the book in four

hours and then she you should be

relentlessly applying it with all the

women that you're meeting and get out

there I know you don't feel like it but

get back in the game and start meeting

and dating other women so you can

improve your skills

so if your ex does reach out it does

come to see you she gets a good version

of you an attractive version to you not

this you know beta male [ __ ] that she's

been encountering for the last two and a

half years your game has to be a hundred

percent tight you cannot blow your top

or get upset or mad or angry with her at

all every time you do that you put

another nail in the coffin that confirms

to her that she made the right decision

by leaving your ass

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