Jared & Reg Parts NLP

Summary

In this transcript, Jared discusses his emotional struggles related to self-worth, money, and love. He opens up about feeling unworthy of both financial success and intimate relationships, stemming from past experiences and family dynamics. Throughout the conversation, he navigates between acknowledging his capability to attract money and his fears of love, including the impact of past relationships. The dialogue explores his journey of self-discovery, the challenges of overcoming past traumas, and the internal conflict of desiring love while fearing the vulnerability it brings. The conversation emphasizes self-reflection, personal growth, and emotional healing.

Takeaways

• 😀 Jared struggles with a deep sense of unworthiness, both in terms of financial success and personal relationships.
• 😀 Jared’s financial struggles stem from his upbringing in poverty, which led to a scarcity mindset that still affects him today.
• 😀 Despite his past challenges, Jared has created financial success, including a million-dollar year, showing that part of him believes he is worthy of financial success.
• 😀 Jared feels emotionally blocked due to fears of vulnerability, particularly in romantic relationships.
• 😀 There is a conflict within Jared between wanting love and being scared of the emotional pain that love might bring, especially considering past experiences.
• 😀 Jared’s past relationships, especially with his ex-wife, have caused emotional trauma that continues to affect his ability to trust and engage in new relationships.
• 😀 The coach uses parts work to help Jared identify different parts of himself, including the part that wants love and success, and the part that fears them.
• 😀 Jared reflects on the impact of his generational history, particularly his family’s financial struggles and emotional traumas, and how he is working to break those patterns.
• 😀 The concept of 'parts' is explored to help Jared understand that his conflicting emotions are natural and can be worked through gradually.
• 😀 Jared has spent the last eight years focusing on his children and has not prioritized his own romantic needs, which has contributed to his emotional isolation.

Q & A

What is the primary conflict Jared is struggling with in the script?

Jared is grappling with two main conflicts: not feeling good enough for money and not feeling worthy of love, which he traces back to emotional issues from his past relationships and upbringing.

What does Jared's upbringing contribute to his perception of money?

Jared grew up in a financially scarce environment, with his mother doing daycare and their family living in the projects. This experience created a belief that money was always scarce, which affects his current relationship with wealth.

How has Jared's relationship with money evolved over time?

Despite his early challenges with money, Jared eventually created his own business and made significant income, including his first million-dollar year. However, he still faces issues with financial setbacks, such as losing money due to circumstances beyond his control.

How does Jared describe his emotional struggles related to love?

Jared feels emotionally wounded from his past relationships, particularly with his ex-wife, and is scared of entering a new relationship due to the potential impact on his family, children, and ex-partner.

What is Jared's view on generational trauma, and how does he handle it?

Jared acknowledges that some of his struggles may be generational, but he believes it is not set in stone and that he can be the one to break the cycle of generational trauma. He views this as an ongoing process of growth.

What technique does Jared mention to help him create space for love?

Jared uses energy mapping and inner space relationships techniques to make room for love, which involves clearing emotional and mental space to invite positive energy and connections.

How does Jared feel about his current ability to love and be loved?

Jared feels a mixture of wanting love and being scared of it. While he desires intimacy, he is also cautious due to past experiences of emotional pain and the fear of getting hurt again.

Why does Jared feel hesitant to start a new romantic relationship?

Jared hesitates to start a new relationship because of past emotional scars, particularly from his previous relationship with his ex-wife, and the fear of how it might affect his children and family dynamics.

What role do his children and family play in Jared's emotional conflict around love?

Jared's concern about his children and family is central to his fear of starting a new relationship. He worries about creating instability and negatively impacting his children or upsetting his ex-partner.

What role does Jared's unconscious mind play in his emotional conflicts?

Jared’s unconscious mind holds conflicting parts—one that desires love and another that is afraid of it. This internal conflict leads to his emotional struggles, and he is working to address and reconcile these parts to move forward.